Thoughts on seduction to bdsm

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[JoanneA]

This is probably one of the most sensible and realistic comments I've seen from anyone on this site about BDSM specifically and about relationships in general. I've submitted to my share of experienced Doms. Not one of them took anything from me that I had not already expressed a willingness and a deep desire to give. D/s, when done right is a matter of exchanging one thing for another. I give him my trust, he gives me his attention. I open my soul, he fills it with those things I long for. He will always respect my limits while constantly working to expand them and we will both celebrate the milestones on our path as places we've come to together.

I don't know, I think he's lying.

 

[TongueLust]

Interesting thread.

 

[Monica_112]

I am a very dominant man but I enjoy romance as well. I like taking possession but don't want to humiliate who I am with.

In my opinion in order to seduce a woman into bdsm you have to take over her mind and build trust. When the time is right you demand what you want with supreme confidence and make her feel like you're her protector.

Just my opinion anyone else care to share.

Works the same with any gender

I find more women more susceptible to domination, but men crave it more perhaps because it's more rare if they are heterosexual

Those on that side of the spectrum anyway

 

[sunshine57]

I am a very dominant man but I enjoy romance as well. I like taking possession but don't want to humiliate who I am with.

In my opinion in order to seduce a woman into bdsm you have to take over her mind and build trust. When the time is right you demand what you want with supreme confidence and make her feel like you're her protector.

Just my opinion anyone else care to share.

This is exactly what I am looking for in a D/s.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Interesting thread.

Thank you bella

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Works the same with any gender

I find more women more susceptible to domination, but men crave it more perhaps because it's more rare if they are heterosexual

Those on that side of the spectrum anyway

You're probably correct. Makes perfect sense.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

This is exactly what I am looking for in a D/s.

Welcome to LIT

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I know.. it's great to have a protector. A guide. Etc.

But when someone only feels validated by "protecting" a handful , harem, (or as is often the case) an entire herd of "protectees".. I have to draw the line.

Not really sure I'll every understand the concept of spreading oneself so thinly among many women (or men). There's no way a human can keep up and sufficiently meet everyone's needs.

If you need to have a group of sheep following you around.....get a farm, not a bunch of lovers.

Just my opinion.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I know.. it's great to have a protector. A guide. Etc.

But when someone only feels validated by "protecting" a handful , harem, (or as is often the case) an entire herd of "protectees".. I have to draw the line.

Not really sure I'll every understand the concept of spreading oneself so thinly among many women (or men). There's no way a human can keep up and sufficiently meet everyone's needs.

If you need to have a group of sheep following you around.....get a farm, not a bunch of lovers.

Just my opinion.

Understandable it can be frustrating. Monogamy is a great thing with the right person