this is much needed advice!

[bellababy211]

I'm new to this board. Never have done something like this before but, I feel that everyone here seems to have good ideas for every question I see asked. So I'm going to give this a try!

Forgive me if I'm shy in the wording of my question. But here goes.

I am pregnant with my first child, very pregnant infact! My due date is march 7th, 2012. So, not too long to go. Sex was amazing at first. I've never wanted it more! And now, well, there's my huge belly, my sore and sensitive breasts and my 5 feet tall self. I look like a waddling penguin. Being so petite all my life, my stomache is causing a lot of problems. We've tried different positions and its just all uncomfortable and wrong. The only time I get pleasure is when I do it myself.

Pleaaseee offer suggestions on how to get myself and my husband back into action!

 

[TexasWife25]

What positions did you try?
Did you do big spoon little spoon? where you are both laying on your side, he is behind you and can lift your leg? Doggie is too uncomfortable for you I assume? And cowgirl and reverse cowgirl are a no go too?

Im assuming you've sorta gone though the playbook of positions and arent having luck and that you are playing with yourself while he strokes but still not enough. While i didnt have this issue when i was pregnant a lot of women do. You may have to change it up.. I always cum faster during intercourse if I have orgasmed before we start, say fingering or oral. So try more foreplay, or more oral before actual intercourse.

 

[bellababy211]

What positions did you try?
Did you do big spoon little spoon? where you are both laying on your side, he is behind you and can lift your leg? Doggie is too uncomfortable for you I assume? And cowgirl and reverse cowgirl are a no go too?

Im assuming you've sorta gone though the playbook of positions and arent having luck and that you are playing with yourself while he strokes but still not enough. While i didnt have this issue when i was pregnant a lot of women do. You may have to change it up.. I always cum faster during intercourse if I have orgasmed before we start, say fingering or oral. So try more foreplay, or more oral before actual intercourse.

I've tried them all and its just not comfortable. I gained my weight all in my stomach and I don't know if its because of my body frame or what but everyone says I look like I'm having twins. I know I'm not. I just am that big in my stomach. When I get ontop, my stomach is still in the way. Its crazy! And from behind, even with the pillow, there's a lot of strain on my back. But thank you so much for your suggestion! It may help a lot for me to be ready to go and spend less time in these positions and maybe I'll be so worked up I won't even notice the discomfort

 

[LordMhoram]

Have you tried...

Straddle him, facing towards his feet. He keeps his knees drawn up and apart. The idea is that you can lean forward between his legs. His knees would be against your shoulders, or upper arms if he needs to spread wider to make your belly comfortable, which should be resting between his legs without pressure. Your upper body weight is supported by his knees/lower thighs. You should be able to wrap your arms around his knees if you are sitting as I describe.

Your lower weight will be supported by your butt on his groin, but you should be able to raise yourself with your legs. You can help yourself up with your arms, and he can assist by pushing on your butt if it does not hurt your back.

If you can't raise yourself, you may be able to grind on him. If even that fails, he should be able to rock his hips and generate at least a little stroking action.

A variation...

You need something very large and conformable, like a bean bag, to rest on. You basically assume a doggy position, but use the object (I'll assume bean bag) to support your torso. You should be able to get it to conform to a comfortable position that supports you where you want it.

My ex gave birth to our third child with this setup, so I am hoping you might find it comfortable for your present state

 

[SkAoUt]

I've tried them all and its just not comfortable. I gained my weight all in my stomach and I don't know if its because of my body frame or what but everyone says I look like I'm having twins. I know I'm not. I just am that big in my stomach. When I get ontop, my stomach is still in the way. Its crazy! And from behind, even with the pillow, there's a lot of strain on my back. But thank you so much for your suggestion! It may help a lot for me to be ready to go and spend less time in these positions and maybe I'll be so worked up I won't even notice the discomfort

I don't buy it. How do you sleep at night? On your back or side or not at all these days?? Find that position when getting ready to have sex and let him figure out how to enter you. How about him standing, you on your back at the edge of the bed?

Maybe you all need to spend more time on the foreplay getting in the mood. Also sex doesn't have to involve penetration. Get into the oral action. Ask him to give you a sensual message with scented oil, light some candles and or incense, have some soft music playing. It might be that the cuddling, stroking, caresses will help relax you and make sex (in whatever form you go with) more enjoyable.

 

[bellababy211]

LordMhoram: that seems like an interesting variation! You don't understand how much it means that I'm actually getting advice. My husband is taking me out tonight and after dinner, I'm going to suggest these things! Cross your fingers and pray it goes well


SkAoUt: I really don't sleep much at this point. Between the fact that I'm still working a job in the city and the only way I'm comfortable is if my pillow is upright and I'm practically sitting up sleeping. My stomach is where I've gained all my weight and it just takes over me. The scary thing is the thought of how much bigger I could become. I think because my torso is smaller, the baby is running out of room! Haha. But... We really don't spend a lot of time on foreplay. He's so wrapped up in trying to get me to cum that he just wants to keep trying. It frustrates him and I'm asking advice because I know its causing him to feel like shit and me, to miss our connection.

 

[Eilan]

We really don't spend a lot of time on foreplay. He's so wrapped up in trying to get me to cum that he just wants to keep trying. It frustrates him and I'm asking advice because I know its causing him to feel like shit and me, to miss our connection.

Why wouldn't you spend a lot of time on foreplay? If your husband's so wrapped up in wanting you to cum, I should think he'd want to spend a lot of time on foreplay unless you're one of those women who can orgasm relatively easily through penetration. He needs to realize that it's not all about him and his ego right now.

Oh, and as someone who's been pregnant four times and gained most of my weight in my belly, I'm gonna say spooning and pillows, pillows, and more pillows. Body pillows, bed pillows, whatever you have on hand--you can never have too many pillows. Put them anywhere you feel uncomfortable for extra support.

Otherwise, hang in there--it won't be too much longer.

 

[RAddams]

It's not the end of the world if you have to hold off on intercourse for two or three months. Just use oral and fingers to get each other off.

Remember that in three months you will both be horny as hell yet too exhausted to do anything but sleep anyway.

 

[bellababy211]

Eilan: when I first got pregnant, my husband barely touched me and I was off. Haha. Now he gets upset he can't make me feel good. He's always put me first since we were teenagers together.


If you want to see my belly bump though, its in the post I have in the general discussion thread!

Here's the link to it : http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=793116

 

[brunette1989]

My suggestions could be totally off as I've never been pregnant before lol but I just thought I would offer some anyway

Maybe you could try doing some yoga or pilates classes for pregnant women? It might help stretch you out and take some strain of your back and then in turn have an easier time finding a position to have sex. Or your husband could give you a massage?

Or I guess you could just hold off sex until the baby comes and just have oral sex or use your hands..

 

[bellababy211]

My suggestions could be totally off as I've never been pregnant before lol but I just thought I would offer some anyway

Maybe you could try doing some yoga or pilates classes for pregnant women? It might help stretch you out and take some strain of your back and then in turn have an easier time finding a position to have sex. Or your husband could give you a massage?

Or I guess you could just hold off sex until the baby comes and just have oral sex or use your hands..

I wanted to take classes like those and my husband is too afraid I'll hurt myself or the baby. It would help me a lot to release tension and just relax but, he's over protective. I think I'm just going to tell him if he won't allow me to take those classes then he better provide a massage every night until this little one comes. I didn't think holding off would be bad at first, and now I can't stand it but then we try and its nothing but discomfort! Ah!

 

[brunette1989]

You need to tell him that the classes are specifically designed for pregnant women, it's not high impact exercise!

 

[bellababy211]

You need to tell him that the classes are specifically designed for pregnant women, it's not high impact exercise!

I'll make my case again to him! I'll let you know how it goes

 

[SweetErika]

I'll make my case again to him! I'll let you know how it goes

Barring special restrictions, gentle exercise and stretching will be great for you and the baby. Essentially, you want to have your heart rate at a reasonable level, avoid injury and stick with what's comfortable for you at any given time. Things like moderate exercise, stretching and prenatal massage will likely help with pregnancy discomfort, sleep, the birth process and your recovery following the birth.

Many prenatal exercise programs require a form or note from your doctor or midwife. Check into what the program(s) you'd like to attend requires, then discuss it with your provider and have her/him fill out the form or prescription at your next appointment. You could also ask your husband to go to that appointment or your provider to put a quick call into your husband if he can't attend it.

I did prenatal water aerobics, swimming (with a kickboard and more water walking as I got too big to swim without support!), prenatal massage and work at home throughout my pregnancy, and they helped tremendously. It feels amazing to be in a warmer pool and hot tub (one that's a safe heat, of course; I did this at the local hospital, so the tub was only like 100 degrees and totally safe for pregnant women). My massage therapist was specifically trained in prenatal massage and had a bunch of special pillows so I was comfortable on the table during and after my pregnancy. There are certifications for prenatal massage therapists, so just make sure you find a good one who has the necessary prenatal education and certification(s) and equipment to do a good, safe massage if you go that route. You can also ask your therapist if your husband can attend some sessions in order to learn techniques he can use on you at home.

If you have massage benefits as part of your health insurance, you may just need a prescription or referral form from your doctor, so check into that and ask for the referral or whatever your insurance requires at your next appointment. Physical therapy for pregnancy-related pain might be another option if your insurance doesn't cover massage.

If you don't go the class and/or professional massage route, simply ask your doctor about good stretches, appropriate exercises and partner massage safety from this point in your pregnancy onward.

One excellent, inexpensive thing you can do that will actually even help with childbirth is working on an exercise ball. You'll obviously need a ball that's the right size for your height, but you should be able to get that locally or online with a pump for under 20 bucks. I bet there are suggested exercises and stretches online as well, but basically anything that feels good and minimizes your risk of injury is great. There are also books and videos of prenatal and beginner exercises and yoga techniques - see what you can find online and at your local library.

If you're taking a birth preparation class or have contact info for your instructor, she might also be a good resource for ideas on stretching and gentle exercises. Our instructor was a nurse and midwife, so she was a wealth of info on stuff like that and I would have been totally comfortable asking her for ideas on sex as well.

I hope that helps some, and congratulations!

 

[bellababy211]

Barring special restrictions, gentle exercise and stretching will be great for you and the baby. Essentially, you want to have your heart rate at a reasonable level, avoid injury and stick with what's comfortable for you at any given time. Things like moderate exercise, stretching and prenatal massage will likely help with pregnancy discomfort, sleep, the birth process and your recovery following the birth.

Many prenatal exercise programs require a form or note from your doctor or midwife. Check into what the program(s) you'd like to attend requires, then discuss it with your provider and have her/him fill out the form or prescription at your next appointment. You could also ask your husband to go to that appointment or your provider to put a quick call into your husband if he can't attend it.

I did prenatal water aerobics, swimming (with a kickboard and more water walking as I got too big to swim without support!), prenatal massage and work at home throughout my pregnancy, and they helped tremendously. It feels amazing to be in a warmer pool and hot tub (one that's a safe heat, of course; I did this at the local hospital, so the tub was only like 100 degrees and totally safe for pregnant women). My massage therapist was specifically trained in prenatal massage and had a bunch of special pillows so I was comfortable on the table during and after my pregnancy. There are certifications for prenatal massage therapists, so just make sure you find a good one who has the necessary prenatal education and certification(s) and equipment to do a good, safe massage if you go that route. You can also ask your therapist if your husband can attend some sessions in order to learn techniques he can use on you at home.

If you have massage benefits as part of your health insurance, you may just need a prescription or referral form from your doctor, so check into that and ask for the referral or whatever your insurance requires at your next appointment. Physical therapy for pregnancy-related pain might be another option if your insurance doesn't cover massage.

If you don't go the class and/or professional massage route, simply ask your doctor about good stretches, appropriate exercises and partner massage safety from this point in your pregnancy onward.

One excellent, inexpensive thing you can do that will actually even help with childbirth is working on an exercise ball. You'll obviously need a ball that's the right size for your height, but you should be able to get that locally or online with a pump for under 20 bucks. I bet there are suggested exercises and stretches online as well, but basically anything that feels good and minimizes your risk of injury is great. There are also books and videos of prenatal and beginner exercises and yoga techniques - see what you can find online and at your local library.

If you're taking a birth preparation class or have contact info for your instructor, she might also be a good resource for ideas on stretching and gentle exercises. Our instructor was a nurse and midwife, so she was a wealth of info on stuff like that and I would have been totally comfortable asking her for ideas on sex as well.

I hope that helps some, and congratulations!

Wow I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me all this! Seriously thank you so much. I need to do exactly this! On the bright side, we found 2 things so far, that work quite well!

 

[recn]

you gotta be the cutest/sexiest waddling penguin ever. good luck and let us know what else does/doesn't work. i'm having fun trying to get my gf pregnant and i hope when she is, she's as raring to go as it sounds like you are so it'd be nice to know some good positions to try out at that time.

 

[NaturistLouise]

Conratulations Bellababy. it's been a while but I do recall those last few weeks. Waddling is the only description, but like I was, you still have an interest in sex which is good.

Similar to what some others said, we concentrated less on penetration and more on oral and the use of fingers. A toy may even feel good.

 

[PaulBlart]

This won't help with the original question, but an interesting tidbit of information. The prostaglandins in semen will often stimulate labor in near term pregnancies. Sooo, if you're that close and getting uncomfortable, your husband may be able to help things along. As far as positions, and I apologize if someone else has suggested this already, but my wife and I found one that worked well for us. If you can lie on your back at all, he can lie perpendicular to you and facing you, you drape your legs over him and he can enter you from this position. The belly is out of the way. But, again, the being on the back thing might preclude this for you. Good luck!

 

[Juliewife]

Pregnant

I admit is has been a while, 13 years, but I still remember. I would lay on my back with my leg raised and my husband could get in that way. We also tried me on top. I wasn't interested in having a climax by then because they always brought on contractions. Still, sex was important me.

 

[LookngForFun]

The only time I get pleasure is when I do it myself.

lol..whatever you're doing yourself..have him do!

 

[Dat510]

You are gorgeous .... Very sexy pregnant woman ... Your man is crazy I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off of you!!!