The How To forum

[MissTaken]

Anelize has posted an index or our library to the How To forum as there are often questions there regarding things we have and are discussing here.

Great idea.

The mods have the capacity to copy threads from one forum to the other.

How does anyone feel about new threads that seem to be strictly about "How To" something in BDSM being copied to the other forum. That would mean that there would be two threads on a topic running in two forums.

This is just an off the cuff idea, let me know what you think, please.

 

[WriterDom]

I think we should take it over. Kill all the Dom/mes and capture the subs. Convert the nillas.

Your idea sounds fine too, to me anyway.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I have no opinion as of yet... it's too early and...


NO MARSUPIALS either.

 

[A Desert Rose]

You mean duplicate them? Because if that is what you mean... the thread will still remain here... then yes, I am for that.

 

[Shadowsdream]

as duplication the idea is valid and over time will prove to be invaluable.

 

[wolf2002]

MissT, I have no experience in moderating and have complete trust in your expertise, but wouldn;t it be confusing...? Wouldn;t this fe. mean that the person who started the thread in the first place would have to read and respond to two different threads?

In general I am in favour of more interaction between the BDSM forum and the other fora. Perhaps it will invite newbies with serious questions to join us and take advantage of all the knowledge on this board... it might reduce the barrier to this 'scary' forum...

 

[WriterDom]

It may piss off the regulars there if bdsm threads keep bumping to the top from this end. I had one whiny person complain because I didn't post a "question" there. But their Mod is pretty cool. You might approch her about moving rather than double posting. And you know how touchy some people are about having their posts moved.

But you know how it is T, if you do anything 50% will not like it. And complain like you are ending the fucking world.

 

[MissTaken]

You mean duplicate them? Because if that is what you mean... the thread will still remain here... then yes, I am for that.

Yep.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Okay... I change my vote now.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Yep.

I'm soooo confused. But I know this.... I DO change my vote.

 

[MissTaken]

It may piss off the regulars there if bdsm threads keep bumping to the top from this end. I had one whiny person complain because I didn't post a "question" there. But their Mod is pretty cool. You might approch her about moving rather than double posting. And you know how touchy some people are about having their posts moved.

But you know how it is T, if you do anything 50% will not like it. And complain like you are ending the fucking world.

heh

Well, I want to get input here and then approach Alex and see if she is comfortable with the idea.

Then, the way I see it playing out, is that when someone starts a new thread that would fit both forums, copy the thread there and link the readers here to it. Then, perhaps, link the How To posters back to the original thread.

And notate on the thread that it has been copied.

They can choose whether or not they want to "work" both threads or may simply enjoy reading other input.

I wouldn't begin copying old threads from here as that might be too overwhelming for the How To forum as well as for me.

But you are right, ya can't please all the people all the time.

 

[WriterDom]

Should we send our cafe fluff to the playground?

 

[MissTaken]

Should we send our cafe fluff to the playground?

Oh!

 

[wolf2002]

Should we send our cafe fluff to the playground?

What happens in the cafe, should stay in the cafe.

Sst.

 

[spankableBelle]

Maybe i'm confused, but if someone is curious about BDSM and things that are done, etc...why not just come to the BDSM forum for it? All the forums are public...and generally there are BDSM'ers that post on all boards...i would think that at least a few would end up answering any BDSM questions in any other forum and perhaps invite the person with the question here for assistance...

Like i said, maybe i'm confused...

belle

 

[WriterDom]

Maybe i'm confused, but if someone is curious about BDSM and things that are done, etc...why not just come to the BDSM forum for it? All the forums are public...and generally there are BDSM'ers that post on all boards...i would think that at least a few would end up answering any BDSM questions in any other forum and perhaps invite the person with the question here for assistance...

Usually what happens is that someone will point them in this direction early on in the thread. As to why they post there, I don't know. Maybe they feel more comfortable there.

 

[wolf2002]

I have notice some people have hesitations to post on this board. There's some barrier that prevents them from posting.

Who can blame them, we're a pretty scary bunch of perverts...

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have notice some people have hesitations to post on this board. There's some barrier that prevents them from posting.

Who can blame them, we're a pretty scary bunch of perverts...

I think of it a little like a test exercise. If you want to get into BDSM, one of the easiest things you are going to do is click on BDSM Talk or Cafe instead of GB of elsewhere...if that is hard, maybe you need more time to think and consider if you are ready for this lifestyle. Similar to counselling...the first step is often difficult, but is necessary to begin the whole process from the perspective of wanting to help yourself and take responsibility.

I still find it difficult to understand this idea it is scary to come here. Compared to the manners on the GB, I think we are fairly nice and civilised, and usually helpful at trying to make newcomers feel welcome. I think most are happy to keep BDSM Talk seperate from the other boards and don't feel it is needed to promote more interaction as that is where the board came from originally isn't it, why step backwards and try and mainstream us?

As to the copying threads idea, I am still unsure as even with our duplicating of threads on Talk and Cafe for the get together, posts sometimes appeared only on the particular thread posted to, not both. Perhaps there could be a How To section at the top of the BDSM forum where a new thread of possible interest to BDSM could be noted and a link posted for those interested. I do think the pointing them in this direction seems to work, but maybe I am wrong.

Catalina

 

[Shadowsdream]

~~Perhaps there could be a How To section at the top of the BDSM forum where a new thread of possible interest to BDSM could be noted and a link posted for those interested. I do think the pointing them in this direction seems to work, but maybe I am wrong.~~ as the Cat says!

I read the question incorrectly and in fact thought the idea was to begin a how to thread to hold all the how to stuff was the plan...duh! cancel out My first reply please.

 

[SweetDommes]

Actually, some BDSM how to, but not in the BDSM section sounds like a good idea. Some folks consider the BDSM forum the place to go for lifestyle information and may fear that to ask here how do some kinky things would be offensive. Perhaps some couple would like to learn about the use of nipple clamps, but not about the D/s arrangement or BDSM as a lifestyle, just a fun diversion. There's nothing wrong with that ... but if you're just looking for a good time, it could be very intimidating to ask somone who lives this as a lifestyle.

This little tease on the how to forum may spark some basically vanilla person's interest.

 

[SexyChele]

Actually, some BDSM how to, but not in the BDSM section sounds like a good idea. Some folks consider the BDSM forum the place to go for lifestyle information and may fear that to ask here how do some kinky things would be offensive. Perhaps some couple would like to learn about the use of nipple clamps, but not about the D/s arrangement or BDSM as a lifestyle, just a fun diversion. There's nothing wrong with that ... but if you're just looking for a good time, it could be very intimidating to ask somone who lives this as a lifestyle.

This little tease on the how to forum may spark some basically vanilla person's interest.

Yup. Uh-huh.

I visit both forums, as well as quite a few others. The questions that are often asked on the "How To" forum, for the most part, I wouldn't consider to be truly BDSM related. I mean, things like "I want to spice up my sex life by tying my partner to the bed" is just a little kinky fun play. I think the idea of then suddenly being referred to this board is like saying, "You've crossed the line into deviance." A lot of people don't even like to recognize that something they consider a little kinky is suddenly thrown in with all those people who wear latex and leather and hurt each other. So, yes. In that way, this forum is a scary place. It's not the people, people, it's the activity/lifestyle and what it implies.

I don't think I would bother with copying posts over. Sounds like too much work for the mods and confusing for people who posted or want to read it. For those people who are truly interested in D/s or S/M or the BDSM lifestyle, there are enough folks on the "How To" forum who politely refer them here. After all, when I've seen people who are just into a little kinky fun being referred here, I never see them post here. I think that says something. (Either they found what they were looking for by searching threads, or they are not into the whole BDSM thing)

Frankly, when I think of this forum, I think of people who are activitely in the lifestyle, actively searching for information to become more involved with the lifestyle, or people who admit to liking BDSM on a part time basis. The people here are great. It's just the subject can put people off, I think.

But then. I've been wrong before, so....

 

[JoseIsWild]

Soft links are the best idea. Post a link to the thread in the other applicable forum. In UNIX, if you want one file to be accessible from multiple directories, you make a link (lrwxr_xr_x) in the other directories. You still have one file, so that's the only file that gets updated.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Soft links are the best idea. Post a link to the thread in the other applicable forum. In UNIX, if you want one file to be accessible from multiple directories, you make a link (lrwxr_xr_x) in the other directories. You still have one file, so that's the only file that gets updated.

Master explained this to me a couple of hours ago and I must admit it sounds better than copying if there is a need to cross reference. We could of course just get our own 'How To' section organised and rolling. LOL.

Catalina

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Well. My take on the whole thing is....

Just give them the information that I did.

Let them know that there IS a Library and what the topics actually ARE. That we are here if they want to come over and check us out and lurk.

Personally, I think if we start moving threads, etc. things are gonna get way too confusing.

Let's just keep it simple.

Most of the popular how-to threads end up in "Techniques", for the most part, anyhow.

My humble opinion.

~anelize

 

[Krinaia]

I'd rather not have to venture out of my cubby to find information on the How To thread. Let them come to us.


Perhaps Miss T... a poll to find out everyone's opinion... give us the problem and the solutions and see which solutions are most chosen not only by the regular posters but those pesky lurkers