The Housework

[shy slave]

I'm not sammy enough to post such evidence, even if they did exist. Which I'm not going to confirm or deny.

LOL

What a shame, but just the thought alone has made me smile

 

[graceanne]

I'm not sammy enough to post such evidence, even if they did exist. Which I'm not going to confirm or deny.

Gimme a couple more years . . . MUHAHAHAHA

 

[oysterman]

Both of us work full time before we started this lifestyle she cleaned and did laundry. I did the yardwork, paid the bills and did the cooking. At times I helped with the housework and she helped with the yardwork. I don't see that changing much now. I enjoy cooking though she cooks on the days shes off that I work. The bills I do more out of a control issue. I want to be able to control what goes out. The yardwork would be too hard for her to do on a regular basis.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I do notice some put it in the context of whether both work, or whether the pyl is at home full time in correlation as to what is workable, manageable, and fair. This is not a purely D/s thing I have come to notice with many people where both people work declaring it impossible for one to do all the house and yard work, or for some, even for them as a couple to manage. I honestly do not think it would change around here if we were both out working full time, and I also know I managed to cope with all of it, including mowing a near half acre lot when I was on my own, working full time (often attending work functions outside work hours, and 4 hours driving to and from work each day), and had at least one child at home, at one point both as well as my grand child. It is manageable, but also requires dedication and a bit of organisation, and in terms of D/s is subject to how much the dynamic plays in who does what.

Catalina

 

[Desdemona]

I think I need a manservant

And since he's the dominant one in our equation, he isn't volunteering for the job. He has chores that he has chosen. I do the rest. I'm mostly anal about it given the limitations of my work schedule. I like things to be, as ADR so aptly put it the other day, TIDY. I'm a tidy person who lives with someone who isn't. But, he does his own laundry.

Now, it's back to the yard to pull weeds and fantasize about my manservant creating the perfectly manicured lawn while I do my own laundry. Yep, I'm a multitasker.

 

[A Desert Rose]

And since he's the dominant one in our equation, he isn't volunteering for the job. He has chores that he has chosen. I do the rest. I'm mostly anal about it given the limitations of my work schedule. I like things to be, as ADR so aptly put it the other day, TIDY. I'm a tidy person who lives with someone who isn't. But, he does his own laundry.

Now, it's back to the yard to pull weeds and fantasize about my manservant creating the perfectly manicured lawn while I do my own laundry. Yep, I'm a multitasker.

And he's quite PROUD of the fact he does, too.

 

[Desdemona]

And he's quite PROUD of the fact he does, too.

LMAO. Yes, he is. I knew you'd jump on that one.

 

[IsabellaKing]

I do everything - including the gardening, decorating, carpet laying, tiling the bathroom, building the kitchen but he will help with the heavy stuff.

The only thing I don't do is to weild the hedge trimmer. I'm not allowed because he says I'm dangerous with it

This works for us. He goes out and earns the lions share of the money and I pick up the slack.

When we both worked ful time - the house went dirty.

 

[Netzach]

When we both worked ful time - the house went dirty.

I feel validated.

I personally am not able to have the kind of interpersonal relationship I want with M AND work as much as we do AND have everything caught up most of the time. If other people can do all of it, fanfuckingtastic for them, I'm my own poster child of excellence and I don't have to take photos of my baseboads to show them off. Organization is not my forte in life, making 200-300 dollars worth of my own handiwork move in a day is, but it takes about 14 hours of plugging away.

We all have diffent goals, interests, and requirements from our environment. The only thing that will fix mine is when I've had enough 200 dollar days to rent studio space offsite.

 

[Netzach]

I've talked to some other D's and it's funny, I've met a few like me. We're messy, but we're control freaky and raised to be ashamed of this, too, so it's actually VERY hard to let someone come and clean, whether we paid them, whether they're dressed as a little french maid and love every minute, it's just really hard.I get squidgy about it, even if it's just H sometimes.

 

[rosco rathbone]

We're messy, but we're control freaky and raised to be ashamed of this, too, so it's actually VERY hard to let someone come and clean, whether we paid them,

You nailed that one.

 

[mickyp123]

I do everything - including the gardening, decorating, carpet laying, tiling the bathroom, building the kitchen but he will help with the heavy stuff.

The only thing I don't do is to weild the hedge trimmer. I'm not allowed because he says I'm dangerous with it

This works for us. He goes out and earns the lions share of the money and I pick up the slack.

When we both worked ful time - the house went dirty.

do everything - including the gardening, decorating, carpet laying, tiling the bathroom, building the kitchen but he will help with the heavy stuff.

That is funny

 

[IsabellaKing]

Oh. hang on, I think I missed a couple out:

Launch the boat and clean the cars.

 

[LilyBart]

I've talked to some other D's and it's funny, I've met a few like me. We're messy, but we're control freaky and raised to be ashamed of this, too, so it's actually VERY hard to let someone come and clean, whether we paid them, whether they're dressed as a little french maid and love every minute, it's just really hard.I get squidgy about it, even if it's just H sometimes.

You nailed that one.

Nailed it? That's worthy of me practicing a multi-quote!

I've been trying to figure out why I procrastinate so much on replacing our long-deported (yes, deported, not departed) cleaning woman. While I absolutely love coming home to a clean house once a week (or every other), I really detest letting it go to someone else who won't do it precisely the way I want it done. My American Domme skills evidently do not translate to Latin American housekeepers.

In the meantime, I have absolutely no time, nor does anyone else in my household, to do it the way I want it done. So at this point...I just try to deal with the more hygienic places...

So, Netzach....our baseboards could probably have babies together.... how are your ceiling fans? If they're like mine, I see another coupling in the future....

~LB

 

[intothewoods]

Oh wow, I have noooo problem letting someone else do the housework. I mean, I would probably freak out if my partner did everything and I did jack, but I have no problem outsourcing. The only thing I would hate to give up is cooking. Although it would be awesome to have a sous chef for onions and, you know, when I cook a big elaborate meal or something.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Oh wow, I have noooo problem letting someone else do the housework. I mean, I would probably freak out if my partner did everything and I did jack, but I have no problem outsourcing. The only thing I would hate to give up is cooking. Although it would be awesome to have a sous chef for onions and, you know, when I cook a big elaborate meal or something.

me too. I never had a problem having someone clean my house when I could afford it. I was able to spend more time with my kids because of it.

 

[LilyBart]

Oh wow, I have noooo problem letting someone else do the housework. I mean, I would probably freak out if my partner did everything and I did jack, but I have no problem outsourcing. The only thing I would hate to give up is cooking. Although it would be awesome to have a sous chef for onions and, you know, when I cook a big elaborate meal or something.

I wouldn't outsource cooking ever...I honestly enjoy it too much to do that.

But outsourcing the chopping of onions? In a heartbeat!

~LB

 

[rida]

I do everything - including the gardening, decorating, carpet laying, tiling the bathroom, building the kitchen but he will help with the heavy stuff.

The only thing I don't do is to weild the hedge trimmer. I'm not allowed because he says I'm dangerous with it

This works for us. He goes out and earns the lions share of the money and I pick up the slack.

When we both worked ful time - the house went dirty.

We both work full time. We don't have a garden but few plants that I forget to water more often than not. I do everything and as such the house goes messy. Good thing that he is even messier than me so my mess looks tidy compared to his. As for dirt ... I just make sure that it is not a health hazard and that no new species will breed.

I've talked to some other D's and it's funny, I've met a few like me. We're messy, but we're control freaky and raised to be ashamed of this, too, so it's actually VERY hard to let someone come and clean, whether we paid them, whether they're dressed as a little french maid and love every minute, it's just really hard.I get squidgy about it, even if it's just H sometimes.

I'm not a D and I am still a control freak. As for outsourcing ... I'm in the process, but I'm with you with the shame ... working on it thou.

 

[intothewoods]

I wouldn't outsource cooking ever...I honestly enjoy it too much to do that.

But outsourcing the chopping of onions? In a heartbeat!

~LB

That would rock.

 

[graceanne]

And he's quite PROUD of the fact he does, too.

There's this Jeff Foxworthy routine. It goes something like 'women still do the majority of the chores. But what's funny is how proud men are of the 1% that they do. Your wife will be outside, PAVING THE DRIVEWAY, and the man will yell out the door 'Honey? Don' you worry about that ashtray in the den! I done emptied it!'

I've talked to some other D's and it's funny, I've met a few like me. We're messy, but we're control freaky and raised to be ashamed of this, too, so it's actually VERY hard to let someone come and clean, whether we paid them, whether they're dressed as a little french maid and love every minute, it's just really hard.I get squidgy about it, even if it's just H sometimes.

My mom used to clean the house before the housekeeper would come over.

 

[Bandit58]

I refuse to feel guilty about having someone come in to clean. I hate doing it myself, always have. When I lived in NZ and my kids were young, my mother would visit and always end up cleaning because the place wasn't up to her exacting standards We lived on a farm with all the dirt and crap that entails - what did she expect?

When I say I have a cleaner come in, some subs (not from Lit I add) seem to think that I'm lazy and not a "twue" sub if I don't put myself out and do absolutely everything. Is there a law which says "You sub therefore you must clean?" Not in my book, or Sir's come to that.

I do a LOT of things here that they would never have to do in a million years. Taking care of Sir is a full time job and the worry and stress is enormous. If having someone come in to take some of the weight off my shoulders by doing a bit of cleaning makes my life easier, I'm all for it. I would rather spend more quality time with Sir

 

[mickyp123]

Oh. hang on, I think I missed a couple out:

Launch the boat and clean the cars.

don't you mean launchng the cars and cleaning the boat

 

[bridgeburner]

Unless I can get Netzach and M to adopt me I think I'm just going to live alone.

I am also much better at cleaning than tidying. The only thing I'm really anal about is dishes. The water has to be scalding and you have to use enough soap to make real suds on everything. I loathe washing silverware.

It's hard for me to even imagine co-habiting with someone at this point. I have a lot of stuff that would drive someone else crazy, or if they also had stuff we'd end up buried alive. I can't imagine cooking a meal every night or sitting down to a cooked meal every night although if I had all the money in the world I'd hire a cook before I hired a housekeeper.

I'm also one of those people who would feel the need to clean before a service came in and then I'd spend the whole time worrying what they thought of me and all my piles of stuff.

Maybe I just need a bigger place?

 

[Desdemona]

There's this Jeff Foxworthy routine. It goes something like 'women still do the majority of the chores. But what's funny is how proud men are of the 1% that they do. Your wife will be outside, PAVING THE DRIVEWAY, and the man will yell out the door 'Honey? Don' you worry about that ashtray in the den! I done emptied it!'

Hi grace. I used to love Jeff Foxworthy. That routine describes my T, who ADR is referring to. I have to give him credit though, he does chop onions for me (and he's proud of that too)... in fact, whenever he does something around the house, he makes a point of telling me. LOL.



My mom used to clean the house before the housekeeper would come over.

At one point in my life, I was a little guilty of this one. Now, I can't afford to outsource. But, I'd have zero shame about it if I had the extra bucks. I love a clean house and I'd rather be puttering in the yard than running a vacuum cleaner.

 

[Desdemona]

I've talked to some other D's and it's funny, I've met a few like me. We're messy, but we're control freaky and raised to be ashamed of this, too, so it's actually VERY hard to let someone come and clean, whether we paid them, whether they're dressed as a little french maid and love every minute, it's just really hard.I get squidgy about it, even if it's just H sometimes.

This explains alot of what I've suspected about T. For example, if he were to tell me to clean his bedside table and I did it, it would be all good with him. But, if he sees me picking up "his mess", he fusses that I'm working too hard and seems really uncomfortable and almost embarrassed about it.