The perfect gift for a Dom(me)

[wolf2002]

Last month I visited a large BDSM shop looking for something beautiful to give my Domina... besides the piles of toys, clothes and other useful stuff I hardly found anything typical gift-like to give a dominant lady. You know, jewelry and stuff...

The salesperson try to talk me into buying her a collar. She said that if the collar doesn't have a lock, it's okay to give it to a Dominant... which I doubt, BTW...

Anyway, I'd like to hear your suggestions: what do you consider a perfect gift for a Dom(me)? And I don;t mean things like 'your body and soul', I mean material stuff...

Wolf

 

[Desdemona]

I think it all depends on what the person likes. I know its hard to buy for some people though.

 

[wolf2002]

I think it all depends on what the person likes.

Perhaps you could give an example of a beautiful gift you once bought for your Sir?

 

[Desdemona]

He collects antique Roseville pottery. I gave Him a vase that I knew He liked and wanted.

Now, I'm not a Domme, but I am a woman so I'm gonna give it a go. (remember, I don't know her and I don't know how much money we're talking about).

If she is service oriented, you could always hire someone to clean her house, wash and detail her car, prepare some gourmet meals for her (you get the idea, something along that vein for a period of time).

If she likes to be pampered, some time at a nice spa or a few trips to a good masseuse are always good things.

If she likes a particular type of jewelry.... for instance something custom by a specific artist or jeweler, go for it.

You could always take her shopping for leather clothing or nice lingerie. Or, she might prefer some shoes or boots.

You could take her to a perfumerie (?sp) and have a perfume designed just for her.

Does she read books by a specific author? Would she like first edition, signed hardbacks?

Does she collect anything? Take her in search of something she really wants for her collection and buy it for her.

Would she be interested in some sort of special sex toy or something she could use to torment you?

Does she need a vacation? Whisk her away to somewhere you know she'd enjoy visiting for a long weekend. Spend that weekend lavishing attention upon her and pampering her to the extreme.

I think the key is to do something that is personal to her and make her feel how special she really is to you. Think about what she likes, wants, needs but I suggest you avoid buying her a blender (I don't think you were in danger of doing that anyway). LOL

Hope this helped.

 

[wolf2002]

I suggest you avoid buying her a blender

No way, no kitchen utensils... you never know what she'll use it for later...

Desdemona, thanks so much for your suggestions. I especially liked the perfume idea...

Actually my idea behind the tread was not to get personal suggestions, although the question rose out of a personal dilemma... I was just curious if others would have the same dilemma and what solutions they would have come up with...

Standing in the BDSM store I got the impression that BDSM'ers mostly buy each other practical stuff... whips, ropes, toys, torture instruments... logical, since there's so much to buy... but I was wondering as well if there would be any specific BDSM related articles... jewelry, art, stuff like that...

 

[His_sugar]

My favorite gift I have given my Master is a beautiful Leather Belt. It serves two purposes *wink*

He gets to wear it and think of me.. and then there is the sting factor for those other times.

 

[Quint]

Depending on the exclusivity and emotional nature of the relationship, I would probably be more tempted to look for "shared" presents. Instead of buying some random art with a random submissive on it, I would try to book myself a photography session and give those pictures to my dominant. Or even better, have my dominant involved in either the photographer or model position as well! It makes it more personalized...a bouquet of roses is lovely unless the receiver prefers irises.

I don't think I would look at T and say "he's my dominant, therefore I must get him BDSM stuff." His dominance is not the sum of who he is to me. I don't know your relationship with your Domina so this may not be relevant to you--if BDSM is the only level on which you two meet, then it would be the most obvious sort of gift. I loved Des's ideas in any case; definitely taking notes there!

 

[Desdemona]

I guess my thoughts about gift giving stem from the fact that our relationship encompasses more than D/s. So, I look for things that He can enjoy in everyday life. Yes, sometimes I may buy Him a toy, but most often it will be something that is just personal to Him and to our life.

 

[serijules]

I like to mix it up a bit, sometimes get her BDSM related things, sometimes things I've picked out because I know she likes something. I like my gifts to say "I really thought of you when picking this out."

I got her a purple lexan cane once...it was significant in two ways, one being that she was learning to use the cane and didn't have any, and I was finally ready to be caned by someone other than the first man that caned me, and I wanted to show her that. So I wrote a story involving her using a cane on me, and then purchased her the cane in her favourite colours.

I've gotten her candles and other things with her favourite TV show character, Xena on them. However, I don't buy something that is just because she likes that character, I try to relate it to something about us too. I loved the wax scene we did once, thus the candle, and I loved the knife-teasing play we've done, so got her a mini sword letter opener in Xena merchandice.

I just try to put a lot of thought into a gift and not just get things I know she will like, but things that can hold a special meaning too, even if very subtle.

 

[wolf2002]

My Domina lives on the other side of the ocean... I have never met here and probably never will... I believe this makes the gift giving even more signifant... I love the suggestions you all have made...

My favorite gift I have given my Master is a beautiful Leather Belt. It serves two purposes *wink*

Recently I bought her a silk handkerchief. She carries it with her in her purse. It is stained with my cum.

Instead of buying some random art with a random submissive on it, I would try to book myself a photography session and give those pictures to my dominant.

This is a great idea... a perfect gift!

I wrote a story involving her using a cane on me, and then I purchased her the cane in her favourite colours.

I will definitely do this next time... A precious gift becomes even more precious with a personal touch...

 

[Mr Blonde]

Ah, what the hell! Let me throw some ideas into the pot....



The best "homemade" gifts I have received from submissives:

1. bracelet/jewelry (fairly humble looking, but she put a lot of time and thought into it all; different parts of the design included different parts of our relationship including BDSM)

2. a recipe dedication (she was a good cook and got some of her recipes included into published books; she created a new dish and cleverly made the recipe's name to include our safeword; it is the only cookbook I own)

3. an erotic story (again, not something that is going to get a 4.7 at Literotica but she put a lot of time and thought into it)



Gifts I have given:

1. oil paintings (I am not Rembrandt but I am not bad for someone who doesn't spend much time on it; of course she can pose for me or I can paint from an image I know she likes)

2. massage classes (if the submissive wanted to learn, it was a double treat....she got the new skill and we could share it as a couple)

3. a star (you can "buy" a star at the international star registry and rename it to anything reasonable)

 

[wolf2002]

she created a new dish and cleverly made the recipe's name to include our safeword; it is the only cookbook I own)

Great suggestions! Mind sharing the recipe? I am thinking about a BDSM cookery thread...