the "ask crazychemgirl a question" thread

[eyer]

I'm taking this question very seriously and my response is going to reflect that. I really hope this is not actually going on, but if it is, please.. Please speak up. The abuse of children is not something to be taken lightly.

IMO pedophilia is a sickness of the mind.. Men and women who engage in this behaviour are extremely disturbed and need psychological help. The online relationship could be a way for the woman to "dip her feer in the pool" ...for lack of a better metaphor.... And it's possible it could lead to real world experimentation. If I were the parent of the child and discovered what was happening, I'd probably report her to the authorities. If I was the woman, I'd seek professional help so as to get the "urges" under control before someone gets hurt.

Thank you for your sincere and thoughtful answer...

...I'm really wondering exactly what it is that psychologically drives an adult woman to even be open at all to any kind of sexual innuendo with a 14-year old, let alone intentionally enter into a BDSM online relationship with a 14-year old. And it seems like the 14-year old was the one who wielded the whip (literally); I mean, a grown woman getting off online submitting to a 14-year old - what the heck is up with that? Where does that even come from?

From the words of the adult woman herself, this actually happened years ago when she was around her mid-20s (and you know how many women are with relating their ages...so, she was probably in her mid-30s). She said she began this sexual online relationship with someone and then found out he was 14, and then had no issue at with continuing the BDSM online relationship. Evidently, this online relationship ensued for a couple of years, and then they met up in person when he was 16, she says, and they physically messed around in the front seat of a car. She insists, ala William Jefferson Clinton, that they did not have sex...

...now, all these years later, she also insists there was no harm, no foul, that she definitely views the experience as more rehabilitation for the minor, and no molestation whastsoever.

What do you think of that, chemgirljaime?

Do think this woman is still psychologically damaged?

What about the third husband she is married to now - he is insistent on defending her actions with the 14-year old as no big deal, and maintains it's all being blown out of proportion; after all, the kid was 16 when they physically met and messed around...

...is he psychologically cuckeld*?

Thanx.






* don't really know if cuckolded is a word but, even if it is, I don't like the sound of it.

 

[crazychemgirl]

Thank you for your sincere and thoughtful answer...

...I'm really wondering exactly what it is that psychologically drives an adult woman to even be open at all to any kind of sexual innuendo with a 14-year old, let alone intentionally enter into a BDSM online relationship with a 14-year old. And it seems like the 14-year old was the one who wielded the whip (literally); I mean, a grown woman getting off online submitting to a 14-year old - what the heck is up with that? Where does that even come from?

From the words of the adult woman herself, this actually happened years ago when she was around her mid-20s (and you know how many women are with relating their ages...so, she was probably in her mid-30s). She said she began this sexual online relationship with someone and then found out he was 14, and then had no issue at with continuing the BDSM online relationship. Evidently, this online relationship ensued for a couple of years, and then they met up in person when he was 16, she says, and they physically messed around in the front seat of a car. She insists, ala William Jefferson Clinton, that they did not have sex...

...now, all these years later, she also insists there was no harm, no foul, that she definitely views the experience as more rehabilitation for the minor, and no molestation whastsoever.

What do you think of that, chemgirljaime?

Do think this woman is still psychologically damaged?

What about the third husband she is married to now - he is insistent on defending her actions with the 14-year old as no big deal, and maintains it's all being blown out of proportion; after all, the kid was 16 when they physically met and messed around...

...is he psychologically cuckeld*?

Thanx.






* don't really know if cuckolded is a word but, even if it is, I don't like the sound of it.

Purely from a scientific standpoint and what research I've personally done on the matter out of curiosity and in trying to explain a pseudo relationtionship I had with a 29yo when I was 13.. I stand by my earlier assessment. Of course she wouldn't think she's done something wrong. The mind wants to justify it's urges so as not to feel guilt and shame over her actions.

By the fact that she's on husband #3 also says to me that she has trouble connecting with men her own age due to the "cross-wired" state of her brain.

Thank you for clarifying the situation... I was concerned that something was going on through the site, which concerns me. I guess that's kind of the problem with the internet in which we trust that people are who they say they are when in fact they could be anyone they choose to represent themselves as.

 

[eyer]

Purely from a scientific standpoint and what research I've personally done on the matter out of curiosity and in trying to explain a pseudo relationtionship I had with a 29yo when I was 13.. I stand by my earlier assessment. Of course she wouldn't think she's done something wrong. The mind wants to justify it's urges so as not to feel guilt and shame over her actions.

What if there's a complete, practical lack of any guilt or shame? What if she acts like she still gets off on it?

By the fact that she's on husband #3 also says to me that she has trouble connecting with men her own age due to the "cross-wired" state of her brain.

Considering his complete excusing of her actions and, in fact, insisting there was nothing wrong with the relationship at all...

...what chance is there, do you think, that he might like minors, too?

Thank you for clarifying the situation... I was concerned that something was going on through the site, which concerns me. I guess that's kind of the problem with the internet in which we trust that people are who they say they are when in fact they could be anyone they choose to represent themselves as.

Ain't that the friggin' truth...

 

[crazychemgirl]

What if there's a complete, practical lack of any guilt or shame? What if she acts like she still gets off on it?

Considering his complete excusing of her actions and, in fact, insisting there was nothing wrong with the relationship at all...

...what chance is there, do you think, that he might like minors, too?

Ain't that the friggin' truth...

She probably does still get off on it... If it didn't feel good, there wouldn't be a reason to act on the urges. The problem is, to her it's completely normal and natural... Hence why I say it's a sickness of the brain.

I'm not sure about whether the husband likes minors, but I have heard from more than one adult male questioning where all the "hot" teachers where when they were in school.. With more and more reports of indecent behaviour of female teachers and male students. I think a guy is just thinking about how "cool" it would be because they remember how horny they were as teenagers but likely fail to understand how possibly damaging a relationship like that likely is.

 

[eyer]

...a sickness of the brain.

What treatment is available?

 

[crazychemgirl]

What treatment is available?

That I don't know, because I've never had to inquire about that.... But I'm assuming a good start would be to seek some psychiatric help.

 

[eyer]

That I don't know, because I've never had to inquire about that.... But I'm assuming a good start would be to seek some psychiatric help.

For both the sex offending wife and her husband?

 

[Phelia]

CGJ, eyer is using this as an opportunity to comment on and coerce you into commenting on an actual situation described by a poster a few days ago. You can skim through the first few pages of this thread if you are curious, but the offending post was removed since talking about sexual situations involving minors can be in violation of the site's TOS. Just wanted to give you a heads up in case you weren't aware.

Sorry to spoil your fun, eyer. Typical fvcking gash move, amirite?

 

[crazychemgirl]

For both the sex offending wife and her husband?

CGJ, eyer is using this as an opportunity to comment on and coerce you into commenting on an actual situation described by a poster a few days ago. You can skim through the first few pages of this thread if you are curious, but the offending post was removed since talking about sexual situations involving minors can be in violation of the site's TOS. Just wanted to give you a heads up in case you weren't aware.

Sorry to spoil your fun, eyer. Typical fvcking gash move, amirite?

Thanks... I was starting to feel like something was amiss.

 

[Disgustipated]

CGJ, eyer is using this as an opportunity to comment on and coerce you into commenting on an actual situation described by a poster a few days ago. You can skim through the first few pages of this thread if you are curious, but the offending post was removed since talking about sexual situations involving minors can be in violation of the site's TOS. Just wanted to give you a heads up in case you weren't aware.

Sorry to spoil your fun, eyer. Typical fvcking gash move, amirite?

Last time I tell you anything!

 

[Phelia]

Last time I tell you anything!

http://images.wikia.com/gyropedia/images/d/de/No_fun_allowed.jpg

 

[eyer]

CGJ, eyer is using this as an opportunity to comment on and coerce you into commenting on an actual situation described by a poster a few days ago. You can skim through the first few pages of this thread if you are curious, but the offending post was removed since talking about sexual situations involving minors can be in violation of the site's TOS. Just wanted to give you a heads up in case you weren't aware.

Sorry to spoil your fun, eyer. Typical fvcking gash move, amirite?

Dear chemgirljaime:

Would not such insecure bitterness also benefit greatly from a visit to a shrink?

[Naw, not even "gash"...

...just plain old "Phelia" with no better place to stick her nose].

 

[crazychemgirl]

Dear chemgirljaime:

Would not such insecure bitterness also benefit greatly from a visit to a shrink?

[Naw, not even "gash"...

...just plain old "Phelia" with no better place to stick her nose].

Being as I'm not a psychiatrist, nor a doctor.. I'm going to leave this line of questioning here.

Let's have some more fun questions to add to this thread!!!!

 

[TheMogul40]

Question 4 (for fun): At what number of previous sexual partners does a man move from "experienced" to one of questionable judgment and motivation?

 

[peekingone]

Is heat or Cold a better experience on a persons private parts?

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Is there a limit to how many times a product or substance can be recycled? Like, does it possess an impurity level during the process that would render it useless?

Asked this previously, you might've missed it from getting snowed under Eyer's little drama whoring gash-a-thon.

 

[zukethecuke]

Is there a limit to how many times a product or substance can be recycled? Like, does it possess an impurity level during the process that would render it useless?

Oooo! Oooo! I know the answer to this one: "It depends."

 

[eyer]

Being as I'm not a psychiatrist, nor a doctor.. I'm going to leave this line of questioning here.

That's cool, chemgirljaime...

...I'd questions bottled-up inside my mind, bugging me all day yesterday and when I logged into LIT last eve I was looking for a way to ask them. I soon came across your "ask" thread and thought it would serve to air them. When I posed the initial question(s) to you, I had no idea how you'd react and, to tell the truth, wasn't really soliciting a serious answer, or even any answer at all for that matter - the airing of the question(s) was the actual point.

But, you addressed the factual circumstances head-on and, clearly, without knowing anything else, offered your insight without a trace of conflict of interest...

...you're definitely a champ.

 

[Super-Surprise]

In general, are women susceptible to a refractory period after achieving orgasm?

 

[Phelia]

Dear chemgirljaime:

Would not such insecure bitterness also benefit greatly from a visit to a shrink?

[Naw, not even "gash"...

...just plain old "Phelia" with no better place to stick her nose].

Oh no! I rate even lower than "gash"? Please don't be mad at me. I want you to teach me how to live off the grid, but still go on the net and watch p*rn. I'd love to go to a shrink but I'm worried I'd break him or her.

CGJ, what are your thoughts on open relationships?

 

[eyer]

Oh no! I rate even lower than "gash"? Please don't be mad at me. I want you to teach me how to live off the grid, but still go on the net and watch p*rn. I'd love to go to a shrink but I'm worried I'd break him or her.

Say hi! to that little pheminazi on your shoulder for me...

 

[Phelia]

Say hi! to that little pheminazi on your shoulder for me...

I told her, but she just hissed and said it was your responsibility to pay for my birth control

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I told her, but she just hissed and said it was your responsibility to pay for my birth control

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_md3ukoOYpm1qa6g1m.gif

 

[eyer]

I told her, but she just hissed and said it was your responsibility to pay for my birth control

Tell her I sent your parents my condolences a long time ago...

...I ain't paying nothing else.

 

[crazychemgirl]

Question 4 (for fun): At what number of previous sexual partners does a man move from "experienced" to one of questionable judgment and motivation?

hrm... I think everyone probably has their own opinion on the matter, but I guess for myself personally I think as the partners rises above the 50 mark.. I would start to wonder what kind of man he was and seriously reconsider relations with him.. cuz it seems to me that at that high of a number, no matter how serious you take STI prevention, the odds are against you.

Is heat or Cold a better experience on a persons private parts?

I think most probably prefer cold, but hot wax is enjoyable also.. but I think hot is less tolerable because is has a much smaller range of what is acceptable. As in, it can very quickly go from being enjoyable hot to "ouch fuck that burns" hot. Whereas cold is usually ok unless it's cold to the point where it's going to stick to you ala a wet tongue on a cold pole in winter.

Asked this previously, you might've missed it from getting snowed under Eyer's little drama whoring gash-a-thon.

did I miss a question? I'm SO sorry, I'm going to look back and answer it for you. I think the night that Eyer was asking questions, I was answering from my phone, so it might be possible I missed something.

That's cool, chemgirljaime...

...I'd questions bottled-up inside my mind, bugging me all day yesterday and when I logged into LIT last eve I was looking for a way to ask them. I soon came across your "ask" thread and thought it would serve to air them. When I posed the initial question(s) to you, I had no idea how you'd react and, to tell the truth, wasn't really soliciting a serious answer, or even any answer at all for that matter - the airing of the question(s) was the actual point.

But, you addressed the factual circumstances head-on and, clearly, without knowing anything else, offered your insight without a trace of conflict of interest...

...you're definitely a champ.

well thanks!

In general, are women susceptible to a refractory period after achieving orgasm?

I know personally, I have an immediate moment after orgasm where I physically can't be touched because it almost hurts. So I guess that could be considered somewhat of a refractory period because no touch = no orgasm

Oh no! I rate even lower than "gash"? Please don't be mad at me. I want you to teach me how to live off the grid, but still go on the net and watch p*rn. I'd love to go to a shrink but I'm worried I'd break him or her.

CGJ, what are your thoughts on open relationships?

I go back and forth on the matter... some part of me doesn't 100% believe in monogamy and that open relationships are probably a great solution...

that being said... I've been in a somewhat open relationship before where my ex and I used to bring women home to sleep with us on a regular basis... and as much as either of us tried not to involve jealousy, resentment, etc... it was almost inevitable.
Maybe we were just too young (early 20's) .. maybe it was because he wasn't the right partner for me.

I'm not sure if it was ultimately doomed because of the concept of the open relationship or if it was those other factors which made for the open relationship concept impossible to succeed.

take from that what you will.