Trained to Come

[FurryFury]

I really don't think you would want that kind of training.

Yet you continue to make me very curious.

Fury

 

[chris9]

Yet you continue to make me very curious.

Fury

Me, too...

 

[JupitersGirl]

There's more to life than easy, multiple, mind-blowing, earth-shaking orgasms on command or whim or the right kind of sneeze....*sob*

There is?

 

[marieR19]

Never experienced/tried it, but read info on some other sites about it, and it has appeared in a lot of my favorite stories on Lit. When I first heard of it my reaction was mainly "no way! sounds so impossible.... cumming on command? it can't be real." But now my reaction is closer to "I wanna learn how!!!" lol


Heather

 

[Betticus]

On average around four out of five people can be conditioned without ever knowing about it. Except for sociopaths.

We all do this to each other every time we are in the presence of others. Just with our body language and our actions but at a low level.

I think what you are interested in is something that falls between gentle persuasion and outright behaviour modification. The seduction. Seducing someone's mind to the point where they will begin to condition themselves for you.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I’m terribly curious about being trained to orgasm on command. Is it an urban legend can a woman really do this? (My eye twitched just thinking about it.)

I was just thinking about this topic. I almost posted a thread on it. I'm glad I found this before I did. I will be following this thread.

 

[teresawrites2u]

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[Blushing Bottom]

It is no legend, but that does not mean that everyone can do it either. Master has trained me to do cum on His command, and has me cum on His command on almost a daily basis now.

I agree with Masters_aphrodite. I was trained to cum on command as a young woman who still believed that anything was possible and was so in love or at least in lust. It takes total mind over matter control to keep your body from doing what it does naturally not to mention doing what it likes.

 

[poesraven8]

Orgasm Denial?

Just thought I'd throw my 2 cents in. This sounds a little like orgasm denial where the submissive requests her orgasm from the dominant. Usually the first request is denied. When permission is finally granted the result is a more intense orgasm. Also the submissive is required to beg.

 

[sweetnpetite]

Just thought I'd throw my 2 cents in. This sounds a little like orgasm denial where the submissive requests her orgasm from the dominant. Usually the first request is denied. When permission is finally granted the result is a more intense orgasm. Also the submissive is required to beg.

I think that the two can be connected- or not connected. I find sometimes that I like to be denied rather than ordered or given permission, it actually pushes me closer (but that's sort of difficult to communicate in the moment)

However, I would love to be trained specifically to come on demand with 2 concerns

1. Would this make the dominant/partner lazy in his duties? I can definatly see this happening in some situations. I wonder how couples avoid/guard against this. I am definatly not in one of those "I only want to please you and care nothing for my own needs" kind of set ups, and I don't want to have all of my sexual experiences abreviated to "Ok, I'm done, now you come."

2. I have a hard time climaxing during intercourse as it is, and i would never want to do anything that *limited* my ability to have an orgasm. So I would never accept training that included "come when I say and only when I say." In a scene, I could see, but as for only being able to climax with permission, that would be a no for me. I also wonder how people who are so trained (especially if it is person specific) deal when/if the relationship breaks up and they are only able to climax when a specific person gives the order. It seems like deprograming would be very difficult, especially without the co-operation of the original programmer.

If these topics have already been covered, I appologize and would be happy to be directed to links if this seems like too much of a hijack.

 

[Shadowedge]

Well, It definaly is possible. my SO, kinda without meaning to, has gotten me to the point where I can come from him telling me to about 80 percent of the time. sometimes I just can't get over the top, and then i need a combination of physical imput, (pain often,) and being told to, and I come.

BUT these are not satisfying orgasims. I love them, and they feel great, but they are not the soul shaking-ohmygod the world fell down- I can't move anymore orgasims I get through direct sexual contact.

On the other hand it's a great foreplay/scene tool. on the other hand the fact that he has come up to me in completely nonsexual situations and ordered me to come, and I do, is something like a down side. (anyone haveing that much control over my body is both realy hot and a little scary.)

 

[Boratus]

build up on command

I actually conditioned a sub so that when I just placed two fingers on her, her body would build to an orgasm. I think this is much more fun as I could see the look in her eyes and watch her body shake. She would finally start begging Me to let her cum. Usually I would other times I'd just remove My fingers.

 

[Rubyb]

I think that the two can be connected- or not connected. I find sometimes that I like to be denied rather than ordered or given permission, it actually pushes me closer (but that's sort of difficult to communicate in the moment)

However, I would love to be trained specifically to come on demand with 2 concerns

1. Would this make the dominant/partner lazy in his duties? I can definatly see this happening in some situations. I wonder how couples avoid/guard against this. I am definatly not in one of those "I only want to please you and care nothing for my own needs" kind of set ups, and I don't want to have all of my sexual experiences abreviated to "Ok, I'm done, now you come."

2. I have a hard time climaxing during intercourse as it is, and i would never want to do anything that *limited* my ability to have an orgasm. So I would never accept training that included "come when I say and only when I say." In a scene, I could see, but as for only being able to climax with permission, that would be a no for me. I also wonder how people who are so trained (especially if it is person specific) deal when/if the relationship breaks up and they are only able to climax when a specific person gives the order. It seems like deprograming would be very difficult, especially without the co-operation of the original programmer.

If these topics have already been covered, I appologize and would be happy to be directed to links if this seems like too much of a hijack.

Those are very real concerns and should be dealt with before anyone were to practice that type of conditioning with your partner. What's been described is far more complicated than the original topic.

As much fun as it is to "climax on demand", it's really great when one partner takes more pleasure in making the other climax repeatedly than their own pleasure.

If you don't get off on the idea of cumming when told, then skip it. It isn't for everyone. Nor is begging to permission to cum.

Climaxing on command is fun, but it's only a small part of the sensual buffet available with a loving partner.

 

[Miss Trickery]

I, personally, would not be able to cum on command - though, I will steady ride my man until he tells me he wants me to cum on him... then I'm just overwhelmed in bliss that it makes me I--I that much closer to cumming all over him.

 

[lovetobeasub]

My Dom just started this with me and would not let me cum for a while last night and when I did...it was one of the best I have ever had. Yes it was hard yes I begged and begged but OMG did I love it!!!

 

[Etoile]

Some can and some can't. What I have found is those that are truely sub at heart it is much easier for. It is also noy just a command it is the actions that go with it.

WTF? That's getting into some dangerous "subbier than thou" territory right there.

 

[CorsetLvr]

I think three seperate topics got a little confused in this thread. They involve three totally seperate D/s techniques.

1. Orgasm Training - Training of a sub to orgasm on demand with little or no physical stimulation. That is, basically a mental orgasm. This is usually accomplished with a sub that is capable of achieving sub space easily without any form of physical stimulation (pleasure or pain).

2. Orgasm Control - Training of a sub to reach orgasm only when given permission to do so during a scene. Permission is withheld until the sub reaches a sub-orgasmic peak and usually results in a larger than normal orgasm. This is often done as an exercise in teaching a sub control and personal discipline.

3. Orgasm Denial - Permission for a sub to orgasm is withheld for extended periods of time. This time period may be for days or weeks. Permission is granted by the Dom/me only as a form of reward for good service.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

A person can be trained to do this, even against their will.

Being able to give up that control as well as, a dom knowing HOW to get in, is the ultimate *chemistry*

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Yet you continue to make me very curious.

Fury

DITTO!

 

[Clairebutterfly]

This is just fascinating to me! I am so curious about this...e...I am not very familiar with this sort of thing but I think I am a sub at heart.

 

[Etoile]

This is just fascinating to me! I am so curious about this...I often wish my husband would deny me...I am not very familiar with this sort of thing but I think I am a sub at heart.

Welcome to BDSM Talk

Have you talked with your husband about this at all? Orgasm denial doesn't have to be part of anything intensely BDSM, really. Tell him that you want him to tease you and tease you but not let you actually come. Or you could just focus your attentions on him, and if he tries to get you off tell him you want to concentrate on him right now. If you want this as something more long-term, you can either let him know that or simply repeat the process every time you two are intimate. If you want it to be part of something more, that's possible, but it doesn't hurt to start here.

 

[Betticus]

Would this make the dominant/partner lazy in his duties? I can definatly see this happening in some situations. I wonder how couples avoid/guard against this. I am definatly not in one of those "I only want to please you and care nothing for my own needs" kind of set ups, and I don't want to have all of my sexual experiences abreviated to "Ok, I'm done, now you come."

I don't think so.l

 

[FierceAngel]

oh ya!

Yes some women can be trained to orgasm on command. I have been for about 6 years now..it is awesome! Does take some time and alot of teasing and a sub who can refrain from touching herself at all without permission..this part is harder than it sounds but the rewards are Great!

 

[Clairebutterfly]

Welcome to BDSM Talk

Have you talked with your husband about this at all? Orgasm denial doesn't have to be part of anything intensely BDSM, really. Tell him that you want him to tease you and tease you but not let you actually come. Or you could just focus your attentions on him, and if he tries to get you off tell him you want to concentrate on him right now. If you want this as something more long-term, you can either let him know that or simply repeat the process every time you two are intimate. If you want it to be part of something more, that's possible, but it doesn't hurt to start here.

Thanks a lot

 

[Joe Schmoe]

A dom doesn't teach a submissive how to be a submissive. They trigger or help free certain responses in the other, assisting the other to become comfortable and accepting of these responses. This is usually done with positive reenforcement and approval as well as negative reenforcement (such as punishment) and disapproval.

The same can be said with orgasm on command. The sub is capable of achieving this on their own. All the dom does is help the sub target where they are mentally in their state of arousal, usually intense arousal, so they can become conditioned to return to that mark. This is done by the help of their dom through tone, contact, area of contact and word(s) during the repeated process of targeting. Once that place is set, the sub can reach it by any and/or all of the methods used by the dom, usually easier each time as the sub becomes accustomed to reaching the target.

Orgasm on command can become a complete orgasm, mental, physical as well as spiritual. The dom is inside the mind of the sub as well as the psyche so the dom needs to be aware of the power of that switch they toggle. They can make it happen repeatedly, eventually making it unpleasant for the sub since their whole being can be involved; becoming painful, exhausting and mentally draining. So, as in any scene the dom needs to know when to stop, even more so with multi-orgasmic subs. Here the dom will need to shut down the cycling in the sub.