The Worst Test of All

[LittleRedRobin]

As a slave in training to my new Sir I find myself continuously being tested. Although I know my place and adore pleasing him as I successfully pass each challange I've found myself trapped in the worst one yet. No sex. No sexual pleasing in any way- for me and for him. What's the longest your master has denied you? I'm at a week now and frustrated b. eyond belief. The only pleasant thought is how fantastic it'll be when he's changed his mind.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

IMNSHO, open-ended "tests" of this sort are not really "fair."

One being tested (if that's a part of the relationship dynamic) should have a good idea as to the extent of the test, rather than the fear (unfounded or not) that it might never end.

 

[CutieMouse]

Online relationship, or off?

I'd be careful with the open ended "ZOMG denial makes it even hawter!" stuff...for some people the "ZOMG dying from desire!!!" period is relatively short lived, only to be replaced by a total and utter disinterest in sex. I can *tolerate* 2-3 weeks if schedules are busy/etc, but longer than that and I simply divert the energy to other things and find myself relatively happy in celibacy-land. Rarely the outcome men expect, because "ZOMG denial always makes it even HAWTER!"

 

[Marquis]

Fuck this shit.

 

[Daxaeha]

I'm with Cutie on this,

Intentional denial and just not having the time affect me exactly the same way.
I will start to pull away and get very cold and bitchy without even noticing. By the time Mr. Whoever realizes the problem, I don't even want it anymore.

I can play around and tease for a few days but if it hits a week, they should probably do their belt back up and get comfy for a few weeks more.

If you experience any of this you should probably mention it.

 

[eastern sun]

Three months. He hoped it would drive me to find someone else.

 

[Daxaeha]

Three months. He hoped it would drive me to find someone else.

And did you?

 

[eastern sun]

And did you?

I'm pretty stubborn. I can't remember.

 

[Stella_Omega]

As a slave in training to my new Sir I find myself continuously being tested. Although I know my place and adore pleasing him as I successfully pass each challange I've found myself trapped in the worst one yet. No sex. No sexual pleasing in any way- for me and for him. What's the longest your master has denied you? I'm at a week now and frustrated b. eyond belief. The only pleasant thought is how fantastic it'll be when he's changed his mind.

As someone who kicked that "I wanna be a slave" mentality out the door in favor of "I want to be satisfied on my own terms which look like submission but really aren't" I gotta say nuts to that shit.

And like some other women here are saying? No sex for too long means no sex forever.

 

[Marquis]

Ron White has a great bit where he talks about infidelity:

"I'm a pretty loyal dog, but you gotta pet me every once in a while if you wanna keep me sleeping under the porch. You can't let me go 3 months without sex, I will cheat on you, I know I will, I've seen me do it!"

Actually, come to think of it, that might have something to do with it.....

 

[eastern sun]

I've always said you gotta feed your dog or it will run away.

Some people like being slaves (like me). You just might be able to get your slave to feed you, if you handle it right.

And treating a slave right doesn't necessarily mean handfeeding it orgasms on a plate.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I have a big ol' fantasy about being a slave -- for maybe a weekend. I like the idea of being shoved into slavery without training, just by way of someone else being bigger and stronger (which wouldn't be hard, to be honest, but hey that's what fantasy is all about)

On every day that isn't that fantasy weekend, my sex life is my responsibility.

 

[Loverskitten]

I don't understand this "test"

 

[eastern sun]

I have a big ol' fantasy about being a slave -- for maybe a weekend. I like the idea of being shoved into slavery without training, just by way of someone else being bigger and stronger (which wouldn't be hard, to be honest, but hey that's what fantasy is all about)

On every day that isn't that fantasy weekend, my sex life is my responsibility.

Of course. But if training is what you're looking for, you need to take responsibility for that too.

 

[Daxaeha]

I don't understand this "test"

Without knowing what is replacing the sex (teasing, a good whipping, who knows?) my question is: Isn't it the point of being sexual partners, regardless of roles, to be having some gosh darn sex?

Maybe I'm just old fashioned in my old age.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Of course. But if training is what you're looking for, you need to take responsibility for that too.

Yup. And, I guess if someone wants to boast-by-bitching, it's something totally welcome here even if I don't get it.

 

[Netzach]

Most people operate on a 2-3 week curve of productivity with this, or they're into chastity and denial as a kink so much that the fetish is more interesting than orgasms are anyway.

*I* operate on a 2-3 week curve of giving enough of a crap about restricting others, myself, come to think of it.

 

[PurrKitty27]

As someone who kicked that "I wanna be a slave" mentality out the door in favor of "I want to be satisfied on my own terms which look like submission but really aren't" I gotta say nuts to that shit.

I think you just summed up my current dilemma. I like some submissive play but try that outside the bedroom and it won't fly. Sometimes I want romance and sometimes I wanted to be treated like a whore.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I think you just summed up my current dilemma. I like some submissive play but try that outside the bedroom and it won't fly. Sometimes I want romance and sometimes I wanted to be treated like a whore.

You might find this essay helpful then;
http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=42017419&postcount=148

 

[BiBunny]

Men think the denial bit works on women because it (generally/often) works on men. And I'm sure it does work on some women, but I'm thinking they're not in the majority, especially given my own personal experiences and the things I see other women say on Lit.

 

[midwestyankee]

Perhaps I missed it, but did the OP at any point explain how one either passes or fails this "test?" If there aren't clear parameters for pass-fail, it's not a test. It's a mind fuck.

 

[Ashleigh_XOXO]

Ron White has a great bit where he talks about infidelity:

"I'm a pretty loyal dog, but you gotta pet me every once in a while if you wanna keep me sleeping under the porch. You can't let me go 3 months without sex, I will cheat on you, I know I will, I've seen me do it!"

Actually, come to think of it, that might have something to do with it.....

^^ What he said!

 

[eastern sun]

Yup. And, I guess if someone wants to boast-by-bitching, it's something totally welcome here even if I don't get it.

I suppose it is. But it sounds like a bitch.

 

[Miles Long]

So the test is no sexual interaction between you two for an indefinite period of time? I'm skeptical.

 

[Etoile]

So wait, he's not allowed to jerk off either??