touch obsessed?

[jadefirefly]

So I've heard a fair bit about those who call themselves (or are called by someone else) 'sense junkies'. If I understand right, this includes things like play with ice cubes, or fire, or edges of sharp things; please correct me if I'm mistaken, this is just what I've gathered during my time here.

Now, for me, ice cubes are too dang cold, and there is - no- way I'm letting anyone set anything on fire, on me. I can't say for sure about claws/knives/sharp things... I enjoy a good back-clawing as much as the next person, but I suspect there's a difference.

The thing is, I seem to be obsessed with plain ol' touch. The feeling of fingers or simple objects (today it was a capped pen) running over my skin; usually in innocuous places like my arms, hands, or face. I can, if alone and in private, spend long stretches of time just trailing my fingers over different parts of my arms, or neck, or legs. Which, if alone, is perfectly a-ok, right?

The trouble comes in when I'm sitting, for example, in class, and catch myself running the end of my pen along the side of my face, just to see how it feels. I'd catch myself, and put the pen down and five minutes later, it's on the back of my neck instead. Not being of a particularly exhibitionist nature, I'm really not wanting to have to explain the fascination I have with this; even though when I do it without thinking it's not a sexual fascination, it'll still sound strange.

So my question is, does anyone else do this? You know, it seems like such a small, harmless thing, and then I realize I never see anyone else doing this, and I feel awfully weird then. And I definitely don't know anyone else who can sit and tickle one place on their scalp until their whole head tingles. So I'm feeling awfully strange and alone on this one... and here I thought I was relatively boring!

(I know I said the above situations weren't at all of a sexual nature; it does extend into that arena though. My SO can run his fingers over my back, head, arms, and legs, and never once approach any of the major erogenous zones, and usually he's not even done by the time I can't lie still anymore. )

 

[graceanne]

I do. And K's done that with me. Got me WAY turned on without touching anyting obviously erogenous.

 

[jadefirefly]

Yaaay! I'm not alone in my wierdness!

.... or are -they- all wierd and we're the normal ones? Hmmmm....

 

[chris9]

Can happen with me. I don't necessarily do it myself when sitting in class or something, though I do play with my hair and scratch my scalp and all that studying (in the library)

What I do have in extremes is sensitivity on (or of? or something else?) my scalp. Having someone else run water over my head (getting a hair-cut with wash, my sister doing color) sends me into giggles and gives me goose-bumps all over.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

i do the same thing...always have..it aint weird

 

[jadefirefly]

Can happen with me. I don't necessarily do it myself when sitting in class or something, though I do play with my hair and scratch my scalp and all that studying (in the library)

What I do have in extremes is sensitivity on (or of? or something else?) my scalp. Having someone else run water over my head (getting a hair-cut with wash, my sister doing color) sends me into giggles and gives me goose-bumps all over.

When I get my hair washed at the salon, it makes my -back- ticklish! It's the strangest thing! My lower back is SO ticklish, but most of the time it can be set off without ever touching my back. It's very odd to be lying back in the chair, getting your hair rinsed, and all of a sudden you half-jump out of the chair because it tickles!

Even worse... imagine getting your back tattooed when the vibrations from the gun tickle your back. Conflict of signals, anyone?!

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Grin

Click me.

 

[chelseachained]

sighs softly

I am with Jade
Getting my hair done is on odd combination of extreme physical relaxation in addition to a surface skin reaction. Light strokes on my arm seem to have a similar effect. As far as the other stimulants are concerned....ice (mmmm)
drives me wild. it is like spontaneous combustion for me Laughing. Especially if i am blind folded and dont know where it is going to land next. And if followed by hot fingers or tongue, you have to scrape me off the ceiling. Wax in all honesty I have to be in the mood for or i become a bit stressed. Also revel in the "phantom" touch after you have removed nipple clamps. Not the immediate rush afterward but the lingering sensation that remains when later your blouse or bed sheet brushes over you. hmmmm going to go call my hair salon right now.

 

[Anne_Prospere]

absolutely.
Im a self toucher. I can trace the lines of my body for hours, in fact, I had to stop touching my face so much as it caused me to break out! so now, I touch my stomach under my shirt mostly, I'll trace around my belly button or run along the lines of the muscle if Im tense, I'll tend to sort of pull on parts of myself that stick out.. wow that sounds bizzare. what I mean is, Ill lightly grasp my collar bone or wrap my hand around my hipbone. I'll pull on my bottom lip gently, or Ill reach my arm up my back and hold onto my shoulder blade(double jointed arm)
my favorite part of myself to touch is the dimples in my lower back because there are 2 small bony parts and then the 2 indents to play with.
hooray for self exploration!

 

[alice_underneath]

What I do have in extremes is sensitivity on (or of? or something else?) my scalp. Having someone else run water over my head (getting a hair-cut with wash, my sister doing color) sends me into giggles and gives me goose-bumps all over.

I know exactly what you mean.... about the shivers, not the giggles.

In a 1985 film called "Out of Africa," starring Meryl Streep and Robert Redford, there is a scene in which he washes her hair. You would definitely appreciate it. If you rent the DVD, be sure to get the widescreen version. The images of Africa are gorgeous.

Alice

P.S. to Mr. Assassin - great thread.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Jade, you are so not alone. I often find myself running my hand or fingers along my shoulder or down my calf while I'm working on something. I don't even realize I'm doing it until someone points it out sometimes. And yes, I'm incredibly sensitive to any kind of touch - especially love a firm hand on the back of my neck while walking or pressed into the small of my back. In fact, I enjoy that even more than holding hands while walking. Also, a hand in my hair is extremely sensual to me, especially if it ultimately goes the full length of my hair, which is about waist length.

Edited to add: Although I must admit that I LOVE ice and wax play. Not fire and not cutting - although getting my tattoo was kind of fun. The extremes in temperatures can be very erotic. Oh yeah, and my newly discovered love of electricity.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I love high thread count eygptian cotton/ linen sheets , a sea breeze even when its gusty, the cool feeling and perfume of frangipani (plumeria)petals on my skin.

I hate anyone to touch me without permission , I don't do 'hugs'. I hate the hair dressers because I have an extremely sensitive scalp (apparently being a premature baby is the reason ). Children I will cuddle for hours for some reason thats different. The only exception to my touch 'rules' are then babies/children in my immediate family (which are delightfully plentiful) and my SO at the time.

Strange thing my father is getting older (aren't we all....smiles) I rarely see him because of geography and when I went to hug him goodbye recently he did but I could feel him pull back at the same time. Wonder if its a 'learned' behaviour.

 

[raven2]

I love high thread count eygptian cotton/ linen sheets , a sea breeze even when its gusty, the cool feeling and perfume of frangipani (plumeria)petals on my skin.

I hate anyone to touch me without permission , I don't do 'hugs'. I hate the hair dressers because I have an extremely sensitive scalp (apparently being a premature baby is the reason ). Children I will cuddle for hours for some reason thats different. The only exception to my touch 'rules' are then babies/children in my immediate family (which are delightfully plentiful) and my SO at the time.

Strange thing my father is getting older (aren't we all....smiles) I rarely see him because of geography and when I went to hug him goodbye recently he did but I could feel him pull back at the same time. Wonder if its a 'learned' behaviour.

Could certainly be learned. Family dynamics often decide if members (esp. children) are comfortable with emotional displays and touching.

 

[jadefirefly]

Speaking of hairdressers...

I went and got my hair trimmed today. All I could think about while the girl was washing my hair was this thread!

I've been paying more and more attention to when and how I do this, lately. I'm wondering if this is also tied to my tendencies to pick or chew at the skin surrounding my fingernails, or at the callouses on my feet -- if for some reason, unless I'm doing something that totally occupies my mind (like work, you dirtyminded people! ) I *need* to feel some sort of touch-sensation.

I absolutely -hate- that I chew my fingers. Can't stand it. It makes them look awful, and unprofessional, and it makes me look stupid. And I know all these things, and think them WHILE I DO IT, and keep on doing it. I can't help but wonder if it's related, in a way; when I'm playing with my hair to feel the tickles on my scalp, or running a pen along my neck, I think the same things, that I look silly, and why cant I just sit still? But I still don't stop doing it. I'll just find another, more discreet way to do it.

This is why I call it an obsession -- if you take the actual action (chewing, touching, etc) out of the above description, it *sounds* like an addiction. "I know I should quit smoking/drinking/whatever, I know it's bad for me, I know it makes me look like a bad/irresponsible/whatever person, and I just keep right on doing it."

I'm not sure if I'm comfortable with that or not.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Speaking of hairdressers...

I went and got my hair trimmed today. All I could think about while the girl was washing my hair was this thread!

I've been paying more and more attention to when and how I do this, lately. I'm wondering if this is also tied to my tendencies to pick or chew at the skin surrounding my fingernails, or at the callouses on my feet -- if for some reason, unless I'm doing something that totally occupies my mind (like work, you dirtyminded people! ) I *need* to feel some sort of touch-sensation.

I absolutely -hate- that I chew my fingers. Can't stand it. It makes them look awful, and unprofessional, and it makes me look stupid. And I know all these things, and think them WHILE I DO IT, and keep on doing it. I can't help but wonder if it's related, in a way; when I'm playing with my hair to feel the tickles on my scalp, or running a pen along my neck, I think the same things, that I look silly, and why cant I just sit still? But I still don't stop doing it. I'll just find another, more discreet way to do it.

This is why I call it an obsession -- if you take the actual action (chewing, touching, etc) out of the above description, it *sounds* like an addiction. "I know I should quit smoking/drinking/whatever, I know it's bad for me, I know it makes me look like a bad/irresponsible/whatever person, and I just keep right on doing it."

I'm not sure if I'm comfortable with that or not.

Jade are you hurting yourself by doing this things?? Aside from some selfloathing has anyone made a comment on the condition of your hands?? People I would hope look at you more the a sum of your physical taits but at the whole you. If you feel strongly about this then you just need to have the willpower to stop yourself from doing it, I am talking mostly about the chewing of your fingernail skin. For years and years I bit my nail, so maybe when I got my braces put on that was the catalyst to make me stop, so now I just don't do that anymore for some reason.

 

[jadefirefly]

Jade are you hurting yourself by doing this things?? Aside from some selfloathing has anyone made a comment on the condition of your hands?? People I would hope look at you more the a sum of your physical taits but at the whole you. If you feel strongly about this then you just need to have the willpower to stop yourself from doing it, I am talking mostly about the chewing of your fingernail skin. For years and years I bit my nail, so maybe when I got my braces put on that was the catalyst to make me stop, so now I just don't do that anymore for some reason.

I find the only thing that stops me from chewing my fingers is having acrylic nails -- and only then because my nails are too dull to pick at the skin.

I wouldn't say it's causing any serious pain, other than feeding the irrational though-trains that I am or I will do something stupid in public. I do often draw blood on my cuticles, but they're minor things that stop bleeding in a minute.

 

[pandoravampire]

i hope you have gathered the obvious from these responses, that you are no freak, that you are not alone.

Before i knew about bdsm, id of sworn i was one of the most sensuous people i knew. So readily enthralled by touch. Either of myself, or of another.
This lifestyle has allowed me to meet others, with a very similar perculiarity such as you describe.

Now, i view my attention to touch as a gift. As relaxing as hypnosis, as stimulating as vibrations, it grabs my attention fully, as i stroke myself.
I am partially sighted, and always wondered, if that was why im so enthralled by being touched and touching others? Now? who gives a rats arse. Im gifted! lol

If im the one doing the touching, i prefer to touch another with my lips.
If im the one being touched, anything will do please?

I gave birth to my daughter using hair brushing as my onlyb pain control method. See, im a real believer in touch and its endorphine releasing qualities!

Touch is a wonderful sense. Find someone who enjoys it as much as you do, and youve a match made in haven! I do not see my sensuality as the same as my sexuality. So even though my mother as a child would constantly be barking at me to 'stop stroking yourself, its not natural!' i knew she spoke a heap of crap. Anything feeling this good, could only be natural.

My sensuality was what drew me to bdsm in the first place. Its the tool that allows me to enter subspace easily with my Sir.

pandoravampire

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I find the only thing that stops me from chewing my fingers is having acrylic nails -- and only then because my nails are too dull to pick at the skin.

I wouldn't say it's causing any serious pain, other than feeding the irrational though-trains that I am or I will do something stupid in public. I do often draw blood on my cuticles, but they're minor things that stop bleeding in a minute.

The point of my post that I hoped show is that people are going to make judgements about you no matter what you do. We all do things we hate and love, so if the cress of your pen along your neck pleases you then I say the world be damned. Sometimes you have to blaze your own trail through life, maybe its not the one your family or friends would choice but its yours. Be glad your not like me, I do stuff just to see what kind of reaction I can get from people, like walking down the street of my one of my hometowns with my Dr Seuss' Cat in the Hat hat on. So if your not harming anyone and its not ruining your life maybe go with it and see where it leads you??

 

[malinborn]

Popping in late on this one, but i found, for a long time when i was younger, that i would do the same things.. though i would often use the tip of a razor (no, not to cut myself.. but that fine fine tip felt very cool).. when i would use a pen cap it was often the blue bic pen and i would find myself tracing the point of the cap or the dangle part of the cap under the hair on my arms

it goes without saying i love being touched, always have.. doesn't have to be sexual, just a stroke over my skin, so i am lucky in finding someone who likes to touch and be touched as well

 

[HandFan]

If my av doesn't give it away....

I'm very obsessed with touch, both touching or being touched. I'm a hairdresser, so I work in a very tactile world everyday. I do take notice when I have clients that are really letting themselves relax into my touch, so I make sure to give them extra long shampoos, brush their hair a lot, or just let my fingers run across their scalps a little more then other clients. It is nothing sexual, just more that I can really appreciate how much people need pleasant and gentle touch in their lives, and how sad it is that we seldom do it enough for each other. I feel it is very important to nurture each other as much as we can; whether it is a friendly pat on the back, a light touch on the arm, or a great big bear hug.

I catch myself fondling objects all the time; fabric of clothing, pens and pencils, running my hands on table tops to feel the surface coolness, just touching anything that looks like it's going to feel really good to touch in general. My husband laughs and jokes that I'm an object molester and that he shouldn't take me out in public...but I just can't help it, like an irresistable impulse or something.

I spend way too much of my day obsessively dreaming about being touched, so much so that when it does happen, I feel that my heart might explode from the contact. Yes, there is a definate difference in touching and being touched.

 

[papilllon]

Skin

If my av doesn't give it away....

I'm very obsessed with touch, both touching or being touched. I'm a hairdresser, so I work in a very tactile world everyday. I do take notice when I have clients that are really letting themselves relax into my touch, so I make sure to give them extra long shampoos, brush their hair a lot, or just let my fingers run across their scalps a little more then other clients. It is nothing sexual, just more that I can really appreciate how much people need pleasant and gentle touch in their lives, and how sad it is that we seldom do it enough for each other. I feel it is very important to nurture each other as much as we can; whether it is a friendly pat on the back, a light touch on the arm, or a great big bear hug.

I catch myself fondling objects all the time; fabric of clothing, pens and pencils, running my hands on table tops to feel the surface coolness, just touching anything that looks like it's going to feel really good to touch in general. My husband laughs and jokes that I'm an object molester and that he shouldn't take me out in public...but I just can't help it, like an irresistable impulse or something.

I spend way too much of my day obsessively dreaming about being touched, so much so that when it does happen, I feel that my heart might explode from the contact. Yes, there is a definate difference in touching and being touched.

I don't know if it can be considered touch obsessed, but I really love touching my skin while I speak on the phone : belly, neck, arms... Funny how I just realized I'm doing that after reading your post.

papillon

 

[IamSHADOWS]

I would like to add to this thread if i may. it's my opinion all sex begins and ends in the mind as well as all emotion for that matter. When a person sees something of interest the eye pupils automatically enlarge. This is caused by brain signals. No handwriting is the same because it isn't really handwriting it's brainwriting. My point is this, the fingers carry a very small electric charge in them. When a person touches a person of desire the brain charges those electrons and if it's a sexual touch it's charged to the max. The light fingertip touch has become famous for this very reason. I'll use my wife for an example. I'm a leg and ass man and when i touch her legs i'm very highly charged in my sexual desire, the feeling she gets is actually warm electric impulses coming from my brain thru my touch into her skin.
So yeah your onto something very big here don't let this one go past you there's much more to it than i have space to write here.