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[rlb1965]

I'm very sorry to hear about your father. I'm glad you were able to find forgiveness, for that is how the cycle can be broken and hearts mended. I wish you happiness and tranquility.

i had an abusive father also, but i guess my (twisted?) way of coping with it is to have a loving Dominant who can be controlling and loving at the same time. I realize this story does not convey that angle, but in real life, love has to be the driving factor in my relationships, whether 'lifestyle' or 'vanilla'.

Anyway, was looking more for feedback as to how the story is written and what i might do better in future stories. Any thoughts on that?

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

rachel

 

[Guest]

cantdog is a wonderful person - he gives terrific feedback.

I am wondering, should this have been in a PM to him?

 

[Guest]

My apologies -

I just found the other thread where cant is public about that information - my mistake, please.

He is a wonderful person to help with editing, as is dr. M. You found terrific help right away!

 

[cantdog]

Aw shucks

Now I gotta get a bigger hat.

I was actually trying to beg off, because I have a lot of difficulty with the motivation angle in stories of lifestyle BDSM. Even Anne Rice, or Roquelaire, or whoever she was at the time-- she can write, certainly, but I never got the inner reorientation Sleeping Beauty underwent. It came off like Stockholm syndrome, to me.

Casual BDSM, situational stuff, special circumstances, I feel qualified to comment on. I wrote a story about one such, two if you count the short I'm doing for HornyWife37 (but that's blackmail/non-consent/reluctance or something) but I don't understand the conventional master-slave thing. The symbols are somewhat familiar through repetition, but...

Mabeuse has spoken about the motivation angle, and I guess you ought to rely on him. I just feel inadequate in the genre altogether.

I feel it as a failing, to an extent; I am honestly sorry to disappoint.


cantdog

 

[Guest]

Aw shucks

Now I gotta get a bigger hat.

cantdog

 

[cantdog]

I'm very sorry to hear about your father. I'm glad you were able to find forgiveness, for that is how the cycle can be broken and hearts mended. I wish you happiness and tranquility.

i had an abusive father also, but i guess my (twisted?) way of coping with it is to have a loving Dominant who can be controlling and loving at the same time. I realize this story does not convey that angle, but in real life, love has to be the driving factor in my relationships, whether 'lifestyle' or 'vanilla'.....

I did forgive, and completely. No one deserved to go like that. I did my best to help him and to make it more bearable, especially at the end.

I also treated my daughter with respect and candor. I took her every question seriously, and helped her to have judgement by giving her real control over her life very young. She grew into a self-reliant and self-motivated, totally admirable young lady, with principles and integrity. She did it herself, making her own choices.

I think, therefore, that the cycle ended. Love is indeed very powerful. I accept that it comes in many forms. I hope yours continues to serve you well.

 

[rlb1965]

thank you cantdog and sarah

Have been away for a few days, thankfully...

Sorry about the message being confusing sarah, i haven't entirely figured out how to work these forum things yet, i realized after i sent the message it was going way out there. oops.

Thank you for your time cantdog, i understand entirely. Best wishes always, and so glad to hear of your daughter being such a blessing to you.

***going back into my hideout for a while till i try my hand at another story***

 

[cantdog]

I'm waiting in anticipation, rachel.

yours,

cantdog

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I'm going to pile in and, at the risk of embarrassing cantdog, say that he is one of the really good ones on this site. A rock of good sense and honesty in a place that sometimes gets a little too goofy and off the track.

No response necessary or even accepted.

---dr.M.

 

[herecomestherain]

May as well go the whole hog and embarrass the man wholeheartedly...I like cantdog a whole bunch too!