the Un-Hijackable, Non Sequitor, Rambling Thread

I think sometimes we take this whole BDSM thing too seriously. We get involved with all these deep dark discussions of the Reptile Mind, and what really goes on in the Internal Playground of the Perverse and we forget to laugh. We forget to fall in love. We get all "Yes Master" and "No Master" and You Must Follow All the Rules of BDSM's ONE TRUE WAY and then we start debating about these mystical rules that "everyone knows". No-one gets to make all the rules for all of us. There is no ONE TRUE WAY, but everybody starts arguing and bitching and being stupid about it.

I never watched a lot of Ally McBeal, but there was this one scene where the one lawyer (the curly haired guy who's on Numb3rs now) was sitting in his office chair and he morphed into a little kid as he asked "Where did the fun go?" cause he wasn't having fun anymore. I know a kinkster who's so bogged down in the Somber Reality of the Rules right now that it's not fun anymore. Being the submissive means sometimes you have to do what you don't want to do in a way that you don't like to do it, but we suck it up. Some people expect us to be that way ALL the TIME! There's no more joy in her submission and her Master is saying "it's not supposed to be fun, it's supposed to be work." But is it supposed to be work all the time? Where is the joy in that? I take a certain amount of joy in my submission, but I'm not a martyr. Do submissives have to be martyrs for the cause?

The other day, Ms. T and I were watching a movie and we started goofing around, throwing popcorn and fruit loops at each other and feeding each other different movie lines from BAD movies. And we totally camped it up. We both dissolved into giggles, and ended up in a pile on the floor (because I was laughing so hard I missed the sofa when I flopped down, and she fell over next to me) laughing our asses off. It was fun! And it didn't diminish her Domliness, or make me less subbly, even when I put fruit loops down her panties. I've been told that I was sammy and bad and Not a True Submissive over this, and there were a lot of disapproving faces at the munch this evening when I mentioned it. I was told by someone whom normally I get along with "I canNOT believe you pulled that shit and she let you get away with it. NO submissive of mine would ever dream of pranks like that." I managed to bite my tongue, but I almost blurted out "Maybe that's why you can't keep one. No-one can be a pillar of sobriety ALL the time." Honestly, I've been here for about 8 months and he's always looking for a new sub. He's gone through 5 or 6 since I've been here. Ms. T happened to overhear his comment and burst out laughing, and then said almost the exact same thing.

I don't think I could do this, if I wasn't with a Domme who not only appreciates my talent for the absurd, but occasionally indulges it. And if that means I'm not subby enough for you, then maybe you aren't Domly enough for me.

I am so glad I saw this post in the calendar.

Can't agree more, really. If I couldn't laugh and complain and make fun of the absurd WITH H, it'd be a poor interaction indeed.
 
Examples of 'new exciting things' to try sexually (list is non exhaustive):

buttfuck
you on top
being spanked by/spanking your partner
a new vibrator
swallowing
teacher/pupil role playing

Me however, as a human being, I am NOT a 'new exciting thing' to try or 'something to spice up' your boring het suburban sex life. Get the fuck out of my space. And do I really have to repeat it? No, he can NOT fucking watch.

Oh, and what with this 'teach me the rope' business? You're obviously not talking about bondage, so WTF? Is that how you used to approach boys when you started fucking them? Asking them to 'teach you the rope'? For fuck sake women, if het boys can manage to fuck women somewhat decently, it's because it's not THAT complicated. Or do you mean to suggest that we should expect a worse fuck from you than we'd get from some virgin het boy? Now, that makes you someone I really want to meet. :rolleyes: Geez.
 
Examples of 'new exciting things' to try sexually (list is non exhaustive):

buttfuck
you on top
being spanked by/spanking your partner
a new vibrator
swallowing
teacher/pupil role playing

Me however, as a human being, I am NOT a 'new exciting thing' to try or 'something to spice up' your boring het suburban sex life. Get the fuck out of my space. And do I really have to repeat it? No, he can NOT fucking watch.

Oh, and what with this 'teach me the rope' business? You're obviously not talking about bondage, so WTF? Is that how you used to approach boys when you started fucking them? Asking them to 'teach you the rope'? For fuck sake women, if het boys can manage to fuck women somewhat decently, it's because it's not THAT complicated. Or do you mean to suggest that we should expect a worse fuck from you than we'd get from some virgin het boy? Now, that makes you someone I really want to meet. :rolleyes: Geez.

I fucking love you.

But you forgot the "soft touch of a woman." *Ducks*
 
I fucking love you.

But you forgot the "soft touch of a woman." *Ducks*
Hehe. I think that I may have mentioned the 'soft touch of a woman' once or twice already. :p

This kind of stuff is one of the main reason why I could never give into this whole Female Supremacy stuff. Women are definitely as fucking clueless as men.
 
Hehe. I think that I may have mentioned the 'soft touch of a woman' once or twice already. :p

This kind of stuff is one of the main reason why I could never give into this whole Female Supremacy stuff. Women are definitely as fucking clueless as men.

If not more so. Sometimes I can't decide which gender annoys me more. Then I decide they both bug me equally, which is why I'm bi. :cool:
 
I got this verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry nice gold box in the mail today.

It came from farrrrrrrrrrrrrr farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr away.

It has the most superbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb necklace in it .

Whom ever made it is verrrrrrrrrrrrrry cleverrrrrrrrrrrrr :cool:
 
I got this verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry nice gold box in the mail today.

It came from farrrrrrrrrrrrrr farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr away.

It has the most superbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb necklace in it .

Whom ever made it is verrrrrrrrrrrrrry cleverrrrrrrrrrrrr :cool:


Oh my GOD hallelujah.

I hate the mail.
 
Oh my GOD hallelujah.

I hate the mail.

Thought you'd be pleased, Seriously I love it, didn't recall the turquoise stone detail and the Maneki Neko cameo has tiny little hearts in the detail, I have the perfect bracelet my Mom brought me back from Alaska over 20 years ago that has a serious chunk of turquoise set in it and a Paua shell ring that will all compliment it beautifully. I'll be wearing them tomorrow. It's an eclectic mix but I know they'll be exquisite together. Thanks !
 
Thought you'd be pleased, Seriously I love it, didn't recall the turquoise stone detail and the Maneki Neko cameo has tiny little hearts in the detail, I have the perfect bracelet my Mom brought me back from Alaska over 20 years ago that has a serious chunk of turquoise set in it and a Paua shell ring that will all compliment it beautifully. I'll be wearing them tomorrow. It's an eclectic mix but I know they'll be exquisite together. Thanks !

That sounds like a great way to rock that necklace - love the paua shell idea. I'm glad you love it and glad it FINALLY got there. I've been having hell with the mail, had something take 5 weeks to go to Canada. Just due north from here really!
 
I think sometimes we take this whole BDSM thing too seriously. We get involved with all these deep dark discussions of the Reptile Mind, and what really goes on in the Internal Playground of the Perverse and we forget to laugh. We forget to fall in love. We get all "Yes Master" and "No Master" and You Must Follow All the Rules of BDSM's ONE TRUE WAY and then we start debating about these mystical rules that "everyone knows". No-one gets to make all the rules for all of us. There is no ONE TRUE WAY, but everybody starts arguing and bitching and being stupid about it.

I never watched a lot of Ally McBeal, but there was this one scene where the one lawyer (the curly haired guy who's on Numb3rs now) was sitting in his office chair and he morphed into a little kid as he asked "Where did the fun go?" cause he wasn't having fun anymore. I know a kinkster who's so bogged down in the Somber Reality of the Rules right now that it's not fun anymore. Being the submissive means sometimes you have to do what you don't want to do in a way that you don't like to do it, but we suck it up. Some people expect us to be that way ALL the TIME! There's no more joy in her submission and her Master is saying "it's not supposed to be fun, it's supposed to be work." But is it supposed to be work all the time? Where is the joy in that? I take a certain amount of joy in my submission, but I'm not a martyr. Do submissives have to be martyrs for the cause?

The other day, Ms. T and I were watching a movie and we started goofing around, throwing popcorn and fruit loops at each other and feeding each other different movie lines from BAD movies. And we totally camped it up. We both dissolved into giggles, and ended up in a pile on the floor (because I was laughing so hard I missed the sofa when I flopped down, and she fell over next to me) laughing our asses off. It was fun! And it didn't diminish her Domliness, or make me less subbly, even when I put fruit loops down her panties. I've been told that I was sammy and bad and Not a True Submissive over this, and there were a lot of disapproving faces at the munch this evening when I mentioned it. I was told by someone whom normally I get along with "I canNOT believe you pulled that shit and she let you get away with it. NO submissive of mine would ever dream of pranks like that." I managed to bite my tongue, but I almost blurted out "Maybe that's why you can't keep one. No-one can be a pillar of sobriety ALL the time." Honestly, I've been here for about 8 months and he's always looking for a new sub. He's gone through 5 or 6 since I've been here. Ms. T happened to overhear his comment and burst out laughing, and then said almost the exact same thing.

I don't think I could do this, if I wasn't with a Domme who not only appreciates my talent for the absurd, but occasionally indulges it. And if that means I'm not subby enough for you, then maybe you aren't Domly enough for me.

Sir has told me that I'm the only woman He's been with that has a sense of humour :D I'm sure we would be kicked out of the "Real Master's Club" and the "Twue Subbies Club" if they could see us sometimes!

Honestly, if we couldn't share a joke or a laugh with each other, where would be the point in being together? It doesn't take away from His dominance or my service, it just makes it fun! :D
 
Sir has told me that I'm the only woman He's been with that has a sense of humour :D I'm sure we would be kicked out of the "Real Master's Club" and the "Twue Subbies Club" if they could see us sometimes!

Honestly, if we couldn't share a joke or a laugh with each other, where would be the point in being together? It doesn't take away from His dominance or my service, it just makes it fun! :D

Oh Bandit and snowy I am _so_ with you on this :rose:

We often tease eachother and fool around. Sometimes when after we've been playing I will dress him and pretend I've not noticed its my panties I'm putting on him *laugh*

The ability to tease and be lighthearted is such a key part of our dynamic to me. I would never be able to submit to someone who thought it inappropriate. I like being able to be playful and mischievious sometimes and he likes me that way too. Of course there is a time and place for it and I know where to draw the line.
 
Oh Bandit and snowy I am _so_ with you on this :rose:

We often tease eachother and fool around. Sometimes when after we've been playing I will dress him and pretend I've not noticed its my panties I'm putting on him *laugh*
The ability to tease and be lighthearted is such a key part of our dynamic to me. I would never be able to submit to someone who thought it inappropriate. I like being able to be playful and mischievious sometimes and he likes me that way too. Of course there is a time and place for it and I know where to draw the line.

Hawt! Have you told Shanky this? :devil:
 
I'm so jealous! You have so many you have to number them... I only got the one.

: lamenty noises : Well I'm just soooooooo competent at feigning innocence you see :)

Can a submissive be an over achiever, hmmmn sub achiever just doesn't have the same pathos.

: ISL No # 63 :
 
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