Things that only the Dom will benefit from?

[Karleksknop]

What could you do? Do you have any tips? The obvious activity is of course oral sex, but apart from that I can´t come up with anything sexual...

Help!

 

[sinnocence]

I'd say anal for the subs that don't like it. I know I didn't like it at first. But hell, I LOVE giving oral so I'd say I benefit in a way from that. Lol.*shrugs* That's all I could really think of.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Bring in another female for him to enjoy while you watch?

 

[Karleksknop]

I'd say anal for the subs that don't like it. I know I didn't like it at first. But hell, I LOVE giving oral so I'd say I benefit in a way from that. Lol.*shrugs* That's all I could really think of.

THAT would not work Too keen on that I´m afraid *blush*

 

[Karleksknop]

Bring in another female for him to enjoy while you watch?

That would be a very good one, but He says He doesn´t want more people in our bed for now at least...

 

[ecstaticsub]

Is there anything sexual that you don't enjoy?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Off the top of my head...

Giving a massage will only benefit the dom, maybe some sex you're less likely to enjoy like anal with minimal lube where you are not allowed to cum. Getting on all fours and acting as a footstool while he watches TV. Getting facefucked while he watches porn and comments on how hot the women are. Getting used/abused beyond your usual tolerance and without permission to touch yourself or cum.

 

[Karleksknop]

Is there anything sexual that you don't enjoy?

Plenty, but we seem to be very much on the same level sexually and just about every one of my "no thank you":s are things He doesn´t like either. Very sweet, but not so practical in these situations.

I am very grateful that you all take time to post suggestions though, and I am sure that the suggestions that will not work for me could be picked up by someone else reading the thread

 

[eastern sun]

If you get to know your Dom, you'll be able to answer to your own question.

It may be as simple as letting him stick his finger somewhere without heed to your sensations, like an unwanted probe. It may be as complicated as a full-blown scripted role-play that you develop in response to his desires.

But only by learning the specific dynamics that exist between the two of you, what excites him/what doesn't excite you, will you know for sure.

(I've also found that it changes from moment to moment. Something that worked one day may not necessarily work the next, either because I have learned to like it or he feels like I'm repeating myself without really paying attention.)

It sucks sometimes, how hard we have to work at this. I wanted a list of protocols to follow. But, like anything in life, the experience is rich when it charts the actual landscape you find yourself in, rather than superimposing a grid, or levelling the terrain, or otherwise simplifying the world into a mental construct that's easier to navigate.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I agree with eastern sun (Hey Sweets!).

Pay attention to, and get to know, your Dom. The more you do this and the more you concentrate on the dynamic between just the two of you, the better you'll be able to find that something special that you want to do for him.

When you find it, it will be even more special to him because he'll know that you cared enough to pay attention to those desires that he doesn't show very often or hasn't mentioned to you.

Good luck!

 

[rosco rathbone]

I like a nice raw fuck timed to coincide with the apex of a fight.

 

[Homburg]

Even if you are doing something you don't like, you are still providing service to him, and that is its' own reward. So barring some disconnect on your end, you are going to gain at least the satisfaction of service.

 

[the captians wench]

Even if you are doing something you don't like, you are still providing service to him, and that is its' own reward. So barring some disconnect on your end, you are going to gain at least the satisfaction of service.

And this is my way of thinking. There is nothing that I could do, or that he could ask me to do, that I would not at the very least gain some satisfaction from. Even if it's only the fact that I did something I very much disliked and he was pleased by it. Even things that take me out of the person mentality, extreme objectification where I am totally ignored, I would be delighted in the fact that I could provide that service for him. *shrug*

But I'm the kind of person that gets off more on the fact that you're getting off than what you are actually doing to me. Hince a lot of very strong orgasms from giving head.

 

[Karleksknop]

Well as a submissive of course the pleasure of serving is always there. I guess that´s why we are "here" because everything else would be real rape.

But the problem I have encountered is that I kind o feel that I get as much out of sex as He does, and that is great sometimes, and sometimes I just want to serve.

If he tells me to take it up my ass I will eventually orgasm from it. Too much of a slut I guess

What I am looking for is sex that I can do for him without being stimulated myself, as i feel that this is a reward that I should be granted after a task well done


And again: Thanks for taking time to answer

 

[missy_me]

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[catalina_francisco]

Off the top of my head...

Giving a massage will only benefit the dom, maybe some sex you're less likely to enjoy like anal with minimal lube where you are not allowed to cum. Getting on all fours and acting as a footstool while he watches TV. Getting facefucked while he watches porn and comments on how hot the women are. Getting used/abused beyond your usual tolerance and without permission to touch yourself or cum.

LOL, these for the most part are all things I would enjoy giving/doing ...it is about knowing each other well I think, and also not going to the level of enjoying what you wouldn't enjoy if it is to benefit the PYL only, and that can be tricky for some of us. Perhaps ask or do something similar to a checklist?

Catalina