This can't be good

[rgraham666]

The weather has turned very nice here in Toronto.

So I've been taking advantage of it by walking a fair deal.

About 15 minutes from where I live is a park with a boardwalk on the beach at the edge of Lake Ontario. Very pleasant place to walk.

And it being warm, there are a lot of women out and about, playing volleyball, sunning, walking their dogs.

Last year, I would look at them, and my libido would fire up. Even if just for a second, a part of me would wonder what she would be like wrapped around me, thrusting against me. Or whatever.

This year, nothing. I can appreciate their beauty, but there isn't the slightest bit of carnal interest anymore.

This can't be good.

 

[minsue]

I go through that myself off and on, Rob. Luckily, (so far) it always passes. I guess it's lucky. I'm not sure. It's far less tormenting when I've no interest.

 

[Goldie Munro]

The ebbs and flow of life RG!

 

[dizzylia]

Ebb and flow

Our bodies seem to have a natural flow, a process by which it tries to balance itself. Perhaps if you find your sex drive lacking, it could mean there is some other need taking precedence.

... I guess that wasn't very helpful. Sorry. Just something to consider, maybe.


-dizzy

 

[Guest]

Darling, if you had wild, raging hormone-fests 24/7 you'd have a stroke. Honestly.

Or you'd be 18 years old.

Just a thought.

Edited to add - Men with a bit of self-control are much more exciting.

 

[dizzylia]

Edited to add - Men with a bit of self-control are much more exciting.

So very, very true.

 

[rgraham666]

I go through that myself off and on, Rob. Luckily, (so far) it always passes. I guess it's lucky. I'm not sure. It's far less tormenting when I've no interest.

It's never happened to me before. It's rather frightening.

I'm not saying I'm turned on 24/7, but when I see something that should turn me on, and doesn't, I worry.

 

[Guest]

 

[SeaCat]

Rob,
I wouldn't be too worried about it if I was you. I am a horny young bastard all of 39 years old and even now sometimes when I walk around and look at the ladies I don't feel that stirring you mention. It's not a big deal, it just means that what or who you are looking at really doesn't turn your crank. Hell hanging around here can do that to a guy. Just think about some of the wonderfully open young ladies here and I'm sure you'll be able to chip your way through concrete in no time.

Cat

 

[Guest]

It's never happened to me before. It's rather frightening.

I'm not saying I'm turned on 24/7, but when I see something that should turn me on, and doesn't, I worry.

Rob - What has changed lately in your life?

New type of diet, different medication, different work hours, lack of sleep lately, etc.?

Can you see a doctor with your concerns? Perhaps a phone call would ease your mind.

 

[Liar]

I get the same thing whenever the general stress level in my life is too high. Like now, too much to do and too many important things to juggle at the same time.. I can't relax enough to get the mental groove on. it's annoying ad hell, but also a goodwarning signal that I should try to slow down.

 

[rgraham666]

Rob - What has changed lately in your life?

New type of diet, different medication, different work hours, lack of sleep lately, etc.?

Can you see a doctor with your concerns? Perhaps a phone call would ease your mind.

No changes in diet, no meds at all, can't work, always short of sleep. so no changes there.

I'll see what happens. Back in therapy. That might help.

Thanks.

Lilred, my last breakup was over a decade ago. I hardly even date anymore. Last one was a year ago. No chance of one in the future, don't know any single women, currently.

 

[minsue]

It's never happened to me before. It's rather frightening.

I'm not saying I'm turned on 24/7, but when I see something that should turn me on, and doesn't, I worry.

It's a symptom of depression for many, Rob. You may want to mention it to your doctor along with the fact that this is not common for you.

*HUGS*

 

[sweetnpetite]

It's never happened to me before. It's rather frightening.

I'm not saying I'm turned on 24/7, but when I see something that should turn me on, and doesn't, I worry.

Don't be afraid to see a doctor about it. It could be fixable. Or it could be a sign of a physical problem (like diabetes or something else) that you really need to get checked out. It could also be phychological- or it could be related to medicine you are taking.

ASK.



Best of luck

 

[oggbashan]

It can also be a sign of low blood pressure. That is what Viagra and others rectify.

I think that Minsue has it - another symptom of depression. If two or three of those women decided to make you the meat in a sandwich - the symptom would disappear very quickly. You could ask them to try.

Og

 

[rgraham666]

It can also be a sign of low blood pressure. That is what Viagra and others rectify.

I think that Minsue has it - another symptom of depression. If two or three of those women decided to make you the meat in a sandwich - the symptom would disappear very quickly. You could ask them to try.

Og

I would rather do something safe, like patrol duty in Iraq.

At least I would know what I was doing in the latter case.

I thought about this last night, chatted with a friend about it and came to this conclusion.

I believe that what has happened is that my mind has relegated the hope of a woman in my life to the same category as winning the lottery.

I don't waste energy in impossibilities.