This is just a poll...how many women

[SkyyAngel]

out there have been in love with two men?

I've always considered those types of women to be kinda stupid...I never understood how they could fall into that sort of situation. Now I know better.

 

[LindaL]

I love two women. I was friends with them for years and years before the relationships turned sexual.

But neither one is my "SO" or my "soulmate". We don't live together, and I may go six months without seeing one of them. We all live independent lives (generally based around our spouses and kids) and just count ourselves lucky when we can get together.

And no, we don't all 3 of us get together at once. My lady friends have met, and know a lot about each other, but that's the extent of it.

But I suspect that my situation is not quite what you meant. Could you elaborate?

 

[BeckyAMH]

I don't think its possible to love two people at once. I don't think it would be considered real love if you did. That is just my opinion based on my experiences so take it for what its worth (which isn't really that much )

 

[SweetErika]

I'd disagree Becky. I think it's very possible to be in love with more than one person. I have been in the past...with a man I was in a relationship with and another man I had a long history with.

Was I stupid? I don't think so because as much as I wanted to stop loving and forget about the guy from the past, I just couldn't at that time. It also made me take a close look at myself and served to help me make some important decisions. A lot of good came from that pain and conflict.

 

[BeckyAMH]

I'd disagree Becky. I think it's very possible to be in love with more than one person. I have been in the past...with a man I was in a relationship with and another man I had a long history with.

Was I stupid? I don't think so because as much as I wanted to stop loving and forget about the guy from the past, I just couldn't at that time. It also made me take a close look at myself and served to help me make some important decisions. A lot of good came from that pain and conflict.

It's totally cool for you to think that, its just that as I said, from my experiences it isn't possible, but everyone has different experiences and different views on everything. I don't think this is really a question that can be answered because some people will say yes it is and some people will say it isn't.
I personally believe that you can't truly love someone if you have feelings of love for someone else as well because if you did love that person, you wouldn't need to look to others for that love, true love means you are perfectly content being with that one person and nobody else could make you happier.

 

[Kissophile]

It's totally cool for you to think that, its just that as I said, from my experiences it isn't possible, but everyone has different experiences and different views on everything. I don't think this is really a question that can be answered because some people will say yes it is and some people will say it isn't.
I personally believe that you can't truly love someone if you have feelings of love for someone else as well because if you did love that person, you wouldn't need to look to others for that love, true love means you are perfectly content being with that one person and nobody else could make you happier.

I suggest you find a copy of The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck. In it you will find an extensive examination of the nature of love and the conclusion that loving more than one person - and this means truly loving each person - is quite possible. It requires an extraordinary amount of time, energy, and attention. It is not only possible but fairly common.

 

[BeckyAMH]

I suggest you find a copy of The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck. In it you will find an extensive examination of the nature of love and the conclusion that loving more than one person - and this means truly loving each person - is quite possible. It requires an extraordinary amount of time, energy, and attention. It is not only possible but fairly common.

I don't disagree that it is possible to love more then one person, but i'm talking about true love, that one person that makes you feel like the most important person in the world, makes you feel like while they are there, nothing could ever be bad and everything will turn out ok no matter how awful things seem. I'm talking about that perfect match, nobody could be better for you and you don't need anyone else to be happy. That is what true love is to me.

 

[LindaL]

i'm talking about true love, that one person that makes you feel like the most important person in the world, makes you feel like while they are there, nothing could ever be bad and everything will turn out ok no matter how awful things seem. I'm talking about that perfect match, nobody could be better for you and you don't need anyone else to be happy. That is what true love is to me.

IMHO I'm not sure that sort of love exists. Besides, I don't believe it's good for anyone to depend on someone else to feel good about themselves. My life is wonderfully better thanks to having my husband and my friends in it, but I am an independent, capable woman in my own right, and don't need someone else to complete me. Would I be diminished if I lost my spouse? You bet. Could my life go on, and could I find a measure of happiness again. I expect so.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I feel that each of us has enough love in us for more than one person...There are all kinds of love but true love...the all encompassing, give everything over type of thing...Well I had that with my now ex husband and it was obviously one sided...So i no longer believe in that type of love...because it just isn't good for a person (self esteem mostly) Just my .02

 

[Guest]

I've never been in love with two men at once... because for me, I kind of agree/relate to what Becky has said. If I'm in love with someone, I'm not looking for someone else or paying attention to anyone else...

If that makes sense. Basically, I'm in love with my boyfriend now... because I am in love with him, I'm not interested in anyone else.

for everyone who finds themselves in a love triangle though... those are often very difficult...

 

[BeckyAMH]

IMHO I'm not sure that sort of love exists.

I think it exists, in fact I know it does because I have it right now and I believe that everyone has that one person for them. Some people don't think there is because they have had someone in their past who they thought was the one and ended up hurting them and vow to never love again. I think that that justs means they havn't found their perfect match yet and shouldn't give up, keep looking and you will find him/her.

 

[BeckyAMH]

If that makes sense. Basically, I'm in love with my boyfriend now... because I am in love with him, I'm not interested in anyone else.

Thats exactly what I'm saying, thank you for saying it that way, makes more sense to me now as well lol

 

[Guest]

Thats exactly what I'm saying, thank you for saying it that way, makes more sense to me now as well lol

No problem, lol.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I think it exists, in fact I know it does because I have it right now and I believe that everyone has that one person for them. Some people don't think there is because they have had someone in their past who they thought was the one and ended up hurting them and vow to never love again. I think that that justs means they havn't found their perfect match yet and shouldn't give up, keep looking and you will find him/her.

I don't believe in 'the one'. There are many, many people who come into your life who bring their individual set of magical delights with them. We can and do appreciate them fully, and we can and do love them fully.

Being in love with two men is as easy as loving two dear friends - neither is precluded or diminished by the other.

 

[BeckyAMH]

I don't believe in 'the one'. There are many, many people who come into your life who bring their individual set of magical delights with them. We can and do appreciate them fully, and we can and do love them fully.

Being in love with two men is as easy as loving two dear friends - neither is precluded or diminished by the other.

While it is true that many people come into your life and make you who you are, I believe that there is only one person that you can spend the rest of your life with and be as happy as you can be.

Love between friends and family is totally different to being in love.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I do agree about only one person...I just happen to believe that that one person is yourself...we share with others or one other

Perhaps I am jaded but I honestly believe you can love...be in love with more than one man...I will always be in love with my ex husband but I also believe I will find another to fall in love with

 

[BeckyAMH]

I do agree about only one person...I just happen to believe that that one person is yourself...we share with others or one other

Perhaps I am jaded but I honestly believe you can love...be in love with more than one man...I will always be in love with my ex husband but I also believe I will find another to fall in love with

Everyone has a different opinion, I'm not trying to change your ideas or anything, just trying to explain mine as well.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Everyone has a different opinion, I'm not trying to change your ideas or anything, just trying to explain mine as well.

Oh I understand and I think we are all doing the same *smiles*

Just talk here...not trying to change or convince anyone of anything

X12 for you

 

[LindaL]

I think it exists, in fact I know it does because I have it right now and I believe that everyone has that one person for them. Some people don't think there is because they have had someone in their past who they thought was the one and ended up hurting them and vow to never love again. I think that that justs means they havn't found their perfect match yet and shouldn't give up, keep looking and you will find him/her.

No offense, but you sound like me when I was a teen, nearly 30 years ago.

But after 25 years of marriage, triumphs, failures, deaths of children, parents, friends, emergency surgeries, separations (both voluntary and involuntary), I've found that lives and loves are what we choose to make of them.

I do not believe I will ever love anyone romantically as much and as intensely as I do my hub. But I do know I have the capacity to love others in a similar vein, and I damn well know the difference between being in love and infatuation.

 

[LindaL]

On rereading, that sounded a bit snarky. Sorry, I don't mean it that way.

 

[BeckyAMH]

No offense, but you sound like me when I was a teen, nearly 30 years ago.

But after 25 years of marriage, triumphs, failures, deaths of children, parents, friends, emergency surgeries, separations (both voluntary and involuntary), I've found that lives and loves are what we choose to make of them.

I do not believe I will ever love anyone romantically as much and as intensely as I do my hub. But I do know I have the capacity to love others in a similar vein, and I damn well know the difference between being in love and infatuation.

No offense taken, I am a teen still afterall.

I know I haven't been around as long as alot of people, being just 19 and all, but I think I've experienced quite alot in life. The ups and downs have made me who I am today and I'm happy with who I am, in fact I think I'm happier then I have ever been and most of that is because I am more in love then I have been and that love grows everyday and I know in my heart that nobody else could make me feel that way.

 

[BeckyAMH]

On rereading, that sounded a bit snarky. Sorry, I don't mean it that way.

Don't worry about it, its all good

 

[BeckyAMH]

Oh I understand and I think we are all doing the same *smiles*

Just talk here...not trying to change or convince anyone of anything

X12 for you

Thanks

 

[LadyJeanne]

No offense taken, I am a teen still afterall.

I know I haven't been around as long as alot of people, being just 19 and all, but I think I've experienced quite alot in life. The ups and downs have made me who I am today and I'm happy with who I am, in fact I think I'm happier then I have ever been and most of that is because I am more in love then I have been and that love grows everyday and I know in my heart that nobody else could make me feel that way.

Ahh, I remember feeling that way. Our loves grow and mature as we do, and you will one day feel love far more deeply than you can even imagine today. There are as many loves as there are needs to fill within us, and as many as we fill for others. Love is not finite.

 

[BeckyAMH]

Ahh, I remember feeling that way. Our loves grow and mature as we do, and you will one day feel love far more deeply than you can even imagine today. There are as many loves as there are needs to fill within us, and as many as we fill for others. Love is not finite.

I don't doubt that I will feel love more deeply then I do today, I just know that he is the one who can fufill all of my needs and I know we will be together forever no matter what. You can call it being naive but I just like to call it being happy with what I have.