threesom/bi experience

[valliegirl]

well i am at a loss folks, can someone please tell me how to go about finding a bisexual young lady to form a threesome for me and my boyfriend. This is something we really want to experience however, I am coming up with nothing. I have posted to personals, etc..... HELP

 

[alexandraaah]

In my experience (which exists, though is admittedly limited), this is one of those situations that has to sort of fall in your lap.

It's difficult to seek out, lest you hurt someone's feelings.

I'm assuming, however, that you're looking for a single experience to see how it goes?

If you're looking for something long-term, you might want to keep trying the personals.

 

[Shadowann2]

I have had several threesome experiences. The first one just happened when my husband, my best friend, and I were drunk. All of th ensuing experiences happened with women that we met at sex clubs. We would just observe the women there and approach someone that were interested in and ask. If she said no, we were no worse off than b4 we asked. Sex clubs are the best enviorment to meet people who are open to new possibilities. Unfortunatly many cities don't have sex clubs. (They are trying to shut down all the ones here in Phoenix. I'm NOT happy!) If that is the case for you, just stick to the personals. Good luck!

 

[BreadMan]

My wife and I are having the same problem. Actually we are still building up the courage to admit it. We both know we want to have a threesome. I am dying to see my woman with another woman. But were to search and what type of person to ask.Well i know what she is looking for but, i cant seem to find one.
Sex club, where? Aint none around here that i know of.
Never tried the personal ads. i might give it a try.

 

[ozraven]

Whip out a CC and phone your nearest (classy) call girl company, less emotional hangups, complete control of the situation and you don't have to offer breakfast......

Obviously not the emotional closeness of someone you know, but is that what you are really after?

Just an idea, haven't done it, but may well do at some time in the future.

 

[realcurious]

-Whip out a CC and phone your nearest (classy) call girl company, less emotional hangups, complete control of the situation and you don't have to offer breakfast...

CC? Im guessing phone book, but what do you call it in Aus.?

RC

 

[dreamer]

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CC? Im guessing phone book, but what do you call it in Aus.?

RC

I think he means Credit Card.

 

[Guest]

my first time was with a g/f of mine and her b/f. we did it as a birthday prez for him....but i think we both wanted 2 try it as bad as him.it was my first and only time,but id love 2 do it agian.i think about it all the time,it was great.the things we did....god,i remember how fast my heart was beating!

 

[oz_akasha]

-Whip out a CC and phone your nearest (classy) call girl company, less emotional hangups, complete control of the situation and you don't have to offer breakfast...

CC? Im guessing phone book, but what do you call it in Aus.?

RC

Sorry, no, he meant credit card......*S*

We haven't done it yet as ozraven said, but it is possibly our most likely way

 

[SlyFox]

Bi 3somes

My lovely wife and I have been fortunate enough to have experienced both FFM's and MMF's over the years (more than 20 )we have been together. In every case where we have had 3somes with another woman it has been with someone we had already become friends with long before we ever had any inklling that they were interested in "playing" with us. We have never had any "luck" finding single women (or married ones for that matter...) through "personals" - whatever the venue. We've tried "Swingers" ads, bb's, on-line forums, etc. etc. with absolutely NO responses. We've been more fortunate in finding couples with a bi interested female, but even that has been rather limited.

Finding a 3rd male, on the other hand has NEVER been a problem, although finding truly bi males to play with has been somewhat more limited. Lots of guy are eager and willing to "fuck her while I watch" but that's not something we're all that interested in. We most enjoy FULL participation by everyone involved.

Which do we prefer??? Depends on the situation I suppose but usually we prefer MMF's since I am probably much more "bi" oriented than she is.

If anyone is interested in the "details" of some of these experiences, feel free to email or pm us.

SlyFox & LadyHawke

 

[princess4u]

well i am at a loss folks, can someone please tell me how to go about finding a bisexual young lady to form a threesome for me and my boyfriend. This is something we really want to experience however, I am coming up with nothing. I have posted to personals, etc..... HELP

my problem is just the opposite - i am a "third" looking for a couple - i have tried on-line personals - even met a few couples in RL - but never felt a "connection" to them enough to move forward with the threesome ~

 

[weathered2]

Seems tricky to me.

Going the route of a known friend would seem more "special" and satisfying to share that way, but it could also backfire and have negative impact on the relationship. In only two experiences in our life, one turned out poorly and one didn't, both with "close" friends. Not a statistically sound sample, but I would still go the route of someone we know well enough to open up to on this.

 

[ntp]

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[ApplesMcgee]

probably right

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[iluv2spreadem]

I am in the same situation with my boyfriend. We are both very interested in having a threesome, but we have no one to share it with. Good luck in your search, though!

 

[SlyFox]

Finding a third

I am in the same situation with my boyfriend. We are both very interested in having a threesome, but we have no one to share it with. Good luck in your search, though!

You might want to check out Adult Friend Finders:

http://guest.adultfriendfinder.com/cgi-bin/public/page.cgi

It's basic service is free but somewhat limited in response capability. We placed our profile on there looking for bi couples or singles and have had a tremendous response - especially for single (and "married filing single") guys looking for bi couples to play with. You have to sort through a LOT of chaff to find the ones you might really be interested in, but the search is definitely worth it. The nice thing about it is you can really specify what you are interested in in terms of location, age, etc. etc. And it doesn't cost anything to reply to messages sent to you. You only have to pay for premium service if you want to search out and contact other people from their profiles. I'm definitely not "pushing" this site, but it's definitely worked for us even with out paying for the premium memberships.

Good luck...

SlyFox

 

[BreadMan]

my problem is just the opposite - i am a "third" looking for a couple - i have tried on-line personals - even met a few couples in RL - but never felt a "connection" to them enough to move forward with the threesome ~

Whats "RL"?
and what part of the east coast? GA here

 

[guest1977]

RL usually means real life. Least in my boards experience anyway.

 

[KingDingaling]

sigh* it's almost as if single bi girls interested in couples have all picked up moved to their own island.

 

[LizzyB]

im getting ready for my first threesome and I am sooooo nervous.. were all of you this way?

 

[SlyFox]

First 3some

im getting ready for my first threesome and I am sooooo nervous.. were all of you this way?

Relax Lizzy. The anticipation of the event is far more stessful than the actual experience. My wife and I have been fortunate to enjoy several 3somes with both other women and guys - most of which were NOT planned but were spontaneous. The ones we have had that were planned the first time with that person did cause us some aprehension but since most of them were with people we were already close friends with helped a lot. Try to decide what is really making you nervous... Is it having sex with someone of your own gender for the first time? Are you concerned about what effect it will have on your partner or relationship or the potential damage to the relationship you have with the "third"? Are you worried about your performance? Insecurity about the effect the experience will have on your partner? Will he enjoy her/him more than he does you? Any signs of jealousy on the part of either of you? Any or all of these questions and concerns are probably what is contributing to your nervousness. Figuring out what your concerns are and communicating them with your partner will definitely help aleviate some of the nervousness and heighten the anticipation and ultimately the experience itself.

So our advice is relax and enjoy. My wife and I have thoroughly enjoyed virtually ALL of our 3some experiences and they are probably the favorite form of our "outside" activities in our admittedly "unconventional" lifestyle.

Good luck and above all - HAVE FUN!!!. It is definitely worth it...

SlyFox (& LadyHawke)

 

[PaulX35]

im getting ready for my first threesome and I am sooooo nervous.. were all of you this way?

Liz,

Being nervous seems natural, but as others also posted already, your best preparation is relaxedness, and allow to happen what comes. Forced action is a real killer, like in every sexuality-case.

A thing you should maybe prepare for is something that struck me rather a lot when I did my first threesome, last century
A threesome means there's two others close to you, including the challenge that puts on emotionally tuning in to be able to be intimate (which is something I need). Doing that with two people at the same time isn't all that easy, and I actually found it a tad confusing. No idea if it'll be the case with you, but just thought it couldn't hurt to mention it.
Have fun!

Paul