The Nice Guy

[rawr_rae]

Sure Rae. Yeah I consider myself a nice guy. What's my definition of a nice guy? Basically the kind of person who treats people with decency and respect, often putting them before himself. Polite, respectful and kind are some words I'd use to describe one. I mean, it's different for every person. Some people say it's the shy quiet guys. While I fit that description too, I've known a few quiet guys who weren't especially friendly either. I think the vast majority of guys out there are "nice guys", but there are those of us that just have the worst problems in dealing with relationships, especially initiating them. I know I for one just kind of freeze up. Once I'm in a relationship things are smooth sailing, and being friends with girls is now problem. However taking that step from friends to relationship is hard, and not something I'm comfortable with, and I'm sure many of you other guys, and girls too can relate.

P.S. Thanks for the compliment.

You seem like a nice guy if ya ask me! I think I gravitate towards nice guys, except I have a problem distinguishing who is and who isn't. I always tend to go for the guys who are seemingly nice, but then turn out to be total assholes and let me down BIG time. I think I'm too loyal, and so I become blinded by my feelings and refuse to the see the bad in people. I guess this will be a pefect trait when that perfect guy comes along, but until then....the frogs are princes in my eyes, and I really need to get my vision checked!

I understand your problem about taking that next step from friends to relationships. Perhaps when the right one comes along, you'll just know...

 

[Captain Midnight]

It takes a nice woman to turn me into a nice guy

Let's hope it's sooner rather than later because this "nice" girl wants to be naughty and needs to get laid.

Thank you for your kind words. I haven't much to add to the topic at hand that hasn't already been said.






I'm 'fraid so, darlin'. But the fact that you'd be interested is flattering as hell.






I'm not unfulfilled; I'm just not as fulfilled as I think I could be. We all have this "ideal" in our heads, no?







You're intimidated? Really?!

I'm embarrassed. I'm just me. I don't bite. Much.

At least you've already seen my pics. This means I don't need to pull out the wallet collection for you.






I once played around with the idea of a fuck buddy. Regular sex, no strings attached. But then I got to thinking there'd be times I just wanted a snuggle, not a fuck, so would I need a separate snuggle buddy in addition to the fuck buddy? And what about a companion for those times when I'm not craving solitude so much? And babies? Could I really do it on my own with just a sperm donor? Silly me, I still want it all wrapped up into one package. I guess this makes me a traditionalist after all.

McKenna, you seem like a really nice woman. I've written you a PM and hope I hear from you back.

I can be very nice and outgoing if the people around me are nice and preferably outgoing. I can be intimidated by nasty people very easily. But if a woman in particular is nice to me, I'm immediately attracted to her.

It doesn't take physical beauty to create attraction, I guar-an-darn-tee that. Basically, anyone who goes to bed with another person is opening his.her heart the most of all, and watching the other person open his/her heart. If the other person opens it only part way, something is seriously wrong. You'd be better off not having sex with that person at all (believe me).

I wanted to stay in touch with this thread, that's the main reason I'm posting. The campus lady also seems nice!

 

[Trombonus]

You seem like a nice guy if ya ask me! I think I gravitate towards nice guys, except I have a problem distinguishing who is and who isn't. I always tend to go for the guys who are seemingly nice, but then turn out to be total assholes and let me down BIG time. I think I'm too loyal, and so I become blinded by my feelings and refuse to the see the bad in people. I guess this will be a pefect trait when that perfect guy comes along, but until then....the frogs are princes in my eyes, and I really need to get my vision checked!

I understand your problem about taking that next step from friends to relationships. Perhaps when the right one comes along, you'll just know...

Thanks *blushes*

 

[Captain Midnight]

Hi campus lady!

You seem like a nice guy if ya ask me! I think I gravitate towards nice guys, except I have a problem distinguishing who is and who isn't. I always tend to go for the guys who are seemingly nice, but then turn out to be total assholes and let me down BIG time. I think I'm too loyal, and so I become blinded by my feelings and refuse to the see the bad in people. I guess this will be a pefect trait when that perfect guy comes along, but until then....the frogs are princes in my eyes, and I really need to get my vision checked!

I understand your problem about taking that next step from friends to relationships. Perhaps when the right one comes along, you'll just know...

Hi rawr_rae!

You had replied to another thread and I got a notification in my email inbox. I'd like to thank you for "helping" guide me to this thread. You seemed so interesting that I looked up your other posts and found this one.

 

[Zayrina]

I live with the ultimate "nice guy". He can get along with anyone and is very popular with his coworkers. He is the yang to my bitchy yin, or something like that. A nice man is the only hope I have of surviving in a relationship because I have a ton of issues and can be very caustic and mercurial. He puts up with me. I dated a few assholes, and would not have been able to maintain a relationship with them under any circumstances. Vive le nice guy!

 

[S-Des]

I live with the ultimate "nice guy". He can get along with anyone and is very popular with his coworkers. He is the yang to my bitchy yin, or something like that. A nice man is the only hope I have of surviving in a relationship because I have a ton of issues and can be very caustic and mercurial. He puts up with me. I dated a few assholes, and would not have been able to maintain a relationship with them under any circumstances. Vive le nice guy!

Z you give me hope. Good to see you again.

 

[elsol]

Don't let Mckenna fool you with the 'nice girl' stuff.

She's a heartbreaker.

 

[Liar]

Don't let Mckenna fool you with the 'nice girl' stuff.

She's a heartbreaker.

But a nice one.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I think nice guys feel entitled... like the ladies should just fall into their laps.

Work for that booty!

As a nice guy, I feel that when I ask a woman out who likes me she should say "yes" instead of playing some stupid game and making me work for someone that technically wants me back. I won't fucking do that. Say yes or no, and then we can get on with our fucking lives and be just a little fucking more happy fuck dammit!

Yes, that's a touchy subject for me

 

[Liar]

As a nice guy, I feel that when I ask a woman out who likes me she should say "yes" instead of playing some stupid game and making me work for someone that technically wants me back. I won't fucking do that. Say yes or no, and then we can get on with our fucking lives and be just a little fucking more happy fuck dammit!

Yes, that's a touchy subject for me

I know that feeling.

Women, let me say this once and for all:
We're men. It means that 95% of us are by definition socially dense.
If you subtly hint that you're interrested, we won't get it.
If you play hard to get, we'll think you are. And therefore not interrested. So we won't get it.
If you think we know when the exact appropriate time to call you is, get a grip and a clue. We won't get it.
If you're interrested, don't wait for the fucking 50's stereotype wooing to kick in. You're strong, you're independent, we're equal and all that. Ask us out. If you don't, we won't get it.

Get it?

 

[Trombonus]

I know that feeling.

Women, let me say this once and for all:
We're men. It means that 95% of us are by definition socially dense.
If you subtly hint that you're interrested, we won't get it.
If you play hard to get, we'll think you are. And therefore not interrested. So we won't get it.
If you think we know when the exact appropriate time to call you is, get a grip and a clue. We won't get it.
If you're interrested, don't wait for the fucking 50's stereotype wooing to kick in. You're strong, you're independent, we're equal and all that. Ask us out. If you don't, we won't get it.

Get it?

AMEN!!!!!

 

[tanyachrs]

Perhaps this is why you're not getting it.

 

[Trombonus]

Ok, I was sitting in bed this morning when another question popped in my head. Do any of you guys or gals ever feel TOO nice? Like you feel almost inhibited by being nice? Ever wanted to just let go and not worry about what other people think so much, not concern yourself with being respectful and considerate? Ever want to lwt your wild side out for some fun, not caring about the consequences? Ever acted on those feelings?

 

[rgraham666]

I know that feeling.

Women, let me say this once and for all:
We're men. It means that 95% of us are by definition socially dense.
If you subtly hint that you're interrested, we won't get it.
If you play hard to get, we'll think you are. And therefore not interrested. So we won't get it.
If you think we know when the exact appropriate time to call you is, get a grip and a clue. We won't get it.
If you're interrested, don't wait for the fucking 50's stereotype wooing to kick in. You're strong, you're independent, we're equal and all that. Ask us out. If you don't, we won't get it.

Get it?

Thank you, Liar. A nice succinct way of putting it.

And now the women get to be the nervous ones, struggling with the questions.

Yes Trom, I do worry constantly about whether I hurt other people or not. And every time I stop worrying about it I end up hurting someone. Which makes me feel bad.

Psychopaths have it easy.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

I've known a few men who swear by this method: Double Your Dating

Really, as someone said, it's about confidence. Women often like cocky men... cocky and funny... damn, that one gets me, every time... he could look like Eddie Munster, but if he's confident, cocky, and funny, it makes my ears perk up... if he's intelligent, honest and just a little (I said, little!) aggressive... now my motor's running...

 

[Trombonus]

I've known a few men who swear by this method: Double Your Dating

Really, as someone said, it's about confidence. Women often like cocky men... cocky and funny... damn, that one gets me, every time... he could look like Eddie Munster, but if he's confident, cocky, and funny, it makes my ears perk up... if he's intelligent, honest and just a little (I said, little!) aggressive... now my motor's running...

Thanks for the tip. Looks like a good read.

 

[Lauren Hynde]

Double Your Dating

Another good method to do that is to go bi.

 

[rgraham666]

Another good method to do that is to go bi.

I'll pass. Don't generally like my gender.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I've known a few men who swear by this method: Double Your Dating

Really, as someone said, it's about confidence. Women often like cocky men... cocky and funny... damn, that one gets me, every time... he could look like Eddie Munster, but if he's confident, cocky, and funny, it makes my ears perk up... if he's intelligent, honest and just a little (I said, little!) aggressive... now my motor's running...

Come to think of it, the one time I told a girl that she was going out with me she said "Ok" and meant it until her ex called her back (after three weeks of not) and got back together with her...

 

[McKenna]

I know that feeling.

Women, let me say this once and for all:
We're men. It means that 95% of us are by definition socially dense.
If you subtly hint that you're interrested, we won't get it.
If you play hard to get, we'll think you are. And therefore not interrested. So we won't get it.
If you think we know when the exact appropriate time to call you is, get a grip and a clue. We won't get it.
If you're interrested, don't wait for the fucking 50's stereotype wooing to kick in. You're strong, you're independent, we're equal and all that. Ask us out. If you don't, we won't get it.

Get it?

Men, let me say this once and for all:
We're women. That means 95% of us have been conditioned to be self-conscious and consider ourselves inadequate in some way, shape, or form.
If you don't make your intentions VERY clear, we'll assume the worst: i.e. "I'm not good enough," "he doesn't want to committ," "I'm too needy."
If you play hard to get, we'll assume you're not interested, and blame ourselves for some perceived fault.
If you think we know the exact and appropriate time to initiate a conversation with you, you're wrong. Women need to talk about their feelings and emotions. Get used to it. Take a course in communication if this befuddles you, or start dating men.
If you're interested, ask. We're strong, independent, and equal, which means we are only going to ask about 50% of the time.
And for fuck's sake (literally) when it comes to it, foreplay should last more than two minutes.

Get it?

 

[Trombonus]

Men, let me say this once and for all:
We're women. That means 95% of us have been conditioned to be self-conscious and consider ourselves inadequate in some way, shape, or form.
If you don't make your intentions VERY clear, we'll assume the worst: i.e. "I'm not good enough," "he doesn't want to committ," "I'm too needy."
If you play hard to get, we'll assume you're not interested, and blame ourselves for some perceived fault.
If you think we know the exact and appropriate time to initiate a conversation with you, you're wrong. Women need to talk about their feelings and emotions. Get used to it. Take a course in communication if this befuddles you, or start dating men.
If you're interested, ask. We're strong, independent, and equal, which means we are only going to ask about 50% of the time.
And for fuck's sake (literally) when it comes to it, foreplay should last more than two minutes.

Get it?

I think that's something I needed to hear.

As a side note, I totally agree on the foreplay thing. I think it's appeal loses itself on most people, but I for one love taking my time. I love to explore every inch of my lovers body, gently kissing and nibbling, being close to her as we share our bodies. My last ex even complained I was taking too long. >.< Then again it turned out she only stayed with me for the sex and my, um, equipment...

 

[McKenna]

I think that's something I needed to hear.

As a side note, I totally agree on the foreplay thing. I think it's appeal loses itself on most people, but I for one love taking my time. I love to explore every inch of my lovers body, gently kissing and nibbling, being close to her as we share our bodies. My last ex even complained I was taking too long. >.< Then again it turned out she only stayed with me for the sex and my, um, equipment...

!

Are you busy oh, say, tonight?

 

[Trombonus]

!

Are you busy oh, say, tonight?

Nope.

 

[rawr_rae]

Hi rawr_rae!

You had replied to another thread and I got a notification in my email inbox. I'd like to thank you for "helping" guide me to this thread. You seemed so interesting that I looked up your other posts and found this one.

Hello Captain! Glad I could assist you in any sort of way.

<blushes at the compliment> Wow, you think I'm interesting? Compared to everyone else on Lit, I would consider myself rather dull!

-Rae

 

[S-Des]

Hello Captain! Glad I could assist you in any sort of way.

<blushes at the compliment> Wow, you think I'm interesting? Compared to everyone else on Lit, I would consider myself rather dull!

-Rae

With your sister, I would venture to say it would be impossible for you to be dull.