The Power of a Voice

[Recidiva]

I play video games, a lot of them. I'm playing (and replaying) a series of games where your companion characters react differently to you if you serve their interests. Be nice to a character, even if involves slitting a kitten's throat, they're nice to you in return. Be mean to that character, ironically...refusing to slit a kitten's throat, they're mean.

I always knew I liked nice voices and they are a huge reason why I would want to spend time with someone...to listen to their voice, duh.

But it occurred to me that sometimes, the reason I'm nice to someone is so they WON'T be angry at me. It's not so much the anger as the ugly harshness of an angry voice.

Good voices are happy voices. Angry voices might have power in context, but overall I prefer the happy voice and the warm tone, humor and intimacy. Making a person with a nice voice angry is like slashing a painting.

Despite what it looks like here, I don't argue much in reality.

If I like the voice actor...male or female, I'm much more interested in the conversation and not necessarily in what they say. If a voice is ugly, I will try to escape without listening at all. I've listened to audio books (Roy Dotrice has a nice voice, he voices all the books of Game of Thrones) where if he adds phlegm and harshness and ugliness to a certain point, I yank the earphones out of my ears until I think that character's done talking. It's appalling. It might suit the character, but it's an abomination, I won't voluntarily listen. He also did a good voice for Daenarys in books one through three and then fucked her up entirely in book five, making me despise one of my favorite characters and the voice actor doing it.

I married the person who has the most persuasive voice I've ever heard. I'm...deeply shallow and going to stay that way.

How 'bout you, what difference does a voice make in your day and life strategy?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I'm too sensitive to voices, and detect minute levels of whatever the person is feeling. Dogs are pretty much the same way. They react to the characteristics of the sound. I'd prolly play better with other kids if I stuffed cotton in my ears, or stopped assuming its all about me.

I usta get plenny of compliments from women about the appeal of my voice, BEDROOM VOICE most said it was. I have no idea what they meant.

 

[blobfish]

I think JBJ has a crush on you, Recid.

 

[Recidiva]

I'm too sensitive to voices, and detect minute levels of whatever the person is feeling. Dogs are pretty much the same way. They react to the characteristics of the sound. I'd prolly play better with other kids if I stuffed cotton in my ears, or stopped assuming its all about me.

I usta get plenny of compliments from women about the appeal of my voice, BEDROOM VOICE most said it was. I have no idea what they meant.

I'm a singer, so that's one thing. Study of singing can help weed out a tendency to be breathy, nasal or unsupported.

I usually don't remember what a person looks like in the sense of being able to describe them, because I'm busy listening to them.

I'm not just sensitive by inclination, I'm sensitive because my hearing is acute and wide in range. I can hear things I'm not supposed to and my son says that I could hear a fly fart in China. I can hear frequencies that I'm not supposed to be able to hear. Sometimes this works out so that there's some sort of feedback in an otherwise normal soundtrack that makes my spine jangle and makes me flee the room with other folks unaware.

Part of my insight into human behavior is not just listening carefully, it's also from hearing people say things under their breath or in other rooms where it's assumed I just couldn't possibly hear them. I don't eavesdrop, I just can't help hearing it.

I have to use earplugs often to listen to movies with other people. If it's set just right for me, nobody else can hear it, if it's set so they can hear it, it's too loud for me.

 

[Recidiva]

I think JBJ has a crush on you, Recid.

Nah. I'm just occasionally fun to talk to.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Blobfish

Actually Recidiva and I are old adversaries. I like her cuz she's smart.

 

[Recidiva]

Blobfish

Actually Recidiva and I are old adversaries.

Battle scars. I gots 'em.

 

[Recidiva]

There's no proof remaining, either, I don't think. The thread was removed? Author's Hangout.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

There's no proof remaining, either, I don't think. The thread was removed? Author's Hangout.

I think so. A while back I noticed plenny of posts had vanished.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I always got along well with JENNY JACKSON.

 

[blobfish]

Blobfish

Actually Recidiva and I are old adversaries. I like her cuz she's smart.

Yeah, I can see that.

 

[Recidiva]

You have your reasons and although I don't agree, I can at least get my head around them...sometimes.

You read some good books.

But I'm aware I'm not getting veggies. Damn!

 

[Recidiva]

Yeah, I can see that.

Like...would...require...an entirely different definition of the word.

 

[blobfish]

Like...would...require...an entirely different definition of the word.

I like James. Maybe it's because I like everybody, or maybe it's because he spells certain words in all capital letters.

 

[Recidiva]

I like James. Maybe it's because I like everybody, or maybe it's because he spells certain words in all capital letters.

I'd say he's indifferent to liking or disliking in a conventional sense. It wouldn't matter if I liked him or not, though I can't say that I do. He's more of a curiosity.

You like everybody?

 

[blobfish]

I'd say he's indifferent to liking or disliking in a conventional sense. It wouldn't matter if I liked him or not, though I can't say that I do. He's more of a curiosity.

You like everybody?

Yes, I like almost everybody. I don't hate anybody. There's nobody anywhere that is all bad. That said, there are people I know in real life that I will not talk to.

 

[gravyrug]

Voices make a huge difference in how I deal with a person. Annoying voice? I avoid them whenever possible. Great voice? I go out of my way to talk to them whenever possible.

There are variations, of course. I have a couple of friends with really harsh redneck accents that took me years to get used to, but I managed. Eventually.

 

[Recidiva]

Yes, I like almost everybody. I don't hate anybody. There's nobody anywhere that is all bad. That said, there are people I know in real life that I will not talk to.

Oh, I don't hate anybody. Too much internal damage to my inner workings. Hate gives someone else too much of an ability to jerk you around and I'd prefer to avoid that trap. If I make a calculation that the world would be better off without someone I'd just kill them and get it over with. Without a family that might be my hobby. Finding people the world would be better without and just sorta making them not be around any more. If they're not worth talking to I just won't talk to them. Lit is a middle ground because occasionally someone's worth watching just because they're a particular blend of motivation and personality that I would like to figure out. But once I've figured them out I'm sorta like House. I don't care and I'll stop paying attention. Not big on torture or revenge or teaching someone a lesson. Did you ever notice that many of the world's worst crimes and serial killers are motivated by "teaching someone a lesson?"

JBJ is an author and he pushes buttons and look at reactions and then he writes a story about it. He's clinical. I've met much, much worse online than JBJ.

 

[Recidiva]

Voices make a huge difference in how I deal with a person. Annoying voice? I avoid them whenever possible. Great voice? I go out of my way to talk to them whenever possible.

There are variations, of course. I have a couple of friends with really harsh redneck accents that took me years to get used to, but I managed. Eventually.

I've always known that the voice is attractive to me, but I'm noticing the sub-motivations involved. It's the same with humor or intelligence, I like to encourage those things so I'll support them. A blend of those things, humor, intelligence and a beautiful voice is the ideal.

I'll lose interest in a beautiful voice if it is saying ugly, stupid things...but it might just take me a little bit longer and I might be sorry that beautiful voice wasn't talking any longer.

Ulaven will occasionally do the redneck voice, I will resort to Fran Drescher. It's a standoff.

What also comes up is that I mimic people and the tone of how I interpret their thoughts...not their voice...but their tone of voice. If I think they are saying something stupid, I'll repeat their words in a "stupid" voice. Apparently it pisses people off because I think I'm mocking them, but I'm just duplicating the mental dialect that I hear such words...I'm trying to be more careful about my expression, but it's interesting that I hear stupid things in stupid, ugly voices in my head and if I repeat them, they're said that way. I slip into accents very easily. We just passed through North Carolina and four seconds of a waittress and I'm ready to say y'all.

 

[blobfish]

Oh, I don't hate anybody. Too much internal damage to my inner workings. Hate gives someone else too much of an ability to jerk you around and I'd prefer to avoid that trap. If I make a calculation that the world would be better off without someone I'd just kill them and get it over with. Without a family that might be my hobby. Finding people the world would be better without and just sorta making them not be around any more. If they're not worth talking to I just won't talk to them. Lit is a middle ground because occasionally someone's worth watching just because they're a particular blend of motivation and personality that I would like to figure out. But once I've figured them out I'm sorta like House. I don't care and I'll stop paying attention. Not big on torture or revenge or teaching someone a lesson. Did you ever notice that many of the world's worst crimes and serial killers are motivated by "teaching someone a lesson?"

JBJ is an author and he pushes buttons and look at reactions and then he writes a story about it. He's clinical. I've met much, much worse online than JBJ.

Yeah, he's alright by me. Strange people are much more interesting than normies.

 

[Recidiva]

Yeah, he's alright by me. Strange people are much more interesting than normies.

He's aware that anybody taking offense to him here is doing it on an entirely voluntary basis.

I don't actually know any normal people...but the ones pretending to be normal are tiresome.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

You have your reasons and although I don't agree, I can at least get my head around them...sometimes.

You read some good books.

But I'm aware I'm not getting veggies. Damn!

Dont assume anything about veggies. When the Fall crop is ready I'll let you know.

 

[Recidiva]

Dont assume anything about veggies. When the Fall crop is ready I'll let you know.

I'm moving ><

 

[blobfish]

He's aware that anybody taking offense to him here is doing it on an entirely voluntary basis.

I don't actually know any normal people...but the ones pretending to be normal are tiresome.

I'm not sure that any man is truly normal, but if someone is, then the depths of his blandness must be maddening to those around him.

 

[Recidiva]

I'm not sure that any man is truly normal, but if someone is, then the depths of his blandness must be maddening to those around him.

That's what I see in many relationships. Two people pretending to be normal and slowly building up to critical crazy mass.

I prefer my system. Ulaven and I both have "get out of crazy free" cards and we can invoke them. We just can't invoke them at the same time.