The Difficult Life of Men on Campus--forward women

[3113]

If that's the position the world is taking today, I'm going to be writing thousands of thank-you notes to the legions of women who've said no to me. Plus, does that mean that I have to also thank the women who just ignored me in bars.

Absolutely. I know you think they were rejecting you and trying to crush your ego, but in actually they were giving you the thrill of the chase, making you more studly with every refusal. Without them, you'd currently have no virility at all. You'd just be a wet noodle.

 

[Guest]

Ex-cuse me? Where in hell is all the sex on campus whenever we men wanted? It appears to've passed me by!

The Earl

<sigh> I felt the same way in the midst of the sexual revolution of the 70's.

 

[Pure]

it's ironic that some of the same men who buy videos like "Wild College Women," and "Horny Coed Cum Eaters" are not all that comfortable if they run into one of them.

 

[Aurora Black]

it's ironic that some of the same men who buy videos like "Wild College Women," and "Horny Coed Cum Eaters" are not all that comfortable if they run into one of them.

Odd, that.

 

[Bishonen]

But on this night, their first in bed, his body was telling him something else. She used every trick she knew, with no success. Adam panicked.

So he's afraid of strong women. Boo-hoo. Deal with it or get out of the closet, buddy!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

This is a PROBLEM? Zeus's thunderbolts, fellows! I don't understand the complaint! Then again, I rarely if ever drink too much to perform, and I have no problem taking care of the girl too. Sex is about mutual pleasure, whether it's with a one-night stand or with my girlfriend. Am I weird for being like that? I'm beginning to think that I'm just a freak of nature, too damn intellectual and philosophical about it all. Is that why I find no "thrill" in the "chase"? Am I just a mutant? I mean, I've always known that I'm not quite normal, but sheesh!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

it's ironic that some of the same men who buy videos like "Wild College Women," and "Horny Coed Cum Eaters" are not all that comfortable if they run into one of them.

Note that SOME part. I like videos like that, and I certainly have no problem with women who behave that way. How the fuck is it that I had no sex in college? Oh, that's right, it was a fundamentalist college!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

But really, this is due to the double standard, which is REALLY a "triple standard": men are perfectly right to fuck whomever they wish- except their girlfriends until marriage; their girlfriends are to be chaste until marriage; and other women (presumably of lower socio-economic origins) are condoned for fucking the men as a necessity and because they "don't know any better". It's all connected to the medieval social order, hence the use of the once non-sexual term "slut", which once just meant a woman of lower social status. Since those women were more likely to fool around, however....the term became synonymous with promiscuity.

To me, this is reinforced by the women who do not fuck quite as easily and by the "Madonna/whore" complex. All in all, it is historical baggage best discarded. It needs to be rethought so that women who say no aren't adding to the problem and aren't frowned upon, either, in a sort of "lose-lose" that is connected to the mixed ethic of the distant past (Dark Ages) and recent past (sexual revolution). That kind of frozen ethic needs to be discarded. Same with the assumption that women are more justified in cheating than men (reinforced by Lifetime and other "women's" networks), a sort of reverse double standard.

I think that only time and the dying off of older generations will achieve this. Eventually, the baggage of the past will become less significant and people of both sexes will be able to say yes or no without being frowned upon for doing so. Time for the age of the individual sexual ethic.

 

[oggbashan]

Reinventing the 1960s

I can't see the problem.

In the 1960s the advent of the contraceptive pill meant that women could choose to have sex without any significant risk of becoming pregnant.

It changed attitudes in the UK, particularly in large conurbations and on university campuses. Women could chase men and did.

The men took some time to adapt, but at universities their adaptation was rapid. No longer were men seeking something that had a risk to their and their partner's future, but something that could be freely given and accepted.

The university authorities tried to react by reinforcing antiquated rules but free love found a way around them.

The short term consequence was a massive increase in STDs but antibiotics were effective (then) against them. The only downside of an STD was seen to be a short period of abstinence from sex AND alcohol. Later we found that some STDs were more dangerous, but originally they were seen as an inconvenience, no more than that.

Men became prey as well as hunter. Some of us enjoyed being both.

40 years on, AIDS has made a big difference. Sex cannot be as free as it was in the 1960s. The ultimate risk of unprotected sex with a stranger could be fatal.

But women have changed. They can still decide to have protected sex with no more reason than they have a vague liking for the potential partner or want to try him out. Before the 1960s to have sex with a man was almost equivalent to a marriage proposal. In the 1960s it could mean no more than 'Hi!'.

Og