Thoughts When Getting Head

[beguiling_love]

My boyfriend tells me that he thinks of random things when I give him head. He says he thinks about what's on tv later at nite or about music, etc. And when i give him head, he gives no reaction, not one sign to show that he's enjoying it. He does ejaculate, but my question is is that common or is my man just not enjoying it? I've given head to only three men in my life, but the other two at least showed signs that they enjoyed it. So again I'm just wondering, is it common to think random thoughts and not to show reactions or is my man just not enjoying it?

 

[Retrieval]

Lol..

 

[tanyachrs]

Some men are more obviously responsive than others, just like women. I think most of us, men and women, prefer more responsive partners but it's the moaning, screaming women who get all the press.

 

[done_got_old]

My boyfriend tells me that he thinks of random things when I give him head. He says he thinks about what's on tv later at nite or about music, etc. And when i give him head, he gives no reaction, not one sign to show that he's enjoying it. He does ejaculate, but my question is is that common or is my man just not enjoying it? I've given head to only three men in my life, but the other two at least showed signs that they enjoyed it. So again I'm just wondering, is it common to think random thoughts and not to show reactions or is my man just not enjoying it?

It would be hard for me to get into the mood with him.

 

[SweetErika]

He does ejaculate, but my question is is that common or is my man just not enjoying it?

What does HE say? Does he tell you he enjoys it? Does he prefer other activities to oral? Does he ask for oral? Have you asked why there's no reaction?

It sounds like the lack of feedback is the real issue, not the random thoughts. We all have random thoughts during sex sometimes, or at some point. I'd think mostly or only pondering non-sexual topics odd, but as long as that works for the person and their partner, no problem.

I've had partners who were pretty quiet, but that was more of a style thing than anything else (just like I'm loud 'cause sounds turn me on). When I asked about it, they had explanations that made a lot of sense; one quietly focuses on the sensations and another has some inhibitions. IOW, it had nothing to do with their enjoyment, and I could tell it was pleasureable by the way they moved. I did ask both to give me as much feedback as they were comfortable with during so I could tailor my technique to their tastes.

I definitely feel more enthusiastic when my partner's involved, whether they're giving me verbal cues or touching me. If, after communicating well about it, a partner was still distracted and never giving any feedback, I'd likely not be inclined to give oral at all. I need all sex to be a two-way street to be happy.

 

[javelin_au]

The only time I deliberately think about 'other things' is if i am trying to delay orgasm. And that is usually only when I am fucking not getting head.

It's an unfortunate thing to have to do but to 'last longer' guys do try to distract themselves with 'random thoughts' sometimes. Maybe he's waiting for you to orgasm before he lets himself go!?

 

[SensualMan_in_PA]

I am very oral as well as verbal. There is no greater turn-on than a lady who encourages me by talking, moaning, etc. and I always reciprocate!

 

[PowerLifter84]

Getting oral for a few minutes is alright but I'm a touchy-feely person it drives me nuts when I cannot do anything in return. This is why I like to 69.

 

[kitsune_kun]

Getting oral for a few minutes is alright but I'm a touchy-feely person it drives me nuts when I cannot do anything in return. This is why I like to 69.

Yeah, drives me crazy not to be-able to do anything in return.... and as such, my girl is evil and tries to see how long i can resist the urge to "return the favor" but back to the topic, your guy may simply not be into oral at all.... Just like some don't like to give, some don't like to receive, ((I'm one of the latter so I'd know)) so that might be something to talk with him about. As far as I know though, those who don't like to receive, put extra effort into it when they give so, not too much to worry abut if he happens to be like me.

 

[eddie03]

Just my 2 cents but if he is forcing himself to think of random thoughts, then he is enjoying it quite a bit. My guess is that he is attempting to delay his orgasm so that he can enjoy the sensations longer. Just because he is thinking of other things (baseball, the tv listings...) doesnt mean he isnt feeling every little thing you are doing to him. I am more vocal, however he may not want to be so vocal as this might highten his arousal. When receiving that much pleasure you do not want it ever to end. You should just ask him though.

 

[stageleft]

outlook

another view is that in my case...when my g/f gives me head i could so easily explode in her mouth in seconds.the feeling is so intense & exciting i try to think of inane subjects to prolong the ecstatic pleasure.
common among men i do think !

 

[yorker85]

I usually think about what she is feeling/thinking. I'll sometimes purposely drift off so I don't pop but usually, I try to focus on the gift she is giving me.

 

[moofv]

I also would place my money on the BF doing his best to prolong the enjoyment by distracting himself as best he can. Does he climax in just a few minutes or does it take over 20 minutes ? Does he stay fairly firm for the duration ? Can you feel him do any flexing or movement in & out of your mouth, if he is being quite still along with being quiet, I think he is hanging on for dear life to postpone exploding. When he does climax is there plenty of feedback at that point ?

 

[ScaredWarrior]

i do i not sure why but yeah my lady really good at she drive me wild with oral. Yeah i think of the weirdest of things. like what am i going to do at work or taking out the trash not sure why. I think its is because it the only time i not thinking about sex or porn. My love and were talking about that the other day the odd the that come to her mind when have sex or oral sex. But were bout random people on normal stuft more so me. I wake in the middle of good sleep a say the monkey are make porn moive. But i ma random all the time my love loves make her laugh.

 

[shy slave]

Interesting thread.

At the time I wonder what he is thinking about but it is not the right time to ask. Then I usually forget to ask later

Will keep reading other replies