The Psychology of Pain

[Ebonyfire]

Here is a another question for Dom/mes and subs alike. I would appreciate it if submissives speak from their own point of view, and dominants give their perspective on the submissives that have encountered (past or present).

Thanks.

Do you consider your self to be a masochist, a person who like pain for its own sake, or a submissive, who enjoys pain because it becomes pleasure?


In may case, I have the later. My male subs enjoy pain because it becomes pleasure.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

~Bump!~

Here is a another question for Dom/mes and subs alike. I would appreciate it if submissives speak from their own point of view, and dominants give their perspective on the submissives that have encountered (past or present).

Thanks.

Do you consider your self to be a masochist, a person who like pain for its own sake, or a submissive, who enjoys pain because it becomes pleasure?


In may case, I have the later. My male subs enjoy pain because it becomes pleasure.

Eb

 

[~Dream~]

hmmm well let's see..

I dont tolerate the "pain' of verbal abuse very well at all as is evident in my posts ,however I feel I am a submissive with masochistic tendencies as I love receiving pain from Master as in only spankings so far mmm but I haver a very "High" pain threshold also.. pain=pleasure bigtime to this sub!! ty for the thread Miss Eb..

 

[gumbie]

Hmmmmm...

i seem to fall into both categories. Through a duration of a scene, the pain takes me to a place where it becomes pleasure. It is almost as if (pardon my bluntness) She is fucking me with Her whip. Each blow becomes a thrust in my mind. Each slap, pinch, each drop of hot wax, each clothespin manifests itself as sexual. Not at first, but as the scene goes on.

However, every morning, i get five swift, firm spanks to my balls with a hairbrush which seems to be pain for pain's sake.

But i don't consider myself a pain slut. ;-)

 

[mskittykatt]

i like pain - in a sexual atmosphere - for it's own sake. it is/does become pleasure for me though... so i'm not sure how to respond.
my first experiance with S&M was me on the buisness end of a bullwhip. i wanted more from the first stroke across my ass.

 

[monster666]

Actually, I really like bits of pain, but could take or leave more intense pain. I like to satisfy her need to be sadistic. So my ability to take pain is in related to the pleasure she gets administering it and her appreciation of me. Or at least it used to be, when I got to play that way. It's about approval, I guess.

 

[A Desert Rose]

a submissive, who enjoys pain because it becomes pleasure?

Eb

That's me, allllllllll over.

Rose

 

[Ebonyfire]

Thanks

to all who have posted. Some of you had a hard time labelling yourselves. Which goes to show that sometimes things are not black or white. There are nuances and shading that perhaps means we have a little of both in us.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

i like pain - in a sexual atmosphere - for it's own sake. it is/does become pleasure for me though... so i'm not sure how to respond.
my first experiance with S&M was me on the buisness end of a bullwhip. i wanted more from the first stroke across my ass.

A little of both perhaps?

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: The Psychology of Pain

Actually, I really like bits of pain, but could take or leave more intense pain. I like to satisfy her need to be sadistic. So my ability to take pain is in related to the pleasure she gets administering it and her appreciation of me. Or at least it used to be, when I got to play that way. It's about approval, I guess.

Hmm, that's a toughy Monster.

Let's look at it. If your ability to take pain is in direct relation to her administration of it, with the result being pain becomes pleasure, perhaps that places you in the submissive category.

This is my reasoning, if you were a masochist, you would like/crave the pain regardless of her need to be sadistic.

Does that make sense? It is an intriguing thought. Thanks for your great post.

Eb

 

[Andreina]

It depends on my mood when im feeling subby. Good question though. Sometimes pain becomes pleasure for me. Only sometimes, though.
I'm weird like that.

 

[Ebonyfire]

It depends on my mood when im feeling subby. Good question though. Sometimes pain becomes pleasure for me. Only sometimes, though.
I'm weird like that.

Not weird, it is just how you are.

Thanks for posting.

Eb

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Do you consider your self to be a masochist, a person who like pain for its own sake, or a submissive, who enjoys pain because it becomes pleasure?


In may case, I have the later. My male subs enjoy pain because it becomes pleasure.

Eb

I feel exactly the same as your sub, Eb. The pain My-Sir administers to me is sheer pleasure. That's not to say it doesn't hurt at the start, it sorely [ ] does. But as the scene progresses, I go ito "sub space" and the pain becomes such extreme pleasure that MY-Sir has been concerned HE will hurt me. When this happens, I reassure HIM that if the pain got too intense for me to handle, I would use a safe word.

-kym-

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: The Psychology of Pain

I feel exactly the same as your sub, Eb. The pain My-Sir administers to me is sheer pleasure. That's not to say it doesn't hurt at the start, it sorely [ ] does. But as the scene progresses, I go ito "sub space" and the pain becomes such extreme pleasure that MY-Sir has been concerned HE will hurt me. When this happens, I reassure HIM that if the pain got too intense for me to handle, I would use a safe word.

-kym-

Thanks for posting -kym. You may avoid Dom Lounge duty yet!

Eb

 

[Soron]

Pain

I admit to be something of a sadist. So, I need something of a masochist as a submissive.
I know I've said this before but, there is NOTHING more pleasurable for me than to have a submissive across my lap. I am going to spank her ass until it's hot to my touch and then caress her gently.
Same goes for hot and cold. A parafin candle being dripped on her breasts and then when she's used to the heat...an ice cube in the same spot.
Pain just for pain's sake I don't really get. Maybe. that's why it hurts me to have to punish as much as it hurts her to go through it.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Pain

I admit to be something of a sadist. So, I need something of a masochist as a submissive.
I know I've said this before but, there is NOTHING more pleasurable for me than to have a submissive across my lap. I am going to spank her ass until it's hot to my touch and then caress her gently.
Same goes for hot and cold. A parafin candle being dripped on her breasts and then when she's used to the heat...an ice cube in the same spot.
Pain just for pain's sake I don't really get. Maybe. that's why it hurts me to have to punish as much as it hurts her to go through it.

Thanks for sharing Soron.

Eb

 

[WillowPuss]

Me - I am submissive and enjoy pain because it becomes pleasure.


Give me a good spanking (please, pretty please with a cherry on top) and I will feel it at first and then ....... well - just make sure that I don't ruin your clothes


Other pain - like (have covers eyes here) the dentist ... nooooooooooo please no.

 

[Red Menace]

There's a fine line between pleasure and pain.

Other pain - like (have covers eyes here) the dentist ... nooooooooooo please no.

lol. I'm the same way, Willow. Whip me, spank me, flog me - I love it because it feels good... but pleeeeeeaaaaaase don't send me to the dentist. Or the gyno. That's a psychological pain I only endure because otherwise they won't give me my Depo.

 

[cymbidia]

Grrrrr. i just lost a completed post to this thread in the last great Lit-down. It was a good one, too.

I'll redo it and then replace this self-serving and whiny thing with that post. If i can remember it all, she mutters, which i won't. Dammit.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Me - I am submissive and enjoy pain because it becomes pleasure.


Give me a good spanking (please, pretty please with a cherry on top) and I will feel it at first and then ....... well - just make sure that I don't ruin your clothes


Other pain - like (have covers eyes here) the dentist ... nooooooooooo please no.

Thanks, Royal one!

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: There's a fine line between pleasure and pain.

lol. I'm the same way, Willow. Whip me, spank me, flog me - I love it because it feels good... but pleeeeeeaaaaaase don't send me to the dentist. Or the gyno. That's a psychological pain I only endure because otherwise they won't give me my Depo.

Thanks for posting Red Menace!

Eb

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Re: Re: Re: The Psychology of Pain

Thanks for posting -kym. You may avoid Dom Lounge duty yet!

Eb

I'M BAAACK!! Another victim of the great Lit melt down of 9/14.
Thanx M'Lady Eb for the reprieve from the horrors of "THE DOM LOUNGE.' ...grovels at your feet....


-kym-

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Re: Re: The Psychology of Pain

I'M BAAACK!! Another victim of the great Lit melt down of 9/14.
Thanx M'Lady Eb for the reprieve from the horrors of "THE DOM LOUNGE.' ...grovels at your feet....


-kym-

Grovelling is not necessary, just keep posting!

Eb

 

[Trainerman]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: The Psychology of Pain

Grovelling is not necessary, just keep posting!

Eb

Oh I don't know.....I enjoy a good grovel now and again !!

 

[SierraMoon]

pain in a sexual situation has always equaled pleasure for me, from the outset. i need the pain, to feel satisfied....even in my past 'nilla relationships... so, i'm sorry Eb, i don't know which one is me am i a masochist, or a submissive woman, who enjoys pain?

by the way.. dentist= bad pain for me.. not good.. lol

edited to add: WOOHOOO i made GURU with this post!!