The Holiday Blues

[Nigel]

Does anyone else get them? I get them in spades. It usually starts with Halloween...because it reminds me of the impending Thanksgiving holiday....then we have the Christmas crunch directly after. It generally lasts till just before New Year's Eve.

Well....I'd been down for a few weeks...but it came crashing down like a sledge hammer at work today.

Who else gets 'em? And what do you do to make them more liveable?

Nigel

 

[PacificBlue]

Well....considering I suffer from depression. The holiday season does not help. Sooooo...

I went and bought food for the local food bank, which helped me focus on someone else besides myself. I also signed up for some volunteer activities right after the first of the year.

Go outside everyday for at least 30 minutes...breath deep. You only get so many rides around the sun.

 

[littlekateyes]

I do not particularly enjoy the holidays, but my little one does. My son and I donate our time and extra cash. We collect things during the year to donate to Children’s hospital and that seems to help.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Hi Nigel... I was thinking today I hadn't seen you around much.

 

[Zaudika]

While I enjoy the holidays to a point, I also have a hard time dealing with depression and sadness alike during the season. For many different reasons that I won't elaborate on. This year has been particularly hard.

The suggestions people had above for things to do I think are great. Spending time with my friends.. and my family sometimes helps.. though sometimes it also makes it worse.

It does seem that the one thing that is almost 100% fool proof is doing something for someone else, and helping someone else in one way or another. Whether it be telling a joke to make a person smile who's down, donating food or money to a charity, or performing some act of service. (for example, perhaps helping an elderly couple put up christmas lights because they dont have the strength or abillity to anymore) ..

Something a friend told me once when I was struggling,.. was "When life is difficult, take a moment, take a deep breath, smile, even if you have to force it, then take another step." I don't know if that would make sense to you.. or to anyone else... but for me. Sometimes that's all that I can do.. and when it was said to me.. it made a great deal of sense.. and a difference.

<<<<HUG>>>>

 

[intrigued]

Nigel, I've missed you, it's really nice to see you and that lovely chest again. I hope things are still moving forward...

I have nothing much to offer, I go back and forth with it too because I want so much for my children. I just keep seeing it through their eyes, that helps the most.

 

[red_rose]

Heya, sweetie.



I'm sorry you're blue. I've had that problem around the holidays many times before. This year wasn't feeling very promising until today, actually. I went to work and we had our "Christmas" today. It was just so nice to see everyone so giving and caring - even if it's just for a day! lol

As for how to beat the blues? The only way I know how to is to be with the ones you love and try to share the Christmas spirit yourself.

If you need to talk, you know how to find me, hon.

 

[sufisaint]

holidays and seanonal afect disorder...great combination...

 

[cutie pie]

I was never overly fond of Christmas. It got even worse after my mother passed away - she loved the holiday. I trudged through it only because of my daughter and made it as festive for her as I could. I couldn't stand to listen to Christmas music.

I thought perhaps this year might be different, but it really hasn't changed. It looks like I'll be alone for the better part of Christmas Day and that is really starting to get to me.

How to make it more liveable? I think this year I'm going to buy several bottles of wine and rent some of my favorite movies and pretend it's just another day.

Bah humbug.

 

[juicylips]

Hiya, Nigel.

Guess who?

 

[JaymesBlond007]

I really don't dig on any holiday anymore. New year's eve is the only part of the year thta I get excited about, but then that seems to be counterfactual as well. I guess if i really wanted to start anew, I would pull my head out of my narrow ass and take the innitiative no matter what day it was.

Oh well...merry Christmas.

 

[Pixie]

How to make it more liveable? I think this year I'm going to buy several bottles of wine and rent some of my favorite movies and pretend it's just another day.

Bah humbug.

I wish I could do that...
But like my #1 on the wish list, I don't think that'll happen either *sigh*

 

[bknight2602]

Since the kids are gone, the holidays don't have the same meaning, but I'm not depressed by the holidays. I do enjoy the merriment and parties that accompany the season.

 

[tswyk]

Nigel, honey, I'm sending you the BIGGEST, HUGEST happy vibes I can rustle up, ok?

Hugs - you know where I am if you need me.


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[LukkyKnight]

Hi Nigel... I was thinking today I hadn't seen you around much.

He's been feeling kinda blue, I think.

 

[Jewelz]

Hey sugar, Just dropping off some love 'n hugs for you. I've always loved the holidays but the last few years have been rough. This year is proving to be the same. The way I am making it liveable is by focusing on my three daughters and living vicariously through them again. As I do that, the excitement rushes back to me and I usually do a fine job of being happy.

As for making it liveable for yourself this year honey? Why not write some letters to some old friends or volunteer somewhere and give your time to those less fortunate. Because there always is someone less fortunate than we are. In the true spirit of giving, surround yourself with making others smile. It does wonders for your soul.

And if that doesn't work, how about I come sit on your lap and we can talk about anything that comes up?

Smile for me.

 

[Nigel]

Thank you.....

Ain't it a bitch when you start a thread, then get so down you can't bring yourself to reply to those who've replied?

Thank you all so much for your replies. It's getting a little better here at Casa Nigel - I spoke with my sister last night, and though she makes me nuts sometimes, she got me feeling mostly semi-better......and if that's not equivocating, I don't know what is...lol

Bitch of it is, I have to leave for work in a couple of minutes, and I don't have time to respond individually to your replies. I will try to do so, hopefully before I leave tomorrow for parts north.

Please accept my best wishes for you and your families for the holidays...

Hugs,

Nigel

 

[InnocentAngel81]

i've been like this for weeks completely miserable, i wish it was over