The problem with big boobs? Help!

[itas]

So two years ago, I was a 42dd in bra size. Then I lost about 100 pounds, and now I'm a 36dd.

I feel like I should technically be a 36D, maybe even a 36C, but I have a lot of excess skin that make up a good portion of my breasts. I mean, not a lot. But enough so that when I'm lying down, they fall to either side of my chest and I nearly look flat chested.

I'm very self-conscious about this, especially after seeing so many porns where the girls with big boobs all seem to have signed contracts with Mr. Gravity, who promised them he wouldn't kick in until they hit 70.

My question is this: does this turn a man off? I'm 22, and I feel like I should have young, attractive breats. There are certainly attractive elements to the ones I have, but when it comes to being on top, for instance, I feel like there's too much bounce/flop going on for how young I am. Or when I'm getting it from behind-- again, the bounce/flop element is off the charts. They just hang there, moving wildly back and forth.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any tips to gaining a bit of self-esteem about them? I've never heard any complaints, but I feel like any self-respecting young guy should deserve a young, firm, anti-sag pair or breasts. Guys, what are your thoughts? Be honest! Does this turn you off? Ever grabbed a breast and been confused when it was a lot of skin rather than a lot of "plump"?

Help!

(And thanks! )
Itas

 

[Reba67]

First of all, do NOT compare yourself to porn stars. A lot of it is fake.

Secondly, is there a possibility with the large amount of weight loss that you might want to have some cosmetic surgery to deal with the excess skin? I don't know where you're located, but most health insurances pays for instances such as you are describing.

 

[StrixVaria]

Itas,
There is always someone for everyone. Men are not as uniform as advertised. As for the flopping issue, some guys think it's sexy, others might not - you just have to test the waters.

Several years ago, I dated a woman who had stomach stapling done - and who lost over 180 lbs. Naked, she looked like a Chinese wrinkle dog - fold of loose skin moved in random directions all over her body, but she had a wicked sense of humor, a sharp mind and a more than kinky perv. I was in love.

 

[MrSkier]

Dont feel bad

I am a Male, look of beast is somehow is erotic, but having to much skin is not a turn off for me. I am a breast man, i adore it, but personality, passion, being erotic is much more important than just a breast.
My most memorable experience was with a overweight women,where she was losing weight had similar issues with extra skin. Our date was the most eciting and fulfilling in many ways.She was a stunner in bed and personality. She would do thing in bed that no woman daret to go.
Stop thinking much about your extra skin.

So two years ago, I was a 42dd in bra size. Then I lost about 100 pounds, and now I'm a 36dd.

I feel like I should technically be a 36D, maybe even a 36C, but I have a lot of excess skin that make up a good portion of my breasts. I mean, not a lot. But enough so that when I'm lying down, they fall to either side of my chest and I nearly look flat chested.

I'm very self-conscious about this, especially after seeing so many porns where the girls with big boobs all seem to have signed contracts with Mr. Gravity, who promised them he wouldn't kick in until they hit 70.

My question is this: does this turn a man off? I'm 22, and I feel like I should have young, attractive breats. There are certainly attractive elements to the ones I have, but when it comes to being on top, for instance, I feel like there's too much bounce/flop going on for how young I am. Or when I'm getting it from behind-- again, the bounce/flop element is off the charts. They just hang there, moving wildly back and forth.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any tips to gaining a bit of self-esteem about them? I've never heard any complaints, but I feel like any self-respecting young guy should deserve a young, firm, anti-sag pair or breasts. Guys, what are your thoughts? Be honest! Does this turn you off? Ever grabbed a breast and been confused when it was a lot of skin rather than a lot of "plump"?

Help!

(And thanks! )
Itas

 

[Snowman5933]

If a man is only into you because of your breast, he's missing the most special part of who you are. My SO and I were having a discussion about her breast last night. She's a 36B and I love more and more each day. What I specifically find sexy about her breast are the size and shape of her nipples, not the amount of skin around them. Don't get me wrong, breast are a very attractive part of any woman, but you have to love the entire person. Take pride in what you have and who you are. Find a partner that will treat you right. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Snowman

 

[Chicklet]

Secondly, is there a possibility with the large amount of weight loss that you might want to have some cosmetic surgery to deal with the excess skin? I don't know where you're located, but most health insurances pays for instances such as you are describing.

I wonder if you could consult with your physician about whether or not the skin might shrink in the years ahead? cosmetic surgery sounds like it might fix this 'problem' and make you feel better about yourself, but maybe it's your body's plan to fix the issue on its own later...

maybe there's something you could do excersize wise. i'm not sure. maybe a dr would know.

maybe that sounds really stupid. i'm not sure.

for someone who has her own breasts, i know very little about them.

 

[Mr_G]

First of all congratulations on your weight loss. When it comes to the breasts there are a couple of things to look at. As someone else already said, ignore the Porn stars; those women could do hand stands and their breasts wouldn't sway an inch. This is not natural and you should not hold yourself to these standards which are achieved with implants. What you should be focused on is how you feel about the excess skin. Skin is designed to stretch, so sagging is natural after such a massive weight loss. You could wait it out and see if it begins to fit your new frame better, but in the end you might just have to go and get it looked at by a cosmetic surgeon because sometimes it just doesn't cling to the body like it should. Like I said before, congratulations on the weight loss and do what feels right for you. You can't be comfortable with someone else until your comfortable with your self!

 

[hogjack]

If a man is only into you because of your breast, he's missing the most special part of who you are.

Correct. Breasts are only part of the package. Good toe-webbing is important as well.

 

[horsie_gurl]

Correct. Breasts are only part of the package. Good toe-webbing is important as well.

Toe webbing?


odd


Well, definately congrats. Its hard to lose the weight, i'm working on it myself.

They all say that you shouldn't be self conscious about it because most people don't have the porn star breasts, and that you shouldn't worry because the men won't freak out about it. But with all that being said, you really shouldn't be worried about them. You really have to be comfortable with yourself. Because even if you find a guy who loves your chest, and you dont feel comfortable with it you wont be able to be relaxed and enjoy yourself. Do what you want, wait or surgery, and feel comfortable with yourself before you worry about the guys.

 

[OrcishBarbarian]

So two years ago, I was a 42dd in bra size. Then I lost about 100 pounds, and now I'm a 36dd.

I feel like I should technically be a 36D, maybe even a 36C, but I have a lot of excess skin that make up a good portion of my breasts. I mean, not a lot. But enough so that when I'm lying down, they fall to either side of my chest and I nearly look flat chested.

I'm very self-conscious about this, especially after seeing so many porns where the girls with big boobs all seem to have signed contracts with Mr. Gravity, who promised them he wouldn't kick in until they hit 70.

My question is this: does this turn a man off? I'm 22, and I feel like I should have young, attractive breats. There are certainly attractive elements to the ones I have, but when it comes to being on top, for instance, I feel like there's too much bounce/flop going on for how young I am. Or when I'm getting it from behind-- again, the bounce/flop element is off the charts. They just hang there, moving wildly back and forth.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any tips to gaining a bit of self-esteem about them? I've never heard any complaints, but I feel like any self-respecting young guy should deserve a young, firm, anti-sag pair or breasts. Guys, what are your thoughts? Be honest! Does this turn you off? Ever grabbed a breast and been confused when it was a lot of skin rather than a lot of "plump"?

Help!

(And thanks! )
Itas

I don't have enough information to give you an informed opinion...maybe you should send me some photos so that I could give you some better advice.

I think it's going to be a classic situation of YMMV ("Your Mileage May Vary"). Myself, I love big breasts...but I adore a kinky personality and a willingness to please far more. So for a woman in your situation, I'd be pulling hair and grabbing breasts, and not really caring much whether the said breasts were "firm," or "saggy," or whatever.

But that's just me...

 

[TBKahuna123]

I've never met a large breast that didn't show some effects of gravity. I've also never met a large breast I didn't like. I'm not sure if I find that sexy or not, but I do know that I find natural large breast much more appealing than fake ones.

The simple fact is though that is probably won't matter to anyone who is really into you. Some of that extra skin will skrin down or be absorbed by the body, however that works. If there is a lot though, you may need some minor surgery to remove it. I know that people who loose a lot of weight sometimes have issues like this around their tummy.

Oh and congrats on losing that much weight. If you are going to have problems, this is the problem to have.

 

[Precious_Lady]

Breast problems

As most of the posts have said, you may need to make an appointment with a cosmetic surgeon. I had a breast reduction/lift about 4.5 years ago (I was 20). I was a HH cup, now I am a D cup. My breasts developed quite early and were "saggy", painful, and I thought ugly, not to mention they got in the way all the time! I have to say that it was worth it. Today I am much more confident and happy with my body. This makes me more confident with my SO. I guess all I am saying is that it wouldn't hurt to talk to a cosmetic surgeon that you feel comfortable with.

 

[AcousticProphet]

I did some quick research on the major medical websites. This is from the question and answer section of webmd:

How much your skin will tighten depends on your age, length of time the skin was stretched and how much it was stretched, how much weight you lost (and to some degree how fast you lost it), the amount of elastin in your skin, and genetics (you have no control over that). Exercise can help as it will tighten the skin to some degree, plus it will tighten and tone muscles under the skin, which can have an affect on the appearance of your skin. We generally ask people to wait 8-12 months (assuming they are eating healthy and regularly exercising) once they've reached a goal weight to see how much the skin tightens. If after this time the skin is unacceptably loose (cosmetically unappealing or a health risk), then surgery may need to be considered to correct it. In some of these cases, when it is deemed a health risk, insurance may cover the surgery.​

So basically, keep exercising and see in a year where you stand. But as to whether guys will like your breasts or not, I wouldn't worry. You want us to like you for who you are as a whole package, not for just one physical feature. Besides, all large breasted women will have gravity related stretching, and those of us who like large breasts both love and adore that facet of your body.

Just do what makes you feel best about yourself.

 

[an_angels_wings]

Keep up the cardio ... getting your blood flowing under your skin will help to keep it healthy and may help in tightening it up. You might also consider weight training specifially for the chest area and around the shoulders/upper arms and right under the arms, that'll help put some firmness beneath the skin and may help to give you more shape/support.

Use cocoa butter/vitamin e lotions on the areas of skin ... the intense moisture ought to help bring it "back to life" so to speak and help tighten it up. Also, be sure to drink lots and lots of water.

I lost a bit of weight, too, and have this problem with my arms. The lotions seemed to help tighten the skin up a bit, etc. Also try asking your doctor if s/he has any other recommendations.

 

[timenabtl]

Oh My Dear,

Congrats on your wieght loss. Not an easy thing to do. As for your breasts...listen to the replies on here. Take your time, then decide what's right for you. Large breasts do sag...the porn stars have what I refer to as "cartoon breasts". Having big breasts can be so much fun. As in getting tittie fucked, pushing the girls together and having both nipples sucked at the same time, the list goes on and on. Finding a partner who is into the complete package. I love the sites about natural boobs. Just have fun with it. I once read something that said, "the guy wouldn't be in bed with you if he wasn't really interested." Relax and enjoy your entire sexual being!!!

Good Luck,
R ;-)

 

[jl22play]

I sooooo agree with much of what has been said, BUT

So two years ago, I was a 42dd in bra size. Then I lost about 100 pounds, and now I'm a 36dd.

I feel like I should technically be a 36D, maybe even a 36C, but I have a lot of excess skin that make up a good portion of my breasts. I mean, not a lot. But enough so that when I'm lying down, they fall to either side of my chest and I nearly look flat chested.

I'm very self-conscious about this, especially after seeing so many porns where the girls with big boobs all seem to have signed contracts with Mr. Gravity, who promised them he wouldn't kick in until they hit 70.

My question is this: does this turn a man off? I'm 22, and I feel like I should have young, attractive breats. There are certainly attractive elements to the ones I have, but when it comes to being on top, for instance, I feel like there's too much bounce/flop going on for how young I am. Or when I'm getting it from behind-- again, the bounce/flop element is off the charts. They just hang there, moving wildly back and forth.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any tips to gaining a bit of self-esteem about them? I've never heard any complaints, but I feel like any self-respecting young guy should deserve a young, firm, anti-sag pair or breasts. Guys, what are your thoughts? Be honest! Does this turn you off? Ever grabbed a breast and been confused when it was a lot of skin rather than a lot of "plump"?

Help!

(And thanks! )
Itas

BUT
I would just suggest that you really really think long and hard about cosmetic surgery. It's a big step. It costs alot. You have to think long term (if you are considering implants to help with the "plump"), you have to think about redos in the future, and scars, and future sagging and breast feeding). Lots to consider!!!

And as the last person said (paraphrasing)....if you're in bed with someone, they are there with you for than just your breasts. Us women tend to be WAY to hard on ourselves! Enjoy! Be proud of who you are!!!

 

[borediowamom]

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[Mesachie]

Agree Sort Of

I agree with most of the posters here, try the healthy way of dealing with toning the body and skin first. And finding a guy that likes you is a lot more important than one that likes your breasts.

That said and truly meant, floppy or droopy breasts are not a strong visual stimulus to most guys. Pert breasts are. Some guys fixate on large breasts. But unless they are into the improbably huge ones, it is still pert over droop.

The shaking or bouncing seen when having sex doggie style is often a turn on for guys. Sort of visual feed back. Too much of it? Hmmm, interesting concept but not one I'm familiar with.

I think listening to other women (here and in real life) when considering surgery is very important. I don't like the idea of body modification just to please a guy (save those cute I belong to so-and-so tattoos), but if it is to please yourself ultimately and give you enhanced self-confidence, then it might be worthwhile after much consideration.

So, from a pure esthetics viewpoint, perky small are better than droopy large. Sorry to bust any preconceptions here ladies. Some guys will disagree, most won't. Perky medium are generally considered better than perky small, though some guys like that little to no breast look for various reasons, but usually on a thin body type.

A guy that likes you as a person is better than a guy that adores your tits. Sorry for mentioning this again, but it really does bear repeating. Good luck and get the best advice available about scarring and so on from your medical practicioner.

Mesachie (an older guy)

 

[itas]

Thanks to everyone who has posted a reply so far! I've heard some great little insights that I'll hold on to when I'm thinking about who to do in the future.

As for the last poster--Mesachi-- I don't know if I fully agree with you about your generalization about most men. I mean, I did come here for different opinions and ideas about my little problem. But I highly, highly doubt that it's fair to say (and please, anyone who disagrees with me, I'd love to hear your thoughts) that -most- men enjoy small, perky breasts. I guess I don't have any real evidence to back this up. Since my weight loss, I've been with different men who have all paid close attention to my breasts in a positive way, despite my lack of confidence of them. So, unless they were merely "putting-up" with the big/droop factor because they simply wanted to get some (no matter what the cost), what you say couldn't possibly be hard fact.

Could it?

Thoughts?

 

[JessieSexpot]

I think that man is making a blanket statement. Men I have been with love my boobs. No complaints. I think you should try to be more comfy with yourself. And congrats on the wieght loss!

 

[NippleMuncher]

I highly, highly doubt that it's fair to say (and please, anyone who disagrees with me, I'd love to hear your thoughts) that -most- men enjoy small, perky breasts.

IMHO, it's not the size of the breast, it's the "pertness" of it that is coveted by both men and women alike. We men all have our favorite "feature", and beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. Some men like large women, some like small, some like hairy, some don't, some prefer blondes, some redheads, some brunettes, etc, etc, yada, yada, and so on.

It is NOT important what others think of you or your breasts. What IS important is what you think of yourself. It is YOUR self-esteem that will determine the reaction you get from others. You've worked hard to get the body you've got, take pride in the new you. Do what YOU need to do to feel sexy and others will find you just as sexy and equally irresistible.

Being a breast man, I admire breasts of all sizes and shapes. Sure, I have a favorite "style", if you will, but I would never impose my personal preferences on someone else. I love and respect the women that I have been blessed to spend time with for who they are as a person, not their bodies. As a matter of fact, for a short time I dated a woman who had just undergone a double mastectomy and was in the process of reconstructive surgery. She wanted to know what I liked, but I refused to tell her because she'd have gotten whatever she thought I'd prefer. I told her the same thing that I've stated here, that it is about her own self esteem, wants, and needs, not mine. Sadly, it was her insecurities that caused our parting of ways. She was smart, funny, and a really great person, just too insecure to appreciate who she was.

There has been lot's of great info posted here about whether or not to have surgery and when, only you can decide what's best for you. Congratulations on the new you, keep up the great work, enjoy yourself and your new body.

 

[Mesachie]

Itas,

Sorry if I was unclear. I meant it as a relative preference. Men, in my experience oggling and chatting about women's breasts, prefer pert breasts over droopy, regardless of size. Now that said, most men enjoy large breasts. I think that the majority will probably prefer them.

But if asked to pick between similar sized breasts and one pair were in thrall to gravity, while the other pair stood proud, ignoring the earth's pull? Well, I can tell you what the majority of guys will choose. I suspect, that even given a fairly significant size difference, that most, but not quite as many, guys will still go with smaller, but pert breasts. I don't mean that most guys prefer small breasts, but they prefer pert breasts.

I am talking about breasts that are completely exposed and unaided. Not encased in a bra and/or hidden beneath clothing. A woman with good bra that contains and lifts breasts presents a very pleasing view, even if those same breasts are on the droopy side when unassisted. And I state only what my experience is. I have shared photos of women with other guys, from erotica and porn to playboy and similar magazines. We have chatted about girlfriends, one night stands, and ex-wives.

If the choice is between all pert, shapely breasts, larger will likely be more often chosen. After that all sorts of other preferences come into play. Most that a woman has almost no control over. Some guys love "puffies" which usually denote a secondary dome that the nipple resides on. Other guys want to devote their attention to pink nipples, some prefer the dark ones. I love small, dainty nipples, while one friend of mine would wax poetic over the larger pancake-sized nipples. And even height of the nipple when erect can be another fixation. The diversity among women's breasts is amazing and so very pleasantly delightful!

I do want to congratulate you on your weight loss. That is very cool! I hope that you are content with whatever choice you make. And that the guys appreciate you for who you are more than what you look like.

Mesachie

 

[kinksterr]

Honey,

I come from a family of large breasted women. The only physical thing that you can do for yourself is to build the muscle underneath your breast. If you have not already done so...join a gym and hit the pec machines hard. Make sure that you include working your back muscles as they also play a part in posture and support for your breasts. If you lost the weight (congratulations btw) quickly...then it will take your skin time to recover. Allow yourself at least some time before you consider going under the knife to correct something that could correct by itself in time.

Best of luck to you!

K

So two years ago, I was a 42dd in bra size. Then I lost about 100 pounds, and now I'm a 36dd.

I feel like I should technically be a 36D, maybe even a 36C, but I have a lot of excess skin that make up a good portion of my breasts. I mean, not a lot. But enough so that when I'm lying down, they fall to either side of my chest and I nearly look flat chested.

I'm very self-conscious about this, especially after seeing so many porns where the girls with big boobs all seem to have signed contracts with Mr. Gravity, who promised them he wouldn't kick in until they hit 70.

My question is this: does this turn a man off? I'm 22, and I feel like I should have young, attractive breats. There are certainly attractive elements to the ones I have, but when it comes to being on top, for instance, I feel like there's too much bounce/flop going on for how young I am. Or when I'm getting it from behind-- again, the bounce/flop element is off the charts. They just hang there, moving wildly back and forth.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any tips to gaining a bit of self-esteem about them? I've never heard any complaints, but I feel like any self-respecting young guy should deserve a young, firm, anti-sag pair or breasts. Guys, what are your thoughts? Be honest! Does this turn you off? Ever grabbed a breast and been confused when it was a lot of skin rather than a lot of "plump"?

Help!

(And thanks! )
Itas

 

[cmore]

So two years ago, I was a 42dd in bra size. Then I lost about 100 pounds, and now I'm a 36dd.

I feel like I should technically be a 36D, maybe even a 36C, but I have a lot of excess skin that make up a good portion of my breasts. I mean, not a lot. But enough so that when I'm lying down, they fall to either side of my chest and I nearly look flat chested.

I'm very self-conscious about this, especially after seeing so many porns where the girls with big boobs all seem to have signed contracts with Mr. Gravity, who promised them he wouldn't kick in until they hit 70.

My question is this: does this turn a man off? I'm 22, and I feel like I should have young, attractive breats. There are certainly attractive elements to the ones I have, but when it comes to being on top, for instance, I feel like there's too much bounce/flop going on for how young I am. Or when I'm getting it from behind-- again, the bounce/flop element is off the charts. They just hang there, moving wildly back and forth.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any tips to gaining a bit of self-esteem about them? I've never heard any complaints, but I feel like any self-respecting young guy should deserve a young, firm, anti-sag pair or breasts. Guys, what are your thoughts? Be honest! Does this turn you off? Ever grabbed a breast and been confused when it was a lot of skin rather than a lot of "plump"?

Help!

(And thanks! )
Itas

Not to sound sick, but can't say w/o a pick. I don't want to say yours are attractive if they are truely not, but I dated a girl with a similar thing I was totally turned on by her pair. I loved hers. they were so much fun to play with, a lot more so than her roomates small firm, but nice to look at ones. I say lay back and have some fun and be certain guys like almost anything that they can play with.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

So two years ago, I was a 42dd in bra size. Then I lost about 100 pounds, and now I'm a 36dd.

I feel like I should technically be a 36D, maybe even a 36C, but I have a lot of excess skin that make up a good portion of my breasts. I mean, not a lot. But enough so that when I'm lying down, they fall to either side of my chest and I nearly look flat chested.

I'm very self-conscious about this, especially after seeing so many porns where the girls with big boobs all seem to have signed contracts with Mr. Gravity, who promised them he wouldn't kick in until they hit 70.

My question is this: does this turn a man off? I'm 22, and I feel like I should have young, attractive breats. There are certainly attractive elements to the ones I have, but when it comes to being on top, for instance, I feel like there's too much bounce/flop going on for how young I am. Or when I'm getting it from behind-- again, the bounce/flop element is off the charts. They just hang there, moving wildly back and forth.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any tips to gaining a bit of self-esteem about them? I've never heard any complaints, but I feel like any self-respecting young guy should deserve a young, firm, anti-sag pair or breasts. Guys, what are your thoughts? Be honest! Does this turn you off? Ever grabbed a breast and been confused when it was a lot of skin rather than a lot of "plump"?

Help!

(And thanks! )
Itas

Ok, I am male, so perhaps my opinion is valid in this (rare) situation...

I have dated mostly women who were somewhat overweight, and a few had this "issue" you refer to...to me, it never was an issue. Like so many other guys on here, there is much more to making a woman sexy than breasts...we don't want plastic and why put yourself through painful surgery for someone you might meet?

My first love was 23, had a D cup that when she was above me, sagged rather dramatically, but I didn't care, she was a hottie because sexaully she blew me away. She had breasts, they were fun, she knew how to use them, I was happy - it's that simple. Why did I leave her? Dishonesty and severe mental illness, nothing physical!