The perfect relationship

[jodie_elizabeth]

Why is it so hard for some guys to accept the fact that some girls just want to please them? Don't guys want to be pleased? Sometimes I t hink feminists killed the sumissive relationship. I would love to live under rules and be controled, but my relationship is an equal partnership, and I am sure that it is going to stay that way.

 

[stingray61]

Come to daddy and all will be well. DO IT NOW.

 

[jodie_elizabeth]

What is your perfect relationship?

 

[stingray61]

What is your perfect relationship?

Are you questioning me?

 

[jodie_elizabeth]

No just wondering

 

[Kajira Callista]

Come to daddy and all will be well. DO IT NOW.

here is where i really need the old rolly eyed emoticon. *sigh*

 

[stingray61]

No just wondering

Hmmmm.......Think 1950's. "Leave it to Beaver" and such.

Compassionate yet firm. Authoritative yet not overbearing.

 

[jodie_elizabeth]

Breakfast in the morning; dinner at 6:00? What are your daily rules?

 

[stingray61]

Breakfast in the morning; dinner at 6:00? What are your daily rules?

Have my clothes ready for me before I finish the morning paper.

Tie my tie and make sure my collar is laying down correctly.

Make sure the house is clean, and the chores are done, and that you've left a love note for me in my lunch.

After I come home from a hard days work you can rub my shoulders while I drink a nice glass of iced tea that you've made.

When we go to bed you will make sure I don't go to sleep until I'm satisfied, and of course I will never leave you dissatisfied sexually either which is one reason you adore me so much.

 

[stingray61]

I have an appointment I need to attend so you can add me to your buddy list and we will finish this conversation later dear.
And a kiss for you before I go out the door.

 

[jodie_elizabeth]

Have your shower running as you finish your cup of coffee. A fresh towel set up for you and the bed made before you step into the shower.

 

[jodie_elizabeth]

What is the perfect relationship?

 

[stingray61]

Have your shower running as you finish your cup of coffee. A fresh towel set up for you and the bed made before you step into the shower.

Ta ta mother, I'll be home promptly at five thirty.

 

[jodie_elizabeth]

is there a perfect relationship?

 

[arctic-stranger]

What is the perfect relationship?

Ok lets take a crack at this...

First there is no Perfect Relationship. To quote someone else on the board in another context, if i meet mr perfect, i will have to run because he is probably looking for ms perfect, and i aint that!

Let's try this instead...what is a healthy relationship...we have a much better chance of finding one of those.

so what makes a healthy relationship?

Honesty. That is the gateway to intimacy. If we cannot be honest with the other person, we might as well just hire actors to play the various roles in our lives.

Commitment. It is nice to know the person will still be there when we get home from work.

Care. Even in the most intense BDSM relationship there has to be an element of caring on both sides of the fence. Otherwise the other person merely beceomes an object to you, and not a person. (See Martin Buber, iIh und Du, Je et Tu, in English I and Thou, but "thou" in this case refers to the old, informal, familiar use of the word.)

Structural Integrity. I stole this phrase from a friend, but it works well. Basically it means, to me, tht each person has a part to play in the relationship, and they can play their part, without feeling they have to play other parts. Each person recognises their strengths and their weaknesses, and they are allowed to use their strengths in the relationship, and allowed to have their weaknesses.

Hope. Can i really be a better person when i am with her (or him.) Is this relationship going somewhere that looks GOOD?

my Two cents worth....

and now a word from Peter Gabriel

In the blood of eden
We've done everything we can
In the blood of eden
Saw the end as we began
With the man in the woman
And the woman in the man
It was all for the union
Oh, the union of the woman, the woman and the man.

 

[DarkLadyOfDeath]

The perfect relationship... Nope.. no such thing.. perfect harmony.. maybe... but still an untangable thing for the vast majority of us humans.

And anyone who tells you your perfect.. Is lieing threw their teeth and you should slap them... hard. Or just laugh very very hard... I've done both with moderate to high success..

Don't settle for less then what makes you happy...
Don't act on anyones oppinion but your own...
Surround yourself with happy people...

Oh.. and people do change.. but don't expect or ask them to change for you. If it's their own idea and they're happy in doing it, all the better.. if not. accept it.. 'r move on.

 

[catalina_francisco]

As a feminist who is also a 24/7 slave by choice, all I can say is if you aren't happy with your relationship don't blame feminism or the weather or any other target you can find to avoid taking responsibility for your own choices. I am sure a group of feminists did not force you to commit to your relationship, just as they did not force your SO to be who he chooses to be. If you are not happy, if you want something different, be woman enough to take responsibility for your own destination and go out and find it and give him the freedom to find what he wants and needs to make him happy. Sorry if it seems a bit harsh, but I get tired of the old 'let's blame it all on feminism' catchcry from people who seem to not want to accept they have made their choices, no-one else....feminism has given you the freedom to seek what you want sexually and not be ostracised for having a libido....appreciate it and make it work for you if you really want to submit and serve. There are plenty of men and women out there only too happy to oblige. As to the perfect relationship, that takes constant work and communication to even come close to....take the first step and you might find it. Don't waste your life in an unhappy relationship if you truly are not getting your needs met.

Catalina

 

[stingray61]

What is the perfect relationship?

No such thing but right next to perfect is one where neither person has to work very hard at making it work.

 

[graceanne]

What's 'perfect' to one person, won't be 'perfect' to another. If you don't like where you are, decide where you want to be, and who you want to be wtih, and then don't settle for less. Frankly if you're unhappy I bet you're making your SO unhappy too.

Plus, have you talked to him about why you're unhappy? He might be willing to work on it.

 

[graceanne]

here is where i really need the old rolly eyed emoticon. *sigh*

I wish they had a puking emoticon. Or at least a gagging one, like yahoo's.

 

[h_i_s]

I would love to live under rules and be controled, but my relationship is an equal partnership, and I am sure that it is going to stay that way.

You chose him. If you are not happy with him, communicate that to him. Perhaps he has it in him to meet your needs for your love of rules and being controled, perhaps not. Regardless of the outcome, there is always the possibility of choices which may serve to change your chosen path.
A year ago this past November i made a choice regarding a 5 year relationship, after communicating my unhappiness and needs for the last 3 years, i finally left the relationship.

Last June i met a man who wants and needs the same as i in a relationship. The communication is GREAT. The trust is well established, and complimented by a healthy does of love, honor & respect. He lived an hour away in the next state, & relocated 3 weeks ago. We moved into together in the state in which i reside and am employed. We're getting married next month. There are always choices which can be made in determining one's destiny. Changes do not occur on thier own. One must actively CHOOSE thier destiny.

P.S. There is no such thing as a 'perfect' relationship. A good relationship is always growing, always changing, & involves some extent of mutual communication & dedication. A healthy relationship will not maintain itself. It takes two who share trust, honor, integrity & respect & the desire to maintain a good healthy balanced & loving exchange.

If you are unhappy, you can choose to remain as such, or you can create changes in your life which will bring happiness your way.

¸,ø¤º°sinn0cent°º¤ø,¸ proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND

 

[redelicious]

I don't know what a perfect anything is, and I'm not sure I'd want to. If life were perfect there would be no reason to explore or grow.

 

[SweetSurrendered1]

I don't know what a perfect anything is, and I'm not sure I'd want to. If life were perfect there would be no reason to explore or grow.

So true! Life would be pretty boring too. It would also take away our appreciation of things. If we never had a bad day, how could we possibly enjoy the good days (any word can replace 'day' here)?

 

[Caitlynne]

I wish they had a puking emoticon. Or at least a gagging one, like yahoo's.

You're reading my mind again... and I think I like it.

 

[stingray61]

I have an absolutely perfect relationship........with my hand. it doesn't complain or talk back, it always does what I ask of it, and it likes to touch me where I like to be touched.