to personal or ... not to personal

[sexy-girl]

aka to be or ... not to be



ok heres another question that seems to be blowing in the wind that gusts through literotica (im very descriptive arent i)


some people seem to object to others talking about personal stuff on this board (i've noticed little comments in threads) ... to me i find this interesting and i enjoy to get to know the different sorts of people by finding out their opinions on subjects and learning about their real lives


as people might of noticed i am gay and i have a girlfriend called lisa were you all aware of that ? ... well i talked about those subject's on here for many reason

1) was that lisa was away when i first joined this board and i used this board as a way to use up time while i was missing her (i still do that when shes working)

2) i cant talk to my friends or family as in depth about being gay as i can on here


i imagine people maybe talk about lots of personal stuff on this board that they feel they cant talk to real life friends about for one reasons or another so i have a couple of questions

1) do you object to people talking about personal things to much ? (and what is too much)

2) are you a person that wont talk about anything personal or are you someone that will talk about personal things



i would like to add i do have limits of how open i will be on here there are many things i've never mentioned and will never mention ... but i must admit its just possible that i talk about more everyday and personal stuff on here then anyone else does

 

[Pokerman]

I always say, "you don't have to read every post"....if you don't like a thread, click he button on the bottom that says next thread....

If you (or anyone) wants to talk about personal stuff, thats fine.

I think most people would draw the line when folks start dicussing personal stuff of other people

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I don't understand why anyone would mind "personal info" being disussed on an open Forum. That's kind of the point of the Forum. To create dialogue and community, whether we're discussing Enron or how big your nose pimple is.

I think we all have a "revealing line" we stay behind, respective to our individual sensibilities. Some choose not to reveal more than others, for a variety of reasons. It's silly to assume everyone's going to adopt your stance on how much to reveal, and when, and in what context, and of what content.

 

[Vinny]

General

Personally I define the words General Board as talk about anything which I may be wrong but thats how I perceive it. Now I agree with you. What I mean is there is talking about personal things and there is talking about really personal things.
1) Yes me talking about loving variety in women is a personal thing that I would share but[
2) me talking about my personal problems should be kept off the boards and between me and a confidant in PM

 

[lobito]

Damnit sexy, haven't you learned from ALL the spelling and grammar threads that it's TOO not To?

As for personal stuff, I post personal stuff here, but nothing TOO personal. If anyone wants to know for any reason anything TOO personal about me, then they can contact me, and MAYBE I'll share.

By the way, some of us don't think you share enough stories about you and Lisa.

 

[Rick DeVille]

There are no rules here, tell what you want about yourself, just don't give personal details on anyone else. Simple.

 

[bluespoke]

sexy-girl

It's a delight to hear you talk about any subject, personal or otherwise.

If you wish to be personal, go ahead and be personal. You're being gay doesn't matter a whit.

You will always find a willing ear from this old (whisper it!) man!

 

[Cath!]

I have gotten way TOO personal with my OWN life at times...but that is MY perogative...

I find that writing it out and getting varied opinions on certain subjects helps to put things into perspective at times.

the ONLY problem I have with personal subjects is when someone else feels THEY have the right to post MY life history.



(btw...s-g I love your donna and lisa stories! They always make me smile!)

 

[VanB]

Every post here is right on the button. For me I love to hear about peoples personal issues that may mirror some I have, sometimes it really helps to get a perspective.

As someone posted if you don't like it you can always move on but it is a *crime* to post about other people's personal issues. As far as I'm concerned that's the line that shouldn't be crossed.

 

[LukkyKnight]

point of order

Originally miscounted by Rick DeVille
There are no rules here, tell what you want about yourself, just don't give personal details on anyone else. Simple.

Make that one (1) rule: "...don't give personal details on anyone else."

 

[tn_8tiv]

I don't understand why anyone would mind "personal info" being disussed on an open Forum. That's kind of the point of the Forum. To create dialogue and community, whether we're discussing Enron or how big your nose pimple is.

I think we all have a "revealing line" we stay behind, respective to our individual sensibilities. Some choose not to reveal more than others, for a variety of reasons. It's silly to assume everyone's going to adopt your stance on how much to reveal, and when, and in what context, and of what content.

Very well put, DCL. This is one place where we can post personal information in the context of our discussions without fear of reprisal. After, Free Speech is Free Speech!

 

[alltherage]

I have no problem with those who reveal personal information on the threads. I have. In fact, I don't see how you could stay around here for any length of time and do so. I think that those who object would like this board to be a playground that is consequence and emotion free. If we get to know each other we might(oh my god) actually learn to like one another. Now that is just too scarey to contemplate. lol.

 

[juicylips]

I always say, "you don't have to read every post"....if you don't like a thread, click he button on the bottom that says next thread....

If you (or anyone) wants to talk about personal stuff, thats fine.

I think most people would draw the line when folks start dicussing personal stuff of other people

Yes, I agree. There is always that Next button.

I don't like to talk about things that are personal to me on here.
But for some, they are ok with it.

Other people's personal lives are definitely a no-no

Cassidy,
who can't wait for Pokerman's new story

 

[sexy-girl]

damn im sure there was SOME people that said there was too much personal info being talked about over literotica where have these people gone


just because killermuffin has currupted me your scared ?



and lobito i know its too but im not going to sort out my grammar till next week

 

[lobito]

damn im sure there was SOME people that said there was too much personal info being talked about over literotica where have these people gone

and lobito i know its too but im not going to sort out my grammar till next week

No probs s-g, in the mean time while we're waiting, hows about one of them stories to keep us occupied, huh?

 

[Southern37]

There are no rules here, tell what you want about yourself, just don't give personal details on anyone else. Simple.

I agree....and you shouldnt give details on anyone else..but if someone does..the marketplace will handle it.

 

[Moridin187]

People talking about stuff that is personal to them is fine by me..
It's when they start having all out fights with eachother on the boards that bothers me.. It's bad energy and I try to avoid posts like that..

Other than that.. Hell, I understand completely.. I can't admit IRL that I'm bi.. most of my IRL friends would disavow knowing me, and I'd get lynched... and tossed out of my family (strict catholic father)

 

[estevie]

Since its that persons choice to post personal things about themselves, I don't understand what the big deal is. It was brought to my attention that some didn't like to hear the details of my extramarital affair, well, golly gee...I sure am sorry about that, but too bad. I will post whatever I want. If the enire board says, "este, shut the hell up" I may considered it...maybe

 

[lovetoread]

Post personal stuff? Here on an open forum? Me?

I think its fine to get personal,its just when people pop on commenting about things that they wont ask you in private. That drives me insane.

If there wasnt an outlet to let out our thoughts and feelings,we would all be crazy.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

1) do you object to people talking about personal things to much ? (and what is too much)

I don't mind at all about people posting personal info (or even posting RL pictures of themselves). I feel Lit is a community, and it does help in getting to know the ones that might have similar interests or dislikes.

I agree that it gets too much when noticing real life info posted by other folks, and feel it's rude and nasty to do so.

2) are you a person that wont talk about anything personal or are you someone that will talk about personal things

I consider all my posts "personal": personal opinions, likes, dislikes, ideas, and information.

 

[MissTaken]

I agree with Pokerman. We are not committed to reading every thread and every post at lit. If we find something in bad taste, we can cruise by it.

We don't need a list of rules to follow, in so doing the entire philosophy behind this board is violated...free speech.
One rule is enough....Be considerate.

Aha! Now that I have bored you with my two cents worth, I will dance merrily out of the thread.

BTW-hugs to you, SG!

 

[Cherry]

Don't change a thing ...

I, for one, think it's cute the way you talk about Lisa in your posts.

She's part of your life, she makes you happy ... go on and share your joy!

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Me I don't care what other's want to post... if they want to post it, I'll read it. learn mor about them that way.

as for me, I just share what is on my mind, if something personal comes out... who cares, you don't want to see it like others said... don't read it.

and yes there is some stuff the'd i'd keep seceret and not want to share though. It has accedently sliped from time to time... but noone has caught some of it so I don't really care.

I'm an easy goer.... where the curet goes I fallow

 

[Wiggles]

I enjoy reading other people's personal stuff. It gives me an idea of what they're really like. It kind of fills in the blank spaces of their personality that usually wouldn't come through in posting.

It's kind of like talking to your co-workers about your home life. You can learn all kinds of stuff about people. Maybe you have something in common, or a special bond that you never knew about.

The only thing that bothers me is when it's about a few people on the board, and it fills up the entire board. That's not to say that they shouldn't do it, or that it's not interesting to others. It's just not my cup of tea.

I talk about personal stuff all the time. Because it's interesting to me. Everybody else is probably yawning, but it's where all my ideas, thoughts, perceptions come from.