The Difficult Life of Men on Campus--forward women

[Recidiva]

Exactly. If, heaven forfend, I should ever have problems getting it up, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I still have ten fingers and one tongue as sex organs.

The Earl

See? So you won't be whining to a reporter.

You'll be sleeping with her to prove you don't have issues. *nods*

 

[Recidiva]

Being a shameless wench probably has something to do with it.

Be glad -- he could be one of those hapless college guys who shrivel up when a woman stalks them

Those are fun! Especially the stalker guys that think they're all bad until they realize I'm much, much worse.

 

[Guest]

Exactly. If, heaven forfend, I should ever have problems getting it up, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I still have ten fingers and one tongue as sex organs.

The Earl

Exactly.



(And - yummy)

 

[Guest]

Exactly. If, heaven forfend, I should ever have problems getting it up, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I still have ten fingers and one tongue as sex organs.

The Earl

this simply makes you a superior sort of man. Facts are that sometimes a body will not cooperate with the mind. Thus, as humans, we are creative. We use tools

 

[Guest]

Those are fun! Especially the stalker guys that think they're all bad until they realize I'm much, much worse.

Heehee!

One of the delights of having to get older is the shameless ability to make much younger men blush, blush hard, and blush repeatedly. It ain't much, but I like it!

 

[Aurora Black]

Exactly. If, heaven forfend, I should ever have problems getting it up, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I still have ten fingers and one tongue as sex organs.

The Earl

Don't forget toes.

 

[R. Richard]

I was blissfully unaware of the problem. However, the discussion brought back certain memories.

In college, nothing is simple. A person does not just do something. Any action must first be analyzed in depth and then felt into the very depths of one's soul. [This is why it takes the idiot in front of you at the machine 10 minutes to decide: "Coke or Pepsi?"] Every message must be analyzed to the Nth degree. ["Look before crossing the street!" Now, what did the writer really mean? Was the message due to heredity or environment? Is the message a universal one or just intended for the tony cognoscenti? (Note: Tony Cognoscenti was a continental type dude who scored more pussy than any other guy on campus!.) Are there hidden meanings?]

Fortunately, I never understood the truly subtle nature of college life. ["Hey babe lets go some place and screw!" "Isn't this rather sudden?" "Look, I only got 25 minutes until my next class!"] Also, I was not really into realtionships at that time.

All right! I admit there were times when I had trouble getting it up. I mean, there comes a time when a guy realizes that he is just not gonna' be able to fuck every girl in a sorority house IN ONE NIGHT. The key here is the capitalized end of the last sentence. A dude gotta' pace himself. I mean, the sensitive man might be better off with six quality babes rather than 12 hurried, "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" encounters. It is really a matter of perception.

JMNO.

 

[3113]

As for me, I was always a bit of a chaser, which is how I caught ABG -- I didn't notice him complaining about it, nor did he have any particular..*ahem* performance problems when I grabbed him.

That's not how ABG tells it. His version is a harrowing tale of an innocent young man, abducted, ravished and held captive by this ruthless femme fatale....

Pretty steamy actually. I've told him I'll repesent him if he ever wants to make it into a t.v. movie. I think Lifetime would be interested. Maybe Oprah.

 

[oggbashan]

Ex-cuse me? Where in hell is all the sex on campus whenever we men wanted? It appears to've passed me by!

The Earl

That's because you weren't around in the 1960s.

Og (who was)

 

[TheEarl]

That's because you weren't around in the 1960s.

Og (who was)

Bastard!

The Earl

 

[oggbashan]

Bastard!

The Earl

The pill ensured I didn't leave too many of them around...

Og

 

[Munachi]

I think the biggest issue with the confusion is people keep trying to divide everybody up in just two categories. All men are from the same world and think this way and all women are from this other world and think thusly.

Men say they don't understand women and vice-versa.

What people don't take into account is we're all unique individuals and each of us have our own distinct personalities and act according to what our personalities dictate. People do share common traits, but it's a mixmatch of different traits with different people regardless of gender, race, whatever. No particular group of people have all the same characteristics. Add to that the influences of a fluid culture and it just confuses the situation more.

Maybe the problem is pshchological for some of these college guys because their perceptions of gender roles are being challenged, but honestly I think the binge drinking and drug abuse have far more to do with it in most of these cases.

agree...

 

[artisticbiguy]

I just LOVE a secure man. Now if only I can meet one...

Good luck hon! If you find one, let us know... we may have to take some genetic material for cloning purposes.

 

[artisticbiguy]

I don't get the performance anxiety thing.

Sex is like cooking. Even when you're really, really good at it, you're still going to occasionally make something that doesn't come out so well.

Yes, occasionally there aren't blinding fireworks. Deal.

That is a level of sexual maturity that many men (and *ahem* women too) never achieve. Personally, as far as I'm concerned, if we're both "satisfied", regardless of ejaculation or such, then it was "good sex". If one or both of us O'd it was GREAT sex... if we both O'd and had a hard time rebooting our brains so we could talk... that is INCREDIBLE sex.

Of course, I'm an old married man... one who had to go through two types of anxiety problems sexually... first when we were early married and having sexual-identity issues, and second after my vasectomy when thing didn't behave as they "used to". Overcame both sets of problems over 13 years, so to me, it's all good.

As I don't expect boys to even come close to having a clue in general until after 28... I wouldn't give them any chance of sexual maturity until at least 35. Many never achieve it.

 

[Guest]

As I don't expect boys to even come close to having a clue in general until after 28... I wouldn't give them any chance of sexual maturity until at least 35. Many never achieve it.

Except TheEarl.

I imagine he's already there.

 

[artisticbiguy]

That's not how ABG tells it. His version is a harrow tale of an innocent young man, abducted, ravished and held captive by this ruthless femme fatale....

Pretty steamy actually. I've told him I'll repesent him if he ever wants to make it into a t.v. movie. I think Lifetime would be interested. Maybe Oprah.

you are SO lying there... she was most gentle and gave me options to say "no"... I was just too stunned by it all to formulate words!

 

[TheEarl]

Except TheEarl.

I imagine he's already there.

GBYLCS. I knew I liked you.

Although I'll go with ABG; I fully don't expect to have a clue what I'm doing till I'm at least 28, maybe even 50.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

GBYLCS. I knew I liked you.

Although I'll go with ABG; I fully don't expect to have a clue what I'm doing till I'm at least 28, maybe even 50.

The Earl

I'm sure there are many Lit ladies who would love to offer themselves to you for strictly - educational purposes?

 

[JamesSD]

Let me translate:

I'm a journalist with a deadline and nothing to write about.

Let's see.... College sex! That's always good.

Ok, now let's go with the classics... "College women today are so promiscuous."

Now I need a twist. How about... easy women causes men to be impotent!

I don't believe this for a second. The dude is made up, and so is the story.

 

[elsol]

So he's gay...

Nothing wrong with that.

Sincerely,
ElSol

ps. Laugh people... it's okay. Think about it... an article about kids in college NOT having sex. Next will be the one about the abuse of blue pills on campus.

 

[Recidiva]

So he's gay...

Nothing wrong with that.

Sincerely,
ElSol

ps. Laugh people... it's okay. Think about it... an article about kids in college NOT having sex. Next will be the one about the abuse of blue pills on campus.

My favorite part is "What if she tells her friends?" Now there's a shocker. Someone worried about the sex spurring a true story.

 

[JamesSD]

So he's gay...

Nothing wrong with that.

Sincerely,
ElSol

ps. Laugh people... it's okay. Think about it... an article about kids in college NOT having sex. Next will be the one about the abuse of blue pills on campus.

This was my first thought before I decided the guy was entirely made up.

 

[S-Des]

Oh shit

Honestly, I'm a little confused as well. But I do feel a whole lot better now about those guys I said "no" to. Looks like I did them all a favor.

If that's the position the world is taking today, I'm going to be writing thousands of thank-you notes to the legions of women who've said no to me. Plus, does that mean that I have to also thank the women who just ignored me in bars. They did me the biggest favor of all by playing hard to get and crushing my ego at the same time (somehow making me a better person, evidentally). I'm even more confused than the rest of the posters. I'm going back to writing, where I control my universe (even if it's a really small universe).

 

[JRaven]

Performance Anxiety and Substance Abuse Figure Into the Increase in Reports of Impotence on Campus

By Laura Sessions Stepp

Washington Post Staff Writer

Sunday, May 7, 2006; Page D01


"I've had no problem with this before," he thought. "What if this gets out? What if she tells her girlfriends? My reputation will be ruined."

If he wants to keep it a secret, why the hell did he tell a reporter?!? Secret Service? I hope not. If he can't keep his own secrets, how the hell is he going to keep the ones that may protect me?

I think JamesSD may have it right. It's all made up by a cub reporter. I checked the Post's site. She's written only a handful of articles. And most of them deal with college students' life.

On the other hand, it shouldn't be hard to send Adam Skrodzki at the University of Maryland a note, asking him for a follow up to his plight.

Jenny

 

[3113]

I'm sure there are many Lit ladies who would love to offer themselves to you for strictly - educational purposes?

Excellent idea. Allow me to modify my original senario:
Female American University Professors give the British exchange student his final exams

Sexy and brainy. I like it.