Thoughts on breast implants...

[AlexBailey]

FWIW, I’ve read that the satisfaction rate for someone who has had breast implants is very similar to the satisfaction rate for those who have had transgender surgery.


It’s okay to want to change your body. Your motivations are yours alone, only you can judge whether it’s the right thing for you, but it is no magic pill. Your happiness and satisfaction come from within. If larger breasts make you happy, so be it, but they probably aren’t going to make everything in life fall into place just because you have some extra jiggle.

 

[policywank]

?? Don't we all consider implants out of some sense of insecurity? Maybe I'm over generalizing from a limited viewpoint, but seems to me it's all about self-image, attractiveness, etc. that stems either from external criticism or from our own measure of attractiveness. So at the heart of it is: "Will implants do the trick for me?"

For me, the answer has been "nope." I'm mid-60s, so in addition to being small to begin with, they're starting to get mighty saggy. I'm probably my harshest critic, and certainly wish I had a nicer rack. My lovers, though, don't seem in the least bothered. In the end, that's good enough for me. And, like OP, when I've played with altered boobs, they're different and maybe strike me as subtrafuge.

Each to her own--I wouldn't kick a gal with implants out of bed for eating crackers, lol!

In my opinion wanting to look good is not synonymous with insecurity. And each of us has our own view as to how far we are prepared to go to look good based upon our own reasons.

Let's test the logic on that. Is it fair to say that any effort at all to look good even if it is just to brush my hair or pick the broccoli out of my teeth is rooted in insecurity? If not then, by definition, one accepts that there are things we do to look good for non-insecurity related reasons including our own measure of how we look. Is that not intrinsically subjective and personal to each of us as individuals? If so, who among us gets to define what someone else's motivations must be unless we seek to project our assumptions and values onto them. Even if most women would see getting implants as a sign of insecurity for themselves doesn't make it an objective truth for all women.

 

[Pikemaster41]

Personally I prefer natural no matter the size. They are boobs, and meant to be enjoyable, big or small, love feel of a natural tit over fake. My 2 cents

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Personally I prefer natural no matter the size. They are boobs, and meant to be enjoyable, big or small, love feel of a natural tit over fake. My 2 cents

Personally I prefer natural no matter the size. They are boobs, and meant to be enjoyable, big or small, love feel of a natural tit over fake. My 2 cents

This. As a guy it is almost always obvious if breasts are real or fake. We spend A LOT of time staring at them. After the first 40 years or so of looking at every pair you walk past every single day...trust me you become very familiar with them.

The short version is that implants may look better with clothes on than clothes off. With clothes off implants are USUALLY pretty obvious.

With clothes on they can look pretty good. But within reason. If you are a petite 5'2" and have the Dolly Parton models....its going to look unnatural no matter what you are wearing. (Yes I know there are some petite short woman with giant natural breasts. But it's not super common.)

But if you increase within the high side of average size for you height and weight they can look pretty convincing with clothes on.

With clothes off they tend to be too round. No matter what the size. And too firm so they hold that round shape. Real boobs usually don't do that for anyone over 20.

So it's unlikely that implants will look totally natural when naked. When dressed, maybe...if you don't go crazy on size.

As for if you should or not.... who cares what I think? It's irrelevant. If you like how they look, you do you.

If you want to look more full chested with clothes on and don't care what you look like naked, implants might be right for you.

If you like how implants look naked, implants might be right for you. (My opinion is just an opinion.)

As long as it's for you and not for anyone else, just be happy with your choice either way.

But small boobs are not bad boobs. Personally I prefer smaller boobs. I don't know why. But I do. It's my thing. Other men think the bigger the better. What you want for you is the ONLY opinion that actually matters.


.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

In my opinion wanting to look good is not synonymous with insecurity.

So much this.

I like to look good. I groom myself. Beard trimmed so I don't look like a sasquatch. Exercise so my body is in nice shape. Wash regularly so I don't smell like a sewer. You know...the normal stuff.

But if I roll out of bed looking like a disheveled mess and need to run out to the store... I don't care. I don't feel bad about myself or give a shit what anyone else thinks.

It is possible to want to look nice but not NEED to look nice because of insecurities.

Back to the threat topic.... what "looks nice" is very subjective and only one opinion matters.

 

[stickygirl]

This has been the best thread to read, so thanks for posting Jenni and for folks responding. I had the hard sell for implants after my assignment surgery - not exactly 'we'll throw in tits for only $$ extra' but not far short. To be honest I had such a tough time getting over GRS that I was totally done with surgery. Shall we pop these under your nipples? Nope, no thank you.

I support anyone that has thought it through, understands the risks and is ready for them to be replacement in ten, fifteen years time and still feels like they need that shape. I hate my appendix scar and my eyes always stray to it, so I know I'd be the same with implant scars.

I can sulk for an evening if I've seen a dress I love but can't wear ( because bust size ). I can live with an occasional grumpy evening. I'm not so sure I could live the rest of my life with implant scars - that would be grumpy on a whole new level.

 

[Thought30]

Here's the thing:
I want YOU.
Not a purchased or augmented version of you.
I want the truth about who you are, what you desire and even your insecurities.
We've all got them.
the key to it all is acceptance.
To truly love yourself--as you are--is about the most compassionate tender thing a person can do.
That doesn't mean "never change" or don't work to improve upon this imperfect, perfect you, it is to accept who you are and embrace it. If you can do that with yourself, perhaps you can do it for others.
That's beautiful.

I want to see and feel the real you.
I hope you'd want the same from me.

 

[jason28053]

This may be in the wrong forum, but it probably works as well as any other.

I am a small breasted woman who from time to time seriously thinks about implants, and right now is one of those times. How small am I, you ask? I am going to resort to the "cup" size description, even though it is wildly inaccurate as cup size is a relative function of band size, not an absolute measure, and my actual cup size for my band size is different than the generic cup size scale most people use to discuss breast size rather than bra sizing (by the way, the cup size scale most people use to discuss size appears to be based on the 34 or 36 band sizes). Anyhoo, let's say I'm bigger than an 'A' and smaller than a full 'B'. Or we could say less than a handful. For me to achieve any real cleavage requires a torture device bra (although to be fair, I tried one on a few weeks back that was not very torturous and gave me about two cup size increase in appearance as well as some actual cleavage -- I almost bought that one). Thus, from time to time, I ponder implants. I would never go really big, but maybe a cup size and a half to get me to a full generic 'C'. And the fullness is as important as the size for me.

So, what are some thoughts on breast implants? Do you like women with them? Do you think they are disfigurements? Do you think they feel weird or off-putting (the ones I have felt were... different -- not off-putting to me, but it would take some getting used to; to be fair, it was just feeling -- I was not intimate with any of the women whose augmented breasts I have felt)?

If you have implants, do you like them? did they desensitize your breasts/nipples? Would you do it again knowing what you know? How large did you go and would you do that different?

Anyway, thank in advance for keeping your responses respectful and courteous.

I would stay away from them. Breast Implant Illness is a real thing. My wife had a double mastectomy with reconstructive surgery including implantation. Soon after was diagnosed with all sorts of issues autoimmune and thyroid.

 

[OldnCurious]

Go with what God gave you.

 

[Mr_bogey]

Thanks everyone!

I'm leaning strongly toward not doing anything. It's just every so often, I start thinking about all the different things I could wear that don't really fit my body type. But most of the time, I'm good with what I got.

That's what it's all about --- how you feel. There are some guys that are the bigger the better. There are others that prefer them small. Personally, I think if they fit your body, that's the most sexy thing to me. When you see a 5'1", 115 LB women with 40EE boobs, it looks out of place --- her boobs make up a quarter of her body weight. If you are happy when you look in the mirror, trust me, whatever guy/girl you are with will be thrilled.

 

[policywank]

Only one opinion matters. That is incredibly important.

It is easy to understand that getting implants to win the approval of men may be problematic (although that is for each individual to decide). But assuming that is the only reason a woman gets implants is even more problematic. How do we feel about women not doing what they want to do to avoid the disapproval of others? Is that not equally problematic? Why does anyone presume to know why others make the decisions they make?

I am completely open to how people respond to the aesthetic or feel of implants. But when it veers into the realm of why a woman chooses to get implants and assessing her motivations it is harder to grasp. To pretend to know why any given woman get implants is wildly disrespectful of all women's personal agency.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I’ve seen good ones and I’ve seen bad one. So why do you need them? If you think you need them to attract someone, they aren’t worth it.

 

[InterestingOne]

This may be in the wrong forum, but it probably works as well as any other.

I am a small breasted woman who from time to time seriously thinks about implants, and right now is one of those times. How small am I, you ask? I am going to resort to the "cup" size description, even though it is wildly inaccurate as cup size is a relative function of band size, not an absolute measure, and my actual cup size for my band size is different than the generic cup size scale most people use to discuss breast size rather than bra sizing (by the way, the cup size scale most people use to discuss size appears to be based on the 34 or 36 band sizes). Anyhoo, let's say I'm bigger than an 'A' and smaller than a full 'B'. Or we could say less than a handful. For me to achieve any real cleavage requires a torture device bra (although to be fair, I tried one on a few weeks back that was not very torturous and gave me about two cup size increase in appearance as well as some actual cleavage -- I almost bought that one). Thus, from time to time, I ponder implants. I would never go really big, but maybe a cup size and a half to get me to a full generic 'C'. And the fullness is as important as the size for me.

So, what are some thoughts on breast implants? Do you like women with them? Do you think they are disfigurements? Do you think they feel weird or off-putting (the ones I have felt were... different -- not off-putting to me, but it would take some getting used to; to be fair, it was just feeling -- I was not intimate with any of the women whose augmented breasts I have felt)?

If you have implants, do you like them? did they desensitize your breasts/nipples? Would you do it again knowing what you know? How large did you go and would you do that different?

Anyway, thank in advance for keeping your responses respectful and courteous.

Tbh, I think breast size is a bigger deal for women than for men. Breast size for women is like penis size for men lol Majority of women don't care what size a man is and the majority of men don't care what size breasts a woman has. It's the whole package. So do what makes you happy.

 

[BenHoping]

Tbh, I think breast size is a bigger deal for women than for men. Breast size for women is like penis size for men lol Majority of women don't care what size a man is and the majority of men don't care what size breasts a woman has. It's the whole package. So do what makes you happy.

There ya go! Perspective! I'm old, got a short floppy dick and it just bugs the crap out of me. But all tits are great tits if they're on a great woman! For me, it's not tits--their size, shape, color, nipples, perkiness, sagginess or anything else-that make a woman hot. It's the other way around! Women make their tits hot!

 

[curl4ever]

I agree with everyone who emphasized that you shouldn’t do it unless you are strongly motivated for your own preference. - - What I mean is that if you’re close to 50/50 or even 60/40 on the decision, staying natural is probably the better choice. The risk of serious complications and repeat surgeries is significant. I do agree with many of the other male posters that while implants might make a clothed figure initially more alluring, non-clothed natural breasts of any size look better than implants. A padded bra can achieve the same effect when desired, without jeopardizing your health.

 

[stickygirl]

Only one opinion matters. That is incredibly important.

It is easy to understand that getting implants to win the approval of men may be problematic (although that is for each individual to decide). But assuming that is the only reason a woman gets implants is even more problematic. How do we feel about women not doing what they want to do to avoid the disapproval of others? Is that not equally problematic? Why does anyone presume to know why others make the decisions they make?

I am completely open to how people respond to the aesthetic or feel of implants. But when it veers into the realm of why a woman chooses to get implants and assessing her motivations it is harder to grasp. To pretend to know why any given woman get implants is wildly disrespectful of all women's personal agency.

This 100% and opinions are shaped by received opinions and rarely by facts.

What worries me is how a woman's self image is affected by peer pressure ( imagined glances ) and the media ( advertising ) so that it becomes difficult to disentangle external influences from personal choice. That doesn't mean women are more susceptible to persuasion than men, but jeez, the pressure is relentless and everywhere. I've read reports about women worried by the shape of their labia and having surgery to make them to look like Barbie.

Sorry I've digressed. Cosmetic surgeries could be a whole new thread. Breast implants may be common place and unremarkable but the risks remain the same.

 

[Ocs9000uk]

Prefer natural but if a woman feels like she needs to and is unhappy then it's her choice just not my preference and wouldn't be attracted to her

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

One of the sexiest women I’ve seen recently was at a Robert Randolph and the Family Band concert. If you’re familiar, there is an instrumental they play where Robert is sitting playing a Lap-Steel. Women are encouraged to come on stage and get a pic with Robert and maybe steal a kiss!

There was a girl who was around 5’5” thic and fit, short blond hair and very small breasts. She wore a shear black top, low cut that accentuated her fit body, no Bra, and you could clearly see the outline of her nipples. She radiated confidence and I (and probably the whole damn venue) couldn’t take my eyes off her. She lingered on stage until the song ended, grabbed a kiss from Robert and came back down to the rail a few feet ahead of where I was standing.

Just say’n

 

[Darkweather]

I do not understand why any woman would volunteer to have breast implants unless for medical reasons.
Apart from the risks, the end results are rarely realistic.

Regardless of the size, rejoice in their unique natural perfection!

 

[lil_jenni]

I recently had some hands on (and mouth on ) opportunity to interact with a woman with the gummy implants while simultaneously doing the same with a woman with natural breasts about a size smaller (but both a lot bigger and fuller than mine). The gummy implants felt more natural than my admittedly limited experience feeling traditional silicone or saline implants, and looked more natural too, but were noticably different in a side by side comparison with natural breasts. But if I ever do decide to get implants, I'm going to seriously consider gummies.

Right now, I'm still in that place where the cons outweigh the pros for me; however, I wanted to touch on some comments from you all.

First, I doubt I'm more insecure about my body than most people are. I think almost everyone has things they might like to tweak if they could. And my boobs are number one for me. But that's not because I'm worried I can't attract men or women. I coild.do that with what I've got if I wanted to or needed to. I've never worried about that. Attracting people is as much about attitude and presentation as it is body size or features. I'm not saying I can get any guy or girl out there, because no one is everybody's cup of tea, but I'm not worried about my game if I need it (except when it comes to knowing if a woman is attracted to me -- I'm much better at reading men ).

One poster mentioned a small breasted woman wearing a tight top to reveal her breast shape and nipples and how confident and sexy he found her. I did the same thing a lot in my twenties (and before). But that doesn't help me fill out a dress I otherwise love but that is not at all flattering in the bust for me. If it was just figuring out how to display what I have, I've got that down. But I sometimes wish I had other options.

Someone mentioned breast size increasing with pregnancy and staying that way afterward. That happens for some women, but not all women. Mine did get larger from milk and from weight gain. But after I stopped breast feeding and went back to my pre-pregnancy weight, my boobs went back to their pre-pregnancy size minus some of the little fullness they used to have. I don't want a lot larger, but I would like fuller.

Finally, I don't mean to be rude, but breast size concerns are not the same as penis size concerns. I don't worry about a man (or a woman ) preferring bigger breasts and thus not liking me. Their preference is their preference. I sure as fuck never worried whether my boob size might affect my performance sexually. I worry about how I look in the mirror in the dress I want. Or about how I see a picture of a woman looking sexy as hell in something I couldn't pull off with my bust size and shape. And is there some insecurity in that? Yeah, probably. But it's not a concern about whether I measure up to what others expect or prefer. It's how I look to me.

So yeah, sometimes I wish I could rock a good cleavage look. And yeah, I know I'd (sometimes) enjoy the glances and the lingering eye drops-- I did when I had a bit more to show off before I lost my pregnancy weight. But a lot of it is wishing I could wear things that I think would look cute (and/or sexy) as fuck if only I filled them out more up top.

 

[policywank]

This 100% and opinions are shaped by received opinions and rarely by facts.

What worries me is how a woman's self image is affected by peer pressure ( imagined glances ) and the media ( advertising ) so that it becomes difficult to disentangle external influences from personal choice. That doesn't mean women are more susceptible to persuasion than men, but jeez, the pressure is relentless and everywhere. I've read reports about women worried by the shape of their labia and having surgery to make them to look like Barbie.

Sorry I've digressed. Cosmetic surgeries could be a whole new thread. Breast implants may be common place and unremarkable but the risks remain the same.

I agree that the body image pressures on women are enormous and it can be difficult to separate ourselves from that. But I think that every mature woman is aware of that dynamic and factors that into their decision. We may not get it right but we don't need to be patronized as if we are unaware. And I think it is off base for anyone to presume that a woman's motivation is misguided or necessarily rooted in insecurity.

 

[lc69hunter]

I think small boobs are far sexier, and large boobs are more fun. My best female friend used to have very cute small B size, and went really big, but it suits her personality, and I love it for that

 

[stickygirl]

I agree that the body image pressures on women are enormous and it can be difficult to separate ourselves from that. But I think that every mature woman is aware of that dynamic and factors that into their decision. We may not get it right but we don't need to be patronized as if we are unaware. And I think it is off base for anyone to presume that a woman's motivation is misguided or necessarily rooted in insecurity.

Mature woman, yes, but I'm thinking more of younger ones and teens or those who may be susceptible to peer pressure. Besides, I think that doubts that take root in our younger years can persist and need to be confronted later in life when ones perspective is (hopefully) less inward looking. It's those women who need better advice, but it doesn't need to be finger wagging from people with opinions rather than facts. I think we're on the same page there.

There's often a casual attitude by the implant industry towards women both in terms of advice and their product safety. A German company was found in 2021 to have been negligent in awarding a safety certificate to a type of implant linked to autoimmune diseases and that were more likely to rupture.

ETA
Please note I make no mention of insecurity in any of my posts but was later quoted to as though I had. Maybe their response was to other snipes at the intentions of women and not mine? IDK but I chose not to engage further to defuse the discussion re insecurity ... which I never mentioned.

 

[Parental_advisory]

I think the female form is beautiful in all it's shapes and sizes.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

9

This 100% and opinions are shaped by received opinions and rarely by facts.

What worries me is how a woman's self image is affected by peer pressure ( imagined glances ) and the media ( advertising ) so that it becomes difficult to disentangle external influences from personal choice. That doesn't mean women are more susceptible to persuasion than men, but jeez, the pressure is relentless and everywhere. I've read reports about women worried by the shape of their labia and having surgery to make them to look like Barbie.

Sorry I've digressed. Cosmetic surgeries could be a whole new thread. Breast implants may be common place and unremarkable but the risks remain the same.

I have a friend who was on the larger side. She wanted to have bariatric surgery to get thinner.

She was talking about it for like 4 years. At first it was a vanity thing. She wanted "to be prettier". And I remember talking to her about it and saying something to the effect of "If you aren't happy with yourself and who you are before this, no amount of cosmetic changes are going to make you happy."

She ended up going to therapy (that is an important step due to the dramatic change in body image) and started really feeling good about herself as a person. She worked on some relationship issues and such and was really happier than I'd ever seen her right before the surgery. By the time she had the procedure done she really didn't care about being thinner for cosmetic reasons. At that point it was for health reasons. (She was having some weight related health problems)

Anyway she had the surgery. She looks great. But more importantly she feels great. She feels healthier and her health is still the reason she does all the crap you have to do post bariatric surgery to maintain the weight loss. She really isn't motivated by her outward appearance.

She was going to do the surgerey to look better to other people. She ended up doing it to be healthier for herself.

I have known a few others over the years who had the bariatric surgery for purely cosmetic reasons and it was a disaster in all cases. None of them were satisfied with who they were as people prior to it (because they equated outward looks with their value as people) so just changing their looks was ineffective in making them happy. Most ended up not keeping up with the reduced calorie intake required and out the weight right back on and are even more miserable.

The point is....if you are going to do something cosmetic to your body, don't expext it to fix any issues you have. Become happy with who you are as a person first. Be confident in yourself as you are because your value is internal. And anyone who doesn't see you as a good and valuable person as you are has no vue in your life.

Ultimately for breast augmentation I'd think someone wouldn't want new friends and lovers because of the new boobs. I assume you'd want someone to like YOU for who you are with or without bigger boobs. And if you like you....other people will too. Or they can piss right off.

So if new boobs genuinely make you happier, great. If they make someone else happier, who cares?