Things to say during sex

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So far I've got five sex scenes in the draft of my series, and I'm trying to make them as different and in-character as possible. This thread helped me a lot with introducing variety into the narration, but what about the actual words that characters say during sex? There's only so many times I can use ohh, ahh, oh my god, oh jesus. I also tend to stay away from things like "fuck me" or "suck it" when characters are already performing said actions, because, well, looks a bit silly in paper.

So far I've got:
  • yes
  • fuck
  • that's it
  • keep going
  • just like that

What else do people say when they're having sex?
 
You'd have more fun if you had sex and found out what people say first hand. :)
 
You'd have more fun if you had sex and found out what people say first hand. :)

I was thinking the same thing.

What gets said depends on the woman and the circumstances of the liaison. Some of the married ones like to talk about cucking their husbands or their illicit pregnancies, or how they like the feelings of wildness affairs bring. Some bring up things they wanna try. I recall a teacher who wanted me to procure a prostitute she could use with me. Another one talked about a preachers wife she seduced, and how she wanted to pull a train.

A young woman I fucked (24) wanted to know what I wanted for Christmas.
 
Wrong hole!

I always liked "Oh, fuck yeah!"

"Oh my fucking god" is good as well
 
So far I've got five sex scenes in the draft of my series, and I'm trying to make them as different and in-character as possible. This thread helped me a lot with introducing variety into the narration, but what about the actual words that characters say during sex? There's only so many times I can use ohh, ahh, oh my god, oh jesus. I also tend to stay away from things like "fuck me" or "suck it" when characters are already performing said actions, because, well, looks a bit silly in paper.

So far I've got:
  • yes
  • fuck
  • that's it
  • keep going
  • just like that

What else do people say when they're having sex?

The part that I highlighted is not true.

Think about it; you're fucking you're in the throes of passion. people say silly things. A woman will say, "Oh, yes lick it" when the guy is going down. you can add to it with "Oh, yeah lick it, just like that, baby, just like that" but things like that are not silly.
 
“A little to the left. Lower. No. No. I was wrong. Higher. Higher. Right there. Faster. No. Slower. Okay, faster. OH, Yes. Right there. Wait...”

“Would you make up your mind. My tongue is about to fall off. And I thought your backseat driving was bad.” :D


I take it you don't want your scenes to sound like a porn flick. That's a good thing.(for my tastes.) Not a lot of conversation goes on in my own experiences. A few grunts, sighs, gasps, occasionally a giggle, but then you just have to concentrated. And when it's going right, words just don't form for either participant. But this is fiction. Some readers want reality and some complete fantasy. Write whatever works for you and your characters.


The conversation would probably depend on the characters. Shy, insecure, flirty, funny, dominating, or just plain out there.

If the man's nice, he can ask, “You okay?” “Am I too massive for you? I've never measured it, but the nuns used to call me Trigger.” ;)

You can make an amazing scene without words. Eye contact, teeth digging into to his shoulder. Hot breath in her ear. The chain reaction of goosebumps. Words aren't always necessary to make the scene steam up.
 
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Mostly instructions given in three words or less. Don't make the mistake of trying to carry on a substantive conversation. It doesn't work that way.
 
Mostly instructions given in three words or less. Don't make the mistake of trying to carry on a substantive conversation. It doesn't work that way.

You mean

"Oh, Matt," Cindy groaned as she felt her pussy stretching around his thrusting cock, "I really think the ceiling would look better in beige."

"Hmm," Matt stroked his chin while with his free hand he held Cindy's ankle, bending her leg back as he fucked her using long slow strokes, "I was thinking white, but hey, whatever you want."

That won't work?
 
Don't worry so much about writing dialog because as in real life, if you have the breath to say more than a few words during sex, someone's not fucking doing it right.
 
There can be some interesting and lengthy conversations when she's negotiating where the next vacation is going to be. Also, there can be some dialogue during the foreplay. Teasing, begging, whimpering, whatnot.

“Come on, baby. Just this once. Let me do the babysitter.” That, of course, precedes the butcher knife “accident.”
 
Don't worry so much about writing dialog because as in real life, if you have the breath to say more than a few words during sex, someone's not fucking doing it right.

Oh, please. Speak for yourself. I can have a running conversation during a blow job and its got nothing to do with the lack of skill of the person performing the sexual acts.

In BDSM its common for the top to speak and continue to verbally chastize and harass the sub including my favorite line of "Christ your pathetic, you're blowing me and I'm not even moaning, maybe I should let a pet who knows what she;s doing try."

I can do the same while fucking.

So let;s rephrase that to, if you have the breath to say more than a few words during sex....

get your ass in shape so you won;t be winded.
 
I was thinking the same thing.

What gets said depends on the woman and the circumstances of the liaison. ...

You bet. I was with a woman who liked her ass spanked and talked dirty to while being fucked. I also smacked her inner thighs and breasts just to spice it up some.
 
Random notes: one woman I e-chat with once in a while told me she hates talking during sex. So there's that.

Another friend of mine told of a survey he'd seen, I forget the exact topic, but it was something about the sexiest sounds and the top answer was "our moans."

Just to show there's a range of what people do and want.
 
My opinion for me outside of fiction:

And yes, I know we seem to be straying a bit. It tends to happen here from time to time.

If you're talking, you're not concentrating on the job at hand. Little words of guidance and encouragement are one thing. Saying stupid shit or unprovoked dirty talk can bring things to a screeching halt. Sometimes out of anger. Sometimes out of laughter. It's a bad day when you roll your eyes during sex. A worse day when the “Jaws of Life” clamp down.
 
Oh, please. Speak for yourself. I can have a running conversation during a blow job and its got nothing to do with the lack of skill of the person performing the sexual acts.

Who are you talking to, yourself? I have yet to meet a woman who can talk with a dick in her mouth.
 
In BDSM its common for the top to speak and continue to verbally chastize and harass the sub

And then there is that masochist bottom who looks over her shoulder and says "you hit like a fucking girl!"

I love her!
 
You can describe sounds, rather than render them;

"Oh fuck, that's perfect," Jane said, and then there was nothing but grunts and moans and panting. It was the most erotic thing Lex had ever heard, and she hummed agreement.
 
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You bet. I was with a woman who liked her ass spanked and talked dirty to while being fucked. I also smacked her inner thighs and breasts just to spice it up some.

Met a few of them myself. Being Southern we make do with a common leather belt to spank our ladies with. Dont need no Batman costumes or capes.

Found a vid of a white woman with a black bull, he slapped the crap out of her twice just to get started. She acted like it was great. I suspect some gals like it rough and get a fear high.
 
Isn't it the words that aren't said, but that you as the author can put there, that matter: the ones that reveal the inner thoughts, which are much more engaging anyhow?

I have focused on that, to explore the inner clock work of sex, at times perfecting it through dialogue or sensations that likely occur but are rarely memorable. Otherwise I feel I am just describing a picture of sex, lovely but without meaning.
 
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