The marriage corner

[pplwatching]

Welcome to the Marriage Corner of the How To Cafe. This thread is for anyone who is either married or feels like they are If you have put the time and energy into a comitted long term relationship, then this thread is for you!

Your experience makes you an expert, and we want to hear what you have to say about your joys, sorrows, accomplishment, and tribulations. Tell us about what's worked, and hasn't worked, for you in your marriage. All posts are welcome, but we'd like to hear first hand about your marriage rather than general guidelines.

This is an invitation for you and your partner to sit down together and write about a topic together, then share here. Pick a topic, any topic; Love, sex, politics, religion, money (or lack thereof), children, family, abuse, addiction and recovery, commitment, and communication are great places to start. Anything goes, but we'd like to hear from couples in the context of your relationship.

 

[blkmack]

ummm well ok sure

 

[SweetErika]

I'm sorry to see you deleted all of that, pplwatching. It's a great idea for a thread, and I didn't have time to respond before. I read your script and thought it was good and solid advice, though a little audience participation might spice it up a little. If you gave your talk this weekend, I hope it went really well!

 

[pplwatching]

I'm sorry to see you deleted all of that, pplwatching. It's a great idea for a thread, and I didn't have time to respond before. I read your script and thought it was good and solid advice, though a little audience participation might spice it up a little. If you gave your talk this weekend, I hope it went really well!

Thanks, your words mean a lot. I actually didn't set out to delete it. I was going to update it with the final edits, and then got a little bit self concious about it. It's on my laptop, which is at my office. I will repost it and re-edit the invitation post.

We had 13 tables of 4 couples each this weekend, including 11 speaker couples. Add on child care, kitchen, and reception (all of whom are volunteers) and it was an amazing group. Our talk was on Saturday at noon, after "Understanding self" and before "Love & Sex". We had 15 minutes to talk, followed by 20 minutes of audiance participation in the form of table discussions. We felt really good sharing our marriage with others, and I'll be happy to post it again here.

I would like to say 'thank you' to all of the Lit HT contributers that I have read through the years. First, I have incorporated much of what I have read into our marriage and it has grown stronger. There are times when I don't agree with what's posted here, and I know of a few folks who don't agree with what I have to say sometimes, but it really is a community. It's always nice to read different points of view, and in general the advice is always pretty solid. Second, believe it or not, each of the questions we were asked during the Q & A session were ones that have been addressed here, and I found myself comfortably quoting from the various "How do I start communicating" threads (without revealing any of your identities when that question popped up in an anonymous note.

 

[Cathleen]

Thanks, your words mean a lot. I actually didn't set out to delete it. I was going to update it with the final edits, and then got a little bit self concious about it. It's on my laptop, which is at my office. I will repost it and re-edit the invitation post.

We had 13 tables of 4 couples each this weekend, including 11 speaker couples. Add on child care, kitchen, and reception (all of whom are volunteers) and it was an amazing group. Our talk was on Saturday at noon, after "Understanding self" and before "Love & Sex". We had 15 minutes to talk, followed by 20 minutes of audiance participation in the form of table discussions. We felt really good sharing our marriage with others, and I'll be happy to post it again here.

I would like to say 'thank you' to all of the Lit HT contributers that I have read through the years. First, I have incorporated much of what I have read into our marriage and it has grown stronger. There are times when I don't agree with what's posted here, and I know of a few folks who don't agree with what I have to say sometimes, but it really is a community. It's always nice to read different points of view, and in general the advice is always pretty solid. Second, believe it or not, each of the questions we were asked during the Q & A session were ones that have been addressed here, and I found myself comfortably quoting from the various "How do I start communicating" threads (without revealing any of your identities when that question popped up in an anonymous note.

Isn't Erika terrific? A bright star of the HT board. I'm sorry I missed your post too, I'm sure it was very thoughtful. I hope you do repost it.

Your words about the HT community are spot on. I've learned so many things here but not only learned, I've evaluated, reviewed and rethought so many issues. I know I don't agree with everything and that is great - I learn more when I'm challenged to think and ponder.

I think it's great that the HT became part of your Q & A.... so maybe we're anonymously famous! Nice to see you back. (btw, how did the re-model go over with your wife?)

 

[pplwatching]

(btw, how did the re-model go over with your wife?)

I'll post an update in that thread

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks, your words mean a lot. I actually didn't set out to delete it. I was going to update it with the final edits, and then got a little bit self concious about it. It's on my laptop, which is at my office. I will repost it and re-edit the invitation post.

We had 13 tables of 4 couples each this weekend, including 11 speaker couples. Add on child care, kitchen, and reception (all of whom are volunteers) and it was an amazing group. Our talk was on Saturday at noon, after "Understanding self" and before "Love & Sex". We had 15 minutes to talk, followed by 20 minutes of audiance participation in the form of table discussions. We felt really good sharing our marriage with others, and I'll be happy to post it again here.

I would like to say 'thank you' to all of the Lit HT contributers that I have read through the years. First, I have incorporated much of what I have read into our marriage and it has grown stronger. There are times when I don't agree with what's posted here, and I know of a few folks who don't agree with what I have to say sometimes, but it really is a community. It's always nice to read different points of view, and in general the advice is always pretty solid. Second, believe it or not, each of the questions we were asked during the Q & A session were ones that have been addressed here, and I found myself comfortably quoting from the various "How do I start communicating" threads (without revealing any of your identities when that question popped up in an anonymous note.

It sounds like a super weekend...what a fabulous opportunity to share, learn, and grow!