The walls we build

[sufisaint]

The whole mind egoic self has to fall apart or fall away... than your free!!!!!

 

[Batch]

Would yu rather walk in a barren desert or along the precipice of a mountain, with a view of the valley below and the glory of accomplishing the hike?

It is a personal choice, yes.

I have my answer.

Twas rhetorical

I received my answer
it is best to risk
to hope for the best
rather than
be alone

always seeking the beauty in another...

this thread is grand
Thank you for putting the question out there.

 

[MissTaken]

The whole mind egoic self has to fall apart or fall away... than your free!!!!!

Yes, free.

It is serenity that is achieved when you can just be , just exist and trust again.

And if that trust is misplaced, I will cry, hide for a bit and come out a stronger person.

 

[MissTaken]

Twas rhetorical

I received my answer
it is best to risk
to hope for the best
rather than
be alone

always seeking the beauty in another...

this thread is grand
Thank you for putting the question out there.

Rhetorical?
As was my question, just a random thought.

Then, I wanted to say I am enjoying your posts and sense a kindred, like minded spirit in you.

 

[Batch]

Rhetorical?
As was my question, just a random thought.

Then, I wanted to say I am enjoying your posts and sense a kindred, like minded spirit in you.

Oh nice to discuss matters of the heart.

Anytime.

 

[sufisaint]

Just to be..when you are love..than you can just love and when it goes away or is not given back...you still have love. How can it ever be wrong if it truly is love your feeling and acting on....the hard part is knowing what is true and what is not...but generally if your thoughts, your mind is involved, it false...but if its a feeling from your core being..its true. Most do not know this simply fact and the mind can also be very tricky!!!!!

 

[Batch]

The whole mind egoic self has to fall apart or fall away... than your free!!!!!

my goodness...

thinking so simple
so true

 

[LukkyKnight]

How might one let down these walls?
They come down of their own accord, when we are ready. Sometimes they become permeable to one person, one very special person, without coming down as far as the rest of the world can discover.

How might one tear down someone else's walls?
By being oneself. It is the way, the only way, for if not oneself then the walls have been lowered to admit somebody else, not oneself, and the effort is in vain.

How do we let our history and baggage interfere with present time and how to learn to let go of the baggage?
Ah, there's the rub. You have to know yourself, and inventory your baggage, before you decide how much to bring on this leg of the journey. If you don't know what you're carrying you cannot possibly decide what to set down. This should not be scary, the baggage is always there to be picked up later if need be.

 

[Pixie]

I know we all feel that way from time to time.

"Hurt too many times...."

I believe that without risk, there is no hope.

Which is worse, risk or hopelessness?

It is a choice we must make.

I have made mine

As have I

I took that risk and it has brought me back to life after the longest time of what I can only call an emotional coma.

Yes, I did do a lot of soulsearching and thinking, but in the end it was a choice I made with my heart and I've yet to regret it.

It has opened me up to the possibility of a lot of pain, but it also brings the possibility of great joy

 

[MissTaken]

Dittoing that post.

A very wise friend said to me yesterday, as we were talking about the mish mash of mistakes I have made that

I have been ready to love for a long time, but that I am only now ready to be loved.

I think that this plays a large part in terms of letting down some of the armor and giving it a real shot.

 

[intrigued]

Miss T, I have a thread titled "Intimacy" from a few months ago that has alot of insight into this topic, you might want to look it up?
As much as it helped me, what helped me the most was finally getting to the point that the cost and the loss just wasn't worth it anymore. It's something you have to be ready for, and really, really want. When you do, you go slowly, you test the waters...you give a little, you get a little, and pretty soon, it begins to feed on itself. There are numerous things given and taken that are vital to knocking them down, and letting a little light in. When it happens, when you begin to feel good and you think "oh, what's this??" don't analyze it to hell and back, and don't fall into the same old habit of running away. Just pause a bit, and then, just let it be. Sometimes, it really is simple.
Time helps...it helps alot. Readiness helps more.

 

[red_rose]

I let my walls down with someone. It took about a year, and they weren't fully down. It was wonderful, but they're now firmly back up. Stronger than before, I think. But the glimpse of what's over the wall was...intriguing.

You sound almost exactly like me. My walls went down about a year and a half ago... Then they went back up - stronger than before.

I try not to keep people out...but I'm not very good at letting people in - if that makes sense.

 

[MissTaken]

As intrigued said, time adn readiness are key.

I believe.

 

[Soblue]

I'm just learning to be my own person for once, so I need these walls for the time being.

Sometimes I let the wrong people in.

 

[april-wine]

Everyone is padded, peering out with caution....Then the right person comes along, with words, with patience, understanding, and love....We emerge from the cacoon of our own making....I never noticed the sunlight, until I was out from the protection of my own personal sanctuary....To find the one who can do that is magical....

 

[Batch]

Everyone is padded, peering out with caution....Then the right person comes along, with words, with patience, understanding, and love....We emerge from the cacoon of our own making....I never noticed the sunlight, until I was out from the protection of my own personal sanctuary....To find the one who can do that is magical....

yes


the one you allow to do that...

 

[Freya]

You sound almost exactly like me. My walls went down about a year and a half ago... Then they went back up - stronger than before.

I try not to keep people out...but I'm not very good at letting people in - if that makes sense.

Makes perfect sense to me RR. That's exactly how I am.

 

[MissTaken]

I'm just learning to be my own person for once, so I need these walls for the time being.

Sometimes I let the wrong people in.

That brings up the point that the things we do to protect ourselves are positive things, in moderation.

Soblue, your post really lays you out in the open and I appreciate that.

But it sounds like you know yourself, know what you need and are working it. The walls may be necessary for you,

for now!

Nice post!