Topics for weekly discussions

[catalina_francisco]

Just a suggestion.

If I create a thread apart from this one, where all the suggestions are listed, will everyone agree not to discuss the topics in that thread and instead, refer to it for a) addition of new topic ideas and b) list of those individuals who will begin and host the next thread topic?

If we can all agree to that, i have no problem creating and maintaining that thread.

What does everyone think?

I think this is a very good idea, we all know how dedicated, organised and committed s’lara is. IMHO it is a very good idea to create a bit of structure in the way we organise topics. We are still going to have a free open discussion and everyone can still open any new threads they want. But we will also have more structure in discussions and it will encourage even more in to depth discussion than we have now.

Francisco.

 

[FungiUg]

A couple more suggestions:

BDSM and multiple partners (polyamour).
Are BDSM folk more honest or open minded than non-BDSM folk?

 

[FungiUg]

The list!

I have added the list of suggested topics to the first post, and I will try to update it as more topics are suggested.

Now, if you are bored, you are welcome to pick a topic and start a conversation on it. In the mean time, we (the people in general, still no secret society) will try to kick off a topic once a week. If we get several running at the same time... well, the more the merrier.

So now I will kick off the first one. I decided it'd be one of mine (hey, I get to choose. If you contribute, maybe YOU will get to choose next time.)

Are BDSM folk more honest or open minded than non-BDSM folk?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Are BDSM folk more honest or open minded than non-BDSM folk?

No. We're lying, cheating, get in your pants the first moment we can scumbags like everyone else.

 

[Marquis]

No. We're lying, cheating, get in your pants the first moment we can scumbags like everyone else.

Are you talking about me behind my back again?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Are you talking about me behind my back again?

That would presuppose i thought, much less talked, about you at all ...

 

[Soulfiregirl]

Chains. BDSM that specifically involves chains. (chain bondage to be even more specific) Safely wrapping someone in chains. Safely hanging someone from chains. (I don't mean "suspension" where hooks are put through the skin, I just mean wrapping someone and then hanging them by something else other then their skin)

I've seen a lot of topics on leather, rope and other types of bondage but nothing on chains. (don't ask me why I have a thing for chains, I have no idea)

Although I suppose "suspension" could qualify as a topic even though it's something I'd never try. (cuz I'm a big scaredy cat)

 

[FungiUg]

Labels: are they good, bad, indifferent? Do we need them at all?

 

[LunarKitten]

Okay, well please encourage the regulars to pop in and add to the list. Anything they want to see discussed.

Here's one from my own past that I'd be happy to see on the "frequent rotate" list:

Is BDSM Abuse?

• What is acceptable
• What is not?
• Is SSC enough?
• What about "risky" play?

SSC vs RACK is always a good topic.

 

[LunarKitten]

How about one on self bondage, self flagelation, etc. I guess it could be entitled, "So you're kinky and alone...how to play with yourself"

 

[LunarKitten]

Oooo...a good one Peggy O does is "How many frogs do I have to kiss". How single people deal with waiting till Mr/Mrs Right PYL/pyl comes along.

 

[LunarKitten]

That's my question, yes. Why are would we be posting topic of the week suggestions if someone is not going to pick it?

But as usual, my questions will be ignored... except by you. ;-)

 

[LunarKitten]

That seems a good plan which would work the easiest and smoothest. Thought briefly of having a majority vote from those wanting to participate or have a deciding factor, but can see that may create problems though maybe not insurmountable once we get sorted out and in some pattern/rythme. I have been busy with other things so haven't had time to think too much on it or discuss with Fungi, but will.

Catalina

You could always have a poll thread with the max allowed topics to choose from, and then use that as a decision maker - the most votes gets the first topic, then next the second topic, etc.

 

[LunarKitten]

BDSM 101, I love it.

I'm thinking it's more like an online workshop type thing Sometimes newbies are too shy to ask something - ok, not so often on lit as they are in real time groups lol But still, there may be things out there they are curious about and don't want to admit they wanted to know more about....or, since there is soooo much out there, they may not even know about something until a discussion about it comes up and find out that it punches their buttons.

 

[LunarKitten]

The legality of BDSM...

warning: lawyers are scary

AKA "Don't file your slave contract at the local courthouse"

 

[LunarKitten]

"No-one expects the inquisition!"

"how do you know she's a witch"

 

[LunarKitten]

Umm... sure about that, snowy one? In my area (loosely defined as Atlanta to Charlotte to Lexington (KY), to Memphis), I've noted several clubs whose informational/news updates have been all thrilled about the fact that they would have "Master X" or "Sir Y" or whomever, discussing and/or demo-ing interrogation - techniques, styles, etc., in the past three or four months....



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LOL Charlotte even has an interrogation SIG

 

[LunarKitten]

Why not? There is always pony play. Well, on second thought, I might not like your rules.

Don't forget doggy and kitty play

 

[LunarKitten]

More guy sub stuff? I do realize there's only a few of us, but are there fundamental differences between male and female subs aside from the obvious plumbing ones? Do you, as a PYL, see a difference in mindsets? For example, I've noticed that generally, a male sub is more likely to enjoy humilition play. Not that I am, cause I'm not really, but in general, there are a lot more male "lowly worms" than female ones.

CBT for Beginners?

 

[FungiUg]

Thanks LunarKitten. I've added your suggestions to the list.

So... anyone wanna volunteer to pick and start the next thread? Give me a PM. The rule is that you have to contribute to the last thread to be eligible.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Handling your hunger ...

when spontaneous combustion becomes a very real threat.

Click and enjoy the burn.

 

[Marquis]

when spontaneous combustion becomes a very real threat.

Click and enjoy the burn.

Ah, they're all just trying to be like my old buddy Max H.

 

[WriterDom]

Any more suggestions? Also we need a topic picker volunteer for April 24th.

 

[FungiUg]

One sprang to mind courtesy of the current topic.

Dealing with breakups:

• social groups
• boundaries
• head-space, deprogramming

 

[catalina_francisco]

Topic suggestions......The Challenge of Submitting To The Seemingly Impossible...and Succeeding;

Submissive Block and Coping....When You've Lost That Submissive Feeling;

The Complications and Advantages of Love in a D/s Relationship;

Depression and D/s.

Catalina