The "Dominatrix"

[MorfeuV]

"There is no equality in love, " I replied solemnly.
"Whenever it is a matter of choice for me of ruling or
being ruled, it seems much more satisfactory to me to be
the slave of a beautiful woman. But where shall I find the
woman who knows how to rule, calmly, full of self-
confidence, even harshly, and not seek to gain her power
by means of petty nagging?" -Severin




I know what I want.

I just need to know how to get it.

I want to know where to start, I want other peoples' insight.

I beleive that there is difference between true dominance and a bitch that is just telling me what to do.

It is my opinion, most if not all women no matter how domineering they are will submit to another man/woman that is more dominant than they are.

My question is, since there is no such thing as a True Dominatrix will I have to bend my personality in order to get what I want?

Will I have to create what I want?



"To love, to be loved, what happiness! And yet how the
glamour of this pales in comparison with the tormenting
bliss of worshipping a woman who makes a plaything out of
us, of being the slave of a beautiful tyrant who treads us
pitilessly underfoot. Even Samson, the hero, the giant,
again put himself into the hands of Delilah, even after
she had betrayed him, and again she betrayed him, and
the Philistines bound him and put out his eyes which until
the very end he kept fixed, drunken with rage and love,
upon the beautiful betrayer."

- "Venus in Furs", by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch

 

[A Desert Rose]

This really belongs in the Lit personals. You're not going to find a Domme here, this way.

I promise.

and posting your email address is really a big ol' NO-NO.

 

[O'Mac]

Goddammit, N00b!!

 

[Pure]

"a beautiful tyrant who treads us
pitilessly underfoot." is going to seem a lot like a "bitch" to some.

if you "know what you want" based on a novel, yes, some bending or creating may be required. maybe even inventing or hallucinating.

you query is not different in kind from "Heathcliffe seeks Cathy" or "Cathy seeks Heathcliffe." Or, "O seeks Sir Stephen."

 

[MorfeuV]

The Dominatrix

A Desert Rose, this is not a personal ad.




Like O'Mac said, I'm a "N00b" & I should have made myself more clear.





I wanted to see if anyone knew anything about the subject and had advice (through experience or by other means).

pitilessly underfoot." is going to seem a lot like a "bitch" to some. - pure

That all depends on perspective.

if you "know what you want" based on a novel, yes, some bending or creating may be required. - pure

It's good that you like to read.




I like to read too.




However, I would like to know how you came to the conclusion that I want something that is based off of a Novel?



*What the quotes threw you off? I just thought it would add some artistic value.

some bending or creating may be required. maybe even inventing or hallucinating - pure

No thanks, I want the real thing.




That may work for some people.




Hahaha, like an Online D/s "relationship"?




Nothing more than a fantasy in which I'll be glad to be an inexperienced "N00b".

 

[Pure]

However, I would like to know how you came to the conclusion that I want something that is based off of a Novel?

yes, two long quotes from a novel. the apparent suggestion that you seek an approximation to the 'true dominatrix.'

the impression you give is of a haughty, controlling nature without any particular submissive tendencies.

 

[Lilith]

I can be soft, gentle, womanly, feminine and still be a strong dominant. Those qualities should not be mistaken for submissiveness or weakness. Just because I cry when I watch a sad movie does not mean that your squeals in pain will create the same response. The blessing of being a woman and dominant is that I choose (not others) when and where to divulge the aspects that make me, me.

 

[bronntanas]

I thought it was a personal ad too. However, if it's a request for advice, I have a few ideas.

First, drop the 'tude and the pre-conceived notions of there being no such thing as a "True Dominatrix" and what a "True Dominatrix" is. I find that whole "Real True Dominant" thing off-putting no matter who's saying it. But you sound like you still sort of believe in that stuff. You come across like you're challenging a Domme to somehow "prove" that She's not a bitch and and that She fits some notion you've got floating about your head. Some Ladies like the abject humiliation and the miserable worm kind of male sub. Many of them don't. They seem to prefer quiet confidence, NOT ego, and your posts so far read kind of like that. I asked two really great Domme's that I know to look at your thread. The responses I got were less than good. One of the first things out of BOTH their mouths was to drop the ego.

If you're looking for advice on how to meet Dommes, the current lady I serve (as her secondary submissive) was kind of introduced to me by a mutual friend. (long story, not going into it here.) The first two were met in a munch situation. I went; I was polite, laid back, not coming onto them or any of that. One of them had no subs at the time, the other had two and was looking for another. After I got to know them a bit, and knew they were looking, I told them I was interested and single and new, and left it at that. We ended up in a cool yet odd situation where I was serving both of them on a part time basis for some time. It was funny, they divided up my week between themselves and my university classes. (They were friends, knew each other and all that.)

 

[Sheaf_Beast]

where to start

"








I want to know where to start, I want other peoples' insight.

grab a copy of ddi and get started.

 

[MorfeuV]

Paradigm Shift!!!!

yes, two long quotes from a novel. the apparent suggestion that you seek an approximation to the 'true dominatrix.'

the impression you give is of a haughty, controlling nature without any particular submissive tendencies. - pure

I come off as controlling?



I am not.



Honestly, I really didn't think I did.



Maybe becuase I try to look at things objectively?



I just want to make myself clear as possible.

I can be soft, gentle, womanly, feminine and still be a strong dominant. Those qualities should not be mistaken for submissiveness or weakness. Just because I cry when I watch a sad movie does not mean that your squeals in pain will create the same response. The blessing of being a woman and dominant is that I choose (not others) when and where to divulge the aspects that make me, me. - Lilith

Lilith, couldn't have said it better myself.



Well maybe I could have, just playing!

and the pre-conceived notions of there being no such thing as a "True Dominatrix" and what a "True Dominatrix" is. I find that whole "Real True Dominant" thing off-putting no matter who's saying it. But you sound like you still sort of believe in that stuff. You come across like you're challenging a Domme to somehow "prove" that She's not a bitch and and that She fits some notion you've got floating about your head. - bron

Come to think of it I do have a dogmatic mindset about BDSM.


Education and insight should break it.

You come across like you're challenging a Domme to somehow "prove" that She's not a bitch and and that She fits some notion you've got floating about your head. - bron

Strange thing is, that is what I want.


Someone that will break my 'ego' or whatever.


It's like I'm wearing a mask, my facade, I want her to take it off & bitch slap me.



Both figuratively & literally!

Some Ladies like the abject humiliation and the miserable worm kind of male sub. Many of them don't. They seem to prefer quiet confidence, NOT ego, and your posts so far read kind of like that. - bron

Social conditioning?

 

[Ebonyfire]

I come off as controlling?



I am not.



Honestly, I really didn't think I did.



Maybe becuase I try to look at things objectively?

If you think your post was objective, you are quite mistaken. Just about everything you posted was subjective. I am a Female Dominant and I always delete messages like yours without reply.

Also, I do not know any female dominants that refer to themselves as "dominatrixes".

Eb

 

[A Desert Rose]

Jesus... sigh

well everyone has to be different, I guess. What a strange way to post, not to mention how strangely he uses the English language.

 

[MorfeuV]

Don't bite the Newbie!

If you think your post was objective, you are quite mistaken. Just about everything you posted was subjective.

I try to look at things objectively.

I did admit to having a dogmatic view about it earlier, so you have to give me some credit!

 

[MorfeuV]

I am

well everyone has to be different, I guess. What a strange way to post, not to mention how strangely he uses the English language.

I hate getting into semantics, especially online,

that's why I try to be extra cautious.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I hate getting into semantics, especially online,

that's why I try to be extra cautious.

At least you've stopped putting 16 spaces between every line you post. I'm not talking about your semantics, since I'm not a Domme and couldn't care less about your textual attempts to find one. Although more than one of us thought you were placing some kind of ad, especially with your email address included in your initial post.

(Thank you to Catalina for removing his email address, btw.)

I'm sure I speak for most when I say we're all glad you're being "extra cautious" with your posts.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I try to look at things objectively.

I did admit to having a dogmatic view about it earlier, so you have to give me some credit!

Dogmatic. A great word choice since you said "I am god" in your Lit biography.

Eb

 

[MorfeuV]

okay

I am God.

You mustn't question me, for you should never question God.

And as God, I'm telling you that I am God and I never lie.

If you accuse me of lying, after I have said that I do not

lie, you will burn in hell.

It's a joke.

*If everyone wasn't so critical about my posts maybe I wouldn't have to be so cautious.

 

[Ebonyfire]

It's a joke.

*If everyone wasn't so critical about my posts maybe I wouldn't have to be so cautious.

I don't know why, but I've probably stepped on some peoples' toes.

My toes are fine. I am having a lot of fun with you. You are in the kitchen and it sometimes gets hot in here [so take off all your clothes]

Eb

 

[MorfeuV]

Well,

My toes are fine. I am having a lot of fun with you.

Is that so?

Are you amused?

Wow, that rhyme just magically appeared.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Is that so?

Are you amused?

Wow, that rhyme just magically appeared.

So what do you really want to know? In plain english cause I am an old woman and could pop off if you take too long.

Eb

 

[MorfeuV]

o

since I'm not a Domme and couldn't care less about your textual attempts to find one.

argumentum ad hominem

I'm sure I speak for most when I say we're all glad you're being "extra cautious" with your posts.

argumentum ad verecundiam

argumentum ad populum

 

[MorfeuV]

?

What's a "munch"?

 

[O'Mac]

Originally Posted by Ebonyfire

If you think your post was objective, you are quite mistaken. Just about everything you posted was subjective. I am a Female Dominant and I always delete messages like yours without reply.

Also, I do not know any female dominants that refer to themselves as "dominatrixes".

Eb

Actually, I beleive the correct use of the plural form would be Dominatrices.
Grammar people!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Actually, I beleive the correct use of the pural form would be Dominatrices.
Grammar people!

Whatever and I believe the correct spelling is plural not pural. what is your point?

Eb

 

[A Desert Rose]

Actually, I beleive the correct use of the pural form would be Dominatrices.
Grammar people!

You goof!!! LOL This is not about grammar but I believe it's believe not beleive.

;D