The submissives demeanor

[esclave_PP]

I am sure she is! I loved her tails picture -- sizzlin hot.

 

[Bandit58]

I agree completely with MissT on this one. I suspect that even just among the subs on this board, there'd be a veritable rainbow of demeanors and personalities.

I am rather vocal in my opinions even when alone with my PYL.. something I know a lot of Dominants would find vastly annoying and possibly very disrespectful. But he loves me the way I am, and we suit each other just fine.

Everyone's tastes are different in their choice of partner.

This thread made me giggle I'm sure I do not have the proper subbie demeanour - when Master and I are not playing I am quite cheeky and we have a lot of private jokes between us. He loves to see me smile and laugh. He also reckons He does not act like a "real Master".....but it works for us

 

[esclave_PP]

Originally posted by Bandit58
This thread made me giggle I'm sure I do not have the proper subbie demeanour - when Master and I are not playing I am quite cheeky and we have a lot of private jokes between us. He loves to see me smile and laugh. He also reckons He does not act like a "real Master".....but it works for us

Exactly! In my opinion there are no fast and hard rules (well there is always the time and place for fast and hard giggle). Whatever works in the M/s relationship is good for that particular union.

While some folks may be old school and some subscribing to newer thoughts and philosophies, I think it comes down to a sub/slave not acting like a dominant -- or topping from the bottom. If that is the situation and that Master or Mistress isn't a switch and the roles don't go back and forth, it does tend to negate the whole point. The idea of power transference seems to be just that -- when submitting, you submit. When dominating, you dominate -- perhaps it isn't as black and white really but that is just my humble opinion.

As for an official demeanor, be submissive -- and if your Master or Mistress likes a bit of impishness so be it. It is a nice relief actually to have a smart submissive that can have a great rapport with their Master/Mistress -- nothing is more boring than an automoton (sorry about the spelling on this). Anyway I am rambling.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Take it from one who knows... KC is hotter.

 

[sunfox]

This thread made me giggle I'm sure I do not have the proper subbie demeanour - when Master and I are not playing I am quite cheeky and we have a lot of private jokes between us. He loves to see me smile and laugh. He also reckons He does not act like a "real Master".....but it works for us

Exactly... and I'm sure your demeanor is exactly proper for your Master's tastes.

There's someone out there for all of us, I think.. even the cheeky ones.

 

[Marquis]

yes Sir *falls to my knees at his feet* am i doin it right is this the right demeanor?

Now you're getting it...

I knew you had it in you.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Now you're getting it...

I knew you had it in you.

*looks up at you...snapping my gum and smiling vacantly*

 

[Marquis]

*looks up at you...snapping my gum and smiling vacantly*

*Looks annoyed and holds out hand*

"Spit! No gum in the house."

 

[Kajira Callista]

*Looks annoyed and holds out hand*

"Spit! No gum in the house."

spits the gum in your hand and tries not to giggle.

 

[incubus'_sub]

Message from Incubus.

We must all remember that de meanor de Master de harsher de punishment.......

 

[sunfox]

Message from Incubus.

We must all remember that de meanor de Master de harsher de punishment.......

*groan*

 

[h_i_s]

What exactly is the "demeanor" of a sub supposed to be?
And by whose definition is it decided?

In my opinion, a submissive woman's demeaner should be as her Master defines it to be. It is only He that she needs to please. It is only His pleasures that she must submit to. It is only Him that she obeys.

Note: A submissive (be it male or female) is under no obligation to seek to please anyone's definition of demeaner or obey anyone until they agree to submit to them. Until such time, that demeaner is defined by the submissive.

 

[RJMasters]

Re: Re: The submissives demeanor

In my opinion, a submissive woman's demeaner should be as her Master defines it to be. It is only He that she needs to please. It is only His pleasures that she must submit to. It is only Him that she obeys.

Note: A submissive (be it male or female) is under no obligation to seek to please anyone's definition of demeaner or obey anyone until they agree to submit to them. Until such time, that demeaner is defined by the submissive.

Are you sure about this?

 

[h_i_s]

Re: Re: Re: The submissives demeanor

Are you sure about this?

i should hope so, as i am offering my opinion (it was stated in the beginning of my post) of what defines the definition & reality of daily living regarding my experience as a collared submissive woman.

Of course, upon having first met my Master and agreeing to submit to Him my demeaner towards Him was a bit different. Since first offering my submission to Him some areas of my behavior have been modified at His 'request' in order to please His definitions of what an obedient, submissive woman's demeaner should be.

i am enjoying a wonderful D/s relationship with a very firm, very loving & intelligent dominant man. Prior to first offering my submission to Him many aspects of what would define our D/s relationship were discussed and agreed upon. The foundation of our relationship is built on honesty, trust, obedience, respect, honor & love. my opinions are always sought by Him as well as valued. Should i disagree with Him on any note, it is discussed with Him and He still has the final say regarding everything. Should i decide to disobey, my disobedience is discussed and sometimes the discussion is followed by a well deserved and appropriate punishment.

Of course we do live in a 'vanilla' world with obligations needing to be met such as jobs, and have to interact with 'vanillas' with mannerisms reflective of that world and all that it entails. Can i be less than obedient towards others? Can i be a brat? Can i tell someone to go fuck themselves? You bet your ass i can! In fact, many times i have & do. That aspect of my demeaner is reserved for anyone deserving, and is NEVER directed at my Master.

i am employed and hold a professional position where leadership is a requirement to my success for a submissive nature would not compliment my success, and as many submissives do, i have a strong and independant nature which is allowed to surface as need be. You can be sure though that while i am away tending to my work, i am still His 'good girl'.

Whatever *my* Master decides will define my demeaner and behavior while in His presence is what it will be, period.

Am i sure of this? You can bet your ass i am sure of it.

 

[RJMasters]

Re: Re: Re: Re: The submissives demeanor

Am i sure of this? You can bet your ass i am sure of it.

lol, I was just pulling your chain...You seemed so serious an all, I couldn't resist...

I certainly agree with your comments.

 

[Desdemona]

*fanns self rapidly* This thread is just givin' me the vapors. Aftah all, I am a southern bell sub with a demure demeanor.

 

[ammre]

demeanors change drastically with people... I don't have a submissive demeanor where i walk with my head down and can't look people in the eye. Sometimes i wish i did, maybe i'd get more guys who are dominant, but whatever.
I'm a very bold personality. I can walk around naked confidently, i know how to use swords, guns, my lastest edition is my 8' 12plait kangaroo bullwhip, i like knowing how to use and operate things. No one would peg me as submissive if they jsut met me, but once you get to know me, you'll realize that i'm very indecisive becasue i like making others happy, and once you're the RIGHT people who i trust to make decisions for me, i become even more so.
I won't play doormat for just anyone, and even the people i will play dormat for have a tough time getting/keeping me there.

 

[Little Bird]

The evil Overlords right hand. Did you meant something like that?

Let's have to say that so some guys there are few things more adoreable...

In some ways, I'm quite like that, but I would not call it submission, but simply true love...

 

[h_i_s]

originally posted by RJMasters:
lol, I was just pulling your chain...You seemed so serious an all, I couldn't resist...

wellllll ......

i obey my Master, and am ready to please Him in any way shape and form at all times. Of course i am serious. Were i not, it would be *my* ass on the line after all. (geez ... this forum needs MORE smileys.. lol)

 

[FungiUg]

*fanns self rapidly* This thread is just givin' me the vapors. Aftah all, I am a southern bell sub with a demure demeanor.

I could have a lot of fun "fixing" that...

 

[Desdemona]

I could have a lot of fun "fixing" that...

Oh my!

 

[Etoile]

\(geez ... this forum needs MORE smileys.. lol)

You can use any smiley you like from anywhere on the Internet. For example, I keep a collection on my own site and use them all over the web!

Like so: http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/flirt.gif http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/handcuffs.gif http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/leatherman.gif

Just use the [ img ] tags!

 

[h_i_s]

You can use any smiley you like from anywhere on the Internet. For example, I keep a collection on my own site and use them all over the web!

i have an entire collection of animated smileys that i designed. i pulled them from my domain because too many people from too many forums across the internet hotlinked them... rofl. Thanks, though.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

i have an entire collection of animated smileys that i designed. i pulled them from my domain because too many people from too many forums across the internet hotlinked them... rofl. Thanks, though.

Okay, I know how to get smileys - but where can I store 'em so they will stay visible in posts, etc.? Do I have to keep 'em stored on a website or ftp site?

 

[Etoile]

i have an entire collection of animated smileys that i designed. i pulled them from my domain because too many people from too many forums across the internet hotlinked them... rofl. Thanks, though.

I haven't noticed many other people using mine, which I've collected from around the web. (I doubt I have any of yours - mine are all static!) I haven't noticed it making a major impact on my server load; they're each only a couple of kb so it's not a big deal for me. Animated ones are larger, though, so I could see where that would be a problem!