things women wish men would understand

[MindYaBitness]

Yes yes I get it, I challenged the false but popular narrative that women are victims and men are evil oppressors so now I'm the enemy. Yawn. The cognitive dissonance is astounding.

Men are evil oppressors? Someone challenges you, a stranger on the internet, and you assume we don't like men? You're giving yourself a lot of credit.

To get back on topic: we wish/hope men understand that we know not all of you are like Mr. Emotional here.

 

[butters]

Yes yes I get it, I challenged the false but popular narrative that women are victims and men are evil oppressors so now I'm the enemy. Yawn. The cognitive dissonance is astounding.

I agree women aren't some unknowable creatures, and good communication is the way to go... but a lot of guys harbour certain impressions of what women (as a collective, rather than individuals) like when it comes to relationships. History is a great indicator of how women were victims/chattels/second-class citizens and what have you. Times have changed and will continue to do so, hopefully for the better even as the magats in America attempt to return women to their 'place' as experienced in the '50s.

yes, i did start this thread off as a light-hearted one where some less experienced (or poorly experienced) guys could accept a few hints, with the intention of it being a place for women (or others posting from a female's perspective) to put some stuff out there some guys might not know. Having been at lit going on 15 years, i knew some men would jump in, for a variety of reasons.

Now if you really want a woman to know something about the way you, as a man, think and intend to communicate it in the same kind of tone we went for here, there's a guys thread mirroring this and has been fun to read—if somewhat predictable To decide anyone who doesn't agree with your position or posting here is a man-hater? well that smacks of entitlement, someone who doesn't respond well to being called out on something by a woman, and could have all been avoided if you'd wanted to.

 

[butters]

Good thing you don't represent all women then otherwise I'd be in trouble! In any case I deal with people as individuals not genders.

there's a thread for this

it's called:

what men wish women would understand

 

[butters]

TLR, I'm assuming that it's in similar vein to some of the other responses I've received so please see previous answer - if not I do apologise!

am i surprised? no. It takes a certain type to be proud of not reading and therefore not being able to interact with any credibility whatsoever, and not even understand how to use the keys properly to avoid a green grinny face where you intended to type a D

now in the flavour of the thread:

a man's apology, when offered disingenuously, means nothing and to accept it would be to belittle oneself.

 

[butters]

*TLDR

oh look, you worked it out

and still sounded dumb

 

[butters]

Ah good, I assumed correctly! No time wasted. And no apology required xx

you didn't.

no genuine one offered, so no need to accept it.

 

[butters]

I did type a D actually - it appears if you put a colon in front of it, the site creates an emoji for you. I didn't know that and the reason for that is that I have a life off here, away from screens and with real people!

of course you do.

 

[butters]

Goodness, you're coming at me over typing mistakes?! I must have really got to you ahahahahaa

for the thread:

if a woman corrects you over a typo, she's probably trying to save you embarrassment by showing you your error

a woman pointing out a typo is not "coming for you"

a woman who pulls you on the misuse of an emoji where a letter was required is laughing AT you, not responding to being "got to". how bizarre and, quite frankly, insecure of you.

now, you've used up all the time i have granted you for now...hope you feel that little bit more special EMOJI>>>>

 

[KatieDoes]

NotAllMen….. but definitely this fucking guy.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Loool it's clear you don't like men! No assumption needed ahahaha

Yes, I don't agree with you, ergo, I don't like men.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

Loool it's clear you don't like men! No assumption needed ahahaha

I like men. But I don’t like misogynists. Even ones who are just in it for the Lols.

 

[KatieDoes]

I like men. But I don’t like misogynists. Even ones who are just in it for the Lols.

It’s always telling when a man takes disliking misogyny is an attack on him.

 

[MindYaBitness]

That appears to be what Bright Shiny Girl thinks as well (swapping out men for women obvs)

i have rarely, if ever, encountered a person so desperate to intentionally misunderstand.

 

[MindYaBitness]

To echo Tigobitties, disagreeing with women doesn't equal misogyny. But you don't like men, cos you've tried to get involved in this attempted pile on (which in itself is pretty good evidence of dislike of men)

The fact that you see this thread as an "attempted pile on" says more about your own deep insecurities as a man than it does about BrightShinyGirl.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Me to literally every single woman trying to pile on me in this thread!

You entered a thread of women stating their genuine feelings & wishes, and chose to see these statements not as they were intended, but through your own skewed view. Push back is not pile up.

 

[MindYaBitness]

On the contrary, I dared to say something against the party line and answered every single invective laden screed civilly and with very little effort.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

To echo Tigobitties, disagreeing with women doesn't equal misogyny. But you don't like men, cos you've tried to get involved in this attempted pile on (which in itself is pretty good evidence of dislike of men)

No. I don’t like you.

 

[KatieDoes]

When they are this insistently pathetic, it always makes me wonder if they are here fulfilling some sort of humiliation kink. Like it’s a turn on for him to be put in his place by women so much smarter and quicker than he is. It seems a likely reason to seek out threads by/for women and be combative and keep pushing for responses.


I try to not kink shame, especially here. I also don’t want to participate in someone’s kink without my full knowledge and consent.

Maybe he’s jerking off to it. Maybe not. But it’s an ignore from me moving forward.

 

[OnaTangent]

Are we off topic?

 

[KatieDoes]

Are we off topic?

We?

 

[OnaTangent]

The universe of litsters

 

[jehoram]

I like men. But I don’t like misogynists. Even ones who are just in it for the Lols.

I get that. I find it baffling that a guy would want to cut himself off from half the human race.

In the same way, I regard misandrists the same way. But I cut them more slack, since there are so many dickheads who are begging to be despised.

 

[KatieDoes]

I get that. I find it baffling that a guy would want to cut himself off from half the human race.

In the same way, I regard misandrists the same way. But I cut them more slack, since there are so many dickheads who are begging to be despised.

They aren‘t cut off from half, though. There are lots of women with internalized misogyny, and lots of misogynists date or marry them.

Look around here…. Plenty of men that hate women have wives.

 

[Helpme01]

No I'm happy to be told I'm wrong if I am. I'm also not so desperate for sex or female attention that I have to sycophantically virtue signal, hoping for a crumb. You can't relate, it appears lol.

Oh sick burn

 

[girlsmiley]

There's a lot of invective in all your posts I've noticed - the record will show that I've not called you any names or sworn at you at all. That's because there's a stark difference in calibre between us.

I don't know what circles you mix in but it appears to be an extraordinarily low bar as you're far too old to be so angry and hysterical and foul-mouthed. Like you're not a teenager any more, it's time to grow up. I hope you get the help that you need but I can assure you I won't be responding to such a coarse and grubby individual as yourself on purpose. Many thanks

I’ll tell you something right now. As a woman who has been raised around big Aussie men. Much bigger than this young feather.

A bloke like this will only be shut the fuck up by men.

Just let him talk. The blokes will tell him to fuck off. It’s only a matter of time. He’s not smart, he’s just mouthy. Just leave him alone and the boys will sort him out. Guaranteed.