Thoughts on Acting being legitimized cheating

[ctdans]

I had a discussion with some friends on this topic and many of us disagree. Looking for other opinions.

My take is that acting, where a man and women get physical like kissing, topless in bed, touching, all under the guise of "acting" being it in a play or movie is wrong if you are married or in a serious relationship. Some in my circle of friends disagree as it his not really a romantic interest. Those actors are just doing their job. My take is then if that is OK why is it frowned upon if a person hires and escort or gets a lap dance? Many wives would go bull shit if their spouse did that. Again, I am not saying that there is sexual intercourse. Just hire an escort to who to dinner, dancing, make out with tung, feel her breasts, etc. Just like you see in a movie or even in many cases on TV.

Does the cheating piece not come into play because the persons spouse knows of it and I guess possibly approves?

If your spouse all of a sudden wanted to join some drama club and she would get a part as a love interest or a spouse and to pull it off they would have to act out just as a lover or married couple would and it included the scenes I described would you be cool with that?

 

[Reader1225]

I would say it’s not intimate at all. You’ll have an audience, either if you’re on the stage, or a film crew. You have to be where you’re told to be, say what you’re told to say, wear (or not!) what you’re told to wear. I can’t imagine anyone feeling hot in those circumstances. And I would certainly insist on a body double if it were me…

 

[Britva415]

Does the cheating piece not come into play because the persons spouse knows of it and I guess possibly approves?

Exactly, "cheating" is 100% about secrecy and hiding, though even if it's not secret then it's still about the other spouse's consent, like you said.

If your spouse all of a sudden wanted to join some drama club and she would get a part as a love interest or a spouse and to pull it off they would have to act out just as a lover or married couple would and it included the scenes I described would you be cool with that?

Not if she were concealing it, no.

if that is OK why is it frowned upon if a person hires and escort or gets a lap dance? Many wives would go bull shit if their spouse did that.

Secrecy and deceit are usually at play there. And usually the reason for the secrecy and the deceit is because the person knows their spouse wouldn't approve.

 

[Britva415]

I can't remember who or when, but I feel like I remember some Hollywood couple divorcing over something like this.

It probably wasn't about the acting itself. It probably was about the actors involved taking it offscreen, and that being what upset the spouse(s).

 

[ishtat]

If the participants do not see it as cheating, why would or should any outsider be entitled to impose their moralizing clap trap?

 

[Cindy027]

I can't remember who or when, but I feel like I remember some Hollywood couple divorcing over something like this.

It probably wasn't about the acting itself. It probably was about the actors involved taking it offscreen, and that being what upset the spouse(s).

I think that may have been the actors in A Star is Born. Not using names because I may be wrong

 

[Celand]

acting is acting and romance is romance. Nothing else.

 

[Islander55]

I can't remember who or when, but I feel like I remember some Hollywood couple divorcing over something like this.

It probably wasn't about the acting itself. It probably was about the actors involved taking it offscreen, and that being what upset the spouse(s).

While many of these love scenes may not be very romantic at the time, I can easily imagine them leading to some after hours play.

 

[AlexBailey]

I once married a woman who I thought was sincere but she turned out to be an actress.

 

[12oclocktales]

According to some online stories I've seen, some actors/actresses won't even do kissing scenes.

 

[tnhardon]

I had a discussion with some friends on this topic and many of us disagree. Looking for other opinions.

My take is that acting, where a man and women get physical like kissing, topless in bed, touching, all under the guise of "acting" being it in a play or movie is wrong if you are married or in a serious relationship. Some in my circle of friends disagree as it his not really a romantic interest. Those actors are just doing their job. My take is then if that is OK why is it frowned upon if a person hires and escort or gets a lap dance? Many wives would go bull shit if their spouse did that. Again, I am not saying that there is sexual intercourse. Just hire an escort to who to dinner, dancing, make out with tung, feel her breasts, etc. Just like you see in a movie or even in many cases on TV.

Does the cheating piece not come into play because the persons spouse knows of it and I guess possibly approves?

If your spouse all of a sudden wanted to join some drama club and she would get a part as a love interest or a spouse and to pull it off they would have to act out just as a lover or married couple would and it included the scenes I described would you be cool with that?

The difference in being in a movie vs. hiring an escort should be obvious. One is art and the other is strictly seeking out pleasure.

That said, I could understand how someone would be uncomfortable with their significant other showing any levels of intimacy with someone, even if it is for the sake of art. I know I wouldn’t want my wife pretending to have sex with a man, especially for all the world to see.

That’s why I’m not married to a movie star. That and none seemed to show any interest in me

 

[stickygirl]

I had a discussion with some friends on this topic and many of us disagree. Looking for other opinions.

My take is that acting, where a man and women get physical like kissing, topless in bed, touching, all under the guise of "acting" being it in a play or movie is wrong if you are married or in a serious relationship. Some in my circle of friends disagree as it his not really a romantic interest. Those actors are just doing their job. My take is then if that is OK why is it frowned upon if a person hires and escort or gets a lap dance? Many wives would go bull shit if their spouse did that. Again, I am not saying that there is sexual intercourse. Just hire an escort to who to dinner, dancing, make out with tung, feel her breasts, etc. Just like you see in a movie or even in many cases on TV.

Does the cheating piece not come into play because the persons spouse knows of it and I guess possibly approves?

If your spouse all of a sudden wanted to join some drama club and she would get a part as a love interest or a spouse and to pull it off they would have to act out just as a lover or married couple would and it included the scenes I described would you be cool with that?

So you regard physical contact being a breach of marital vows? How deep does your rabbit hole go, because policing your partner to that extent sounds much like the doctrine of the Taliban? Should we go back to wearing gloves to avoid physical contact?

As others have pointed out, you're comparing apples vs oranges. False equivalence and specious argument

 

[NikiVien]

I had a discussion with some friends on this topic and many of us disagree. Looking for other opinions.

My take is that acting, where a man and women get physical like kissing, topless in bed, touching, all under the guise of "acting" being it in a play or movie is wrong if you are married or in a serious relationship. Some in my circle of friends disagree as it his not really a romantic interest. Those actors are just doing their job. My take is then if that is OK why is it frowned upon if a person hires and escort or gets a lap dance? Many wives would go bull shit if their spouse did that. Again, I am not saying that there is sexual intercourse. Just hire an escort to who to dinner, dancing, make out with tung, feel her breasts, etc. Just like you see in a movie or even in many cases on TV.

Does the cheating piece not come into play because the persons spouse knows of it and I guess possibly approves?

If your spouse all of a sudden wanted to join some drama club and she would get a part as a love interest or a spouse and to pull it off they would have to act out just as a lover or married couple would and it included the scenes I described would you be cool with that?

I think you need to have a better understanding of the word 'cheating'.

Cheating always involves deceit. What is deceitful about an actor doing their job?

Marriage isn't an ownership, it's a partnership built on communication and honesty.