things you wish you could have said

[Guest]

was with a friend the other day and I know that because of circumstance I probably won't see her again..... there were so many things I wanted to say but didn't want to put pressure on her or spoil the mood

writing, emailing, phoning are not an option

so how do you cope with knowing that there was something you wanted so desperately to say (like goodbye) but knew you couldn't.

I'm miserable.

 

[April]

You just accept your miserableness and force yourself through the day. After a while, it won't bug you so much.

Sucky advice, but it's the truth.

 

[Guest]

Use it as motivation to think about them often and, if possible, contact them again someday.

 

[Monazwx]

4 Miserable

Lost opportunities always hurt for a while, but time really does heal.

 

[amelia]

time...what an asshole!

i don't know your exact circumstance..but something similar happened to me too...i had a friend for about 10 years...we were totally in love with each other, but could never make that step..ya know the one were you throw caution to the wind...and move from friend to more....anyway...he ended up marrying another woman that doesn't like me b/c of the closeness i share with her husband..<and i totally understand..i wouldn't like me either..if i were in her situation..i mean..would you want your husband/wife to be friends with the first girl they ever kisses/groped?> so we can't even be friends anymore b/c i respect marriage and wouldn't want to put him in a situation where he would have problems with his wife..but everyday i think...why didn't i just tell him how i felt before it was to late...?? and i wonder...would he have wanted that..? or is he happier now? anyway..times doesn't heal all wounds..sometimes it just makes them nastier with a bigger scar...so my advice..always take a chance! sorry to depress.....i'm usually much more upbeat then that....really i am...now i feel bad..it's going to be ok....your chance will come again...

~~Amelia

 

[SilverVeil]

Sometimes when you can say nothing ..... nothing is what is best said.

My grandmother told me that one day. It took me years to grow up and understand what she meant. A friends husband died. Everyone she knew told her advice and how things would get better. I did not know what to say, I was completely at loss for words to say to her in her time of grief. Other than the initial " I'm so sorry. " Which seemed so lame at the time.

I stayed with her during the funeral, took care of her house, ran errands for her, took phone messages..... all the little bitty things. But yet I never once in that time talked to her about Dan.

Three years later, she called me and told me that those three weeks with me meant more to her than anything anyone said to her at the wake and funeral service.

 

[alexandraaah]

It can be helpful to write a letter even if you can't send it.

Hell, I wish I hadn't sent most of the letters that I've written in your state.

Could be cathartic.

Good luck,

Alex

 

[princess4u]

words unspoken

i was once involved with a guy that continually told me not to tell him that i loved him - he didn't "believe" in love, yada yada yada - well one day out of the blue he tells me he is marrying someone else - i was completely floored - of course like most women i accepted all the blame and asked what did i do wrong to lose him like that - he said "you never told me you loved me" ~

 

[Cloak38]

I think it depends on what you needed to say.

Regret is a terrible thing.

While in college I met a woman whom I instantly liked. And who liked me. We flirted with each other, even went out on these " unofficial" dates. Looking back, I think she really wanted me to take that next step. But I didn't. Call it nerves, stupidity or blindness. Whatever it was, I didn't act. We gradually saw less and less of each other. Then her family moved, she left school and I never saw her again.

To this day, I think about her and what might have been...