Topics for weekly discussions

[Kajira Callista]

That was my understanding as well. I have never known Fungi to try and stifle the number of discussions, or the diversity of topics....usually fairly easy going and comments if he has a point to add or not if it doesn't interest him at that point....or as is often the case with most of us, if he is busy with life. I actually saw it as a huge positive in that it was an addition to the usual number of threads, and a scheduled thread per week so even in those slower times (Christmas etc.) there is hopefully something happening. It often happens also that people like time to think about a topic and then comment and as Fungi suggested, this gives that opportunity without fearing by the time they get back to it most will have commented and moved on. It also helps with the problem some have expressed in the past that they want to start a thread but at that point in time are in a topic drought, or for some, don't feel confident opening a thread of their own choice. Is like most things IMO, will need time to settle and have the wrinkles ironed out through experimentation and trial. and hey, Fungi has been absent too much these past months so perhaps this will give us a guarantee of him dropping in more often!!

Catalina

I was not attempting to slam fungiug with my post. I happen to like him lots ya know. There are two sides to this and i brought the other side foward. I personally don't like the way the whole thing is developing into one person or a group of ppl will get to pick and choose what the boards is going to discuss this week. And honestly...i dont think im the only one who feels this way.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

No offense to anyone meant by the following comments....

Everyone is never going to be 100% happy with the way things are on this board. They never have been and never will be. You get this many people together in one place (either physically or here in cyber-space) and because we are all individuals with our own minds, feelings and thoughts on how things should be for us... friction occurs.

I have seen it over and over on this board AND I've been around for quite a while now. I don't post as much anymore because I get sick of being shot down for my opinions on things, or just having links thrown at me... yes I know what's been discussed here over and over... Look at my join date for goodness sakes and this board is where I've posted the majority of my posts.

Why not just let people post whatever the hell they feel like posting and quit worrying about it so much? Seems like the simplest solution to me.... ~shrugs~ or ignore me and do whatever... matters not to me anymore.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I was not attempting to slam fungiug with my post. I happen to like him lots ya know. There are two sides to this and i brought the other side foward. I personally don't like the way the whole thing is developing into one person or a group of ppl will get to pick and choose what the boards is going to discuss this week. And honestly...i dont think im the only one who feels this way.

I can appreciate your concern but am unsure how the suggestion of ensuring there is one definite discussion thread a week planned ahead of time restricts all the other threads we normally have. It is an addition to discussion, not a subtraction isn't it? As to who chooses, that still needs to be worked out as to how it is done but from what I have seen in passing all options suggested so far have not nominated only one person or a select group but suggested a rotation of a different person each week nominating the person to choose the following week, or a vote by those interested enough (regardless of whether they plan to contribute to the discussion) in what would be the most popular choice of a topic.

As dixicritter says, you can't please all the people all the time, but it is good to see people coming forward with new ideas which while possibly adding to the board, should not detract from it unless people choose to make it a personal choice to not participate/read which then is their right but also their and the board's loss I would think. My suggestion for what it is worth is to keep an open mind, join in, and see how it pans out over the next few weeks.

Catalina

 

[snowy ciara]

LOL I want to be part of that commitee!

May I play too?

 

[WriterDom]

I was not attempting to slam fungiug with my post. I happen to like him lots ya know. There are two sides to this and i brought the other side foward. I personally don't like the way the whole thing is developing into one person or a group of ppl will get to pick and choose what the boards is going to discuss this week. And honestly...i dont think im the only one who feels this way.

One thread a week is all we are talking about. No one is forced to post to it, or even open it for that matter. At the same time, I don't think anyone would be excluded or discouraged from posting to it. It's not the Dead Posters Society meeting in a cave somewhere.

We aren't restricting topics. Anyone has the power to open a topic here at any time. Maybe I'm just not seeing the other side of this.

 

[FungiUg]

Okay. Let's start an argument, shall we?

I propose that EVERY SINGLE SUGGESTED TOPIC be added to the list of topics we will throw up to be discussed. If you want a topic discussed on a semi-regular basis, suggest it, and we'll add it to the list. If no one likes your topic, then no one will discuss it. Simple, eh?

Who starts them? Well, I was hoping a moderator, but if need be, I will start the first one, and then we can play pass the parcel. I've no issues with that.

Why do we need them? We don't. We already have people who start conversations and discussions. No one is expecting that to stop. But we all have some old favourite topics that we enjoy discussing, so rather than just bemoan the fact that "damn, we already discussed that" (back to the "library ushers" issue) we can say "hey, it's time to discuss periods/womens issues again! woo hoo!" and once again try to convince each other that periods should be banned.

Paranoia aside, no one is being ignored. There is no comittee. Nor is there a secret society you can join so you get a cool robe, a big gold ring and a secret handshake.

So suggest away! Try and pick topics you'd like to see discussed regularly. And then "we" (me, myself and my other three personalities) will kick off the "Weekly Topic" discussions next week. Of course, if you are desperate, feel free to start up the conversation by yourself. Start a thread. Go on... you know you want to!

Oh, at some point, I'll make a list of all the suggestions, just so it's easier to work our way through them. If I miss your suggestion... then yes, it's because I hate you and refuse to listen to anything you say. Or it COULD be that I just missed your suggestion. But of course, since we all know I am perfect in every imaginable way, it must be the former. Anyway, PM me and I'll edit the list to include your missed suggestion. (Which as yet doesn't exist, so hang fire on the paranoia just yet, okay?)

Now, back to the suggestions...

 

[FungiUg]

BDSM and religion.

Just a little light and fluffy suggestion.

 

[FungiUg]

Mind Control:

• experiences
• what works, what doesn't
• scary factors
• de-programming

 

[FungiUg]

BDSM and Children...

another light and fluffy

 

[FungiUg]

Subspace:

• How do I get there?
• What do I do once I'm there?
• How long should I stay?
• Who else is there?
• Is there a colour brochure?

 

[FungiUg]

The legality of BDSM...

warning: lawyers are scary

 

[Marquis]

No offense to anyone meant by the following comments....

Everyone is never going to be 100% happy with the way things are on this board. They never have been and never will be. You get this many people together in one place (either physically or here in cyber-space) and because we are all individuals with our own minds, feelings and thoughts on how things should be for us... friction occurs.

I have seen it over and over on this board AND I've been around for quite a while now. I don't post as much anymore because I get sick of being shot down for my opinions on things, or just having links thrown at me... yes I know what's been discussed here over and over... Look at my join date for goodness sakes and this board is where I've posted the majority of my posts.

Why not just let people post whatever the hell they feel like posting and quit worrying about it so much? Seems like the simplest solution to me.... ~shrugs~ or ignore me and do whatever... matters not to me anymore.

Man is by nature a political animal.

- Aristotle

 

[A Desert Rose]

No offense to anyone meant by the following comments....

Everyone is never going to be 100% happy with the way things are on this board. They never have been and never will be. You get this many people together in one place (either physically or here in cyber-space) and because we are all individuals with our own minds, feelings and thoughts on how things should be for us... friction occurs.

I have seen it over and over on this board AND I've been around for quite a while now. I don't post as much anymore because I get sick of being shot down for my opinions on things, or just having links thrown at me... yes I know what's been discussed here over and over... Look at my join date for goodness sakes and this board is where I've posted the majority of my posts.

Why not just let people post whatever the hell they feel like posting and quit worrying about it so much? Seems like the simplest solution to me.... ~shrugs~ or ignore me and do whatever... matters not to me anymore.

This pretty much sums it up for me, too. I couldn't have said it better.

 

[FungiUg]

Why not just let people post whatever the hell they feel like posting and quit worrying about it so much? Seems like the simplest solution to me.... ~shrugs~ or ignore me and do whatever... matters not to me anymore.

I'm a guy. (In Kiwi terms, I'm a "bloke".) We guys, by nature, have a tendency to want to "fix" things. Even if they're not broken. Perhaps particularly if they're not broken.

In this case, I suggested a weekly discussion topic for two reasons:

A. It reminds people it is okay to discuss things more than once.
II. It gives us something to discuss (potentially) during those weeks when no one seems to post anything interesting.
3. I can't count.

So once a week, we'll kick of a topic -- likely to be something we've discussed before but don't mind discussing again. There's no suggestion it will stop anyone else from creating their own threads. If people don't want to discuss the mooted topic, then no one will post and it will die all lost and forlorn and lonely. On the other hand, if people want to pick it up and run with it, that's fine too.

If the concept doesn't work, we'll drop it. No big loss, right? It's just something new to try, that's all. Just another example of people "posting whatever the hell they feel like posting", so nothing to worry about.

 

[catalina_francisco]

It's not the Dead Posters Society meeting in a cave somewhere.

So there is not going to be a secret Society no Dead Posters Society that is not fair. I though finally a club I wanted to join.

Could we not change the format and have a Dead Posters Society and can I be Robin Williams?

Francisco.

 

[Aeroil]

Man is by nature a political animal.

- Aristotle

Aristotle...... ick...... he was good for his time, but that time was 350 BCE.........

 

[catalina_francisco]

On a more serious note I think this is an excellent idea. This way we will start a topic which has the interest of at least a part of the forum regulars. I would like to suggest the history of the Spanish inquisition and their influence on BDSM as a topic, or which mid-evil (Medieval) tortures device can we use safely (have to put that in there somewhere) in our modern times.

Francisco.

 

[shy slave]

Subspace:

• How do I get there?
• What do I do once I'm there?
• How long should I stay?
• Who else is there?
• Is there a colour brochure?

I want the brochure
Does it include step by step diagrams?

 

[snowy ciara]

"No-one expects the inquisition!"

 

[catalina_francisco]

"No-one expects the inquisition!"

LOL, I dunno, some of those instruments of torture can fill the fantasy realm well....or more.

Catalina

 

[snowy ciara]

Well yes. All teasing aside, it'd be cool to hear how some stuff has been adapted or not.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

"No-one expects the inquisition!"

Umm... sure about that, snowy one? In my area (loosely defined as Atlanta to Charlotte to Lexington (KY), to Memphis), I've noted several clubs whose informational/news updates have been all thrilled about the fact that they would have "Master X" or "Sir Y" or whomever, discussing and/or demo-ing interrogation - techniques, styles, etc., in the past three or four months....



<Off-topic note: I've sometimes wondered if KY Jelly is manufactured in KY, or if it's just their state lube... and if you think having a state lube sounds silly, there are states with official insects, so why not a state lube? [bot]>

 

[snowy ciara]

I never really thought of that. BOT that is a good topic. Interrogation scenes... How do you prepare on either end? What sort of things do you watch out for? What are some of the pitfalls? How and why does it turn your crank? What makes a good instrument of interrogation?

 

[YinandYang]

I think its a great idea, on top of everything that is already being disscussed here. Simply because there are bound to be topics brought up from more experienced people that are outside of my realm of understanding or experience. I am open to any knowledge, no matter where it comes from. I don't see it as a major change, more of a icing on the cake

 

[Marquis]

Has anyone suggested a topic of:

How to find a suitable partner?