This post is such an egotistic boast

[SummerMorning]

It is. It really is. It's not just a rhyme. It's a rhythm. A weird, deep pulsation, or whatever. A seven mile snake. Dead indians and the whole shebang. A bit of a rant as well. So if you've waded through this extroduction, please ... proceed:

What in blazes is it with women? After I finally end a relationship that turned toxic. After I decide to have nothing to do with women for a while. After I contemplate going into a monastery for a while. After I resume working and studying more seriously. After all that. And not much after all that. More like a week after all that.

Anyway, I suddenly have three women after me. I mean, is there some kind of weird radio or ultrasound or pheromone signal I'm giving off? Something like, "seriously not damned interested in fucking your brains out or having a relationship, just being my happy go lucky self." Is this some kind of drug for women? I mean, I seriously find it bizarre.

Wouldn't you? Seriously. Imagine. You decide to have some quiet time for yourself. And wham, before you know it you have three women writing flirtatious messages to you and dragging you into bed. Either I'm seriously good ... or what I do not know*. Come on, explain this message: "Hope you're coming round tomorrow evening. Good night. Kisses." And how did I get to deserve that? I helped her out with some computer biz, listened to her a bit and then didn't call her. Hristos.

It seriously seems to me, that the less I try to have anything to do with women, the more they're attracted to me. Could this actually be true?

And the conclusion: So you see, I'm actually boasting my ass off.

*although there was that unexplained incident with two med students. At the same time. But that wasn't my fault either.

 

[SweetErika]

I've noticed and wondered about this myself.

My theory is that people who are happily single are more comfortable and confident, which makes them more attractive prospects than the average John/Jane who's searching for a mate.

People know there's a good chance the prospect is attractive to others as well as them, so there's some competition...'who can catch and claim him/her first?'

Also, there might be another challenge factor: in your case, each of the three ladies may want to be the one who changes your mind about being single on some level. The majority of people like to think they're special, better in some way(s), and persuasive, and don't mind gambling a little for a chance at the 'uncatchable' on the notion it might confirm they really are special, better, and persuasive.

 

[Norajane]

I mean, is there some kind of weird radio or ultrasound or pheromone signal I'm giving off? Something like, "seriously not damned interested in fucking your brains out or having a relationship, just being my happy go lucky self." Is this some kind of drug for women? I mean, I seriously find it bizarre.

No, that's just what happens when you go around being yourself. You attract people who like 'yourself'.

 

[Ezzy]

I've noticed and wondered about this myself.

My theory is that people who are happily single are more comfortable and confident, which makes them more attractive prospects than the average John/Jane who's searching for a mate.

People know there's a good chance the prospect is attractive to others as well as them, so there's some competition...'who can catch and claim him/her first?'

Also, there might be another challenge factor: in your case, each of the three ladies may want to be the one who changes your mind about being single on some level. The majority of people like to think they're special, better in some way(s), and persuasive, and don't mind gambling a little for a chance at the 'uncatchable' on the notion it might confirm they really are special, better, and persuasive.

This is on the mark in my experience.

Nothing turns them off faster than the fact you a desperate to find one, and as soon as you give up, thy come flocking around to the confident single guy, turned on to the comfort factor, I think.

 

[SummerMorning]

When it rains, it pours, huh?

I wonder if I should just make all of them happy and have sex with them ... *chuckle*

 

[silverwhisper]

it's possible that they're drawn in by your "yeah, whatever, i'm just here" and find it intriguing. :>

ed

 

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