The perfect sub/dom

[Marquis]

What would your perfect sub or dom be like? What qualities would they have?

My perfect sub would have the following characteristics:

- she would be slender and of medium height
- she would be feminine and coquette
- she would be the sweetest, politest person outside our bedroom but be prepared to be a filthy whore at the snap of my fingers
- she would be bisexual
- she would worship my penis like an idol and care more about my orgasms than hers
- she would be obsessed with my happiness and desire to please me any way she can
- she would share my fetishes
- she would require work. A sub that is TOO good makes being a dom too easy
- she would be really, really, really fucking horny
- every orifice of her body would thirst for my penetration
- she would be willing to share me, but never expect the same in return
- she would be intelligent

There's not much else I can think of. But I am sure other people will add things to the list that I didn't think of.

 

[Red Menace]

Two words:

Rhett Butler

 

[~Dream~]

What would your perfect sub or dom be like? What qualities would they have?

My perfect sub would have the following characteristics:

- she would be slender and of medium height
- she would be feminine and coquette
- she would be the sweetest, politest person outside our bedroom but be prepared to be a filthy whore at the snap of my fingers
- she would be bisexual
- she would worship my penis like an idol and care more about my orgasms than hers
- she would be obsessed with my happiness and desire to please me any way she can
- she would share my fetishes
- she would require work. A sub that is TOO good makes being a dom too easy
- she would be really, really, really fucking horny
- every orifice of her body would thirst for my penetration
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well lets see I'm almost the 'perfect sub' then lol i am slender and of medium height..I am feminine ..my Master says 100% woman..hehe
I am very sweet and quite polite.but also prepared to be His "fuck toy at the "snap of His fingers lol
I am NOT however bi-sexual ..that Is 1 of my "hard limits" as I am only attracted to males,sorry lol
I do worship His penis mmmm with my mouth and ANY other way I can..I do care more about His orgasms but Master cares more about mine soo..guess who wins? lol
I am always seeking of ways in which to make Him happy..
i share alot of His kinks..
I require lots of work but am very low maintenance lol
I am ALWAYS really really horny mmmm even now..
I only Dream fOR Him to penetrate me in every orifice ..omg..
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My perfect Dom...
would be tall,charasmatic,have beautiful,seductive eyes(I LOVE eyes)
He'd be domineering,just seep of Control with His very Aura"
He'd always be willing to hear me..REALLY "HEAR' me
He'd have strong loving Arms to make me feel "safe"
He'd be sexually aggressive..I wanna hear on Your knees slave,suck my cock!!"!!
He'd push my limits,Always make me have multiple orgasms
He'd find` new ways and things for us to try during sex.
He'd put my welfare above His own
He'd like to play games(chess etc)
He'd have to have a good sense of humor
He'd really appreciate my gift of submission.
He'd be willing to admit when He was wrong
He'd ALWAYS see something "good' in me to "encourage me with.
He wouldnt be too proud to show emotion.
He'd give me His trust and always be honest and respectful of my feelings..
He'd love me as No other has before..
He wouldnt choose to be with any other woman ,but me
He'd "make me fulfill each and every one of His fantasies
He'd also fulfill mine..
...i'm sure there are more... lol

 

[spankableBelle]

What would your perfect sub or dom be like? What qualities would they have?

My perfect sub would have the following characteristics:

- she would be slender and of medium height
- she would be feminine and coquette
- she would be the sweetest, politest person outside our bedroom but be prepared to be a filthy whore at the snap of my fingers
- she would be bisexual
- she would worship my penis like an idol and care more about my orgasms than hers
- she would be obsessed with my happiness and desire to please me any way she can
- she would share my fetishes
- she would require work. A sub that is TOO good makes being a dom too easy
- she would be really, really, really fucking horny
- every orifice of her body would thirst for my penetration
- she would be willing to share me, but never expect the same in return
- she would be intelligent

There's not much else I can think of. But I am sure other people will add things to the list that I didn't think of.

Well, i am not 'the perfect sub' for the Marquis according to this list, that's for certain...

i am not slender and of medium height
i am feminine, but not sure about coquettish
i am sweet and polite to all and a whore to my Sir
i am bi, but it's not a high priority
i can do cock worship
i do care about His happiness more than my own, for then i am happiest...
fetishes and fantasies between us mix and mingle
i require work, tasks, assignments, etc...
i am really really really fucking horny
i crave His penetration of every orifice
i am intelligent
And...there ain't no way in hell that i would be willing to share if the same were not granted to me...hard limit here...

Oh, well...(shrugs)

 

[spankableBelle]

my perfect Dom

(written by me, copied and pasted from another thread)

Strength of character and a knowledge of Himself in all facets of life. Strength of spirit, human decency and kindness, openness of heart and mind. Patience, a lot of patience. Certainty of what He needs, wants, desires. Quiet Dominance that radiates off His being and quivers in His words. Unpretentious confidence in Himself. Understanding. Respect. Willingness to communicate. Ability to learn. A steady hand that guides, pushes gently, nudges just enough. Knows His own soul. Ability to listen, to actually hear and digest what is being said... Encouraging of one to learn, to read, to ask, to research, to better oneself... Insightful. Affectionate. Extremely sexual, sensual, erotic, kinky. Loyal to His heart. Emotional and mental strength. Laughter. Strength in building up one that is weak, and tearing down that which keeps Him from accomplishing it. Relentless. Trustworthy and knowing that that too must be earned to some extent. Never settling. Always knowing what His girl is feeling, knowing her, what is best, even and especially when she is lost... Knowledge in His own physical power. Knowledge in His own limits. Knowledge in when to stop. Knowledge in the safety of His girl, emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually. Being in control at all times, even when His guard is down. Never being afraid to be human, to accept mistakes, to own up, to ask forgiveness, to accept it when given. To see beauty in one kneeling. To see beauty beyond the outward package. To see the soul inside and know the answer to the question... To know when to release His girl when He sees He is not doing what is best for her submissive soul. Strength to see and to embrace that which is before Him, begging, seeking, needing to be released into His hands...

belle

 

[~Dream~]

Belle?? I have 1 thing to say..

what a beautiful post that was ..and Ditto 100%

 

[Desdemona]

Dream and Belle, your descriptions of your perfect Dom move me more than I can say... probably because they sort of describe what I look for.
Dream, I'm sure you are probably describing Art; I have no preconceived physical descriptors.
I would add maturity to the lists although both of you implied it.


Marquis, I hope you find the one you seek. I'm sure you will.

 

[Lancecastor]

Perfection

At various times I've posted some of the superficial characteristics that, over the years, I tend to get moth-light for in a woman...

* 5'4-5'8
* size 6-10 depending on height
* brunette, long hair
* size 6 ring
* size 6-8 shoes
* cute slightly upturned bum
* green or violet eyes
* perky 34B-36C

Etc etc etc...all superficial.

All irrrelevant.

What I dig most in a woman is her Attitude & Values....

* natural intelligence
* a keen observer
* intuitive
* kind, gentle, sweet
* yet not a doormat
* confident, high self esteem
* yet not a prima donna
* funny & mischievious
* yet not high maintenance
* high libido, filthy mind
* yet loyal and circumspect
* spontaneous but not totally fucking nutz
* artistic but aware of geopolitics & hockey & auto racing

You get the picture....?

Here's the thing....if I were to limit my interactions with women to those with a strong initial tally on my Ideal Mate Matrix...I wouldn't do much dating, I suspect.

So, my perfect woman is......"The woman who digs me that I dig too."

Lance

 

[MissTaken]

My perfect Dom

I will know Him when I see Him.


And hopefully, He will recognize me as well!

 

[quietwillow]

If I were looking (which I am not) I would look for a Dom who was filled with humor and the joy of life. Someone who would communicate well with me and be able to distinguish my wants versus my needs within the context of the relationship. A Dom that is sensitive but strong in his guidance and teachings, an honest integrity filled person with good manners and character.

quiet

 

[A Desert Rose]

Blue light special....

I'm not looking for perfect in a person's exterior, or even his interior. But I now have a clearer picture of THE man and HE won't be looking for perfect, either.

Growing, experimenting, and most of all laughing, with that MAN, now that would be PERFECT.....

 

[SexyChele]

The "perfect" Dom will be the man who compliments me and believe me to compliment him.

I don't believe in "laundry lists" for people - it's a setup for disappointment and loneliness, IMO.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Personally

trying to be perfect ruins more decent people than just about anyting I can think of.

I prefer a balanced sub. And I strive for balance. In my opinion, being balanced allows you to work with what you have and improve on the aspects of your personality that you (the individual) perceive needing improvement and not maximize the ones you are happy with.

Eb

 

[Marquis]

Dream and Belle, your descriptions of your perfect Dom move me more than I can say... probably because they sort of describe what I look for.
Dream, I'm sure you are probably describing Art; I have no preconceived physical descriptors.
I would add maturity to the lists although both of you implied it.


Marquis, I hope you find the one you seek. I'm sure you will.

I already have.

And luckily for me she turned out to be the perfect soul-mate as well.

 

[Guest]

Re: Personally

 

[Desdemona]

Re: Personally

trying to be perfect ruins more decent people than just about anyting I can think of.

I prefer a balanced sub. And I strive for balance. In my opinion, being balanced allows you to work with what you have and improve on the aspects of your personality that you (the individual) perceive needing improvement and not maximize the ones you are happy with.

Eb

I agree Eb. I don't look for perfection in a Dom or in anyone else. I think its ok to make mistakes and to learn and grow together. Perfection would be boring.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Personally

I agree Eb. I don't look for perfection in a Dom or in anyone else. I think its ok to make mistakes and to learn and grow together. Perfection would be boring.

also. I think I meant to say to maximize the traits you are happy with.

Eb <can't type>

 

[Desdemona]

Re: Re: Re: Personally

also. I think I meant to say to maximize the traits you are happy with.

Eb <can't type>

I knew what you meant.

 

[Quint]

I agree with the above posts that making a laundry list of desired qualities is asking for disappointment, or at the very least settling. So I'll just make a list of what T has that I've since realized make me very very happy.

*At least as tall as me
*Strong enough to forcibly subdue me (though I am somewhat of a marshmallow in the muscle department)
*A creativity that rivals my own--and wins at least half the time
*Sadism
*Love for who I am and what I want to be loved for
*Similar goals in BDSM, and the same importance of it in our lives
*Patience
*Respect, although sometimes I deliberately forget it's there, and he deliberately lets me
*Love of beauty
*Complete confidence in his status as a Dominant, and not letting me do anything to threaten or demean it (i.e. "topping")
*Appreciation for what I have to offer
*Willingness--in fact, encouragement--to let me grow and become myself first, his submissive second (or simultaneously, as the case may be)
*Humor
*Passion
*Intelligence

 

[Marquis]

I agree with the above posts that making a laundry list of desired qualities is asking for disappointment, or at the very least settling. So I'll just make a list of what T has that I've since realized make me very very happy.

Thats pretty much what I was doing with my sub.

 

[WriterDom]

I'm partial to squirters.