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EroticApology
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I'm sorry that you are experiencing this. I think you should go see a doctor as soon as possible because you should not be experiencing painful intercourse. It would be any number of things...I don't know what to say it might or could be. But please seek professional assistance.
Good Luck.
Good Luck.
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Definitely see a good doctor about this, you shouldn't need to feel pain.
While there doesn't seem to be anything in the Blank Manual about being too tight or vaginal pain, there are a few older threads around that might also prove useful: How do I loosen my vagina? Um... stretching? Difficult Relations Can't physically have sex?
I hope this helps you in some way.
While there doesn't seem to be anything in the Blank Manual about being too tight or vaginal pain, there are a few older threads around that might also prove useful: How do I loosen my vagina? Um... stretching? Difficult Relations Can't physically have sex?
I hope this helps you in some way.
This http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus maybe?
I agree with EroticApology - you should see a doctor just in case. It's probably nothing serious, but it can't hurt to make sure.
I agree with EroticApology - you should see a doctor just in case. It's probably nothing serious, but it can't hurt to make sure.
IrisAlthea
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You have been together for 9 months but this has been going on for 7 months, is that correct?
Did you change anything after the first two months, like a new brand of lube, another kind of condoms, laundry detergent or soap?
I absolutely think you should seek medical advice but think about those things, because your doctor might want to know, as it might be an allergic reaction.
Did you change anything after the first two months, like a new brand of lube, another kind of condoms, laundry detergent or soap?
I absolutely think you should seek medical advice but think about those things, because your doctor might want to know, as it might be an allergic reaction.
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Yep, you need to see a doctor, but not just any doctor - go straight to one who specializes in vaginismus and other female sexual problems.
As I've noted here before, sex started to become painful shortly after I got pregnant with our son. I talked to my OBGYN about it, and she shrugged it off as just pregnancy-related changes. When it didn't resolve 6 months postpartum, I saw a specialist who quickly diagnosed me with an autoimmune condition called vestibulitis. It's resolved mostly (well, to the point that sex isn't painful, but it's not pleasurable, either) with dietary changes and time for my hormones to settle down. It probably would have gone away quicker if I'd been willing to try some of the other treatments (like antidepressants, oddly enough), but I wasn't because I was breastfeeding and the side effects outweighed the benefits for me.
Anyway, DO go get it checked out by a specialist. The one I saw said most gynecologists don't know what they're doing at all really when it comes to the conditions that cause painful sex and other genital and sexual health issues. Hopefully there's an easy treatment/answer for you, but first you need to know exactly what's going on!
As I've noted here before, sex started to become painful shortly after I got pregnant with our son. I talked to my OBGYN about it, and she shrugged it off as just pregnancy-related changes. When it didn't resolve 6 months postpartum, I saw a specialist who quickly diagnosed me with an autoimmune condition called vestibulitis. It's resolved mostly (well, to the point that sex isn't painful, but it's not pleasurable, either) with dietary changes and time for my hormones to settle down. It probably would have gone away quicker if I'd been willing to try some of the other treatments (like antidepressants, oddly enough), but I wasn't because I was breastfeeding and the side effects outweighed the benefits for me.
Anyway, DO go get it checked out by a specialist. The one I saw said most gynecologists don't know what they're doing at all really when it comes to the conditions that cause painful sex and other genital and sexual health issues. Hopefully there's an easy treatment/answer for you, but first you need to know exactly what's going on!
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Your bf probably has some knowledge about cars, right? Well, when you think there's something wrong with your car and you ask him about it, but he doesn't know the answer, you don't just ignore it, you take it to a mechanic for a proper inspection and diagnosis, correct?
Like I said, the specialist I saw said most doctors are clueless when it comes to figuring out why sex is painful and other sexual problems, so these things REQUIRE a specialist in most cases. Sometimes we luck out and have a doc who's taken a special interest in female sexual health, but usually even gynecologists don't know what they're doing in this field.
I don't know if you meant your doctor wasn't helpful so you're not going to see another doctor about it or not, but if you did, you're making a mistake. Finding a specialist is probably going to take a bit of effort, but that's what you need to do because sex is an important part of overall health and wellness.
And I can guarantee once you find out what's really going on and have some treatment options (whether or not you pursue them), you'll feel SO relieved!
Like I said, the specialist I saw said most doctors are clueless when it comes to figuring out why sex is painful and other sexual problems, so these things REQUIRE a specialist in most cases. Sometimes we luck out and have a doc who's taken a special interest in female sexual health, but usually even gynecologists don't know what they're doing in this field.
I don't know if you meant your doctor wasn't helpful so you're not going to see another doctor about it or not, but if you did, you're making a mistake. Finding a specialist is probably going to take a bit of effort, but that's what you need to do because sex is an important part of overall health and wellness.
And I can guarantee once you find out what's really going on and have some treatment options (whether or not you pursue them), you'll feel SO relieved!My wife and I have been dealing with Vaginismus for about 5 years now. It is something that is much more frequent after a woman has given birth. I remember the doctor asking us several times if she was sure she had never given birth before.
When we first started dating we did not have any problems, and everything was going well. After about 6 months she started to experience some pain during sex, and it progessively got worse, to the point where we could not have any sex at all.
She went to her doctor a few times before the doctor recommended her to another doctor who sort of specialized in this. This doctor recognized the problem and referred us to a sort of physiotherapist who deals with this issue, and she gave us a prescription for a numbing cream.
The "physio" started off by basically using a probe to stretch out her muscles. She was allowed to keep the probe and was told to do a few exercises with it a few times a week. After a few sessions the probe was changed for a dildo. Once she was comfortable doing her exercises with that they would progressively switch to larger dildos until she was able to comfortably have sex again.
She's never been back to 100% since then, but we did get our sex life back. If we haven't had sex for a while, it will hurt her more than usual. It was a very long 10+ months for a young couple, and it wasn't easy.
Fast forward a few years, and we had a baby just over 8 months ago. The issue returned in force after giving birth, and she was again not able to have sex for a couple of months. She started doing her exercises again, and we can have sex now, but a lot of time the pain starts up before we can finish.
I hope any of this info helps. It really can put a strain on a relationship. In our case my wife often felt(and still does when it happens) guilty about not being able to have sex, and I did my best to reassure and support her.
When we first started dating we did not have any problems, and everything was going well. After about 6 months she started to experience some pain during sex, and it progessively got worse, to the point where we could not have any sex at all.
She went to her doctor a few times before the doctor recommended her to another doctor who sort of specialized in this. This doctor recognized the problem and referred us to a sort of physiotherapist who deals with this issue, and she gave us a prescription for a numbing cream.
The "physio" started off by basically using a probe to stretch out her muscles. She was allowed to keep the probe and was told to do a few exercises with it a few times a week. After a few sessions the probe was changed for a dildo. Once she was comfortable doing her exercises with that they would progressively switch to larger dildos until she was able to comfortably have sex again.
She's never been back to 100% since then, but we did get our sex life back. If we haven't had sex for a while, it will hurt her more than usual. It was a very long 10+ months for a young couple, and it wasn't easy.
Fast forward a few years, and we had a baby just over 8 months ago. The issue returned in force after giving birth, and she was again not able to have sex for a couple of months. She started doing her exercises again, and we can have sex now, but a lot of time the pain starts up before we can finish.
I hope any of this info helps. It really can put a strain on a relationship. In our case my wife often felt(and still does when it happens) guilty about not being able to have sex, and I did my best to reassure and support her.
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Because that just isn't something someone could really be positive about.
