Trad Wives

[Yarglenurp]

I would a majority of women in the world either work outside their home or for a family business. If you add the number of women in china and India, there is a good chuck of reworks right there. I’d say only a small percentage of women have the usury t be traditional wives.

I think we agree, but just not on the terminology. A lot of women in those countries work, but a lot are also just traditional homemakers because they live in a setting where work is unpaid or severely underpaid. The cultural “ideal” is still that the women stay home to mind domestic affairs. To them, being a “trad wife” is not an alternative lifestyle, but rather a goal in life.

If we are looking at women of the world, many did not chose their husbands and not all women in the us choose their husbands.

Yeah… the trad wife postings going around are a basically a fairy tale cover over a more complex reality. There’s a big intersection between trad wife posts and Evangelical and Mormon audiences. There are hundreds of thousands of families in the US that are not culturally much different from the conservative communities in other countries. They eat different food and worship different gods, but they’ll all agree to enforcing positions in a rigid social hierarchy.

 

[SevMax2]

Look, what individuals choose to do is up to them. They shouldn't be forced into it or forbidden from it. Some might try it and not care for it, others might enjoy it. It's always best to be careful, male or female, as a homemaker, to protect yourself from destitution should the marriage/relationship fail, though.

 

[BabyBoomer50s]

Married women who stay home to run the household, cook the meals, take care of the children, and love their husbands are to be cherished.

 

[SevMax2]

Married women who stay home to run the household, cook the meals, take care of the children, and love their husbands are to be cherished.

My sister-in-law is trying to be that....I wish her all the best. My brother's a good man. Not perfect, but a hard-working guy, a veteran, and adores their daughter.

 

[Mello_SixtyNine]

Estee Williams is a popular tradwife online. Her husband is a lucky man.
I had a story idea that I was mulling over with a trandwife.

https://www.the-sun.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/6/2023/01/says-job-make-husbands-life-792150019.jpg?w=1440https://thespectator.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/estee-williams-tradwife.png

 

[SevMax2]

Estee Williams is a popular tradwife online. Her husband is a lucky man.
I had a story idea that I was mulling over with a trandwife.

https://www.the-sun.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/6/2023/01/says-job-make-husbands-life-792150019.jpg?w=1440

She's quite the cutie...

 

[KatieDoes]

Married women who stay home to run the household, cook the meals, take care of the children, and love their husbands are to be cherished.

Those women can be cherished by treating their contributions to the family as equal to their husbands contributions. That means that she would have equal access to the family money, her opinion on financial decisions would be equal to his, and they would be placing an equal amount into a retirement account in her name as they are into his.

 

[SevMax2]

Those women can be cherished by treating their contributions to the family as equal to their husbands contributions. That means that she would have equal access to the family money, her opinion on financial decisions would be equal to his, and they would be placing an equal amount into a retirement account in her name as they are into his.

Equal is one thing, not superior. Very often, too many ladies seem to think that "my money is my money and his money is our money." That's not equality. That's financial domination/abuse.

 

[BabyBoomer50s]

Those women can be cherished by treating their contributions to the family as equal to their husbands contributions. That means that she would have equal access to the family money, her opinion on financial decisions would be equal to his, and they would be placing an equal amount into a retirement account in her name as they are into his.

Of course!

 

[KatieDoes]

Equal is one thing, not superior. Very often, too many ladies seem to think that "my money is my money and his money is our money." That's not equality. That's financial domination/abuse.

This thread is about women who sacrifice their ability to work and earn money outside the home, in order to provide unpaid labor inside the home.

 

[SevMax2]

This thread is about women who sacrifice their ability to work and earn money outside the home, in order to provide unpaid labor inside the home.

I am aware of that. Just pointing out that there is a huge difference between "equality" and actual...equality.

 

[KatieDoes]

Of course!

That is not part of current ‘trad wife’ culture, though. It’s romanticized financial abuse in a pretty dress.

 

[SevMax2]

That is not part of current ‘trad wife’ culture, though. It’s romanticized financial abuse in a pretty dress.

I'm pretty sure that they'll be doing fine, given that they're making money off it. And financial abuse is a two-way street. It's often used as a euphemism for "he won't let me control him with money." Marriage is supposed to be a team, not "I" for either partner. It's not meant to be about getting one over on your partner.

 

[KatieDoes]

I'm pretty sure that they'll be doing fine, given that they're making money off it. And financial abuse is a two-way street. It's often used as a euphemism for "he won't let me control him with money." Marriage is supposed to be a team, not "I" for either partner. It's not meant to be about getting one over on your partner.

I’ll believe that they’re ‘doing fine’ when I begin to see women over 40 still embracing it and still believing that it was the best decision.

 

[SevMax2]

Believe whatever you wish.

 

[BabyBoomer50s]

That is not part of current ‘trad wife’ culture, though. It’s romanticized financial abuse in a pretty dress.

Ok. I wasn’t aware there was a culture that equates wives in traditional marriages to wives who are disrespected or abused by their husbands. I was thinking more along the lines of June Cleaver type wives.

 

[BabyBoomer50s]

I'm pretty sure that they'll be doing fine, given that they're making money off it. And financial abuse is a two-way street. It's often used as a euphemism for "he won't let me control him with money." Marriage is supposed to be a team, not "I" for either partner. It's not meant to be about getting one over on your partner.

I agree that marriage should be a team. My wife and I have always discussed and agreed on our major financial goals and decisions. In some marriages, financial duties are divided.

In my marriage, my wife focuses on paying the monthly bills and I focus on the investments. Just depends on which spouse is best suited and most interested in the respective tasks. I’m dealing with a humorous situation right now where I’ve been trying to pay a paving contractor for work he did on our driveway two months ago. I keep asking him how he’d like to be paid and he keeps telling me he’ll check with his wife.

 

[Yarglenurp]

lol, there’s a different thread for divorce. Take the “woman takes the man’s money” talk there.

If trad wives is your fetish or lifestyle choice, that’s fine. If it’s something that a woman was groomed for since childhood, then that’s not fines

There are definitely dudes who would happily be a house husband, so it stands to reason that there are woman who want the same. The main reason there’s a backlash against trad wife as a lifestyle choice is that it really wasn’t a “choice” for which there were viable alternatives for many women. If a woman goes to college, gets a real career with promotion potential, and then decides, “nah, I wanna stay home to raise the kids, clean, and maintain the household,” then that’s fine. If a woman was raised from childhood to be told that her value as a female was primarily in her baby-making ability and man-pleasing ability, then that’s closer to cultural grooming and not so fine.

 

[BabyBoomer50s]

If the term “trad wives” applies to some cult that subscribes to a philosophy of men exerting financial control over their wives, it must be a very tiny cult. Lit has an abundance of people with different fetishes and kinks, but I haven’t come across any guys on this site that get excited over exercising financial control over their wives. Haven’t come across any women seeking guys like that either.

This thread is entirely dedicated to trad wives, yet nobody who has posted has expressed any interest in participating in the culture. On the other hand, the world is full of women who aspire to be stay at home wives and mothers. I greatly admire them.

 

[SevMax2]

If the term “trad wives” applies to some cult that subscribes to a philosophy of men exerting financial control over their wives, it must be a very tiny cult. Lit has an abundance of people with different fetishes and kinks, but I haven’t come across any guys on this site that get excited over exercising financial control over their wives. Haven’t come across any women seeking guys like that either.

This thread is entirely dedicated to trad wives, yet nobody who has posted has expressed any interest in participating in the culture. On the other hand, the world is full of women who aspire to be stay at home wives and mothers. I greatly admire them.

Sometimes, those worried about it are chasing after phantoms.

 

[KatieDoes]

Believe whatever you wish.

Well, of course I will.

In the meantime, feel free to start a thread and conversation about financial abuse. I’m pretty sure that you could drum up a few thousand lit dudes to complain abint how they’re valued only for their paycheck, right after spending 10-40 years abjectly refusing to contribute anything other than a paycheck.

 

[KatieDoes]

If the term “trad wives” applies to some cult that subscribes to a philosophy of men exerting financial control over their wives, it must be a very tiny cult. Lit has an abundance of people with different fetishes and kinks, but I haven’t come across any guys on this site that get excited over exercising financial control over their wives. Haven’t come across any women seeking guys like that either.

This thread is entirely dedicated to trad wives, yet nobody who has posted has expressed any interest in participating in the culture. On the other hand, the world is full of women who aspire to be stay at home wives and mothers. I greatly admire them.

Fun fact:

The device that you’re using to have this conversation and watch porn has a feature that would allow you to look up trad wife culture and learn what it is before you opine on it.

 

[drusus]

Lit has an abundance of people with different fetishes and kinks, but I haven’t come across any guys on this site that get excited over exercising financial control over their wives.

Seems you haven't spent much time in the BDSM personals. There are men there that want to exercise control over every little part of their partner's lives. Not in a mutual fun D/s play arrangement, but in an exploitative and creepy way that's entirely for their own benefit.

 

[silver gurl]

Trad wife….fuck, no.

 

[LMWM321]

Those women can be cherished by treating their contributions to the family as equal to their husbands contributions. That means that she would have equal access to the family money, her opinion on financial decisions would be equal to his, and they would be placing an equal amount into a retirement account in her name as they are into his.

Agree... And thankfully no-fault divorce (under threat in the US as part of Project 2025) virtually assures her 1/2 of the family assets if the marriage fails - regardless of reason.