The GB Memorial Thread

[Debbie]

I believe she met her husband here but I can't recall his name.

damn. She was kind smart and funny.

 

[FataMorgana]

And Tathagata.

 

[FataMorgana]

That one was a gut punch, mostly for the timing. Completely unexpected.

She didn't actually post more than a couple times, but Mrs Rug passed a couple weeks ago.

Oh no Gravy. I'm so, so sorry.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

Sadly, Eumenides

Wait, What? She was an amazing soul. Sharp, witty, kind, empathetic, and a great writer.

I did her wrong, and greatly regret it because she deserved so much better. Hardly a day passes without me wishing it had gone differently.

I know she got married, and that she was very happy. That makes me happy.

RIP K.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

I believe she met her husband here but I can't recall his name.

It began with a W. I want to say Wilbur, but that's certainly not it.

 

[just pet]

That one was a gut punch, mostly for the timing. Completely unexpected.

She didn't actually post more than a couple times, but Mrs Rug passed a couple weeks ago.

I am so sorry to hear this. My deepest condolences.

 

[Queersetti]

It began with a W. I want to say Wilbur, but that's certainly not it.

Wilben.

 

[Queersetti]

That one was a gut punch, mostly for the timing. Completely unexpected.

She didn't actually post more than a couple times, but Mrs Rug passed a couple weeks ago.

So sorry to read of your loss. May her memory be a blessing.

 

[Queersetti]

And Tathagata.

Yeah…..now.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

That one was a gut punch, mostly for the timing. Completely unexpected.

She didn't actually post more than a couple times, but Mrs Rug passed a couple weeks ago.

I know she was a great woman. I believe I met her once at R's house?...or maybe elsewhere.

Cherish the memories of her, smile when you think of her.

 

[Noor]

Jacintexas

 

[Not Normal]

That one was a gut punch, mostly for the timing. Completely unexpected.

She didn't actually post more than a couple times, but Mrs Rug passed a couple weeks ago.

I'm sooooo sorry, Gravy. I can't imagine how this is hitting you and the Rugletts.

 

[gravyrug]

I know she was a great woman. I believe I met her once at R's house?...or maybe elsewhere.

Cherish the memories of her, smile when you think of her.

Yeah, she came down for one of the lit-togethers you were at.

I will. She absolutely cracked the ER nurses completely up, so she went out heroically.

 

[silver gurl]

Yeah, she came down for one of the lit-togethers you were at.

I will. She absolutely cracked the ER nurses completely up, so she went out heroically.

*hugs* to you and the kids.

 

[butters]

That one was a gut punch, mostly for the timing. Completely unexpected.

She didn't actually post more than a couple times, but Mrs Rug passed a couple weeks ago.

my deepest sympathies, mr rug—may your memories keep you comfort

 

[Queersetti]

Jacintexas

Thank you. I will add them.

 

[Pookie]

I check the boards for the first time in months and now wish I hadn't. Seeing Q does make me feel some joy though.

 

[Queersetti]

I check the boards for the first time in months and now wish I hadn't. Seeing Q does make me feel some joy though.

You showed up just as I was about to add your name to the list.

 

[Pookie]

You showed up just as I was about to add your name to the list.

I usually like being on your lists.

 

[Noor]

I usually like being on your lists.

Who doesn’t ?

 

[someplace]

That one was a gut punch, mostly for the timing. Completely unexpected.

She didn't actually post more than a couple times, but Mrs Rug passed a couple weeks ago.

I'm so sorry for your loss. words are never enough.

Bigrednz was my darling. Born 1955. Married 1999. I lost him feb 2023. To covid acquired in hospital whilst recovering from a heart attack and receiving dialysis. My precious.

Thank you Q.

I haven't been here in yonks and come to read of your losses. I'm so so sorry. We can start a support group. Whoever saw THAT coming from all the Lit-togethers? Gravy and Debbie, I'm so sorry you have to walk this path. I'm only a little ways ahead of you.

 

[Debbie]

I haven't been here in yonks and come to read of your losses. I'm so so sorry. We can start a support group. Whoever saw THAT coming from all the Lit-togethers? Gravy and Debbie, I'm so sorry you have to walk this path. I'm only a little ways ahead of you.

For some lit isn't a community but for me it has been and in some ways still is. ❤

I'm sorry lovely about the loss of your darling

 

[someplace]

I have attend the funerals of 3 Litsters: unclej, FeistyRedHead and Bluesboy2 I miss them all every day. Still.

unclej was so so funny. When he and Bluesboy got together, I just had to take a seat while they tried to one up each other. Completely out of the blue, unclej died of a massive heart attack. His loss was keenly felt by both of us a long time. We'd both been used to talking to him nearly every day. After he died, one of us would think of something we needed to tell him and then realize we couldn't. That hurt. unclej's family gave his woodworking workshop to his apprentice who went on and surpassed his mentor in luthering. The apprentice cut up the entire building into pieces that would fit in his pickup truck, moved them to his property and completely reassembled the building as unclej had it. Awesome musical instruments are still created from unclej's equipment. It's pretty cool. That funeral was in the midst of one of the worst ice storms in Central Texas. Blues and I had thankfully driven the night before and stayed in Austin. Otherwise we likely wouldn't have made it. The funeral was about 30 miles away over treacherous roads but we got there. It was one of the most heartfelt funerals I'd ever attended. I loved it so much, I later asked for and received a copy of the script.

Feisty lived with us a year or so before moving in with Vino. She was funny too and loved Blues' cats. When she laughed really hard, she'd start snorting, which made us all laugh more, which caused more snorting. Sometimes I can still hear it. So fun. She loved dressing the cats up and taking photos of them. The cats...not so much. She seemed really happy with her boyfriend and they seemed perfect together. Blues and I took her out after her cancer diagnosis and she told us she was going to fight it and win. That was the last time we saw her. Her boyfriend found her on the kitchen floor when he came home from work. She had had some kind of coughing thing that ruptured something. The police kept him downstairs in their townhome because there was so much blood, they thought it a crime scene. We were the first people he called after the police and funeral home left. Blues sat and talked to him, calming him down while I cleaned the kitchen. We waited for Vino to get off work and get there. When she arrived, she and I picked out Feisty's outfit and jewelry, which Blues and I dropped off at the funeral home on our way.

I was so blessed to have Bluesboy in my life. We had a great 20 years together. I think we were a good balance. God knows someone had to balance all that weirdness. He was so funny. As is often the case, humor is used to cover darker things. Bluesboy made no secret of his depression and the things he'd done to himself to try and escape it. He was 9 years clean and sober when I met him and he was just shy of his 30th sober birthday when he died. He was the strongest person I've ever met. He made it his mission, especially throughout the lockdowns, to reach out to others and help lift them up. By helping others, he helped himself. He dedicated his whole life to composing and playing music. He'd spent much of the lockdown composing new material and recording it. When he was in the coma at the end, we discovered if we played his music to him, the machines would all move much faster. His producer rushed the production of his last song so we could play it for him the very last day we spent with him. The machines REALLY went crazy. He loved mentoring young musicians and the last three he worked with in particular are all doing really well professionally. I'm so proud of them. The establishment where Blues hosted a weekly jam paid tribute to him. His jams turned out to be so popular, people had to wait outside for others to leave before they could go in. They installed a framed photograph of Blues right on the stage so it looks like he's watching everyone play. I'm building a photo collection of musicians posing with his picture. His band still hosts the jam and I go often to support them. Once I was sitting at the band table and a woman asked me "which one is yours?" meaning which of the band members on stage. I told her "All of the them" before explaining my guy was the one on the wall. I started a music education foundation in his name to carry on his passion. I've assembled a pretty eclectic group of board members from different fields and ages to ensure it continues after I'm not around. I think he'd be humbled by the amazing outpouring of support. Every week someone else will tell me a story or that they were talking about him -- and how much they miss him. You never know how many lives you touch and how the ripples from that go out. Bluesboy made a lot of ripples.

 

[someplace]

Please add any names that I have missed, I am sure there are some. And feel free to use this thread to reminisce if you feel inclined.

TexasFunGuy passed in January 2021 from cancer. He was a HUGE sports fan and very involved in charity work. The Houston Astros honored him with a video on their big screen and there are several tributes to him at that stadium. His family is raising money to fund a perpetual scholarship in his name. I think they have 3 years left to raise another $11,000. I'm sure they'll get there. He was from a huge family and they do many things to remember and honor him. It's very sweet to see.

 

[someplace]

For some lit isn't a community but for me it has been and in some ways still is. ❤

It was always about the connections, friendships and community for me too. I look at the GB now and it looks like how I remember the Playground. There doesn't seem to be serious conversations or playful intelligent banter. Maybe I haven't dug deep enough. We did have a few really fun years though. We used to send packages back and forth. I got the MOST AMAZING Buckeye sweets from Perky. I sent a load of teapots to LuckkyKnight once on a dare. Oh that was funny. Who was the one who used to go ballistic in political threads -- like batshitcrazy? Privately he was really nice to me and sent me a wonderful mezuzah and lotions from Israel -- I can't remember his name, but he's on Qs departed list. Sad. I've sent wedding gifts to former Litsters' kids. It really is something how our connections from the place this used to be grew out into the real world.