Tragic Loss

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

I've been gone away on Lit, after losing my brother. I couldn't bring myself to talk to anyone because the pain I felt inside was too difficult for me to bare. I'm deeply worried about my mother and been supporting her. I love my mother, more than anything. If you had a similar experience with a tragic loss, I'm here for you. I loved my brother Peter and he loved music.

If I upset anyone, I'm sorry, this wasn't my intention at all. I just wanted to write this out because, I hope in some way that I can help someone by talking to them or supporting them. This won't take the pain away, I'm just hoping I can help in some way and make a difference in someone's life.

 

[OneAuthor]

I am terribly sorry for your loss. Having dealt with losing my mother (when I was 17) and my father (much more recently)... I know how painful it can be.

Take care and know that each day will be better. When I think of my parents now, I smile at the happy memories instead of being sad that they are no longer in my life.

 

[Tryharder62]

I am sorry to hear you lost your brother. I loved my parents the same but when my father died that was like nothing I had ever experienced before. I felt like my anchor was gone. Thinking of you and your mom.

 

[MEbullmoose]

Dear Samatha,

I to am sorry for your loss. It is difficult to understandably bad things happen. You and your family will be in my prayers as well.

Jerry

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

Thank you everyone. Your all so very very kind and I appreciate your kind words. I've gotten some wonderful pm's regarding this post and those messages we're very heartwarming that you'd simply reach out to me to give me your condolences.

I'm supporting my mother through this grieving period. She's simply taking it the hardest out of everyone out of my family. I'm keeping myself occupied by writing. I've had some writers block from being in my head too much. I'm sure something will come to me soon! Got done meditating and I feel much calmer now. So this is something I plan on doing daily now. Thank you all once again! Your kind words, messages and simply just supporting me has done a lot.

 

[Kalamain]

I lost my dad a couple of years ago.
We were lucky because he had been ill for a long time so we were able to tell him we loved him and there was no shock. Even so my mum and my gran took it VERY hard.

The best thing you can do is to be there for them. However... I would just like to say that what has worked for us is to talk about my dad but only about the good things.

"I was thinking about dad the other day, about how he would..." and make it a conversation where we talk about how awesome he was. It may not work for you... But it can't hurt to try it once... See how it goes?

The only other thing is to maybe get her some professional, but more importantly, external help.

Maybe your mum has some issues that she feels she can't talk to you about. Maybe she will talk to a priest or a counselor about it?