The unexplained burning feeling.

[Da Chemist]

Well, I'm in dire need of this wonderful community...
I've been dating the love of my life for a long time, 3 years, and for 99% of the time, the sex has been fine. Never REALLY great, but as good as I've had. Same goes for her, she cums just about everytime we make love, but here's the problem.
Within the past two weeks, something has changed. After about 5-10 minutes of sex, it starts to burn in her vagina. We have NEVER had this problem, and I'm sure it isn't an STD, because I was tested (and found clean of course), and she was a virgin. We've thought about this problem, and looked at most of the logical reasons.. I haven't changed my soap or anything involving "Down there", she doesn't have a yeast infection, (She's sure, again, tested.) she's never waxed/shaved/nair'd so I doubt it has anything to do with her hair. And, it's an internal problem, not an external. The only thing that may be a problem, is that I'm 6 feet tall, and hung accordingly. (7 inches, and a wee bit) and she's only 5 feet tall. I thought I might be "too big" for her, but if so, why would it start now, after 2 years of sex? The amount of foreplay hasn't gone down, and she seems as wet as usual.
So, please. We've stopped having sex, because it hurts her, but I really want it bad! HELP ME FIX THINGS!!

Also, here's a pic of me, for a little incentive for the ladies..

 

[pogogirl]

Well, I'm in dire need of this wonderful community...
I've been dating the love of my life for a long time, 3 years, and for 99% of the time, the sex has been fine. Never REALLY great, but as good as I've had. Same goes for her, she cums just about everytime we make love, but here's the problem.
Within the past two weeks, something has changed. After about 5-10 minutes of sex, it starts to burn in her vagina. We have NEVER had this problem, and I'm sure it isn't an STD, because I was tested (and found clean of course), and she was a virgin. We've thought about this problem, and looked at most of the logical reasons.. I haven't changed my soap or anything involving "Down there", she doesn't have a yeast infection, (She's sure, again, tested.) she's never waxed/shaved/nair'd so I doubt it has anything to do with her hair. And, it's an internal problem, not an external. The only thing that may be a problem, is that I'm 6 feet tall, and hung accordingly. (7 inches, and a wee bit) and she's only 5 feet tall. I thought I might be "too big" for her, but if so, why would it start now, after 2 years of sex? The amount of foreplay hasn't gone down, and she seems as wet as usual.
So, please. We've stopped having sex, because it hurts her, but I really want it bad! HELP ME FIX THINGS!!

Also, here's a pic of me, for a little incentive for the ladies..

Geez, I don't know what to tell you but I had the same thing happen to me and then it quit. I am sure I had no STD or infection either.

 

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[Ms_Lilith]

You said she WAS a virgin. Not to plant a seed of doubt, but are you sure she's been with only you?

Secondly, her body chemistry might have changed, and the consistency of her personal lubricant may be different, which might cause it to dissipate more quickly, which would cause friction burning.

Thirdly, are you using condoms? Maybe she's developed a sensitivity to latex, which can come and go.. sometimes, I can't deal with latex with my spouse, it just hurts too much, for no apparent reason. The next day I'll be fine.

Fourthly, it could be position. Sometimes, I just CAN"T be taken by behind, because of a burning sensation, and other times, it's just fine...

Just experiment. Buy some lube. If you're monogamous, change condoms to the sheep-intestine ones, or go gloveless. Get her talking to a doctor, about the body chemistry changes.

 

[sexy23]

not to scare you buy have you done a pregnacy test.... recently my GF had the same problem and she was pregnet...

 

[Imi]

And there is something to be said about having a UTI, not just a yeast infection. Things are in close quarters down there, you know.

 

[dollface007]

Also, if you use (or have suddenly switched to) condoms lubricated w/nonoxol-9 (sp?), she might have developed an allergy/sensitivity to that. It tends to change the balance of flora in the vagina.

 

[Limbhugger]

Why was a pic included?

 

[sweet T]

Well, I'm in dire need of this wonderful community...
I've been dating the love of my life for a long time, 3 years, and for 99% of the time, the sex has been fine. Never REALLY great, but as good as I've had. Same goes for her, she cums just about everytime we make love, but here's the problem.
Within the past two weeks, something has changed. After about 5-10 minutes of sex, it starts to burn in her vagina. We have NEVER had this problem, and I'm sure it isn't an STD, because I was tested (and found clean of course), and she was a virgin. We've thought about this problem, and looked at most of the logical reasons.. I haven't changed my soap or anything involving "Down there", she doesn't have a yeast infection, (She's sure, again, tested.) she's never waxed/shaved/nair'd so I doubt it has anything to do with her hair. And, it's an internal problem, not an external. The only thing that may be a problem, is that I'm 6 feet tall, and hung accordingly. (7 inches, and a wee bit) and she's only 5 feet tall. I thought I might be "too big" for her, but if so, why would it start now, after 2 years of sex? The amount of foreplay hasn't gone down, and she seems as wet as usual.
So, please. We've stopped having sex, because it hurts her, but I really want it bad! HELP ME FIX THINGS!!

Also, here's a pic of me, for a little incentive for the ladies..

You did not mention if you had changed birth contro..ie; foam.. condoms.. ect..
and not knowing how long ago she was checked by her GYN..
My personal opinion is that she has a yeast or UTI.. go have her get checked do not let it go...It is probably neither's fault.. good luck..

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

If the burning occurs also while you arent having sex, my guess would be that it is some type of vaginal or bladder infection. Either of these can produce vaginal burning.
If it is happening solely during sex, then I would examine the type of BC and/or lube you are using.
Oh, one more thing, does your GF use tampons? I have heard that the deodorant tampons can cause vaginal sensitivity/burning.

 

[WildRose40DDD]

Lube?

I had a similar problem that developed after using a lube for a while. Initially it was fine, but after months and months it started to bother me.

 

[SexyGiggles]

I'll concur with everyone saying bladder infection or UTI...she should go see her doc asap and be tested for it -- treatment is easy, but don't want to wait.

While she's there, have her ask her doc if it's not a UTI, what else could it be?

Good luck!

 

[BlueSugar]

yep, what everyone else said.

have you been over doing the sex lately? maybe it just needs to rest a little.

was it right before/after her period? It could just be pissed off at you

have you been trying the "her pleasure" or "extended pleasure" etc.. condoms? My body didn't like them, and it burned me a little and thought I had a uti or an infection, but it was just my vagina and the chemicals not getting along.

It is its own little world... ecosystem down there... anything could upset it... the mood, what she ate, what you ate, if someone sneezes funny. Its part of a women, it feels intitled to throw us for a loop sometimes for no reason out of no where.. lol.

 

[pw27]

Your gf should get tested for a UTI as they can cause burning from hell. All the other advice here is good too.

 

[Da Chemist]

Wow, You gals and guys are awsome.

To answer some of the questions, and help put together some of the peices to this puzzle.

We are using condoms, along with the pill, (Just to be extra sure!) But, we put the condom on half-way through the sex, to protect against the big load. (Yeah, I know, that's not %100 effective, but we're fine with that)

Anyway, so we use condoms, but lately the problem has gotten so bad that we stop before we even get to the half way point! So, I doubt it's the condoms.

Lube, well, we usually don't use any, just a little good olde fashioned oral lube.. But, it light of the problems we've been having, we tried some lube, and same problem.

I think she was checked by her GYN about 4 months ago. I'm not sure if that's soon or not, but that's how long it's been.
I guess it may be a UTI, but like I said, I don't think it's a yeast, and I'm just wondering what kind of UTI's there are, cause she's had a bladder infection before, and she said it felt completly different.

I don't think we've been over-sexed, or too close the time of the month.

Soo, I still don't know what it is exactly, but this will give me some ideas...

not to scare you buy have you done a pregnacy test.... recently my GF had the same problem and she was pregnet...

This however, scares the crap outta me. Anybody know if that's a common thing?

 

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[Watcher of All]

what can happen if a UTI or yeast infection is left too long? My girlfriend has had a similar problem but she hasnt had the time to get it checked out. Should this be a priority?

 

[BlueSugar]

what can happen if a UTI or yeast infection is left too long? My girlfriend has had a similar problem but she hasnt had the time to get it checked out. Should this be a priority?

give your girl a kick in the butt and an award.
Not many can wait so long w/o getting either problem medicated ... you want to wrip it off and step on it , it hurts so damn much.

It should be a priority, because it could lead to worse problems.

 

[sheath]

I'm curious...it's been a while since the thread starter responded...

So what did you find out?

S.

 

[acamstar]

sounds like a UTI to me.... I had those symptoms, went to the gyno, and that's what it was. got some meds, and it was cleared up in about 9 days.

 

[Da Chemist]

I'm curious...it's been a while since the thread starter responded...

So what did you find out?

S.

I'd love to give you gals and guys an update, but there hasn't been much of a change. I told her what everyone had said, and suggested she check with the doc about what was up, she has an appointment, but now it's a waiting game. It's been about a month without any real sex and I'm going crazy!!!@!@
But, well, I think she's worth it.
Once again, thanks for all the advice, and believe me, when I find out what's wrong, I'll let everybody know what's up.