Tips/opinions wanted for a "better" time

[SlitYourThroat]

im not nearly as big on BSDM as some of you are probably but then again i dont know either

what would some of you suggest for when i have a g/f thats into some kinky things, like anything that would be a huge turn on or very romantic or just HOT in general?

sry for being vague, but nothing like "let her piss in your mouth" type thigns please : )

 

[graceanne]

LOL Actually their are lots of people here who are into some parts more than others.
Something she'd probably like, that's not real extreme is bondage. Tie her to the bed and have your wicked way with her! She might also like erotic spankings, so you might try it and see what her reaction is.

 

[joiphulone]

there are so many possibilities....i would suggest reading through a lot of these threads and checking out the library that has a lot of information in it.

good luck.

 

[masochick]

for when you have a girlfriend who's into kinky-but-not-terrifyingly-kinky stuff? Are you looking? ... *pretending not to be asking for any particular reason*

 

[Marquis]

Just close your eyes and imagine that the girl you are about to fuck is every girl who ever walked away from you on a dancefloor, or gave you a fake phone number after you bought her a drink, then just go to town and wait for the safeword.

 

[Etoile]

sry for being vague, but nothing like "let her piss in your mouth" type thigns please : )

So wait, watersports isn't kinky? Is that what I'm understanding here?

 

[pandoravampire]

water sports kinky? surely not?

Marquis? may i ask a question, why would you be wanting to imagine your rejections? So that you would go for her with revenge in your mind? Im just curious, ignore this if you will. But bare in mind, that as you walk away from my post, your name will be logged in my brain for later revenge purposes

 

[Etoile]

water sports kinky? surely not?

I'd say watersports are pretty darn kinky, myself. But SlitYourThroat didn't seem interested in them. Or maybe I'm misunderstanding.

 

[Marquis]

Marquis? may i ask a question, why would you be wanting to imagine your rejections? So that you would go for her with revenge in your mind? Im just curious, ignore this if you will. But bare in mind, that as you walk away from my post, your name will be logged in my brain for later revenge purposes

Imagining moments where the fairer sex leave me with a bad taste in my mouth helps me "get in the zone" so to speak. Plus there is something doubly hot about displacing my anger towards women who reject me on women who would never reject me.

 

[Quint]

I'd say watersports are pretty darn kinky, myself. But SlitYourThroat didn't seem interested in them. Or maybe I'm misunderstanding.

I'm pretty sure he's saying he wants kinky but not too kinky. Kink Lite...half the calories, all the great flavor!

And Marquis, I know where you're coming from. (But I usually do.)

 

[AngelicAssassin]

like anything that would be a huge turn on or very romantic or just HOT in general?

sry for being vague, but nothing like "let her piss in your mouth" type thigns please : )

i'll assume you don't want "heavy" based on the last sentence.

• Have her sit on the bed, disrobed.
• Show her a blindfold.
• Put the blindfold over her eyes.
• Help her lay back on the bed and get comfortable.
• Sit in a chair near the bed.
• Lower your voice to barely audible.
• Talk her through a masturbation session.
• Watch as she follows each of your instructions.

 

[Esclava]

Re: Re: Tips/opinions wanted for a "better" time

i'll assume you don't want "heavy" based on the last sentence.

• Have her sit on the bed, disrobed.
• Show her a blindfold.
• Put the blindfold over her eyes.
• Help her lay back on the bed and get comfortable.
• Sit in a chair near the bed.
• Lower your voice to barely audible.
• Talk her through a masturbation session.
• Watch as she follows each of your instructions.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh, AA!

Where were you when I needed someone to indoctrinate me into the ways of BDSM...

Esclava

 

[Etoile]

I'm pretty sure he's saying he wants kinky but not too kinky. Kink Lite...half the calories, all the great flavor!

OH! Looks like I was completely misunderstanding. Doh! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/blush.gif

 

[TaintedB]

If she's got a slight exhibitionsitic streak or does not have really bad hangups about her body or privacy, you could engage in some naughty public action with her, like fooling around in a men's restroom (a lot of women have never stepped inside one and consider them completely off limits which doubles the whammy of a possible discovery) or having her go out in public without panties and with somethine else in place, maybe a buttplug or a long dangly chain clipped to her labia (or piercings if she has them). If that is blase to her, attach little bells to the device so she jingles as she walks, attracting attention.

You have to be careful with this sort of thing, however, and really know the person you're doing them to, because people have hangups in unexpected areas. A woman who might be amenable to the restroom fun and a no-panties-yes-bells regime might find something seemingly less intense, like your insisting on feeding her a meal in a resturant, really exposing and awful.

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Tips/opinions wanted for a "better" time

*Sigh* and *Grin*
Always a favorite of mine...
Hmmm advice eh?
"don't be in a hurry'
Don't try to do a vast thing in a half-vast way...
In other words don't try to jump directly into the things that VERY experienced people are doing with VERY experienced partners.
BDsM is a thing of beauty and a joy forever...Or at least it can be.. For both of you.
Start small ...Read a LOT...and TALK. Especially to your other *grin* she may surprise you.
Good luck and hve lots of fun ...(then post about it here)

P.s. An aside for the Angelic one ..Sorry I didn't reply to your PM yet ..*sigh* still getting ducks back in a row as 't'were.

i'll assume you don't want "heavy" based on the last sentence.

• Have her sit on the bed, disrobed.
• Show her a blindfold.
• Put the blindfold over her eyes.
• Help her lay back on the bed and get comfortable.
• Sit in a chair near the bed.
• Lower your voice to barely audible.
• Talk her through a masturbation session.
• Watch as she follows each of your instructions.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Looks like a duck ...

P.s. An aside for the Angelic one ..Sorry I didn't reply to your PM yet ..*sigh* still getting ducks back in a row as 't'were.

Chuckling ... shred them already ... http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2003-8/363868/Special_c_dog.gif

BOT ...

Intrigued by the "grudge f^ck" concept. What if you applied it to past "wrongs" committed by the playmate? Approach it from two ways actually.

i'd say avoid the wrongs, if they even exist, that held significance, and go for the "dammit, you know i don't like sugar in my coffee" items.

Then again ... nah, water's too deep and the current too strong to play those kinds of mind games ... or is it ...

 

[SlitYourThroat]

i liked the talking through masterbation idea, or atleast it sounds interesting

yea i agree with that start small thing, i dont like the watersports thing, if we were in teh shower maybe but i dunno how she would go for it or whoever, but im open to all idea which is why i made the topic

so whatever YOU personally enjoy the most, just post it...