Trouble in the bedroom...

[Lostdriver1964]

He told me that he wanted to do it for me, it's just that he doesn't like the taste of it.

this sounds strange to me, since i always loved ad still love at most the taste of all the girls i had ...
and i love to make them cum that way....

Anyway i just could suggest him to try (doing it for you) and if he really loves you the reward will be to feel your pleasure and see into your eyes just after you will have a wonderful orgasm from his lips and tongue.
Good luck.

 

[BTK51]

He told me that he wanted to do it for me, it's just that he doesn't like the taste of it.

I thought about it and then I told him that I didn't want him doing anything he wasn't comfortable doing. He said that the only way he would get comfortable with it is doing it more often. So I think we've come to some sort of agreement.

And what can I do about the taste?

My advice is to keep the communication going. You seem to be able to productively discuss it so just be patient. Given your age and lack of experience you are just starting on the journey to understanding what you like & don’t like and he seems to be generally concerned about satisfying you. IMO The “tit-for-tat” stuff can only lead to resentment on BOTH sides. I suggest that you don’t even consider it. I, myself would never respond to those ultimatums nor would I ever want to issue them. I would think that someone being blackmailed like that wouldn’t do a good job anyway so it’s a lose-lose proposition. Just my 2 cents!

I think that he is right when he says that doing it more often is the best way to get more comfortable with it. The taste is never exactly the same anyway, so tell him not to be put off by any one encounter. I strongly suspect that it isn’t just the taste that is causing his reluctance. This is normal.

I know that when I first went down on a woman, I was very apprehensive. The taste wasn’t something that I loved at first but when I saw the reaction I got from my girlfriend, it became a non-issue. It was very shortly thereafter that I didn’t even think about the taste. Over many years, I have grown to enjoy and appreciate the differences in the taste. I have never had a really bad experience that would turn me off so I may be in the minority here.

Regarding the taste: Hygiene and the tips mentioned here. I find that during/after a bath or shower there is very little if any taste. We use scented oils and soaps so the aroma can make it even more erotic and enjoyable.

 

[Alanea]

I know that when I first went down on a woman, I was very apprehensive.

Besides tasting myself to reassure him, is there something else I can do to ease his apprehensions? I'd feel horrible knowing that it was a stressful situation for him.

We've been talking about it more and more recently and I'm suspecting a bit of guilt. He makes comments every now and then about him not being that great of a lover because I've never had an orgasm. I've tried to explain to him all the things I have heard here about me probably not being able to have a vaginal orgasm. I try and encourage him, especially when we're actually having sex, so that he won't feel that way. I think he's a wonderful and compassionate lover and I tell him so whenever I get the chance.

We're learning. I just hope that things will get better for us. I'm willing to try if he is. I've been very good at indulging some of his fetishes. (He apparently likes to be tied to things and/or blindfolded...and admittedly it turns me on as well...) I don't mind. I'd hate it if our sex became boring.

 

[fsumusic1981]

I don't know how much I can help you, seeing as how I never had any apprehension about putting my head between a woman's legs.

So long as you are clean and don't smell (I've never encountered this, but I hear it is not a good smell), I don't see why he should have any problem with performing oral sex on you. You can always give yourself a haircut, trim, or a baldie if you think it will help. I personally like little to no hair.

As for the taste issue... He shouldn't have to "taste" you when he is giving you oral sex. He can just flick his tongue around on your clit, keeping himself away from your juices. I personally see no point in this. It's not even like the vaginal juices have a very pronounced flavor, like Kool-Aid or Orange juice.

Maybe his aversion to "tasting" you comes from an uncertainty on how to perform oral sex, and this leads him to making up excuses in order to keep him from being humiliated when he doesn't do it right. Remind him that Oral Sex is an art form, then tell him that Jimi Hendrix didn't pick up a guitar for the first time the morning he played Woodstock. Offer him encouragement when he does things you like... ask him to try new things... and make some time to get in touch with yourself through masturbation... this will help you learn what you like, and you can offer him good advice.

As for your orgasms... My girlfriend only orgasms through clitoral stimulation. She does not orgasm through regular intercourse.

If he is saying that he is a bad lover because he hasn't gotten you off, it sounds to me like he is insecure about this and looking for reassurance. Remind him that you are inexperienced and are still looking for ways to get yourself off. Tell him you want him to explore your sexuality with you.

-Peace

 

[pacificbull]

You're probably better off with flavored things made for the purpose. You want to watch out putting sugary things in the vaginal area--could lead to pH imbalances and yeast infections. Yeast infections are a major bummer, especially for the person suffering from them.

I've always found the simplest thing to do if you don't like the taste or smell is hold your breath as you are doing it.

By that I mean if you have to drink medicine that you don't like you inhale through your mouth and not through your nose so you don't get the taste.

I use this technique all the time, and no matter what the smell, taste is I can go down for hours on end.

 

[BirdsWife]

Oral Sex is an art form, then tell him that Jimi Hendrix didn't pick up a guitar for the first time the morning he played Woodstock.

This sounds like sig line material to me.

 

[fsumusic1981]

I think I might just do that... thanks

 

[manofsteel52]

Turns out that events outside both of our control caused us to have a long conversation about it. I explained to him that I'd like it if he would go down on me at least once out of the times we have sex. He told me that he wanted to do it for me, it's just that he doesn't like the taste of it.

I thought about it and then I told him that I didn't want him doing anything he wasn't comfortable doing. He said that the only way he would get comfortable with it is doing it more often. So I think we've come to some sort of agreement.

I try and stay trimmed down. I prefer the feel of less hair. I've never tried shaving it completely off. Does it itch growing back? And what can I do about the taste?

If he hasn't done it, how does he know he doesn't like the taste?
He just sounds like a boy who's had an idea hammered into his head and can't think objectively.
Ive never tasted a pussy I didn't like. And, BTW, I tasted the delicious, delectable, delightful pussy of my gf the very first time we had sex at the age of 17, some 35 years ago. I can still remember her flavor and delightful aroma...
I think he just needs a solid kick in the ass. I have little patience for people like this.

 

[rydia57]

the taste....

Hi,

I just wanted to say, I have dated two guys who didn't like going down. One was just not comfortable with it, so I stopped asking him. The other didn't have any good reason, and one night out of the blue, he went down on me! But before any of this I was the one who refused to go down. When I got back into dating, the first guy was very lenient and let me take my time. So, to get used to the taste of going down on him, I put strawberry syrup on his cock..lol and then blew him. It got so I needed the syrup less and less! Til finally, I just liked the taste of cock. Think you can get him to do that?

 

[77Cobra]

Doesn't like the taste of it?I never met a pussy I didn't like to taste.But I have found women,some in their 40's who never had experienced a man going south,so to speak.I had one who was married for 20 years and was divorced and the first time we had sex she tried to stop me and said that is dirty.She wanted to go take a shower first etc. but I told her to relax and let me please her.To make a long story short she had her first orgasm that night,or I should say first several orgasms that night and even found out that she had an oral fixation too.
I could not believe the number of older women I met in my single days(I like older women) that had never had anyone lick and suck on their pussies,I love it.

 

[Lynxie]

I think the shower advice is the best way to go - you'll be virtually tasteless, so he can't use that as an excuse not to "return the favor." Also, it couldn't hurt to pay attention to what you eat. There are plenty of articles and resources out there that will help you learn what can make you taste sweeter. And pay attention to your own health - yeast infections and other conditions can cause fishy, unpleasant odors.

I also suggest getting your man to read some of these posts with you. You've already started talking about both of your sexual needs, so this might be a good next step for you to take. It will probably help start some good conversation. At the very least, he'll definitely learn that eating pussy is not abnormal - women absolutely adore men who can do it well. Hopefully it'll help him get past his "taste" issues.

Good luck sweety - keep us all posted on any progress you make!

 

[Tat2mom]

I started having sex a few months before turning 18. I did NOT have an orgasm (with another person involved) till I was 21. It can take yrs for a woman to have one. Just relax and don't worry about having one. It will happen.
As for him not liking the taste, get some flavored lubes and tell him to go at it. lol. If he still doesn't want to do it then too bad for him. He just doesn't know what he's missing.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

He won't go down on me. Sorry. I didn't mean to be vague.

DUMP HIS SORRY ASS, tell him its imperative to your orgasm and if he still refuses' politely tell him 2 hit the road, I hate MEN like that won't return the favour or you could keep him and not go DOWN on him at all

 

[vargas111]

I agree with a lot of the advice, altough I still have trouble believing there are guys who would not jump throught hoops to eat their women. (Th first time I ever heard about it, I thougt it sounded sexy, but my wife would not let me. It was not until years later I found a woman who would and I've been a fan ever since!)

Learn to get off by masturbation so you will be able to tell him exactly what to do.

Althought I personally prefer a bushy puss, I guess that shaving/trimming could be a help for beginners. <g>

I do not see anything wrong with a "no bj w/o cunnilingus" rule. It's a taste any man can accquire. Hell, it tastes like woman; what could be better?

One way to help him get there is have him lick and kiss you everywhere else, breasts, tummy, neck legs, ankles, thighs (getting close), ass. Let him play around down there without any obligation to get you off.

Good luck, but if he will not come arond, dump him for a less clueless man. Stupidy should be punished.

 

[LadyJeanne]

It sounds like maybe you both just need a little more practice with it. I found this posted on the GB, copied from another site - might be helpful for both of you to read:

http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/howto.htm

Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you've got the world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she's going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it's beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn't it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I've seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl's cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman's unique qualities and tell her what makes her special. Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you're petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it.

Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn't mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.

Whenever you touch a woman's pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn't have any juices of it's own and it's extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it's dry and that hurts. But you don't want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled. Approach her pussy slowly.

Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it. Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her.

After you've done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she's straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you're about to eat must be done gently. Tongue-fuck her. This feels devine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit.

Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it's covering. If so, lick it. If you can't see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up to the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it's presence. But even if you can't feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin. Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder.

When you sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady's face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what she'll be saying too: 'Don't stop. Don't ever stop!' There's a reason for that, most men stop too soon.

Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who's a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him. But back to your pussy eating session...

There's another thing you can do to intensify your woman's pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she's enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She'll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you're fucking her.

Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking. Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can't get deep enough. Make sure they're wet so you don't irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing. She'll let you know what to do.

If you're sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she's getting high on this. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one who's nipples get hard when she's excited or only when she's having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive lover.

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now. If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she's had an orgasm.

Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She'd be yours as long as you wanted her.

The last advice I have for you is this: After you've made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she's ever had, don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she's come all the way down.

A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex. Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it's what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover's signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.

 

[blue112]

my only advice other then to ignore the it for tat bull, is to simply remember to have fun with it, its supposed to be fun right so be able to laugh and be open to talking about it.
my SO and I are currently working out this particular problem , none of my other girlfriends ever wanted it or were inclined to try so I never learned how, which when she learned of it made her uncomfortable around the issue of sex. so from a guys perspective who really wants to seriously please his lady directly ( she found the Rabbit I had bought for her as a surprise before the oral question arose so Ive indirectly been pleasing her lately), invite him to explore your pussy and your body and actually learn what pleases you during and extended sex session where the focus is not on getting off but on each other. make him feel secure sexually in that you want HIM to please you and since your both beginners at sex you want to know what feels good for you as well.
Be sure he's secure given the male insecurity toward sexual prowess which is ridiculous but can still be felt by even the most secure guy.

on an aside, explore his body too, sex isnt just about the female body and her pleasure despite the proclivity towards that assumption by society. by this i mean theres more to a guys body then the obvious so look around and see what feels good to him as well.

Have fun!