Thinking About Anal

[EnglishRoseFox]

Hi
Well I thought I may as well jump straight in as there doesn't seem to be anyone in 'life' I feel comfortable asking about this stuff.
I'm increasingly thinking about anal sex although for years the idea left me totally cold. I was in a bad marriage so maybe that had a lot to do with it. These days I find I'm seeking out the stories with anal in them and am fascinated by it. But......I am scared, and to be honest not sure whether I would like it or not. I know there's only one way to find out....
Anyway, maybe you could share your experiences with me, I just cant imagine what it would feel like I just keep thinking about being taken up the arse roughly and the thought makes me hot. I'm not big on pain don't get me wrong.
I've just started a new relationship with a man that makes me wet just looking at him and we haven't discussed it yet but any helpful hints would be great
Thank you in advance
The Fox

 

[Chicklet]

it's definitely a different sensation, and whether it's one you enjoy will remain to be seen.

go slow.

use lots of lube.

don't be afraid to 'practice' with toys, working your way up in size until you're comfortable enough to try with someone else.

check the blank manual for more anal suggestions - there are quite a few of them around.

 

[rthnck]

there are numerous threads on this. go to the "Blank Manual" at the top of the forum and you'll find some of the better advice or search for anal in the threadtitles and you'll find all youever wanted.

my adviceis take it slow and use lots of lube. good luck

 

[emap]

Well the best bit of information I have on trying anal is to go to the porn shop and buy yourself an anal toy and lube. Not precisely a butt plug, though if you enjoy having a dildo or vibrator back there moving about, buy a butt plug as well so you will enjoy when you give your man your arse.

If you already have a platic bullet vibe say you can use that there, though with a condom on. I say that because it is best to have two sets of toys, one for there and one for the regular place.

Two reasons, cleanliness, and what works in the back doesn't always work in the front and vice versa. For instance a rabbit would be a little weird back there. You know come to think of it most likely someone will come along and comment on how good a rabbit is back there, or not who knows.

Oh and don't go from back to front unless he takes a good shower or wore a condom for the back because that is a really, really good way of getting infected.

I think I covered everything, though if I did or not a few more will come along and give you suggestions.

 

[__amy__]

What I did was to experiment with a few small toys first, as then you will get to know the feeling and if you like it or not, if you do, then you will be able to move on to either slightly bigger toys or introducing it to your new partner, you just have to make sure that you are both comfortable with it and you take it very slow and make sure you have good communication between the both of you as if one of you need to stop for any reason you will be bale to, and one of the most important things, use lube!

Hope it helps and good luck!

 

[mjl2010]

Just from a guys point of view.

Pick a guy you can count on to take it easy the first time and who you feel comfortable with. Get a good bottle of lube, give it to him and get on your hands and knees. Tell him it's your first time trying this and you want him to go slow.

He should slowly work up from just rubbing lube on the outside to two fingers inside and use LOTS of lube. One hand slowly getting your butt ready, the other paying plenty of attention to your other parts. There is no reason why the warm up shouldn't feel good.

When two fingers is easy and comfortable, make a judgement based on how big his cock is. If its on the thick side, maybe he should work up to three fingers. If not, two will be fine. You'll still be stretched some but thats kind of the point.

Lots of lube on his cock. More on the outside of your anus. Lots of lube. You can't use too much really. You need to relax and He should go slow. Steady pressure and maybe you could push back some. I've been told though, that getting the initial penetration out of the way can be best. If he's done his job, then it shouldn't really hurt or not much anyway. Once his head slips past your anal ring, he should stop a moment so you can get used to him being there.

NOTE: If this is his first time too, then he's not going to last long. Maybe make it the second or third go around for him. Or even the fourth if he's young.

After a minute, he can start to move slowly. Not thrusting yet. Just slowly in and out about an inch. Then slowly more and more. It will get to a point where he can move quite easily and for most women, it will feel good. It's been described to me as feeling "Nasty Good".

It sure wouldn't hurt if you were rubbing your little button at this point. Don't be afraid to stop him and ask for more lube. The key words here are Lube and Slow! Lot's of lube, Go slow. In case you missed it. Lots of lube and go slow.

The first time, I wouldn't expect fireworks although that's certainly possible. Later on, when you've gotten used to it, he can go faster, harder and deeper. Although deep isn't how I like to cum, just right there in that muscle ring is perfect for me after some good deep strokes.

A word about his thrusting. At first, he should avoid pulling his cock back past your anal ring. Save that for later on when you've had some experience.

You'll find people have varying opinions on the dangers and cleanliness of the act. If you find you're worrying about that aspect, eat light the 12 hours prior to doing it and then clean yourself out with an enema. Unless he's your life partner, you should be using a condom anyway. I can't recall ever getting what I'd say is dirty from doing this. On the other hand, others have said they have.

Never go from anal to vaginal with any toy, cock or finger. Someone said to have separate toys for that kind of play. It's a good idea.

So this is how I usually approach it when it's her first time for this. So far I haven't had any complaints. Only compliments. I doubt it works for everyone. You'll have to find your own way.

So. Enjoy and be sure to come back and give us a fully detailed report!

MJL

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

Thankyou for all your words of advice. Am big on the 'cleanliness' (whilst being totally dirty) thing so I think I got that side of it covered. I guess I'll never know until I try eh?

Thanks again.....time to shop me thinks *grin* x

 

[Sinfullgirl]

Thinking about anal

I have just had anal sex for the first time this past year. I too found the thought of it really hot.
I had an affair with someone who had a fetish for ass. He was a complete ass man. Wanted to lick my asshole, finger fuck it, and eventually fuck my ass.
I love it. I have the best orgasms this way. More intense.
Start out with some toys on yourself like some anal beads or a butt plug, use lot of lube. The best lube i have found is a silicone based lube that never gets sticky or dries up. It is called millenium Id. Put some lube inside of yourself too. When you think you have enough lube add somemore. Go slow, practice relaxing your asshole. (make sure you go to the bathroom before you try anything anal!!!) Very messy if you don't.
Talk to your partner. Make sure you call the shots. Tell him not to push in but let you push back on him when you are ready to take the cock in there. Masterbate yourself as he fucks you up the ass. You are going to love it. It is fucking fantastic. He is going to love it to because it is so tight around his cock.

Good luck.

 

[Hail27]

Relax

I really enjoy anal it gets better everytime i do it and now I love it.
Most others have commented on going slow and plenty of lube and I would have to agree, playing with some anal toys is also helpful.
But to be honest for me nothing really compares to the feel of a hard cock entering you back there.
The key thing after the preparation, lube and going slow is to relax and let it feel good. Tensing up may just increase the discomfort, so relax, breath deeply as he enters you, go slow and enjoy.

 

[jvolnay]

Try small first

I had a girlfriend that wanted to try anal and we both went to the toy store and picked out several anal toys and lots of lube. We experimented slowly over several "sessions" and eventually when she was ready we used lots of foreplay. The foreplay was extensive and I think it made her so horny that it was easier for her to try anal the first time.

I performed oral on her clit and labia for a long long time while inserting a "medium" toy into her butt and then when she was on the verge of cumming I slowly slid my cockhead only into her and then gradually the rest of my cock.

She really enjoyed it but I also stimulated her clit the whole time.

Hope this helps.

 

[Warmfantasies]

Hi English,

I see there's lots of excellent tips and advice here, so I'll just say how I feel about it.

About a year ago I started to wonder about that, it never had interested me all that much before but I got curious.

So we tried it. The result was that I absolutely love it ! My orgasms are more intense and they seem to last longer.

If you decide to try, go slow, and enjoy

Warm greetings,

WF

 

[bipat69]

My wife likes to use her vibrator on her clit before and while having anal. She loves it, may be worth a try.

 

[iciclely]

Relax totally, lots of lube and take it slowly..........enjoy

 

[Hand_Pict]

Pick a guy you can count on to take it easy the first time and who you feel comfortable with. Get a good bottle of lube, give it to him and get on your hands and knees. Tell him it's your first time trying this and you want him to go slow.

He should slowly work up from just rubbing lube on the outside to two fingers inside and use LOTS of lube. One hand slowly getting your butt ready, the other paying plenty of attention to your other parts. There is no reason why the warm up shouldn't feel good.

When two fingers is easy and comfortable, make a judgement based on how big his cock is. If its on the thick side, maybe he should work up to three fingers. If not, two will be fine. You'll still be stretched some but thats kind of the point.

Lots of lube on his cock. More on the outside of your anus. Lots of lube. You can't use too much really. You need to relax and He should go slow. Steady pressure and maybe you could push back some. I've been told though, that getting the initial penetration out of the way can be best. If he's done his job, then it shouldn't really hurt or not much anyway. Once his head slips past your anal ring, he should stop a moment so you can get used to him being there.

NOTE: If this is his first time too, then he's not going to last long. Maybe make it the second or third go around for him. Or even the fourth if he's young.

After a minute, he can start to move slowly. Not thrusting yet. Just slowly in and out about an inch. Then slowly more and more. It will get to a point where he can move quite easily and for most women, it will feel good. It's been described to me as feeling "Nasty Good".

It sure wouldn't hurt if you were rubbing your little button at this point. Don't be afraid to stop him and ask for more lube. The key words here are Lube and Slow! Lot's of lube, Go slow. In case you missed it. Lots of lube and go slow.

The first time, I wouldn't expect fireworks although that's certainly possible. Later on, when you've gotten used to it, he can go faster, harder and deeper. Although deep isn't how I like to cum, just right there in that muscle ring is perfect for me after some good deep strokes.

A word about his thrusting. At first, he should avoid pulling his cock back past your anal ring. Save that for later on when you've had some experience.

You'll find people have varying opinions on the dangers and cleanliness of the act. If you find you're worrying about that aspect, eat light the 12 hours prior to doing it and then clean yourself out with an enema. Unless he's your life partner, you should be using a condom anyway. I can't recall ever getting what I'd say is dirty from doing this. On the other hand, others have said they have.

Never go from anal to vaginal with any toy, cock or finger. Someone said to have separate toys for that kind of play. It's a good idea.

So this is how I usually approach it when it's her first time for this. So far I haven't had any complaints. Only compliments. I doubt it works for everyone. You'll have to find your own way.

So. Enjoy and be sure to come back and give us a fully detailed report!

MJL

I think MJL's post is as close to perfect advice for your first time.

If you are keen and the thought of it is making you horny - just make absolutely sure - whoever you entrust with this is 110% gentle and understanding.

Lots of lube and take it slowly!

Enjoy yourself - I'm sure your partner will - just remind him of all of the above so that it's not anything less than a wonderful/horny/dirty/fun experience!

 

[questnboy]

Clean!

Get a Table about thigh high and put a dildo on it. Sit up and down...

You'll stay clean if you are clean in there, adds to anticipation!

 

[Arafura]

I would echo the vibe on the clit advice. Also, make sure you're relaxed...tensing up will make it hurt. The vibe helps to distract/relax you if it feels a little uncomfortable at first.

If you want some good tips, I liked this article:

http://www.headtease.com/fun-in-the-bum/anal-tips-from-a-girl-who-grew-to-love-it1.php

Warning: explicit pictures on this site!

[Full disclosure: I have written stories for this magazine.]

 

[HockeyShark]

Slow. Lube. Good communication.

3 Musts of Anal.

 

[EnglishRoseFox]

Thankyou

For all your words of advice. Unfortunately I split up with my b/f so my first experience wont be with him after all..but am still really into the idea and hope that my next partner will be too

Fox xx

 

[Martlets79]

Based on your photos...

I'd love to help ;o)

Whenever I've had anal sex with my g/f, it's gone something like this.

First thing in the morning, long after any meals were eaten. Get the practicalities out of the way - brush teeth, clear bowels, wash.

Start with lots of massage oil. Massage the back, starting from the small of the back and working upwards and outwards in a tree-shape motion. Include shoulders and neck. Work for as long as is needed to relax the back muscles.

Move down, still with massage oil, across the buttocks, down to the calves. Give them a good massage, then up to the thighs, and finally back up to the buttocks. Use oil on the clit and the pussy until thoroughly wet, then move up to the anus. This is the only time you switch from one to t'other, and always in that order.

Initially massage oil is fine for the anus, and may be enough to get one finger in. Lubricant needed for more fingers. We've found it easy to move up to three fingers using just time, patience and lubricant.

If you're ready, move up onto your knees, thoroughly lube up the man's cock, move lube on the anus, arch your back (the angle helps entry, especially now you're all slippery) and he eases himself in.

She loves the sensation, but in terms of cuming in sync we find her finger on her clit gets her there, and by then her hand rubbing my balls is enough to get me there.

 

[lindahotstuff]

I agree with all the advice here, and as I have said many time before on Lit, you need to in control, not the guy and you must use plenty of lube.
The good thing is, that after persisting with the first few times when you are naturally uptight, you loosen up and you can gradually increase the size of cock or toy that goes in. I have been enjoying anal sex with my partners for a few years now and I can take any size cock in there now. And wait until you try your first double penetration, one in each hole at the same time is a real joy to look orward to. Best of luck
Lin

 

[CorsetLvr]

I'm going to skip over the technical aspects of anal sex that have already been well covered.

Based on my own experience and a lot of other women's that I have talked to on the subject, I would say that the biggest problem that a lot of women have with anal is bad first experiences. A common scenario is early experiences with an unskilled, impatient, or selfish lover. Naturally, these are not attributes that make for good anal sex and almost always result in a painful experience. Because of this, a woman tends to associate pain with anal and it sort of becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. She expects pain, can't relax enough, and the lack of relaxation results in pain. I think another common issue is the thought that "I'm dirty back there."

I was the same way for many years until I finally taught myself to relax through anal self exploration as part of my mastubatory exploration. I'm a small woman, including "back there," and I still experience some pain during the early stages of anal sex. However, with the help of a caring lover I have discovered that is just something to get through in order to reap the rewards of pleasure later on. Besides, I have developed a certain taste for the pleasure/pain associated with the early stages of anal sex. I do not think that is typical with all women though and may have a lot to do with their own level of pain tolerance. Any pain whatsoever that is part of sex is considered by some women to be a bad thing. On the other hand I know of women that experience no pain whatsoever. A lot of that may be the result in physical variation or perhaps just their level of experience in this regard. I have found that a nice warm enema resolves the "dirtiness" problem and besides its a turn on for me to prepare myself for having my bottom made love to. Someone once said that sex is 90% psychological. This is definitely the case here. The taboo nature of anal sex can be both a turn on or a turn off for many women. Most women that I have met that enjoy anal tend be more open minded and willing to explore their sexuality. Then on the other hand I have met women that get little from it and its something they do to please their partner.

There are other aspects of anal sex that make it a unique experience. It requires a level of trust and intimacy greater then that associated with oral or vaginal sex. For me there is a sense that I am "giving myself" to my lover. For many women there is also a certain degree of submissiveness associated with anal sex. They are being "taken" by their lover. This may or may not be true, but its part of what is going on inside their heads that may add to the experience for them.

Anyway, I just wanted to throw in my two cents to this conversation. I hope it was of some help.

 

[kimbernee]

I think I enjoy the pleasure/pain too. The pain is really pleasure but if I didn't have the mindset that sometimes pain is pleasure, I'm not sure I'd enjoy anal.

 

[Rip142]

A couple of years ago, during foreplay I lightly rubbed my wifes anus and it drove her thru the roof. Now it's a regular part of our sex play. Usually, during a weekend morning we cuddle in bed and I start to run my fingers slowly down her back. Slowly but surely, she'll roll over on her stomach and gradually spreads her legs. I lightly begin to stroke her anus, usually with a little sliva or lube. Before long, her anus will slowly loosen up and sometimes it feels like it's literally sucking my finger up inside her! Before long I usually get behind her, continually working her bum while, with my other hand I insert my fingers up side her pussy (rubbing her G-spot) while simultaneously rubbing her clit. Before for too long she's moaning and writhing around like crazy. Her orgasms are incredibly stong, and seem to go on forever!. After she seems spent, I'll ask her to roll over on her back and I'll then go down on her, very gently sucking her clit and licking her pussy. As I feel her buiding up to another orgasm, I usually slide a well lubricated finger up her anus as she's cumming. This drive her mad with pleasure.

That's our anal fun! - Rip

 

[nakedboylooking]

wow i feel like the dirty boy here i recieved anal 2 summers ago i was 20 she stared without lube i didnt have anything either realy so ended up using a lil showergel.. was a very intense experience as i had both my legs open and she was a really hot hot girl with a great body and short hair pumping her fist into me was really something that i will remember for a long time very vividly i think since then and even more recently i love a little anal play when i masturbate just adds a little something......

sorry if i freak anyone out too much....