The Forum Crush

[Guest]

How many people here have had a "crush" (an admiration/interest/obsession with no realistic expectation of reciprocation) on another forum member or a person you knew only online? Is it rare or does it happen to you all the time?

Did you ever contact your crush or reveal your thoughts to them? Do you think a crush would lose its importance or fantasy potential if it is revealed? Is it the secrecy and the lack of response that makes it interesting, or is it only fun if you can develop it into a flirtation? Has any flirtation ever moved offline? Is that a guarantee of ruining something that's fun?

I can come up with a dozen more questions about this idea. I've got a story going with this at the core and I'd really love to hear other people's experiences and thoughts.

 

[zeb1094]

How many people here have had a "crush" (an admiration/interest/obsession with no realistic expectation of reciprocation) on another forum member or a person you knew only online? Is it rare or does it happen to you all the time?

Did you ever contact your crush or reveal your thoughts to them? Do you think a crush would lose its importance or fantasy potential if it is revealed? Is it the secrecy and the lack of response that makes it interesting, or is it only fun if you can develop it into a flirtation? Has any flirtation ever moved offline? Is that a guarantee of ruining something that's fun?

I can come up with a dozen more questions about this idea. I've got a story going with this at the core and I'd really love to hear other people's experiences and thoughts.

Haven't really had one yet on the Forums, but have had one in RL. Yes, it's just been the one, the others were lust driven, this one is completly different from those.

 

[Guest]

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[cheerful_deviant]

Have I ever had a crush on someone I met online? Almost daily. I don't think that a crush is a very uncommon occurance at all. In fact I'd say that at almost any given time half the people in the AH have some kind of jonesing for someone else here.

But has it ever developed farther? For me? Almost. A few years ago when I was at a very low point in my life I started a flirtation with someone online, (not in the AH) that almost developed into something more seriuos but I broke it off before it could develop more. I'm married and take my vows seriously. I'll flirt around online and have fun but as for clandestine meetings that's not going to happen.

There are a few women in the AH right now that I could see myself very easilly falling but I can't allow myself to. Responsibilites and obligations in real life that precident.

 

[impressive]

Um, yeah.

 

[Guest]

Perhaps you don't know how many relationships (real ones) have started right here in the AH.

I won't post a list, I figure that's their business, not mine. But there are more than you'd expect.

No, I don't know, but I'm perfectly willing to accept it. I met my husband online (12 years ago on AOL, believe it or not). We knew each other for 6 months before we ever met.

But I'm really talking more about "fantasy" sort of things, where it's just the fun of the imagination involved (and not those hormone induced crushes my friends and I got in junior high. Those were hellish.)

 

[elsol]

I have too many people at work to crush on.

Unless Yui is posting her bikini av or black shorts av or eyes av... or...

Hmm... I crush Yui.

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[SeaCat]

No, I don't know, but I'm perfectly willing to accept it. I met my husband online (12 years ago on AOL, believe it or not). We knew each other for 6 months before we ever met.

But I'm really talking more about "fantasy" sort of things, where it's just the fun of the imagination involved (and not those hormone induced crushes my friends and I got in junior high. Those were hellish.)

Ummmmm yeah. There are a couple whom I have feelings for. Yes they know about it as well. Do I think anything will come of it? Nope.

Cat

 

[Young-Impressionable]

Yep. Met online, then met in RL, now is my best friend. With benefits, of course.

 

[Samandiriel]

Um, yeah.

I have a crush on Imp but she never calls me.

 

[zeb1094]

Actually there are a couple of Ladies here that I guess you could say I have crush on. Do they know, well maybe one of them! Will anything happen between us, most likely not but I can dream!

As for my RL crush, does she know, no. Will anything ever happen, no.

So goes my life!

 

[Guest]

Well, do you think admitting/revealing a crush ruins it? Or is it a chance worth taking? (assuming all you are aiming for is an online flirtation or something similar)

 

[zeb1094]

Well, do you think admitting/revealing a crush ruins it? Or is it a chance worth taking?

In both my cases no it wouldn't ruin it, might be a little embarrassing but I hope the friendship is stronge enough for us to still remain friends.

 

[cheerful_deviant]

I have a crush on Imp but she never calls me.

I'd have a crush on you but some of your personalities scare me.

 

[rgraham666]

There is one woman on here who I have been seriously crushing on since practically the day I arrived here.

I've never told her, but she's a bright lady, so she probably knows. A couple of people here know.

There is zero chance of us ever getting together.

I do wish my heart would listen to reason.

 

[impressive]

I have a crush on Imp but she never calls me.

I'm afraid of you.

 

[Samandiriel]

I'd have a crush on you but some of your personalities scare me.

Bull, they all scare you.

 

[Samandiriel]

I'm afraid of you.

I have a sexy voice, comes from all the whiskey and cigarettes I did during the middle school years.

 

[cheerful_deviant]

Bull, they all scare you.

Yeah, but I like how some of them scare me.

 

[cheerful_deviant]

I do wish my heart would listen to reason.

It rarely does.

 

[Samandiriel]

Yeah, but I like how some of them scare me.

Let me put my teeth in and will play chase the duck.

 

[BlackShanglan]

There's this singularly interesting merry prankster about from time to time ...

I've had crushes on online people at various times in my life. I think that the person being online has a certain special appeal in some circumstances. It's an interesting mix of intrigue and safety; you can meet people from exotic places or discuss some very unusual preferences without having to deal with those people on a daily face-to-face basis. Possibly it's my over-active superego, or possibly my love of words, but I have actually had far, far more crushes through written words than in person.

Shanglan

 

[Liar]

Crushed a little bit here in the AH. Got over it.

Crushed like dammit on another forum. Got turned down.

Met a girl offline, with a proverbial steamroller.

 

[Equinoxe]

Yes, on occasion I have been known to have little infatuations with people I interact with on the internet: a few minor little interests, nothing terribly serious, just harmless fun attractions that come and go as is their wont. I think that it's perfectly normal and can be a nice element and addition to posting at Lit, for instance.

 

[McKenna]

It does not happen to me all the time, but I have had the occasional crush. I don't often tell the person who has caught my attention. Mostly I admire from afar.

On the occasion I do tell someone of my crush, it's usually because we've talked for a while and we've reached a comfort level that allows such revelations to be made without one or the other of us feeling too vulnerable.