The phrase / term "bull"

[StirlingMorty13]

Been reading short novella erotic fiction set in the UK by a British author and they use the term "bull" alot in the context of fucking hotwives

I like it, but to me it sounds American. I don't hear or see of it much here in the UK.

Is that a similar situation for other folks?

What connotations do you think of when you read the word bull for a hotwife?

What alternative words would we use in the UK?

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I love reading erotica, though I don’t read much in the hotwife genre. I did read a story once by a British author, and she used the term playmate.

 

[dingdongditchding]

I don't like a lot of terms

 

[stevey42]

Bull is the term I usually hear, but now you mentioned it, it isn't a particularly British way of referring to the man who provides for the hotwife. Only alternative I can think of at the moment is stud

 

[Hugo_Agogo_UK]

I’m very fond of the word shagpiece

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I’m very fond of the word shagpiece

That sounds very “Mike Myers”

 

[Hugo_Agogo_UK]

That sounds very “Mike Myers”

Yeah baby yeah!!!

 

[Hugo_Agogo_UK]

Buck

 

[Hugo_Agogo_UK]

Heartthrob

 

[dingdongditchding]

I would just call him her bf, if I was in that situation cuz I would be he #1, if she made me #2 then that would be it (over). I could be talked into giving her bf a BJ so she could enjoy a longer fuck from him.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I had always looked at the term bull as a dominant guy with a large package and large volumes of cum. If you think beef and a bull that's what you get.
But I have seen personal ads for bulls that are out of shape guys with small dicks that call themselves bulls so in my mind the term lost its meaning or got way watered down.

 

[lc69hunter]

I hate the term. I have fucked many married women, some with husband's knowledge and many without, and never considered myself a bull. I think it is the height of arrogance

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I hate the term. I have fucked many married women, some with husband's knowledge and many without, and never considered myself a bull. I think it is the height of arrogance

It is arrogant but some especially guys into cuckold and humiliation seem to thrive on that

 

[IsabellaSantiago]

I had always looked at the term bull as a dominant guy with a large package and large volumes of cum. If you think beef and a bull that's what you get.
But I have seen personal ads for bulls that are out of shape guys with small dicks that call themselves bulls so in my mind the term lost its meaning or got way watered down.

I'd always considered it to mean the same. You often see the ads with terrible phrases like "long stayer" and "heavy cummer" - but they do mean it.

There are some who seem to take it to mean dominant, despite their shape or sexual performance, but it really should be reserved for those who take pride in using their physical assets to give special satisfaction as a privilege.

 

[IsabellaSantiago]

I hate the term. I have fucked many married women, some with husband's knowledge and many without, and never considered myself a bull. I think it is the height of arrogance

I don't think a bull can pull it off without a certain degree of arrogance. Having that air of superiority is part of the appeal.

 

[BillyWalrus]

I sometimes think of my gf as my little bull. She lets her big cock do the talking, "Lie there and take it, bitch!"

 

[ManLuvs2PlzW]

Semantics, maybe. I have gotten to the place where being with a married woman is an allure, something of recent that I have sought out. I don't care much for the word "bull". I much prefer the term "Vixen" than "hotwife" and "Stag" than "Cuck". In either case I see that they mean a woman that sexually plays with men other than her husband with great and variations. Same with the husband, simply husband whose wife has sex with men other than him, usually with at least his knowledge, if not consent or even encouragement. And a "bull" being a man that plays with married women.

I have never humiliated or demeaned anyone and will not. I respect everyone, their sensibilities, limits and relationship. I am as straight as an arrow, single as a dollar bill and aim to stay that way. I always want my playmate to return to her husband, always. I do aim to wear her out before she goes and would adore repeats. The term "fuck buddy" or "sex buddy" may fit and be apt.

 

[RoanMtn]

I don't care for the word "bull". I prefer friend with benefits (FWB), or "fuck buddy".

 

[LMWM321]

Terms like Bull, Hotwife, and Cuckold are grotesque porn-driven caricatures that likely bear little resemblance to the real couples that allow sex outside of their marriage.

Several years ago, I gave my wife my blessing to have occasional sex with others, albeit with conditions meant to keep her safe and to preserve the primacy of our marriage. I did NOT do this because my wife is a cruel, insatiable vixen who enjoys humiliating me (ie., a Hotwife), nor because I am a sexual wimp who enjoys being humiliated (ie., a Cuckold) and NOT because she needs a more masculine man with a bigger dick to satisfy her (ie., a Bull). Blech!!

I did it because after having sex with only each other over 3000 times (2-3/ week for 30+ years) I noticed my wife starting to lose interest in sex. At that point, I felt completely confident in the permanence of our wonderful marriage so I felt comfortable allowing her to occasionally have other partners in the hope that it might restore her overall interest in sex. Simple as that. And none of those aforementioned grotesque terms apply in any way. And I'm pretty sure they don't for most of the others who allow sex outside of their marriage

 

[BillyWalrus]

Terms like Bull, Hotwife, and Cuckold are grotesque porn-driven caricatures that likely bear little resemblance to the real couples that allow sex outside of their marriage.

Several years ago, I gave my wife my blessing to occasionally be with other men, albeit with some conditions that are meant to keep her safe and to preserve the primacy of our marriage. I did NOT do this because she is a cruel and insatiable vixen who enjoys humiliating me (ie., a Hotwife), nor because I am a sexually wimpy man who enjoys humiliation (ie., a Cuckold) and NOT because she needs a more manly man with a bigger dick to satisfy her (ie., a Bull). Blech!!

I did it because after having sex with only each other over 3000 times (2-3/ week for 30+ years) I noticed my wife starting to lose interest in sex. At that point I felt completely confident in the permanence of our wonderful marriage so I felt comfortable allowing her to occasionally have other partners in the hope that it might restore her overall interest in sex. Simple as that. And none of those aforementioned grotesque terms apply in any way. And I'm pretty sure they don't for the many others who allow sex outside of their marriage

You remind me of Harry Truman and the quote: "No, sir, I don't give 'em hell, I just tell the truth and they think it's hell."

 

[policywank]

To me the term "bull" implies another man coming in to the marriage and dominating both partners or a 'better' man that the wife submits herself to. That further implies displacement of the husband. As such I have a strong dislike for the word. Fetish play is one thing, but one should never put a third-party above their spouse.

Regardless of how one approaches this type of situation - whether it be a form of open relationship or involve a more fetishized approach - the marital partners need to be looking our for one another. There cannot be a situation where either partner cedes real control and authority to someone else.

That still leaves room for fetish and role play. Husband, wife and third-party may play any combination of roles. In our case I am dominant and my husband is submissive. My lovers are never more than equal with me and they defer to me in all matters related to my husband.

I don't mind the words hotwife and cuckold as long is it is only between me and my husband. We are engaging in fetish play, but always with one another's interests at heart. Under my authority another man may play a fairly aggressive role. But I allow that mainly because my husband enjoys it. If that other man ever abused his position, legitimately demeaned my husband, imagined me to be submissive to him or failed to alter his behaviour at my say so he would go home with his testicles in jar.

 

[Islander55]

I have seen the term bull but never thought much about it, I guess I primarily thought of it as a guy with a cock for use by a hot wife. The guys I have sexual relations with, I simply think of them as dates with the rights and responsibilities pertaining to being my date. Quite simply, I date with the express purpose of sharing sexual pleasure and am willing to give as well as get,

 

[TravisAW]

Jilly Cooper would have called him stud