Threesome Aftermath

[Becki890]

Just out of curiosity, do you have a specific situation like mfm, fmf, or a couple? I'm curious if you feel you would be more insecure or him afterwards depending on the situation.

we would do either mfm or mff . I think we both agree a mfm is probably more likely. I think that might be the easiest emotionally as well.

 

[Kimlikes]

My husband and I have enjoyed playing with others couples and singles for some time and have enjoyed almost everything we have taken part in Jealousy has only come up once and that was the first time we had a play date. I had enjoyed the most of the attention and leaned back to catch my breath, only to watch my friend start fucking my partner , they had both mentioned at different times that they thought they were hot and that feed my jealousy, watching them get closer to orgasim I was more jealous until just before they came together my man looked into my eyes and said fuck I love you at she grabbed my hand as she came. Jealousy gone lol The next day he and I agreed we wanted to do this again but set some ground rules for ourselves , they are still the same rules and suit us make your own The next thing is if you are meeting couples that’s 4 people that have to be attracted to all parties . That’s not to say the straight guys arnt anymore it’s more the straight guy is not going to let a guy he doesn’t like fuck his wife.have fun

 

[Not Normal]

Ha....have you no shame..lol

Why should there be shame in any form of agreed, respectful, fun sexual activity?

My husband and I have enjoyed playing with others couples and singles for some time and have enjoyed almost everything we have taken part in Jealousy has only come up once and that was the first time we had a play date. I had enjoyed the most of the attention and leaned back to catch my breath, only to watch my friend start fucking my partner , they had both mentioned at different times that they thought they were hot and that feed my jealousy, watching them get closer to orgasim I was more jealous until just before they came together my man looked into my eyes and said fuck I love you at she grabbed my hand as she came. Jealousy gone lol The next day he and I agreed we wanted to do this again but set some ground rules for ourselves , they are still the same rules and suit us make your own The next thing is if you are meeting couples that’s 4 people that have to be attracted to all parties . That’s not to say the straight guys arnt anymore it’s more the straight guy is not going to let a guy he doesn’t like fuck his wife.have fun

Besides the 'everyone is attracted' rule, can you share your ground rules?

 

[Kimlikes]

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Our ground rules are We only play together in the same room If one says no then it’s no We always go home together. Since then it’s only play together in the same house and we always go home together but it’s we can bring another lol

 

[LizVegas79]

I have a question as I read a lot, but don't typically respond. my wife and I of 20 years are that point where we often discuss sexual fantasies typically involving a third party male or female. We haven't gotten further than talk, but i am convinced that in the right situation our sex life could evolve into a three way. My question is how many relationships have taken this step and then failed? I know I can handle either scenario as long as it is together, but I wouldn't want to lose my wife if she couldn't. What are peoples afterward experiences, what tips do you have to prevent this?

My husband was very hesitant at first to open our sex life up to even the possibility of a threeway.

Like you, we had fun discussing and fantasizing about it for months. But I really wanted to do it for real though, with another woman. That's the part that made my husband hesitant believe it or not. Because he knew I had been "a lesbian" before I met him. (there was only a very brief time in my life when I considered myself a lesbian - but I have been bi most of my life). He told me straight up he was afraid I might "revert" if I ever "did it" with another woman again. After 2 kids and almost 10 years of marriage! But, sometimes one partner is a little more fragile than the other and the stronger partner has to make double sure that all lines of communication are open 100%.

That's the best advice I can give: keep those lines of communication open. Talk about EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING before you try to arrange that first special night!

 

[LizVegas79]

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Our ground rules are We only play together in the same room If one says no then it’s no We always go home together. Since then it’s only play together in the same house and we always go home together but it’s we can bring another lol

Those are good ground rules.

Ours are still evolving.

At first it was: 1. Only A Paid Pro we both play with at the same time so we could guarantee no strings attached. That was fun but a little expensive. It was nice to be able to pick different body types though. I really liked that part and I'm pretty sure he did too!

Then we added: 2. Swap Parties (we've only ever been to one so far) are okay if we go home together. No over-nights apart. If we stay over-night we both stay over-night. If one of us wants to leave we both leave.

As of last year around this time I am now allowed to 3. Be with another guy if my husband knows about it in advance and approves. Unfortunately for me he still doesn't want to participate. Or even watch. (I'm hoping that changes soon though!) I haven't used this rule as much as I should yet lol

4. is he's Allowed to be with certain wives of married mutual friends of ours if I know about it in advance and approve.

and finally. 5. I'm allowed to be with any other woman I want whenever I want but he either has to already know her or I have to introduce her to him first. Either way, he has to approve of where and when I get with her.

I'm sure as we get more experienced with this more rules might be necessary but so far these are working for us.

 

[Adirtymind1979]

My wife and I are just starting to dip our toes into opening our relationship up. Communication has been the most important part of this. Understanding what each is looking for has been the biggest aspect of moving forward with it. There is no such thing as talking too much about it so there is no misunderstanding.

 

[Kimlikes]

The experience will come so will the trust of each

 

[Hipshot1554]

Those are good ground rules.

Ours are still evolving.

At first it was: 1. Only A Paid Pro we both play with at the same time so we could guarantee no strings attached. That was fun but a little expensive. It was nice to be able to pick different body types though. I really liked that part and I'm pretty sure he did too!

Then we added: 2. Swap Parties (we've only ever been to one so far) are okay if we go home together. No over-nights apart. If we stay over-night we both stay over-night. If one of us wants to leave we both leave.

As of last year around this time I am now allowed to 3. Be with another guy if my husband knows about it in advance and approves. Unfortunately for me he still doesn't want to participate. Or even watch. (I'm hoping that changes soon though!) I haven't used this rule as much as I should yet lol

4. is he's Allowed to be with certain wives of married mutual friends of ours if I know about it in advance and approve.

and finally. 5. I'm allowed to be with any other woman I want whenever I want but he either has to already know her or I have to introduce her to him first. Either way, he has to approve of where and when I get with her.

I'm sure as we get more experienced with this more rules might be necessary but so far these are working for us.

Open minds are a good thing...

 

[Seadog777]

My 1 and only personal experience was with an ex. It was MMF. She ignored me the entire time. Then when I tried to get some attention she told me she was "too tired" and he laughed. I ended up throwing them both out the hotel window(single floor hotel), so un-clinch folks. LOL.

 

[PFWilly]

Following this thread with a lot of interest.

My wife and I have pillow talked fantasies for years about having another guy in our bed. I’m mostly interested in MFM, she’s mostly interested in MMF. LOL. But seems like we’re both interested enough in either version to just go with it. The guys we’ve openly talked about both had their own intimate adventures with her, and I’ve had my own encounters with one of them. The guy I sucked off on more than a few occasions is no longer around. She only had a one night stand with him, but it was a long night! The guy she had a nearly two year affair with lives locally. I’d genuinely love to be naked with him and her, and she clearly knows that.

Frankly, I’d be fine with just being active with him, and she could just watch!

Some good thoughts in this thread, which lead me to conclude that perhaps it takes more than just pillow talk. Maybe a post coital candid talk without the heat of the moment..?

 

[inanotherlifeiwasamalestripper]

only thing i'd say for the guys is that if you do the ole devil's threesome, you'll find yourself getting in touch with some parts of yourself you didn't know were there.

sure you can watch porn. sure, you can watch guys hit on women at the bar. sure, i guess you can also be at a swingers club and watch other guys get it on. however, when it's a woman you have an interest in and you watch another guy turn her on and all that, it'll get you all competitive and territorial. we wound up doing a push-up contest.

i think on the far end of it, one time i was having unprotected sex with a woman and she told me she was sleeping with someone else a few hours after asking if i'd be her boyfriend. i about lost my shit. i later learned that there are real statistical correlations with violence in relationships when it comes to men and where they put their seed / infidelities. i think there is definitely something biological there.

i've been at the swingers club a few times and gotten play from a guy's wife only for the friend i brought not to reciprocate. in my observation some of those marriages liven up the bedroom that way, but when you start trying to solve problems with outside parties that can exacerbate existing communication and happiness issues. i'm no love guru, but my advice: if it's a relationship problem and not a mutual choice where you both understand what you're doing, just go cheat and keep quiet about it. that, or be transactional: she gets a threesome with a guy, you get a threesome with a woman or you swing with another married couple.

just be responsible and aware of these things before you go completely messing up any of your relationships.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

I have a question as I read a lot, but don't typically respond. my wife and I of 20 years are that point where we often discuss sexual fantasies typically involving a third party male or female. We haven't gotten further than talk, but i am convinced that in the right situation our sex life could evolve into a three way. My question is how many relationships have taken this step and then failed? I know I can handle either scenario as long as it is together, but I wouldn't want to lose my wife if she couldn't. What are peoples afterward experiences, what tips do you have to prevent this?

I have seen. a number of "three four five ways" when a heterosexual couple went into an adult bookstore, which obviously did not have any complications such as you mentioned. They went in, motioned to others to come over, girl got fucked and sucked some cocks, they walked out.