The Housework

[unfoundiamond]

Housework is for my man.

I am laughung to myself while sitting here writting this, as I in no way consider myself a domme... I am much happier being told what to do...

I don't clean anything in my house (unless I choose to, of course) except my body.

I take extra time on me... I do my hair and nails... Id bathe my children for example, but I don't see if fit for me to have to clean the bathtub, I am not his janitor, He is bigger and muscular... its easyer for him to do hard dirty stuff... I have nails and long hair and sensitive skin... why and how am I better suited to do it?

I can clean... I do at work a lot being a server in a hotel...(the most american, well recognized, nicest Hotel... to you trying to guess which hotel I work for)

I had to clean a lot as a child, my mother made me clean, she made me do dishes every single night, then I moved in with my dad at 12, and learned about "chores"

F*ck That! I refuse to clean anymore.

I am not saying I wouldn't, but I don't. If I didn't have to work, and got to play Mrs Polly Slave all day, I wouldn't mind cleaning...
Especially if S/He was extremely hot, and had a strong presence... and I knew itd be noticed, and id say... get a nice long slap-fuck-slap session for it...Id clean the fucking toilet with a toothbrush, if it was necesarry. LOL. I love those kind of people...

But I am a pleaser is what that last paragraph was intended to mean... If I knew id be praised and rewarded Id do damn near anything.

I hate cleaning tho. Its for my partner IMO... (-I am in a totally non power play relationship...)

 

[JMohegan]

Housework division seems like such a flash point with modern 2-job couples, so I'm just wondering how you pervy peeple deal with it.

I know a lot of guys who say that the prospect of a female taking over laundry, cooking, and whatnot is a major factor in the decision to shift from solo to shared living space, but that's not me. I do just fine taking care of myself.

The point of cohabitation, for me, has always been increased time spent with a female whose companionship I really enjoy. In terms of both time and energy, ordering a working woman to perform all household tasks would be counterproductive to that goal. So I prefer a combination of outsourcing as much as possible and efficient split of remaining tasks instead.

"Efficient" means efficient on my terms, though. In my world, domestic harmony results if, and only if, I control who does what and when.

 

[intothewoods]

For me, there is something deeply soothing and satisfing in seeing the dirt disappear, a simplicity in the task where you don't have to engage your brain too much.

I love tetris and puzzles and organizing in small scale (I am the queen of packing suitcases ) but the whole house??? It just overwhelms me.

Seeing dirt disappear is satisfying. I'll give you that. And dirt is okay - when the situation involves old food or, ahem, man hair, it's really tough for me to deal with it. It's like a hazmat situation at that point.

As far as the whole house goes, dude, you just break it into small manageable pieces. It's so totally satisfying. I think I am a little ocd on that scale. I just reorganized my kitchen and it makes me sooo happy. I also have kidlet's toys sorted by category, and that makes me a happy camper also. I'm really kid-centered and all that jazz until it comes to my living space. And then it's like, dude, a lego is not an objet d'art.

I know a lot of guys who say that the prospect of a female taking over laundry, cooking, and whatnot is a major factor in the decision to shift from solo to shared living space, but that's not me. I do just fine taking care of myself.

The point of cohabitation, for me, has always been increased time spent with a female whose companionship I really enjoy. In terms of both time and energy, ordering a working woman to perform all household tasks would be counterproductive to that goal. So I prefer a combination of outsourcing as much as possible and efficient split of remaining tasks instead.

"Efficient" means efficient on my terms, though. In my world, domestic harmony results if, and only if, I control who does what and when.

The bolded part made me giggle. Have they lived with a woman? It's kind of like that saying about marrying for money? You know, you pay for every cent? I don't think they want a partner. They want a mommy.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I In my world, domestic harmony results if, and only if, I control who does what and when.

That's really what it comes down to with me. I don't mind helping out....I just insist on having the last word.

 

[Netzach]

I know a lot of guys who say that the prospect of a female taking over laundry, cooking, and whatnot is a major factor in the decision to shift from solo to shared living space, but that's not me. I do just fine taking care of myself.

The point of cohabitation, for me, has always been increased time spent with a female whose companionship I really enjoy. In terms of both time and energy, ordering a working woman to perform all household tasks would be counterproductive to that goal. So I prefer a combination of outsourcing as much as possible and efficient split of remaining tasks instead.

"Efficient" means efficient on my terms, though. In my world, domestic harmony results if, and only if, I control who does what and when.

Rock on. If you think you hear that a lot among men, hang with some FemDommes.

I've never understood it, really. I want to be screwing him till I can't see straight not watching him clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.

Even with my slave, it's only fun to make him clean if there's psychodrama. Domestic chores bore me and make me slightly uncomfortable in some way.

 

[Netzach]

I admit - I am the person who does housework the halfassed boy way and gets lectured on how to put back a sponge the right way - I married my grandmother, sometimes, I swear....anyway.... No, it's NOT a passive-aggressive way to not have to do it. Lectures like this make me feel like I'm in a HUGE freaking no-win though, so incentive to clean at all goes out the window. I do things in a different order or sometimes in a RANDOM order, or not thinking about the order at all, which freaks out someone who's OCD like no one's business.

I've put my foot down in an interesting way last night. I said "fine. You want it a certain way, just write it out. Explain it like you would to a child ON PAPER in LIST form." We'll see if he'd rather clue me in to the workings of his clean standards or just have something to complain about.

 

[JMohegan]

The bolded part made me giggle. Have they lived with a woman? It's kind of like that saying about marrying for money? You know, you pay for every cent? I don't think they want a partner. They want a mommy.

Ha, ha - sure. There are plenty of mommy-seekers, I guess.

But there are also people who appreciate the service aspect or the Master/Mistress-slave thing. I don't see anything wrong with it, of course. As a practical matter, it's just not for me.

I should add that I've never lived with a woman who was both jobless and childless. Retirement aside, it's hard for me to imagine a situation like that, but I agree with RR that this type of scenario would surely make the division of labor much simpler.

Rock on. If you think you hear that a lot among men, hang with some FemDommes.

I've never understood it, really. I want to be screwing him till I can't see straight not watching him clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.

Even with my slave, it's only fun to make him clean if there's psychodrama. Domestic chores bore me and make me slightly uncomfortable in some way.

Can't say it makes me uncomfortable, but the rest fits me pretty well.

And it's not just screwing, of course. Having her chat with me over the newspaper, laugh with me about the neighbors while we're walking the dog, read something interesting to be discussed at dinner, etc. All of that means more to me than having her dust my furniture.

 

[intothewoods]

I admit - I am the person who does housework the halfassed boy way and gets lectured on how to put back a sponge the right way - I married my grandmother, sometimes, I swear....anyway.... No, it's NOT a passive-aggressive way to not have to do it. Lectures like this make me feel like I'm in a HUGE freaking no-win though, so incentive to clean at all goes out the window. I do things in a different order or sometimes in a RANDOM order, or not thinking about the order at all, which freaks out someone who's OCD like no one's business.

I've put my foot down in an interesting way last night. I said "fine. You want it a certain way, just write it out. Explain it like you would to a child ON PAPER in LIST form." We'll see if he'd rather clue me in to the workings of his clean standards or just have something to complain about.

Oh Geez. I've heard 'just make me a list' before. Although in my defense, I don't care about the order. But I don't like the laundry done and then left in little piles, like gifties from the laundry faerie. Shit, I should probably stay living alone. I really do look around my place, just the way I like it and think, do ya really want to mess with this? I'm such a pain in the ass.

Ha, ha - sure. There are plenty of mommy-seekers, I guess.

But there are also people who appreciate the service aspect or the Master/Mistress-slave thing. I don't see anything wrong with it, of course. As a practical matter, it's just not for me.

I was thinking more of non-bdsm types. All of the PYLs I know who are into service slaves, including FemDommes, fwiw, do not want to live with them.

I don't think there's anything wrong with most any arrangement, as long as both people are okay with it.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Oh Geez. I really do look around my place, just the way I like it and think, do ya really want to mess with this? I'm such a pain in the ass.

So beard clippings caught in the toothpaste balls in the sink are a hard limit.

 

[intothewoods]

So beard clippings caught in the toothpaste balls in the sink are a hard limit.

I just threw up a little in my mouth.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I just threw up a little in my mouth.

I'm gonna tell your man to tie you down and then clip his tonenails all over the floor.

Maybe eat spaghetti by twirling on the fork and dipping it in the sauce jar, too.

 

[Netzach]

So beard clippings caught in the toothpaste balls in the sink are a hard limit.

My philosophy is shit happens, it just can't stay there like, all week.

 

[Untamed_Tygress]

I'm the one who takes care of the animals & vacuums since i'm home during the day. Dishes are a split chore, and laundry is my responsibility too since i cant stand wrinkled clothes and he has a habit of letting them sit.

 

[intothewoods]

I'm gonna tell your man to tie you down and then clip his tonenails all over the floor.

That would suck.

Maybe eat spaghetti by twirling on the fork and dipping it in the sauce jar, too.

As long as the saucy spaghetti doesn't land on the floor, I'm cool.

 

[FurryFury]

I truly believe that this is one of the make or break it relationship components, along with money issues and sexual compatibility, the home environment must work for both partners.

 

[Untamed_Tygress]

I think i have OCD. I used to go through soap and shampoo like water, but i'm getting better. Now it's body hair that freaks me out and i know it shouldn't cuz i'm blonde. My bf is always telling me not to worry about it & nobody is checking out my peach fuzz. lol

 

[cuffed_kitten]

Mostly in his/our place its a joint thing, although there isn't really too much housework that gets done in general. We both handle dishes going in/out the dishwasher, we both cook, and we both tidy up if one of us has the inclination. But for the most part there isn't much to do!

I'm always the one that does the laundry and vacuums, but he makes up for it by doing things like washing my car, keeping it running smoothly etc. So pretty equal I'd say! I think its pretty separate from our sex life, where he is the dominating one.

 

[graceanne]

Did you see that? He said you were lazy!

I admit - I am the person who does housework the halfassed boy way and gets lectured on how to put back a sponge the right way - I married my grandmother, sometimes, I swear....anyway.... No, it's NOT a passive-aggressive way to not have to do it. Lectures like this make me feel like I'm in a HUGE freaking no-win though, so incentive to clean at all goes out the window. I do things in a different order or sometimes in a RANDOM order, or not thinking about the order at all, which freaks out someone who's OCD like no one's business.

I've put my foot down in an interesting way last night. I said "fine. You want it a certain way, just write it out. Explain it like you would to a child ON PAPER in LIST form." We'll see if he'd rather clue me in to the workings of his clean standards or just have something to complain about.

This is one of those places where submissiveness ends for me. If I am doing the housework I WILL NOT be criticized on how I do it. I detest nit-picking for one thing, and for the other - well, as far as I'm concerned if he thinks I'm doing it wrong he can do it himself. When we first got married I didn't do ANY dishes for several months - he didn't like how I loaded the dishwasher. Now he doesn't criticize how I clean, especially since when I clean things LOOK clean.

 

[FurryFury]

Did you see that? He said you were lazy!





This is one of those places where submissiveness ends for me. If I am doing the housework I WILL NOT be criticized on how I do it. I detest nit-picking for one thing, and for the other - well, as far as I'm concerned if he thinks I'm doing it wrong he can do it himself. When we first got married I didn't do ANY dishes for several months - he didn't like how I loaded the dishwasher. Now he doesn't criticize how I clean, especially since when I clean things LOOK clean.

I feel that way. It's why I often prefer that no one be home and/or around me when I work. I'm so used to being judged negatively since I was a tiny child - my first marriage. I can't easily with that sort of crap.

Of course I always was at times praised too highly as well.

There was no realistic ground.

Oh and used as an object to "show off."

I think a LOT of my insecurity stems from this sort of treatment.

 

[rida]

Seeing dirt disappear is satisfying. I'll give you that. And dirt is okay - when the situation involves old food or, ahem, man hair, it's really tough for me to deal with it. It's like a hazmat situation at that point.

As far as the whole house goes, dude, you just break it into small manageable pieces. It's so totally satisfying. I think I am a little ocd on that scale. I just reorganized my kitchen and it makes me sooo happy. I also have kidlet's toys sorted by category, and that makes me a happy camper also. I'm really kid-centered and all that jazz until it comes to my living space. And then it's like, dude, a lego is not an objet d'art.

Hehe ... I hear you on the blob that looks like some unknown species, LOL! That is why I take care of it before it evolve into a moving being. As for man hair, teen-ager blondish long hair are much much worse! (especially since the owner seems to have a totally blind spot for them )

And I know I should divide the whole house into smaller chunks ... I've even signed up with Flylady. The only thing is that the sink is now almost sparkling ... but for some reason the neatness has not been able to expand from there to the rest of the house. (But children puzzles are all done or stored in their box and no piece is missing.)

To my defense I'll say that I have two entropy generating machine in the house, and I am doing a very bad job at teaching them to clean-up ... I know it is not good but it is just so much easier to do things myself than get them to do them .

I admit - I am the person who does housework the halfassed boy way and gets lectured on how to put back a sponge the right way - I married my grandmother, sometimes, I swear....anyway.... No, it's NOT a passive-aggressive way to not have to do it. Lectures like this make me feel like I'm in a HUGE freaking no-win though, so incentive to clean at all goes out the window. I do things in a different order or sometimes in a RANDOM order, or not thinking about the order at all, which freaks out someone who's OCD like no one's business.

I've put my foot down in an interesting way last night. I said "fine. You want it a certain way, just write it out. Explain it like you would to a child ON PAPER in LIST form." We'll see if he'd rather clue me in to the workings of his clean standards or just have something to complain about.

It is interesting that there are certain thing for which I do not care how they are done, but other for which there is my way or my way (how to hang the laundry is one of those). But I have learned to just say thank you when Hubby does something, instead of criticizing (and sometime I'll redo it but without being obvious).

 

[graceanne]

I feel that way. It's why I often perfer that no one be home and/or around me when I work. I'm so used to being judged negatively since I was a tiny child - my first marriage. I can't easily with that sort of crap.

Of course I always was at times praised too highly as well.

There was no realistic ground.

Oh and used as an object to "show off."

I think a LOT of my insecurity stems from this sort of treatment.

Yeah, my mom would get in moods and nothing I did was good enough. If it was clean she'd nitpick HOW I cleaned it. Like I didn't rinse the dishes in hot enough water or the chair wasn't in the exact spot she wanted it or whatever. That's probably why criticizing how I clean things is like a major hard limit. Quite frankly if I can't please you, I won't try.

 

[FurryFury]

Yeah, my mom would get in moods and nothing I did was good enough. If it was clean she'd nitpick HOW I cleaned it. Like I didn't rinse the dishes in hot enough water or the chair wasn't in the exact spot she wanted it or whatever. That's probably why criticizing how I clean things is like a major hard limit. Quite frankly if I can't please you, I won't try.

I know exactly what you mean!

 

[wheet]

Am worried if my submissive thing goes over more with my wife, I'll be doing alot more cleaning!! Seriously, I do a decent bit, but it doesn't get me in any good graces with her!!

 

[shy slave]

Housework is easiest done by simply tying your sub to the stove until it's all done
I thought everyone did it this way

http://stuff.wittstrom.com/images/tiedtostove.jpg

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In reality Agie does most of the housework like washing, cooking and doing dishes, I cook sometimes and leave her a big mess to clean up . I do the carrying of clothes up and down to the laundry room and some general cleaning like vacuuming. But we are both pretty lazy people and don't mind the apartment being a bit cluttered.

This really made me smile,

But I have to ask, did you really kneel or crawl at her feet to tie the rope

And if you did, can LadyA post the pics?????

 

[LadyAgie]

This really made me smile,

But I have to ask, did you really kneel or crawl at her feet to tie the rope

And if you did, can LadyA post the pics?????

I'm not sammy enough to post such evidence, even if they did exist. Which I'm not going to confirm or deny.